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15/f. lately i've been getting really upset because i'm 15 and i've never had a boyfriend, or a first kiss. i get really embarrassed when people talk about their boyfriends and their first kiss. and i'm always afraid that someone will make fun of me because i'm prude and never had a boyfriend. i don't know if it is something about my personality that is scaring some guys away. don't say that i shouldn't change myself for a guy because i would never do that (meaning dress differently or style my hair different). but i mean my personality. i'm a VERY organized person (like everything has to be neat) and i take my grades very seriously. is that a turn off? because sometimes i can become controlling if we are doing a project or something. what is something that i can do to become less controlling in situations? also i don't think that i'm ugly. so what is wrong? i also can get nervous talking to guys. OMG i'm just getting really frustrated with myself.
so basically these are my questions:
1)what can i do when people ask me if i'm prude knowing that i am?
2)how can i become less controlling in group projects?
3)is it weird that i'm 15 and haven't had a boyfriend or a first kiss?
sorry its so long...but thanks!
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1) Laugh at them. Or act like you're proud of it. I freaking am. Hah. My friends talk about that kind of stuff all the time, most of the time I'll cover my ears like I'm not listening and I usually end up getting a few laughs. Don't make a big deal out of it. Trust me, you aren't the only one.
2) SELF RESTRAINT. Despite what you might think is right for whatever group project you're in - ask other people for their opinion. Even if you don't want it.
3) Perfectly normal. I'm sixteen, close to seventeen, and I've never had either. I know plenty of people who haven't either. Boys and girls alike.
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Well first of all, same exact boat. 15 years old, never been kissed. And I've had a few boyfriends, but they all lasted a week, so they weren't even really boyfriends ; I never even got to see them during our week old relationship.
Anyways.
1) Sooner or later, people are going to know cause they're going to ask, so I just make a joke out of it, because everyone reacts the same. They're all shocked, of course, and yes, some will joke, but just learn to poke some fun at yourself. Also, this I've learned also may attract guys because they're thinking,"I want to kiss her, I want to be the first. I want to be her first boyfriend, too." And mark that special place in your life. So if they ask, just be like,"Mhm. xD" and grin and laugh. I always make jokes too like whenever people are talking about perverted stuff and they sit there and are like,"Do you know what we're talking about?" ( And of course I do, just cause I've never done it, doesn't mean I don't know what it is ), I'll just smile, cover my ears and be like,"MY VIRGIN EARS ARE BLEEEDDDDIIIINGGGGG. BAD WORDS, BAD WORDS!" and they laugh. So like I said, just learn to poke fun at yourself.
2) Whenever you feel yourself becoming frustrated, or about to say somrthing that's going to come off controlling to people, take a deep breath and calm yourself and just remain quiet. Let them answer a question or give them a task to do so they feel they're part of the project also. So just think before you speak, basically. And think before you act.
3) It's not weird at all. Like I just mentioned to you, I'm also 15 and in the same exact boat as you are. There's some girls out there who haven't even dated or had their first kiss yet and they're 18, 20. It's just really hard to find girls like that, but there are ALOT out there. Trust me, your time will come. And it won't be wasted and unromantic probably like all your friends were. Just wait for the right guy, the right moment. So then whenever you finally do get to tell your friends about your kiss, you'll leave them in envy on how sweet & romantic it was. I know alot of girls out there and even some of my friends sit there and have regretted their first kiss cause it was put to waste and wasn't special and some people even tell me they admire the fact I'm waiting for the right moment.
I hope I helped.
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I had the same problem. I am 14 and never had a boyfriend until like a week ago. I still have not kissed a guy with out it being a game. I was thinking that I would be one of those ladies who lives alone except for her 20 cats! Haha. But honestly, you will meet someone who is right for you. And i agree with you that you should not change for anyone but yourself. I am also controlling when it comes to group projects, just take it slow and ask for others opinions. just relax and take deep breaths if you feel like you are working too hard. And if you are working with any guys, try relaxing by flirting a little! If someone asks you if your a prude.. just laugh about it and be like "yeah i am but i could change that if i had the chance" its fun and truthful unless you really want to be a prude for the rest of your life. And remember that guys like confidence!
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1.)well when someone was to ask you if your prude just give them an honest answer && if they find that wierd just remember taht if they dont liek you for who you are then they arent really good people. BUT you could also tell them that your just not ready or its none of their business.
2.)When you are in a group doing a project just ask the other people for their ideas and if you have some kinda combine them together . .. . like comprimse.
3.)No it isnt wierd because your day will come one of these days. And when it does come you'll be the happiest girl ever && you may not know how to a girlfriend but thats going to be okay because your knew at that kind of stuff. But remeber you should become friends with a guy and learn how to trust him then yu could take it serious.. YOU ARE NOT WEIRD && STOP THINKING SO NEGITIVE ABOUT YOURSELF....
i hope that was what you are looking forr in advice.
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