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My name is Jessica. I was born in Missouri. I`m 15 years old.. I'm a freshman. :] I can be a bitch for saying whats on my mind so if you think so then just keep it to yourself,but then again i can be nicest,sweetest person. I love to have fun and be goofy =]. I hate fake people so im no fake. I hate labels they start alot of drama so dont label me. Drama is for the big screen. Don't get me involved. However, if you chose to pick a fight with me I will have the last word. Honesty is very important to me. I say what's on my mind and not ashamed of it. If you think it's rude, I don't care. Girls that try fitting in and wearing certain clothes to do so is retarted.I don't get mad easily over stupid things. If it's not something important I don't stress over it. Respect is very important. I belive that everyone should respect each other and everyone else.




"I'm not perfect. No one is. When girls leave me rude comments saying that I'm a bitch or something, it doesn't bother me. I have confidence in myself and words don't hurt my feelings. I ignore it. I don't mind being judged on anything I do because chances are, you don't know me at all so don't act like it. Thanks to the people that actually respect me. Call me a bitch, ugly, whore.. whatever you want but it doesn't bother me. I know I'm not so your opinion doesn't mean anything to me." Screen name: HAUTExMESS.



"Calling someone ugly won't make you prettier. Calling someone fat won't make you any skinnier. Calling someone a bitch won't make you any nicer. Talking shit about someone won't make you better so consider getting a life & shut the hell up."



Likes: Music, long conversations, gum, money, friends, picturess, rollercoasters, meeting new people, my pink puppy ( stuffed ), acting crazy, doing stuff other people dont do, hugsss, nail polish, makeup, my iPod, cleaning, being comfortable, boysss,




Dislikes: boring people, liars, fast food resturants, feet, bad breath, bugs, school, major thunderstorms, vanilla, fakes, everyone dressings the same, blood, bitches, stoners, being sick, people who tYpE liKe ThiS, heart breaks, allergies, people who have no self-esteem that make fun of other pople, ugly mean people, ignorant people, smoke, things and people that confuse me, people who break promises, two faced people, waiting in lines, slow computers, holiday songs, animal prints, losers, white socks, comedians, marshmellows, eating disorders, being lonely, being left out, interfering people, animal cruelty, arrogant people, perverts, people who think they are perfect , weirdos, hangovers, being scared, wanna bees, arguments, being unhappy, people who dislike homosexuals, stuck up people, racsim, DRAMA, fake friends, and LAMES !!!!!

advice

can you have sex durring your period?

well yeah... but the blood gets everywhere and makes it nasty. But anyways yeah you can

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i really like this kid, like alot. my friend tom said that hes gonna ask me out, but he doesnt know when. i really wanna go out with him, but everyone hates him and they say hes wierd and stuff. but i dont know, if he asks me out should i go out with him?

dont listen to what other people think about if what matters is what you think about him. If you like him who cares. Your the one with him they arent.

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ok so im sad lots of the time and moody and stuff because of one girl and she cares about me alot and she wants me to be happy she doesnt want to have a relation ship and she dosnt LIKE me i dont want her to like me i want to move on .. this has been going on for years and years by the way so its not som little average heartbreak,what should i do .. and for the record how can i keep my self from being sad about other girls cause.. fuck,this happens every fucking time !!!! sorry for swearing but .. woah i just cant take it anymore i get into the state of depression were i want to die and everything and i dont see the point on being alive.. but w.e thats stupid i like another girl .. been friends with along time .. weve liked each other on and off and yeah i need to hint that i like her .. and yeah and how can i get her to like me .. like frickhahaha well please help me on all thos questions .. it would be sweet if it was a long sentence answer cause iv asked this in differnt ways befor but i cant seem to be geting the kinda answer im looking for.. well somthing that might help * because .. yeah iv tryed lots and i seem to be geting the same stuff over and over agian .. thanks .. bye

15/m

the first girl seems like she cares about you alot and you may always have a place in her heart. Maybe your depressed all the time because you fall in love to easy, try taking it slow. Always remember that no girl is worth killing yourself because later on in life you will find a WOMAN that will wanna spend the rest of her life with you. You should talk to her more and hang out with her then maybe she could start to get to know you more and then you could take it from there but i think i told you what i had to tell you. Im sorry if i didnt tell you anything that could help or what you wanted to hear. I tired.

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hi guys! okay theres this guy at my school and i like him. how i found out i liked was throuh numerous chorus rehersals flirting. now that my feeling have devloped into more than a crush, im in trouble. i want to ask him out. ive never been the type of girl to wait for the guy for reasons that are too long for now. anyway the only catch is i havent had to ask someone out since january when i asked a privious bf out and i really like this guy! i need some advice as to asking him out without scerwing up the liffle friendship we have.

thanks in advance!

start it off slow & ask him to hang out with you sometimes or ask him to come over sometime, just for him to get to know you a little better. Maybe that you could find out if he likes you as well & to see if the flirting in class is just because he thinks its funny or if its serious. Some guys are like that, they will flirt with you because they think its funny or they are bored.

Hopefuly you wont have to ask him out, he may ask you out if he gets to know you.

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ok i've had a crush on a guy for quite some tim now (4 years to be more exact) and this year i decided, since im seeing him for christmas.. that will be the day i decided what to do.. if i should get on with my life, or try for something (i only see him once a year during xmas) so what now, now that i found out we're not going there for xmas? i'll never get closure! or answers! i feel like i need to confess my feelings for him, face to face, before i can move on.. or you know, make another kind of decision.

so what do i do? be stuck on him for another year? i don't know!! help please!

it sounds like your in love hun. but i wouldnt try to be sprung over a guy that i can only see once a year. there other guys out that are willing to be with you everyday & wanna spend time with you.

maybe you should tell him how you feel & maybe he feels the same about you, you may never know. You could start it out slow and ask him if he wants to hang out sometime.

if this is a log distance relationship then hun well they never work out.Im sorry to tell you that but its true. you should have a boyfriend that is close to you so that you can get scoop on him sometimes and to find out if he is cheating on you cuz thats how most long distance relationships end.

i hope this advice helps you out & answered what you asked.

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im really popular now
but im so scared that im not gonna be throughout highschool.
Ive been pretty popular for a few years, im just scared
and i know its not all about being popular
but once you get used to it, then its hard to not be it.
help??

well no matter what your TRUE friends will be there forr you throughout the whole thing and those who aint there must not be good friends. & as you get older you start to lose alot of friends and you may not even know the ones you went to highschool with. i really know how you feel. Im popular @ school and i love it. but there are some friends that i know will be there for me when i need them, and there are others that are just retarted and worries about there self. and you can always tell the good ones from the badd. If you scared about losing your social life just get out there and start hanging out more. BUT DONT GET INTO TROUBLE. please just never change for anyone and to hang out with the popular group (clothes, personality,etc ) because you seem like a good person.i really hope i helped. sorry if it dont work out...

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my best guy friend says that he wants to have sex with me before we graduate. we're sophmores. i dont mind because i care about him because he is one of my best friends but if i have sex with him will it ruin our friendship?

if you have enough feelings for the guy then go ahead but take your time and dont rush into. If you think it may ruin your friendship then talk to him about it he may understand and wanna wait a lil longer.

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well this girl named B asked my boyfriend out and stuff and then her friend said they hookedup .. i didnt know who to believe so i gave my bf the benifit of the doubt. but i was with him yesterday and on his recieved calls there was a call from her from the 19th. i dont know what to do or how to respond because of everything that happened. he said he didnt tell me because he didnt want me to get mad. im not sure though

talk to him about it and see what he says but of course he will denie it if it was true.

if i was you i would confront her. but try not to start a HUGE fight.

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alright well i'm 90% sure i want to break up with my boyfriend.. but idk what im goin to say.. he broke up with me last week and he got his friend to call me and say "john wants to break up with you. bye" (he asked me out the next day, which is how we are going out again). so i was maybe thinking i could get my friend to call him and say the exact same thign to see how he feels! or i might say "hey i think we should just take break from each other and just let things smooth out" because we got in a fight earlier today.. and hes just too dramatic and he always brings a lot of unneeded drama. so someone please help me. how should i do it?? and should i do it on the phone?

do itface to face that shows him that your a bigger person.and just say hey look things aint working out the way i wanted them to so i think we should see other people.

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it would be awesome to get like one of those really expensive flat irons for christmas, but my mom has no clue about that stuff. i have really short, curly hair, and my flatty doesn't do that good of a job. i need on of those where it would take me 10-20 minutes to straighten. any suggestions?

you totally should get a CHI straigtner.

I have the purple one with jewels and it works M-AZING.if you have thick hair get the larger one.

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in what grade do you have the class sex ed?

like middle school through 9th grade..

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okay so this has nothing to do with me

but i'm just wondering do you guys like girls who are really misterious , dress diferent (not emo or goth or something like that just more of a rock style) listen to rock and hard metal stuff like that , walk alone almost all the time , are quit , have really dark long hair untill the ass =P , play electric guitar , and are really pretty but don't wear tight jeans or stuff like that
please answer it's just a question i had on my mind =)

it depends different guys like different girls. Just be yourself and NEVER change forr a guy...

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is acne a hudge turn off.. or does it realy matter.. im wondering



15/m

well all teens get it. and i mean ALL but you will grow out of it. but here are some ways to helpl prevent it from coming back...

1)when you wake up in the moring to go pee have some rubbing alcohol by the sink or sum where. Rub that on your face using a cotton ball. And make sure its 91% alcohol. Be sure to use it twice a day Morning and night. That just gets rid of the oil.

2) when you get out of the shower rub UNSCENTED lotion on you face to keep it from drying out.

3) ask your doctor about clerocin t.it works GREAT i use it.

dont buy those products off of teevee because they dont work too good. Proactive really dont work....

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14/f Ok so there is this guy that i really like, and we are pretty close friends. The winter snowball dance is coming up, and i was wondering if anyone had any ideas of how to ask him to go to it with me, even if we just went as friends. Or should i wait for him to ask me?

well maybe you should bring it up in a convo somehow... like... " hey who are you going to the dance with?" or "are you going" then maybe if he talks about it you'll say well maybe we could go as friends. Just talk to him about it but dont come out of no where and say it, then you may just embrass yourself. Find out around school if he's taking anyone then you might find out that he's alone. but you should wait too long to talk about it.

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ok i have a friend im confused about! I love her so much! and i dont wanna stop being friends with her, but im so jelous of her and constantly envying her its weakening my self-esteem.. so maybe i should! like this girl is pretty close to perfect.. so everytime i feel happy about something good ive done.. i compare myself to her and start feeling bad.. i can never feel good about my looks, grades, self.. or anything.because i realize "good" will never be as good as her. and its not her fault, duh, i know. But ive tried stopping to compare myself to her AND IT DIDNT WORK! SO I DONT KNOW IF I HAVE ANY OTHER OPTION! what should i do?

its good to have a friend as a role model, but you should never compare yourself to her bacause you are your own person && a good person at that. Im not going to tell you to change your look and become more like her because its wrong to change yourself to become someone else. God made you to be you & he put you on this world for a reason ( you dont know what reason but you'll find out ). And no one is PERFECT hun... or pretty close to be perfect. Im not. I have had friends that i looked up to and wanted to be like them too but i just thought negitive about myself and yeah im not that hottest girl in school or smartest but there are other things about me that i am good at. Its okay to be jealous about her but remember some girls out there maybe jealous of you as well =]

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Okay, if a girl is under 16 and a guy is 18, is it a legal for them to date? Someone told me that it is as long as you don't do anything with them but someone else told me that you can't date at all until the girl is 16. What's really legal?

of course you could still date him but if you get caught having sex with him or sexual stuff than you guys could get in serious trouble. he could get 6 years in jail/prision.if you are going to be having sex with him than you should be extra careful.

JUST BE CAREFULLLL...

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ive been talking to this guy for almost 2 months. we have sex and everything, and im 17 and hes 20, but weve been friends ever since we were little kids. and we wouldnt be able to have a relationship because people would say stuff about it and i dont like that. and now i think im starting to develope feelings for him and i dont want to if we cant be anything.. cause im still in high school, and i dont think he has feelings for me cause he has a history with girls, like cheating and stuff.. and i dont think hes in for that.. and since im younger, i think he just wants to have sex and thats it. like when we have sex as soon as were done, he puts his clothes on and drops me off.. but when i talk to other guys, he gets mad and i dont know if hes acting like he cares.. what do you think?

first off if you have feelings for him you should talk to him about it. And thats good that you have been friends with him for some time because you should have some trust in each other, which could make it last.But if he has had history with cheating on girls then what makes you think he won't do it to you ( not saying he will... but think). All guys are after sex but you may never know this could be more than just that.

Now since he's older and your younger he thinks that your at a vulnerable stage right now and he can get anything he wants anytime. So dont give him sex all the time and if he gets mad thats stupid...then you should know if he's using you.

this jealousy thing thats because he thinks just because you are talking to this guys that your having sex with them too. Yeah it seems like he cares about you alot.

i really hope i helped because that was a tuffy!

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[female]
I need to know the following.

-- Best deoderant: what works the best from
keeping you sweat and smell icky.
-- Best Toothpaste: make your teeth super
white & plaque-free for a while.
-- Good Makeup Colors: sora tan, brunette, blue
eyes big lips
-- BEST push up bra possible: 32 A but have some
boobs. or BEST shirts for small chested girls


DONT tell me to stay natural.
Im asking for the followinggg
not ways to stay yourself. :]]

Im picky, but thanks in advance

when it comes to beauty, im the girl to talk to... =]

1)i use SECRET moonlit rose and i never get sweaty or start to smell but i put it on a least three times a day because im very active.

2)my personal fav toothpaste is coolgate. just regular coolgate toothpaste. but really if you brush your teeth 2 or 3 times a day you should have pretty teeth.I once used those white strips and they didnt work as good as i thought so i wont recommed those to you, but theres this new teeth bleaching pen that my friends use they say it works but i dont know.

3)it depends on your hair color and what colors you wear. If you have a darker hair color and where alot of warm, earthy tones then you should go with brown and darker make up color, if you have blonde hair and wear bright colors you should wear pinks and light tones. It depends.

4)i recommed victoria secrets push up bras, and im sure they have your size. But you if you arent able to buy one then im sure alot of other store sell push up bras. I got one from wal-mart just the other day for $6 and im wearing it now. they have all colors and designs. i think girls who are small chested are adorable in little tight shirts with some sort of logo or saying. shirts from Hollister, Pac Sun, and Body Central are adorable.... Oh yeah DOTS has really cute shirts.

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where is a good website with quotes?!
♥ thanksss

this site has a ton of love qoutes and stuff like that.

www.links2love.com/quotes.htm

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Im a female
im about 5'7 and i weigh 145 lbs.
But im muscular
Do i need to loose alot of weight?

I've been on a diet for like 3 years
but i have like an over eatting problem , so you know...

you really arent overweight because females who are 5'7 should weigh like 135-145 pounds soo your fine.

AND girl if its muscule then you could kick some booty.... lol.

you really shouldnt be on a diet because later on in life that could mess up your health.

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