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im toooo jealous! :(
ok i have a friend im confused about! I love her so much! and i dont wanna stop being friends with her, but im so jelous of her and constantly envying her its weakening my self-esteem.. so maybe i should! like this girl is pretty close to perfect.. so everytime i feel happy about something good ive done.. i compare myself to her and start feeling bad.. i can never feel good about my looks, grades, self.. or anything.because i realize "good" will never be as good as her. and its not her fault, duh, i know. But ive tried stopping to compare myself to her AND IT DIDNT WORK! SO I DONT KNOW IF I HAVE ANY OTHER OPTION! what should i do?
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I have a friend or 2 like that. You should stay being friends with her but remember that you have different qualities than her and you are just as beautiful- on the inside and out. Hopefully, the feeling of jealousy will pass when you realize that you are just as great as her and she makes mistakes and has imperfections like everyone else.
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i understand completely with what you're saying. i have a friend like that too. i think the important thing for you to realize first, is that in no way is your friend perfect. no one is. i think you have little confidence in yourself, and you need to find a way to build that confidence up. im sure your a smart girl and will go far, but you cant let someone else keep bringing you down like that. you should find something about yourself that she doesnt have, like maybe you're really good at math, and maybe you could try to just do better than her. i know it sounds sort of wrong, but it really will build up your self esteem. you'll feel better knowing that your better at something than her, and it'll help you realize that she isnt perfect. i know you still want to be friends with her, but maybe you could try to not be around her as much, and you wont have someone to compare yourself against.
i hope this helped, and good luck. i just want you to know that you are beautiful, smart, and talented, and dont let anyone tell you any different!
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its good to have a friend as a role model, but you should never compare yourself to her bacause you are your own person && a good person at that. Im not going to tell you to change your look and become more like her because its wrong to change yourself to become someone else. God made you to be you & he put you on this world for a reason ( you dont know what reason but you'll find out ). And no one is PERFECT hun... or pretty close to be perfect. Im not. I have had friends that i looked up to and wanted to be like them too but i just thought negitive about myself and yeah im not that hottest girl in school or smartest but there are other things about me that i am good at. Its okay to be jealous about her but remember some girls out there maybe jealous of you as well =]
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