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i'm britney. i'm seventeen, and just got out of a long term relationship. :( i'm here to give advice whether you use it or not. anything else, just leave in my inbox.
advice
OK this guy has dumped me but still wants to remain friends. We text back and forth like everyday and both of us has remained single since we broke up. He says he wants to still think about it and we broke up like two months ago. Is there any hope of the two of us getting back together?
Like the person below me had said, it is impossible for us to tell you if you'll get back together or not. Although, if you both still seem to have that connection it is very possible things might work out. It just depends how much you two want to push it. If you like him and he likes you, then talk about it. It should be alright. ;D
i'm female, 15....its an odd thing because i know i'm bi, i've established that fact but i'm not sure what to do. no one knows about it and i think i have a crush on someone. i know she's not bi or gay but still; and i have a crush on a guy too.
im not sure what to do or if i should let people know about me being bi. i feel i won't be accepted. its just frustrating. what should i do?
from (confused about...everything)
You honestly might not be bisexual. During this age girls/guys tend to think they are, but later in life they might not even be at all. It could be just a fase, and if it is have fun with it. Who cares if your not accepted, then the people aren't worth it. Go for what you want.
Alright, well usually I'll agree 'age is just a number' but this situation...
My friend is a 15 year old girl and she's dating a 12 year old boy. I mean, yeah age is just a number but this is weird. People usually say on here 'Remember someone who is older wants a different kind of relationship' and that's true. A 12 year old boy has just left his "Girls have cooties" stage for gods sake!
Well my question is, do you think it's right that they're dating? Or is just me thinking it's wrong?
Also should I just let her be happy, or should I say something? If so, how should I put it?
I'm fifteen and dating a eighteen year old. I'm happy with it and so is he. If she's happy then who cares. Age isn't a big deal!
Yes, I understand he's mature and everything but there are some twelve year olds out there that are decent. Do you personally know him?
I had this boyfriend for 4 years and he dumped me tons of times, then decided we should be friends. After a while, he questioned about getting back together and I said I wanted to. Then bam, he hit me with the news of saying theres another girl and that he can't choose. I told him theres no choice because I'm gone. Did I do the right thing?
Yes! You definitly did the right thing. If he's going to keep dumping and having to choose between you and another girl it's not even worth it. Fuck him, find someone else. What sucks is that you waster four years of your like with that asshole.
Hi, im dating my ex again. We dated for about 7 months last time. And well, towards the end of our last relationship it was almost like we werent compatiable, fighting about stuff that was just dumb. And this time, its basically the same stuff. I wanted to be with him so much, but i think the dream of it is better than reality. He gets mad if i hang out with other guys, and most of my friends are guys. And i just dont know what to do, i tried to get it through his head that this is going to ruin us, but he just doesnt know what to do, and im the same way.
Help?
THanks
Hun, I'm going thru the exact same thing with my boyfriend. We haven't split up yet, and we've been dating for a year and about 3 months. We sit there and fight about everything stupid, and he hates me talking to guys. I know it sucks so badly.
What I'm thinking about doing it taking a break from him. Leting him see how much it hurts me that we fight so much, and see how things need to improve or we're gonna be done. You need to talk to him and explain more that things aren't working out and your sick of you. Tell him you love him, and you wanna be with him, but thins have to change.
I'm not sure if this will work for you, or me but I'll give it a shot, and hope you do too. ;)
I'm trying to come up with as many creative reasons I love my girlfriend and I need ideas please. I'm trying to come up with 365 reasons I love her. Our 2 year anniversary is coming up and I thought that I'd make a cute little book with 365 reasons why I love her. I know this is something personal and I obviously know why I love her, but I just thought some cute creative ideas from someone else would be nice too. But please help me out and share your stories. Please be creative in your answers and give it some thought. I'm already to 240, so I only need about 125 more to go. Haha.
ps.
i'm a girl, and im 16
if that helps anyyy
pleasee & thankyou (:
I agree with all the other answers too. That sounds like a adorable idea. Sometimes money isn't everything. I think those adorable home-made presents count the best. I'd definitly do some coupon things. Maybe if you have any picture of eachother you can make like one big book. Reasons why you love her/scrapbook/coupons. It's just a idea. Good luck!
+ Happy 2 Years. :]
If it was a good idea why'd I get a 3? Just curious. Oh well. :/
my boyfriend of a year and month dumped me today. i talked to one of his friends, and when my boyfriend asked if i did, i said no. when he found out, he got so mad. he was crying and he thinks that i hide everything from him and that he can't trust me anymore. the only reason i lied is because my boyfriend is so protective and doesn't like me talking to boys. i think that i should be able to talk to boys though. what should i do? i want my boyfriend back, but he doesn't think i should talk to boys. i don't know what to do or say to him.
Awe. I'm sorry. Sometimes I feel like the exact same way as you, although I lost a lot more then not being able to not talk to guys. I lost my girl friends too! He doesn't talk to his guy friends either because we're so attached. I feel like i'm in a god damn cage sometimes. I tried to talk to my boyfriend before, we've been going out a year and a month also, it didn't work. You should definitly try talking to your ex though. I'm sure you two will get back together! Tell him you've been with him this long, and you obvisioly don't want another guy so to calm down because you love him. Explain you want to be with him alot, but things need to change. Tell him he shouldn't be protective and you wouldn't have to hide things like that if he didn't care so much. Explain that it's HIS friend and not some weirdo random kid. He should understand that his friend wouldn't do something like that. Good luck. If you need anymore leave it in my inbox.
how do you kiss like really good? any instructions please?
WOW.
Agreed with the person below. There is no good way to kiss, it comes natural! If you have no clue how to do it, don't do it.
Never a question like this again.
I've been with my boyfriend for over a year.. but when i call another guy i talk to, my heart absolutely pounds out of my chest! and i get really nervous! why is this?
There are a few reasons why this could be happening.
You like him.
You don't want your boyfriend to know your calling him, and your nervous.
Your just shy.
There's not really a complete answer for this, because it could be either of the three. Think about it.
i'm 17/f. if i have a boyfriend, and we've been together for a long time, is it cheating if i hold hands with another boy?
I pretty much agree with everyone else. In my boyfriends eye's it probably would be cheating. Hell, I think getting/giving a phone number from someone else is cheating. But exactly what a lot of people said - Do you have feelings for the guy you'd be holding hands with, or is just like a little boy? A little boy, and he'd definitly be going out of hands with being angry, but someone your age/older kind of makes sence. Odds are, I wouldn't do it. If you did already think about if it meant something, because if it did, dump your boyfriend. That's cheating if you like someone else, and wrong.
Good luck. :]
okay like ive never had sex before, but i think about it alot. and this guy that i met ((were friends so i tell him everything)) is very pervish. sometimes i think he likes me other times its just bleh. sometimes he implies that he wants to have sex with me, and i dont know if i wanna, and like i kinda like him back. when i talk to him about sex hes always like "your not gonna do it anywayyy" and it gets me mad. sometimes i think that he does't believe me((thinking about and wanting to have sex)). i told him that i was waitng for the right person, but he still thinks that im stupid. i have a problem...=[
i dont know if you understood that but your help would be awsome!
Waiting for the right person is definitly the answer. If your not sure your ready, DON'T do it. Thinking about it is completly normal, you don't have to do it, but you can still think about it. If you choose to do it, make sure your ready. Tell your friend to piss off and you don't wanna fuck him. :] Haha, UNLESS you wanna. Haha. Be like, I can think about it, it doesn't mean I have to.
Hope this helped in somee way?
14/f and my boyfriend is 16/f
we'll be together for 2 months on the 5 or july
lately he doesnt seem to care too much. like sometimes hell be the sweetst guy in the world, but other times hell be a complete asshole.
i really just want him to show that he cares about me more.
ive talked to him about it and he says he'll try, and he'll do really good for like a week, then he starts being a dick again, but randomly is really sweet like once a week.
what should i do?
Same thing is going on with me, although we're almost at 1 year on July 2nd. He can sometimes be the nicest person in the world, but then completly changes. I hate it!
He'll just randomly just start acting like he doesn't care, and says rude things, and we fight alot.
To be honest, I don't know exactly what to do, because I've tried talking to him and such, and your right it works for a week or something and then everything starts again. I guess we should just try talking to them again, let them know how badly it is hurting us, and we can put up with it much longer. That's the best thing I can think of right now. Or, me and my boyfriend sometimes break-up, get back together within 1 day kinda thing. Maybe you can dump him, not talk to him for like 4 hours, and be like "things need to change." after he's like begging for you back. It's worth a try. Good luck.
Write in my inbox what you did - and if it worked. (:
Hey im in a dilemma lol
Tomorrow is my graduation. I just happened to like a boy today. Im not going to the same high school as him anymore and hes moving out of this area. I really like him and if i spend more time with him this summer, im just going to get more attached and it would be harder for me to let go. What should i do?
Thanks, this is urgent!
In my opinion I wouldn't get to attached, considering he's moving and all. If you want have a good summer with him and fool around or whatever, just don't let love get caught up in it. I hope things work out well.
I have recently fallen in love with my best friends fiance. He has told me that he is in love with me too, and we want to be together. The horrible thing is, i have a fiance myself and a 2 year old baby. My relationship isn't full of love and life anymore and i haven't been happy in a long time. Should i leave? How can i do it without hurting anyone too much?
Stay away from him. I wouldn't ruin a friendship with your best friend. Try and work things out with your own fiance. Hopefully things will become better, just don't get involved with the other man because things can really screw up everything.
16/f
i have no clue at all what i am fealing lately. i have always noticed another girl to be cute or attractive and i have thought about girls in sexual ways but i always thought it was a phase. i started becoming attracted to guys but there was always part of me saying this is how it has to be boy/girl. i have recently made a friend and she is gay and i have been he;lping her with many issues in her life including issues about being gay and i now am fealng attracted to her on a higher level as well as many other girls. i feel like i shoud tell ehr this but i am afraid that she will think i was usuing her in a way to just get close to her, because all along i have been her straight, understanding friend
i dont know what i should do i feel like i am gay but i am jsut not sure
That gay phase or whatever can last long or short it all depends on the person.
If you want to fool around with her? See if you like it, and if you don't then I guess your not a lesbian. It's very early to tell though. Maybe you can talk to her about it, and ask her what exactly it felt like in the beginning.
Good luck.
I don't really like my boyfriend anymore, i know that is TERRIBLE to say, but im 13/f and im not allowed to date till im 16. The other day on aim he said the sweetest thing.. that he would wait for me until i was 16 so we could go on dates. That freaked me out, because i dont want that kind of commitment, i dont like the fact that he is going to be with me for 3 years scares the crap outta me.
How do i break up with him because i can't see him in person, because schools out and i cant go anywhere with him period.Also i am not allowed not to call him!!!!!! Do i messaged him over myspace? I know thats a terrible way to break up. :(
pLEASE hELP mE!
Are you parents home 24-7, that you can't sneak a phone call in? If so you shouldn't even be in a relationship it's not fair for him, considering you can never talk to him other then myspace.
I think you should have a talk with your parents too that's a tad bit too strict. If you wanna be able to see him possibly, talk to you parents and see if like you a couple girls can hang out with guys at the pool or something? I don't know. Just sneak a call in I guess.
here are these to really great girls im trying to find out which one i should date, i cant choose!
i need help sooo bad
okayy #1 is Jessica
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=5zm2kgl
#2 this is Haley
http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=5xhrxuw
which one? i dont know, im having a SUPER hard time
ALSO PLEASE TELL ME WHO IS PRETTIER I CANT TELL THAT STUFF IDK WHY BUT IM HAVING A HARD TIME pleasee help
thanks!!
Well first of all that's really ignorant since your judging them by looks. Pick which one in your opinon has the best personality, cause I'm not giving my opinon about the looks.
If you can't choose don't date either one, because obvisioly you only like them for there looks, which isn't fair. I'm not trying to be rude, but it's not right. You need to take time and think out which one you honestly like, and don't lead them on. If it's just for looks, then just be single and be friens w/ benifits with both?
what is giving head im so clueless how do you give it??? and what does you cherry pop mean is it just some weird way of saying having sex for the first time just wondering
giving head - also named as blow job. sucking a mans penis. (stick it in your mouth and use a lot of tonge.) i guess easiest way to describe it.
cherry pop - first time having sex is when this happens. its something in the vagina that when something enters it or bumps it, it pops, and bleeds.
Well as some as you might know, ive been dating this guy for 4 months. I dont know if its natural but he keeps flirting and flirting and flirting! I get SO mad, and this one girl specificly, and i know it, likes him. She always is flirting with him and smiling at him and sometimes even winking?! Wow. should i confront the girl or even my boyfriend that it bothers me?
Yeah I deffinitly would comfront him about it. Me and my boyfriend have a very very jealous relationship to the point we don't even talk to the opposite sex, but you don't have to be like that. Tell him how you feel. Say something like, "Babe, it's been really bothering me of how close and stuff you are with (whatever her name is.) and I mean you can still talk, but please don't flirt with her anymore." I mean your not guarenteed he'll stop, but it's worth a shot. If nothing goes better then dump him. He shouldn't be flirting and stuff with other girls when he has you.
i only have a week of school left and i need to figugure out a way to get the guy i like(who likes me back) to ask me out on a date. because once summer comes we wontr be able to hang and I CANT ASK HIM MY SELF!!!!!PLEASE HELP
Well do you even want to go out on a date with him? You can't see eachother over the Summer so what's the point of getting closer? If you do decide you really want to just ask him. Explain that you just wanna hang, don't be all weird about it. And then maybe get his number so you can talk atleast?