Well as some as you might know, ive been dating this guy for 4 months. I dont know if its natural but he keeps flirting and flirting and flirting! I get SO mad, and this one girl specificly, and i know it, likes him. She always is flirting with him and smiling at him and sometimes even winking?! Wow. should i confront the girl or even my boyfriend that it bothers me?
XJellybeanx03 answered Saturday May 26 2007, 12:20 pm: I would definitley talk to your boyfriend about ot
and if it does not get better then i would hate to say this but DUMP the guy if he treats you liek that he isnt worth it.
x0advice4y3w answered Saturday May 26 2007, 10:32 am: Yeah I deffinitly would comfront him about it. Me and my boyfriend have a very very jealous relationship to the point we don't even talk to the opposite sex, but you don't have to be like that. Tell him how you feel. Say something like, "Babe, it's been really bothering me of how close and stuff you are with (whatever her name is.) and I mean you can still talk, but please don't flirt with her anymore." I mean your not guarenteed he'll stop, but it's worth a shot. If nothing goes better then dump him. He shouldn't be flirting and stuff with other girls when he has you. [ x0advice4y3w's advice column | Ask x0advice4y3w A Question ]
looneytune1561 answered Saturday May 26 2007, 9:43 am: yes you should confront your boyfriend. because for all you know he might be cheating on you with her ( not saying he is ). but still just say something casual like " so ( whatever his name is ) you gotta little thing for that girl. but say it jokeingly so he doesnt get mad or anything. then wait to see what his reaction is. he hes just like uhhh no? then he probably doesnt but if he gets really mad that you asked or if he gets nervous then probably yes he likes her. hope i helped [ looneytune1561's advice column | Ask looneytune1561 A Question ]
twistedsister17 answered Saturday May 26 2007, 7:21 am: Yes, you should confront your boyfriend. A relationship is all about trust, and you need to know if you can trust him. 4 months is a fairly long time and you two are expected to be open and honest with each other. You have to talk to him because you don't want all of this to build up inside of you. I've had that happen to me before, where I've been jealous, but I didn't say anything about it, then I ended up flipping out and screaming at my boyfriend.
The best thing you can do, is, in person, ask your boyfriend, "You know that _____ girl? Are you two friends?" See what he says. If he says yes, tell him, "Well, it makes me feel kind of uncomfortable when she's around you." Again, see what he says. DON'T say anything like, "She's so ugly/gross," even if you do feel that way. End the conversation by asking, "Can I trust you that you're not seeing anyone else?" After that, drop the subject. You don't want to turn it into a three hour long discussion.
After that, if the girl sticks around, that's her problem. She can flirt and wink at him all she wants, it only matters what he does back to her. If he's not flirting back with her, then don't worry about it. Trust me, you will know if your boyfriend is cheating on you. Because things get around very quickly, and you will always find out. (Though I don't think he is cheating on you.) Give it some time, see what happens. If he's not flirting back, this girl will eventually give up and move on. If you know for a fact that he DOESN'T like her as a friend at all, then feel free to yell at her a bit and tell her to back off. [ twistedsister17's advice column | Ask twistedsister17 A Question ]
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