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Friend dating someone younger.
Alright, well usually I'll agree 'age is just a number' but this situation...
My friend is a 15 year old girl and she's dating a 12 year old boy. I mean, yeah age is just a number but this is weird. People usually say on here 'Remember someone who is older wants a different kind of relationship' and that's true. A 12 year old boy has just left his "Girls have cooties" stage for gods sake!
Well my question is, do you think it's right that they're dating? Or is just me thinking it's wrong?
Also should I just let her be happy, or should I say something? If so, how should I put it?
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I personally see no problem with your friend dating a younger guy. It's their choice, and if there happy then it shouldn't really matter.
It probably wouldn't be a good idea to mention your concern to your friend as it might just upset her.
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I personally don't believe it's wrong, I say each to their own. I wouldn't date a 12-year-old and I'm fifteen, but if someone else wants to, then I think it's fine. I think the only time you should ever say anything about it to your friend is if he does something to hurt her feelings, but otherwise, I think it'd be best if you stayed out of it.
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wow, a 12 year old? you sure hese out of the cootie stage?
haha i doubt hese really mature enough to handle a 15 year old. thats what a sophomore/freshman dating a 6/7th grader? i mean... its okay i guess. just really stupid...
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I'm fifteen and dating a eighteen year old. I'm happy with it and so is he. If she's happy then who cares. Age isn't a big deal!
Yes, I understand he's mature and everything but there are some twelve year olds out there that are decent. Do you personally know him?
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Personally, I think it's wrong. Boys mature much slower than girls so the boy is probably way too immature for you friend.
However, I don't know if it's best to say something or not. Does your friend take everything personally? If so, just let it be; their relationship won't last long anyway.
Nevertheless, if something must be said don't beat around the bush. Be polite, but get straight to the point.
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I think thats mad weird yo...12 year old boys will be mostly trading pokemon cards not really dating lol i think you should tell her once and advice her that its weird and shes not going to find the protection and love and COMMITMENT she needs from a 12 year old kid!That kids gona grow up and look to other girls cuz hes still young and dont even know what he wants yet!Tell her that and if she dont listen then let her make her own mistakes so she can learn it the hard way...
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If she's happy dating a 12 year old, then leave her alone. It's none of your business who she dates unless he does something wrong to hurt her.
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Oh boy thats werid.
Maybe you should let it go,let her be happy if she's happy the the best thing you can do is let it go but she'll know it's werid.
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It's not right or wrong; it's stupid.
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hmmm interesting... that does seem kinda odd for a 12 year old boy and a 15 year old girl to date. She will be dropping him off at Middle School if they keep it up! lol
But all silliness aside, I think that it all has to do with the maturity level from both parties. But first of all, I just want to say that it is perfectly normal for you to have these feelings. Our culture and society has raised us to feel a little "weird" about older woman/younger man relationships, but perfectly fine with older man/younger woman relationships.
However, your friend and her... ahem... interest are still underage and might just be going out because they like how they look.
If it really REALLY bothers you, try to find a guy that fits the qualities of the 12 year old and ask how old he is. If he is 14-16, then introduce him to your friend. If he isn't, then keep looking lol. Perhaps she is interested in the 12 year old for the qualities he possesses and might not realize that there are plenty of guys her age to date.
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That is indeed awkward. I know my next statement may get me a lot of hate on here but a 12 year old boy has NO idea what love is let alone what a relationship is even about. So why is your friend dating this kid? :/ I'm actually more interesting in knowing if this kids parents know about him 'dating' a 15 year old? Or that he's even dating at all?
I would suggest talking to your friend and ask her to take a step back to see what she's doing/thinking but that would probably serve no purpose since she will assume you're either jealous or just being hateful and wanting them to break up (or something along those lines). If you feel though that your friend will appreciate you saying something and not get defensive about it then by all means do say something. In all honesty I seriously only see this as a phase and don't expect it to last all that long at all.
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