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This is for a school project I'm doing and would appreciate totally honest answers. I just need to know peoples own opinions on dating outside your own race could you please tell me gender, age and your own race plus how you feel when you see different coloured men and women together.
Also if you do support or agree with inter racial relationships, which is your favourite combinations like white women with black men or asian women with white men, don't be shy :) I just need some honest opinions to finish off my research. thank you (link)
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18/f white
I view interracial relationships just as normal as those of the same race. A personality is a personality, no matter what color the shell is. Im actually dating a Colombian guy at the moment :) and for a favorite, I dont have one. Theyre all beautiful.
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18/f
So my boyfriend was being mean to me today and I asked him why. He told me that he had a very visual dream about me. My guess was that I was having sex with another guy... Since that's all I knew and he didn't want to get into descriptions about it since he didn't want to think about it. So I was trying to hug him and I told him, "it was just a dream.. And I'm here with you." And he pushed me away and told me not to touch him or anything. He's usually not like that, and I said that as well.. And his response was, "well this was one of the clearest dreams I've ever had. It scarred me. I remember everything including the sounds... I can't see you the same.
So for the rest of the day, he wouldn't hug me, kiss me, and he didn't seem very happy to hold my hand. So what am I supposed to do? He didn't want to talk about it. He won't let me touch him. So do I just give him some space to get over it?? And do you think he had that dream because he has some sort of insecurities?? (link)
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Just give him some space. Obviously dreams have a big impact on us, no matter if it would really happen in real life or not.
When you guys part, text him like 'baby, i know your upset, but it was only in your mind. I only want to be with you. Call me tomorrow
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Im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m
me and my boyfriend were fooling around last night, im a virgin and im about as innocent as they get...meaning before last night i hadnt even had a guy finger me or anything. The furtherest id ever been before my boyfriend was kissing.
The thing is last night, he put one of his fingers inside me, it was VERY painful. Im very tight down there and we are both aware its going to take a couple of tries and getting used to for the pain to go away. However, what i want to know is why i felt like i had to go to the toilet the entire time he was touching me down there. Is that normal? (link)
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Its normal. The peeing sensation (unless you really had to pee) is most likely from hit hitting your 'g spot'. If you do some investigating yourself, its the rough part inside your vagina on the front side. When you get aroused it swells and becomes i think the size of a dime. It will make you feel like using the bathroom but if you stick through the fingering, its the most intense orgasm.
The only other reason this would happen is from tearing or stretching that would make it burn, but im almost positive its the first reason. Good luck
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So, I'm a 18 year-old boy. And i would say that i am very different from the guys i know my age. It seems like all the other guys are so easily able to control themseleves with girls. But for me, its hard.
For some reason, i am always thinking about girls, and i feel jealous, left out, horny, you know. And i dont wanna think about girls anymore. Ive recently been healing from a bad breakup, but thats not just it. Ive been always stressed about girls, like its in the back of my head all the time and i dont want to be like this anymore.
I am NOT saying that i wanna be gay or anything, but how can i become like, how do you say, unstressed and unfrustrated with girls? Because lately thats how ive been feeling: Frustrated. I see some of my guy friends and they dont even look at girls at all. like it doesnt even affect them in any way. I want to become like that. I want to be a guy with a free mind and no stress and not think about girls at all. How can i do this? (link)
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A lot of guys your age feel this way. A lot of girls feel this way. I have before anyways. Id always be looking for guys approval, hoping they liked me, confused about how to act.. Etc. I began telling myself that theyre just like me, probably feel the same way, and that theyre just other human beings like myself. Its hard, but you need to have this mentality. Just look at girls only as potential FRIENDS for now. Everyone worries about the opposite sex, some people just mask it a little better than others. This stage wont last forever.
In the meantime, find something to distract yourself. Fishing, hiking, biking, art, reading, writing, anything to
keep your mind busy and off your frustration.
Hope I helped, and good luck :)
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i am 14 and my boyfriend has asked if he can finger me he keeps asking and i dont no what to say because he has told me we will stay together if i let him but wont if i wont let him , i was worring that i am two young so what should i say ?? (link)
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I know you might not like what I am going to say, but I am saying this for your own good.
PLEASE dont stay with this loser. Any guy who has true feelings for you would not make you choose between him fingering you or dumping you. Soon he will want more, then once he gets what he wants he'll move on. Youre young and will have plenty of boyfriends later in life who respect your mind and your body.
Pleaseee, take this advice so you dont do anything you'll regret later on.
Good luck!
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I have been talking to this one guy and he started not texting me back yesterday. I knew he was busy but he didn't text me at all today. He also got pissed yesterday and shut me out so I left him alone. But usually when I tell him good morning he always replies and he didn't text me all day. When I worry he always tells me to relax and I am insecure and paranoid and I really like him and don't wanna screw up. But I asked if he was ignoring me and he got all pissy. How was I supposed to know he was at a wedding dinner like he said he was? He could've at least let me know. He always lets me know when he's busy. I'm hurt. I feel like I screwed things up between us. Help? (link)
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You really need to calm down when he doesnt text you back. You both have your owns lives and you can't be glued to your phone 24/7. Having to check in witn someone constantly is like having another mother, and no guy wants that. Let him breathe, let him have some space. Dont always be the first one to text him good morning, and give him a while before you freak out because of no reply. You guys dont have to text EVERY DAY.
From what you wrote, i'm guessing yall dont see each other..? So thats probably why youre so paranoid and jealous. Try to explain it to him. But for now, let the situation cool down and dont text him unless he texts you.
Good luck.
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im 18/f and hes 19/m :)
ok so long story short, i really like my bestfriend. I've never met anyone more like me in my life and we both thinks its the most amazing thing. Im so lucky to have found him and im really falling for him. Anyway, two weeks ago i was nervous and hopeless about a future together with him, thinking that he couldnt possibly have the same feelings for me as i did him. Anyway, i got an unexpected phone call from a mutual friend of ours telling me that i dont need to worry and to stop stressing. i asked her why and she told me not to say anything, but that my best friend likes me alot and thinks im insanely beautiful. Hes came out of a horrible break up after 5 years 6 months ago, and says he wants to be a single for a little bit longer. But he does like me alot and wants to be with me when hes not so terrified of relationships. he also told her that if i ended up dating anyone else that he would be extremely upset and know that it 'wasnt meant to be'. but to be honest i dont want anyone else but him, and im willing to wait till hes ready. Again i have to pretend i dont know any of this, as he told her that he wants to tell me personally, but she knew how upset i was going and had to.
so anyway that was a couple of weeks ago that i found out about that, and since then we havent been able to see each other due to his band being on tour. It wasnt till yesterday i started doubting his feelings for me again, as he didnt really text me or anything much, but when he did he would say some really sweet things. anyway yesterday he texted me (coming as a complete surprise cause he barely texts me ahhah) and told me "listen to invincible by tonight alive. then text me back, i will say no more"
so i listened to the song and immeadiatly began to cry.
the lyrics are as follows:
i love you in the light, i love you in the dark
and my mind has been made up
because you threw the spark, that set my heart on fire
now the stars are falling from the sky,
there on fire and falling
straight into your eyes, your eyes.
i am invincible, as long as i love you
i am invincible, theres nothing we cannot do.
missing you everyday- its not enough for me.
we make it so hard for ourselves so easily
and its funny the one same thing that makes me crazy
is the same thing that keeps me sane
my minds a million miles away
but nothing ever changes, no never change.
cause i am invincible, as long as i love you
i am in invincible, theres nothing we cannot do
your arms are my home,
and ive been homesick for oh so long
so bring me back home
back where i, back where i belong
cause i am invincible,
i am invincible
i am invincible, as long as i love you
i am invincible, theres nothing we cannot do
i am invincible
i am invincible as long as im in love
im in love with you
I then texted him back saying how i thought the song was amazing! and i was speechless. he then responded with "i thought you'd like it :) it came on in the car just then and im chillin in the back seat and thought of you :)"
do you think the song meant anything in regards to his feelings for me? is he trying to tell me something? etc etc
any advice appreciated :)
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He's totally diggin you. There's no way he would tell you to listen to that song and him not mean anything by it. But until he completely comes out and clearly tells you how he feels, i'd just play it cool. When he gets home definitely make plans to chill and see where it goes from there. Good luck :) my inbox is always open
x sweeethoney
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ok so think i might be bi (i dont know for sure yet though) and i want 2 know your story of being with another girl. you can say whatever you like. you can tell your sex stories or just tell how it feels and if you are made fun of a lot and if u were afraid 2 come out of the closet and how it feels 2 touch and kiss another girl. whatever you wanna share. . . (link)
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many many girls go through this stage with questioning their sexuality, so first off dont feel weird about it at all.
Ive experimented a few years back with my best friend, & it made things a little awkward after we decided it wasnt going to work between us. Ive had crushes on girls & have 'talked' to girls after that, but nothing really came of it. I still am attracted to girls sometimes, but my preference is guys.
Touching/kissing another woman is interesting, because since youre a girl yourself, you know what feels good to them. Women are naturally more attractive then men too: pretty hair, curves, soft skin,etc.. So you might find things more enjoyable because of that. With experimenting, you may be totally loving the touch of a woman, or find out you dont at all!
I was not made fun of at all for being with girls, its very accepted is highschools now where its totally normal. I havent told my parents about any of this & I really dont plan on it.
Lastly, dont worry about putting a label on things. Just find out what you like. I dont call myself bisexual just because I would rather not put a cookie cutter label on my sexuality. Love has no age, gender, size or color, & if I fall in love with a girl, I wouldnt ignore it just because of her gender.
Good luck, my inbox is always open!
x sweeethoney
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I'm kind of young. But today, my grandma and I went to Walgreens for a little shopping spree.
I was walking and I noticed this guy watching me, and every time I'd turn to meet his gaze, he'd grin and turn away. I thought it was cute how he was so shy. I'd catch him looking at me, and he kept telling me which magazines were the best to read. He worked at the photoshop place and refilled the milk in the fridge/freezer section when I commented to myself that there was no milk left. And yes, I do know it's his job to be a good worker to the customer, but I had this feeling. Usually I get all fuzzy and warm inside when I have the "crush" feeling.
When I went in line, there was a short line, with only one person. And just as the register was about to serve me, the guy at the photoshop counter announced on the intercom that his register was open. I smiled because I knew he'd felt accomplished by getting me closer to him. He told me how pretty I was and scanned my items. We talked about the beach for a good five minutes and he wished me a good night.
Now, sure, I usually have quick crushes that come and go, but this is a new thing. I feel like I should've given him my number or something....but I have no idea how old he is... ugh.
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I say go back in on the same day the following week & slip him your number. Obviously he thinks your cute, & if you just give it to on a piece of paper, the worst he could do is not call. Then you can find out how old he is & whatever else youd like to know. Take a chance!
x sweeethoney
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a month. I just found out yesterday he might go to Arizona this summer to visit his dad and move in with him. He told me he doesn't want me to get too attached, and he said he doesn't want to do certain things so I won't get as attached. I feel upset. I really like him and I don't want our relationship to be focused on what might happen. I want to take everyday at a time and enjoy it while we can. I let him know this, but now I am fearing he won't act the same because of the fact he might leave. Any advice? (link)
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Explain that youre willing to take the chance that you might grow to attatched & that you want to make what might be your last month together count. Why throw something away for a move that might not happen? Its easy to see where hes coming from, but if you really like him & he really likes you then go with it! See where it takes you. So what if he moves in a month? Something could happen tomorrow! Thats what really matters.
Try to explain it to him that way, & thatd it hurt if he shielded himself from you because of the move.
good luck, my inbox is always open!
x sweeethoney
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Everything is just going so well for me. Is that bad I don't want to date? I feel it would be a distraction... I'm doing very well in all my classes right now and don't feel I have the time... The main reason I ask this is my friends keep trying to set me up because my ex of 3 years dumped me a few months ago and they think I need to get out there and date... I keep telling them I don't want to but they don't understand. I know they mean well and just want to see me happy but I am...I just don't know what to say to them anymore. I tried explaining that if I wanted a bf I could find my own, and that I don't want to get serious until after college.... Please help meh!
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there is absolutely no problem with you not wanting a boyfriend! I dont want one either haha. Everything that us late teens/early 20s girls go through is already stressful enough, who wants to add a relationship on top of that? Plus, this is the time for us to find
out who we are as women, & thats YOUR journey, not you & your boyfriends journey.
Also, after being in a relationship for so long you deserve some time to be single & enjoy yourself. Your friends need to support you in this. Theyll eventually understand, they just have different points of view.
good luck :)
x sweeethoney
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20/female Ben 19
So me and Ben have been friends for about 5 years now. We have always had an attraction to each other BUT neither of us act on it. We've never kissed or anything ...we used to cuddle a lot and he's touched me all over but nothing more and that was about 2 years ago when things were really hot and heavy. Now it seems as though things settled down and we haven't cuddled or anything for a while but still flirt ALOT.
Obviously we're still attracted to each other but it's kind of like ...neither of us wants to make a move because we're not FOR SURE that the other one wouldn't be like "why did you do that, that was awkward, you got me totally wrong" To be honest, every time I see him I just want to start making out with him haha it's pretty bad but I hold myself back.
I usually put myself out there more by flirting hard core and he definitely responds. For example, one time we were outside our friends house in the driveway and he was leaning up against a car and I was standing right next to him and put my arm around him and then he put his arm around my waist basically holding me. Or one time we were standing in the kitchen and I had these short shorts on and he came up from behind and gave me a hug and then tapped my butt, it was kind of cute haha.
Also, one time we were in my cousins garage and he had his shirt off and he came and hugged me and then he was like let's go inside in my room and I didn't know if he was joking and I was like yeah lets go kind of joking around back but nothing happened and my cousin was like oh god you guys!!
Just little things like that. Also one time I was leaving and he was outside and I got in my car and he walked in the street and I rolled down my window and he said something I can't remember, but he got really close to me like he was gonna kiss me and I freaked out! But didn't show it ...but once again nothing happened.
I'm almost 95% sure that if I made a move and kissed him he wouldn't care. But I wouldn't want it to be awkward afterward like "okay ....well bye"
I don't know what to do! Do I just keep flirting with him and if nothing happens, nothing happens? It's still fun flirting but I'm too scared to make a move!! And I feel like he is too. Any suggestions!? Do you think he could be into me or at least into hooking up? i KNOW that people say don't just hook up with you guy friends but please don't say that, I just need advice on if you think he is interested in me or if i'm doing something wrong?? (link)
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He's definitely into you, no doubt about it. Now, its up to one of you to take it to the next level. Maybe next time you guys are really flirtin & no ones really paying attention, & say your faces are close together, just your index finger to tell him to kiss you if you know what I mean. Bite your lip, bat your eyes, make good eye contact, when he taps your butt say something like 'ooh dont tease me ;)',. Basically let him know how much you like what hes doing alottttt. Or maybe just kiss him out of the blue! He'd totally be down. Obviously you guys are very comfortable together so just push the boundaries a little. It'll happen at the rate youre going,
its inevitable.
Anymore questions? Feel free to ask
x sweeethoney
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My girlfriend and I have just had some major issues and we've both come to the conclusion that this is best solved by just starting over 100%. We both agree on the idea, but neither of us really know how to do it...any ideas? (link)
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If youre gonna 'start over', you both need to figure out what you want to be different in the relationship. Whether she nags you when youre out with friends, or you dont listen to her problems enough, or trust issues, you need to decide how to fix your issues.
Another part of starting over is the physical side. Im not sure if you all are sexually active, but take things slow again. First kiss, all the way til when you finally had sex, like how you would go slow in a new relationship. This way sex wont be a worry for a while & the emotiinal aspect will be the main priority.
Get to know eachother again, have long talks, just hang out as friends almost.
this may be hard & might not work but good luck!
x sweeethoney
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ok well you guy are gonna think im like the craziiest person in the world :s but i NEED advce kaay well about a year ago my friend introduced me to justin bieber (not in person like she showed me his songs) and i really liked his music but lately ive been obssesing over his songs i listen to him ALL day and ALL night im always daydreaming of how it would be if i were to ever meet him and if he liked me and we started going out ive never really liked a famouse person this much and its kinda silly cause its gotten to the point were after my day dreams i start cring cause i know that ill NEVER be able to get even close to him or meet him in person and even if i did have my dream of comeing face to face with him and telling him how i feel i know that im just waaaaaaay to ugly for him to even be the least bit intrested :(( ( heres a pic of me -----> http://i784.photobucket.com/albums/yy121/EmilyAn007/188705_108547272561521_100002187478226_80259_1924690_n.jpg)
soo plzzz just give me any coment of what i should do to just get it over wiith! (link)
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many girls feel this way, why? im not sure. but you cant waste your time cryin & stressin over a celebrity that you will never be with. its unhealthy.
try to not listen to his music or look at his pictures for a day. just a day. if you have his posters on your wall take them down. now, distract yourself from thinkin about him. play a sport outside, go to the mall, do some readin, watch movies, etc.
then, focus on reality. appreciate what you actually do have in your life: friends, family, school, your hobbies..
thats all I got & I hope that ive helped.
(youre not ugly by the way girl)
my inbox is always open!
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Theres this guy Ive been friends with for many months and been dating for over a month. Hes a frickin weirdo and my friends hate him. I come from a conservative New England town and he stands out in wifebeaters and skinny jeans. His friends are the same way-- weird. He goes to com college and never tried in high school, whereas I'm an overachieving senior heading to a competitive school next year. And hes not attractive. My friends are trying to convince me that he's not right for me at all-- and from what I've just said, its obvious to see why. But he's seriously one of the nicest people I've ever met, and the biggest thing is that we share the same morals. He doesnt drink or do drugs, and he believes in treating women with respect. He treats me better than my old boyfriend did. Should I pay attention to the superficial, surface things or just take him how he is? I mean, how many 18 year old guy will I be able to find who actually want to treat me and my body with respect? (link)
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you are being superficial, like the columnists said before me. so many girls would kill for a guy who treats them like gold, & a lot of us havent been that lucky. so to clearly state my obvious opinion, STAY WITH HIM as long as you have real feelings for him. dont just stay because hes a good guy.
you also need to ask your friends to respect your love life & your boyfriend & to stop talking badly about him. they arent being good friends, because true friends would see how well you are being treated & be happy for you, no matter what he looks like!
good luck
x sweeethoney
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My girlfriend has been lying to me about smoking since we starting going out. I caught her about 6 months into it and a couple of times after that and she has tried but its not working out.
This question is for smokers
Would you be able to quit smoking for your boyfriend or girlfriend?
she says she loves me and wants to marry me but she cant do this even with my help it seems (link)
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quitting smoking is one of the hardest things ive ever tried to do, & yet ive still not accomplished it. some people can smoke a pack one day & then not a single cigarette the next, but for people like me, its very hard. when I dont smoke, I shake, cry, get angry, get chest, back, & joint pains, head aches, I feel lonely & depressed. its horrible. that being said, your girlfriend is probably someone like me. instead of hounding her about it, tell her she doesnt have to hide it & youre there to support her when SHES ready.
trying to force someone to quit is pointless & kind of cruel. you smoke when youre stressed, & youre puttin stress on her. she will be more succesful with a loving hand, not a pointed finger.
be supportive, not controlling.
x sweeethoney
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I have been in a 6 month long relationship with my girlfriend. Over the time I have realized she doesn't respect who I really am and seems to degrade me for it.
She's pulling me away from my music (which I enjoy and want to make a career out of), insults my friends (who mean allot to me and helped me through so much hard times) and wants me to cut my hair and shave my beard (I'm a huge hippie).
It seems to her, everything is wrong with me, and she is absoloutely perfect. I am just a disgrace.
I feel she wants to make me the kind of guy which I REALLY HATE which will make her happy yet me lifeless and miserable, not feeling HAPPY.
What is your opinion on this? (link)
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give her an ultimatum- tell her to let you be who you truly are or its over, plain & simple. i dont see why shes datin you if she doesnt like who you are! I know plenty of girls who would dig how you describe yourself. you need to find a girl who wont try to change you, but support you.
good luck, my inbox is always open
x sweeethoney
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Okay i am 15 years old and am a female. And i was hanging out with my friends and i met my friends friend Donny. He turns 19 next week. He has a son who turns 2 in october. i've hung out with him starting back a few months ago. But i do like him. Which i know is really bad...but no one can help feelings. And my bestfriend is trying to figure out if he likes me back...everyone thinks him and i would be cute together but there is many faults.. age for one. 2. the son. 3. some of the friends we share i am not aloud to hangout with. 4. he has some issues at home. but i cant help but be attracted to him. I just want to hear peoples opinions on how you guys think this would work out. Should i go for it, or should i drop it? (link)
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I have to admit, when I was 15 I dated a 19 year old. hes now the father of my child. he is emotionally preoccupied now with things that maybe another 19 year old could handle. you coild be the 'most mature 15 year old' but I dont see this workin at allll. DROP IT
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Im a girl in her early teens.
I have a great personality, socialbe , talented , outgoing and etc . I'm very mature for my age . I'm just amazing , soo here its come I dont go out with boys my age usually older, and lately they just been worrying about my age how old is the age difference suppose to bee bye 2 years ? 3 years ? Idkk Please Help Me -__- . (link)
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age is just a number, they just dont wanna get in trouble or made fun of, or maybe scared of immaturity. also older girls have more freedom, a car, more responsible. you can think youre the most amazing person, but that cocky additude makes you seem immature & probably wont get you anywhere. if youre as young as you seem, try focus on havin fun & less on boys, then later on you wont have to worry about.
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please read i need help
is is possible to find love again? i am so scared that i will never find someone else. i have been trying. ever since my bf of 2 years broke up with me about a year and a half ago. my greatest fear used to be losing him and that already happend. now my new fear is never finding that special person who loves me respects me and would treat me right. people have said that he WILL come to you when you least expect it and to not go out looking for it because it will be when the time is right. im in my late teens and still young. im a good girl and i nice person. i dont know what to do. im so confused and feel so alone and im ready for that special someone but i just cant seem to find him. i dont know what to do. is there someone for everyone. what should i do ? (link)
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im your same age. same year & half single. & I have a baby. I thought I was screwed haha. I tried & tried to find some one with qualifications in everyguy I met, & just set myself up for dissapointment. so I stopped lookin & enjoyed my life, you know? & then I did meet a great guy. so the people you talked to were right! YOURE YOUNG. you have 60-70 years in your life left, just enjoy bein a teen ager,& have fun! you lookin wont changr the right time, itll just fill the in between time with bullshit.
my inbox is always open!
x sweeethoney
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