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Girlfriend Doesn't Respect My TRUE Character
I have been in a 6 month long relationship with my girlfriend. Over the time I have realized she doesn't respect who I really am and seems to degrade me for it.
She's pulling me away from my music (which I enjoy and want to make a career out of), insults my friends (who mean allot to me and helped me through so much hard times) and wants me to cut my hair and shave my beard (I'm a huge hippie).
It seems to her, everything is wrong with me, and she is absoloutely perfect. I am just a disgrace.
I feel she wants to make me the kind of guy which I REALLY HATE which will make her happy yet me lifeless and miserable, not feeling HAPPY.
What is your opinion on this?
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Why are you still with her?
In her eyes, you will never be the man she wants you to be. It's no one's fault, you just aren't compatible. I've been there, I was in a relationship for a year with a guy who just couldn't live up to my expectations no matter how hard he tried. I constantly tried to make it 'his fault', when really, it was me trying to turn him into something he couldn't be.
I'm sure there's something that has stopped you from breaking up with her but you haven't mentioned one good thing about the relationship here. It might be tough but it'll be a whole lot tougher in another six months when you've invested even more time and effort into a relationship that won't work.
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give her an ultimatum- tell her to let you be who you truly are or its over, plain & simple. i dont see why shes datin you if she doesnt like who you are! I know plenty of girls who would dig how you describe yourself. you need to find a girl who wont try to change you, but support you.
good luck, my inbox is always open
x sweeethoney
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If she knew how you were and looked before you guys started this relatiionship then what would be the problem now. I don't think it's correct of her trying to change important things about you. I believe she wants to feel like she has total control of your life and the way you look. She needs to understand that friends are very important because god forbbid you guys break up and you have no one to turn to. You need sit her down and tell her how you feel. I was in a very controling relationship and I lost so many good friends I was sad for a long time. Because of my ex I cut off to guys that were like my brothers and now I dont know where find them. Your music is very important to you and you shouldn't change for no one. It makes me sad to read that you are with someone that isn't right for you. I would do what I did and get out of that relationship if not then talk to her and make her understand where your coming from. Hope I helped shine some light in this dilema.
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Well, honestly...why the heck are you still with her? You sound like you don't even like her, and I think it's definitely time for your relationship to come to an end.
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You aren't a good match. The relationship isn't working.
Look, you can sit here and demonize her and tear her down all day long, but that makes you even lower and lousier than her - she at least she is willing to push her agenda to your face, honestly and directly.
Stop bitching and break up.
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