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the need to pee when my boyfriend touches me down there?
Im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m
me and my boyfriend were fooling around last night, im a virgin and im about as innocent as they get...meaning before last night i hadnt even had a guy finger me or anything. The furtherest id ever been before my boyfriend was kissing.
The thing is last night, he put one of his fingers inside me, it was VERY painful. Im very tight down there and we are both aware its going to take a couple of tries and getting used to for the pain to go away. However, what i want to know is why i felt like i had to go to the toilet the entire time he was touching me down there. Is that normal?
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im 18 too, and im just as innocent as you. haha. so i know how you feel.
but it seems like youre just nervous and tense about the whole situation, which is totally normal. its going to hurt because youre obviously apprehensive about it and you arent used to having somone else's fingers in your vagina. since you and your boyfriend know this, its going to take some time, but dont be afraid to tell him when somethings not comfrotable for you :] its better that he knows, so he can help you relax.
you also probably feel like you need to pee because hes hitting your g-spot. [which the other advicenators explained to you]
everything that is happening to you is normal. dont worry :] just have fun. relax. dont do anything you dont want to and communicate with your boyfriend. youll be fine !
good luck ! hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
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Sweet Honey is right on target. The spongy area of what feels like little ridges just inside the opening of the vagina and on its upper wall is called, "the Graffenberg Spot," or "g spot" for short.
When it is initially stimulated, you will feel an urge to urinate, but that soon disappears and will be replaced by very pleasant sensations. If it is rubbed gently long enough it will result in a rollicking orgasm for you. There is nothing dirty or bad about this. Enjoy.
As for why you felt pain, that could happen for either one or both of these reasons: one, you're just not used to having anything in there (you can past that by fingering the g spot yourself during masturbation, which is also a normal and pleasurable activity). Two fingers inside is perfectly okay.
Secondly, because you likely have been programmed by your parents, the local culture or religion that sex is dirty (not true, incidentally), your pubococcygeus muscles immediately contracted attempting to fend your boyfriend's finger(s) off. It was a kind of conditioned reaction. You can get past that just by being more relaxed when he is about to put his fingers inside you again. Take a deep breath and then let it out, making your body limp in the process. And it is also okay to moan, gasp, sigh or however you react. It is also okay to tell your boyfriend to stop when you have had enough. It's your body, not his or anyone else's, so do what is right for you and stick to your guns.
It would also help if he provided stimulation to your clitoris before his fingers go inside you, but you will likely have to show him where it is, which means your panties will have to come off.
It is also okay to tell your boyfriend what you like, whatever that involves. For example, if you want more kissing, if you want him to lick or suck your nipples a particular way and for a set duration, if you want to be kissed, licked or bitten on a certain part of your body, or whatever, tell him. And if you're about to orgasm, tell him! Partners who communicate freely about sex have the best sex lives and the most satisfaction. It's not embarrassing, it is just a regular part of life.
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Its normal. The peeing sensation (unless you really had to pee) is most likely from hit hitting your 'g spot'. If you do some investigating yourself, its the rough part inside your vagina on the front side. When you get aroused it swells and becomes i think the size of a dime. It will make you feel like using the bathroom but if you stick through the fingering, its the most intense orgasm.
The only other reason this would happen is from tearing or stretching that would make it burn, but im almost positive its the first reason. Good luck
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