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welll i was out with my boyfriend and his friend and my friend today and i got the impression he was flirting with her i know i may sound paranoid but he was like rugby tackling her and like stuff and the way he looked at her and stuff and alwas standing closer to her than me and it was really getting to me and it was the first time they'd met and she said she thought he was nice and that she was happy i was going out with a good guy am i just getting paranoid and protective???? please give your ides love me xxxxxxxxxxx

id wait a little while if I were you. Keep your eye out for it because it might have just been that night and he might have not done it intentionally. I wouldnt confront him until youve done a little more investigating because if its nothing you might freak him out.

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im a fourteen year old gurl. i have alot of freinds but ive never had a boyfreind and i think its becuase of my weight i dont understand why guys dont like me just becuase of that one thing im a good person and really does hurt. what should i do to help me?

If a guy can't get past your weight than it'shis fault and you should hit him with a smelly sock. He doesn't deserve you. Plus, your 14, take your time getting a guy. Just hang with your friends, and eventually somebody will come along.

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I had a first date with this guy Jack last night. We have been talking for a while, and so I asked him out, and we went to the movies, and to a friends house afterwards. The date itself was good, no akward silences, kept the conversation going, and he held my hand, which I wasnt expecting him to do, because he is quite shy. At the end of the night, he walked me to my door, and gave me a hug. I almost kissed him, because I thought he would be too shy to make a first move, but he turned away, so I ended up kissing his cheek (and I am so embaressed about it) He said that he didnt want to get me sick (he has been sick for the last week, or something) Do you think thats the real reason, or did he just not want to kiss yet? Is there anything I could say to him to fix this?

If he got up the courage to hold your hand, and as you said he is shy, it might have been too much for him to kiss you too. Maybe hes not a very expierenced kisser and he was embarrassed, or he might have been sick. If I were you, I'd just take a step back, go out with him again, and maybe on the third date try to kiss him again. He might be ready.

Hope I helped!

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what is the meaning of life?

cheese

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 4 months. I love him so much but when ever he says I love you to me I dont belive it. He knows I dont. He kind of gets angry because I wont belive when he says it. Why wont I belive it? Is there something wrong with me?

you've only been with him for four months. Maybe he thinks thats what you want to hear, so he's giving it to you. Give him a while, he may not be in love quite yet. Eventually he will be.

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My boyfriend wants me to kiss him before he kisses me. At least I think so. It seems like it because after we go somewhere together...for example we went to the movies. When I got home i was talking to one of his friends online and he said hows come you didnt kiss him? And I think he should kiss me first!!! What should I do??

kiss him. It's 2005, girls have just as much right to iniciate a kiss or ask a guy out as they do. However, personally I find it funner if the guy goes first. Anyways why don't you kiss him, and then the next time, it can be his turn. He'll get the hang of it, he's porbably just nervous.

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well i guess i have been sort of seeing this guy for the past like month or so but we arent bf and gf. im 17 hes 20 if that matters...anyways he usually texts me while im in school and picks me up and we hang out every monday and we also hang out on like friday and other days too but the point is every monday i believe since i met him we have hung out well todaii he didnt call me or text me or anything so im not quite sure.. the last time we hung out was on friday and he didnt act any different and what not but im confused on why he didnt call me today maybi he wanted to see if i would call him ? so basically my question is do u think he still wants to keep hanging out and maybi he didnt call cuz hes busy and should i call i him even tho its too late to hang out today?

I would wait till thursday and call him to ask if he wants to do something on friday. Its okay for him not to call you ONCE. Unless it happens a lot, its okay. Je probably just had to work on a project or something. Anyways hope I helped!

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well on friday night i went to the movie with my best friend and we saw a scary movie, and well i was like leaning up against him and i would always hide my face in his hood whenever i got scared, and well his mom picked us up afterwards, just me and him, but we went with like 10 other people, like 5 girls, 5 guys, but they were going out and we werent, only 2 other people werent, so i walked inside and my dad was like, so which one was your date? and he was like hastling me all night. and then i went over to my best friends house on saturday and he told me that his mom was doing the same thing, and then she took us to the movies again that night, but this time it was just me and him, and she was like, "you know i think you guys should consider it because your really cute together" and personally i think so too because we both have brown hair and he's a tiny bit taller than me, and well i didnt say anything, but anyway we saw another scary movie, and i dont know how it happened but we ended up kissing? and my brother was there and he saw it and he got us a ride with his date's parents so while we were in the car his date was like, aw guys come on i swear you two are so cute together. well we didnt think anything of it. but yesterday i went bowling with my brother and we had to take our baby cousin so our other cousin who's our age went too, and my best friend called me and he asked me if i could hang out and i told him what i was doing, but my brother was like, "no you should go hang out with your boyfriend" and my best friend heard it, so he asked me out today, and in school we were hugging and we got in trouble?? but anyway i'm REALLY afraid we're gonna break up, i mean, he tells me he cares about me and he loves me and his mom has always liked me, but i dont know im really scared our friendship wont last. do you have any tips how i can get over this??

sorry its so long.

nothing ventured nothing gained. Think of it this way, your already going out with him, if you tell him you don't want to go out with him anymore because you want to be friends, it'll be weird between you, and if you just break up in a couple months or whatever it'll be weird. SO RELAX. he likes you, and unless something drastic changes he will for a very long time.

hope I helped, some girl

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hi, remember me? I talked to you guys about this guy I like and I wasnt sure if he liked me back.
Anyway. I went to a party last night and I was shocked. I felt like I was shot twice : he smoked and he dirty-danced with a girl, you know with her butt all over him. I really thought he was different, that's why I liked him in the first place.She's not his gf cause she danced with other guys.
I really need some help...Should I ignore all this and try to get to know his personality better? Or should I move on and forget all about him?
Please don't delete this question, the answers are very important to me.

Don't bather unless your comfortable with him treating you like that. You haven't gotten to know him that well yet, just find someone better to spend your time with.

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ok i just moved to this new skool in another country. it has about 250 total kids. and i've heard that like all the girls at my new skool like me. and i dont know if i like any of them, and i'm only goin to be here until the end of the skool year. and i dont know wat to do about this... should i like just ignore them or sumthin?

I've moved around a lot, so I know what your saying. Should you even bother to make the effort. YES!!! theres always that few weeks of awkward get to know you faze, but after that it's better to say goodbye to some good friends at the end of the year than to have a year of misery. Get to know them, then pick which ones you actually want to be friends wiith.

hope I helped
some girl

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..........theres this girl in my class who is really hot,has a great personality,smart.and athletic. she just recently had a boyfriend but she dumped him.i like her alot and she sot of likes me.....im not absolutely sure,but she talks to me alot and i think she likes me. i need advice on how to figure out how much she likes me without snitches snooping and telling everyone i like her. please help

Well, since she dumped her boyfriend and he didn't dump her you don't really need to worry about giving her time to get over him. To figure out if she likes you, when you talk to her, look in her eyes. If she stares flat back, with no hint of emoction, shes probably just interested in what your saying. If she find of looks away and smiles, or looks back at you in a flirtatious way she probably likes you. Also watch for her touching your arm when she talks to you, or her looking at you when she doens't really have to. If she really wants you to know she likes you she'll find a way to tell you. If not, you can always ask!

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Have you ever thought that you liked someone when you were going out with a different someone (that you love soooo much!) and sometimes wonder what it would be like to be with the other person?

I know its wrong, and i told my boyfriend {of 1yr and almost 2mos.} but i dont know how to stop. because I don't truly like these other people. I Love my boyfriend tho. I hope this isn't too confusing!!

Anyone experienced this?

Help me to stop please!

Oh, I would never cheet on my boyfriend or break up with him. So your probabaly wondering, "whats the problem them?" well I still dont want to think these things. i mean i know im a teen (freshman/female) but I have a great boyfriend and I know this isnt right! so, anyone??

Thanks In Advance!

-*KeLs*-

p.s.=if this doesnt make since { how i worded it or if you need to know something else}, say so in your answer, and i'll re-ask the question to you differently!

Thanks!! :)

Don't worry, it's normal. Even though you love what you have, you might just be naturally attracted to guys you can't have. There's nothing wrong with imagining, just don't follow through on it.
Just remember how good you have it whenever you want to go out with someone else.

hope I helped!

some girl

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well i am a male and i am 15 i have a problem with my love life.... I am a tennis player and this 1 girl i was playing with i sorta like. I never talked too her... she seems nice... and she is pretty.. im sort of a shy guy though when it comes to me talking to a girl. I dont know y though. I am afraid of rejection. that is a maid reason i am afraid to talk to her. How do I get over my fear and work up the courage to talk to her?

Haha I'm the same way with guys. What I find works is you think up something really random to ask her, like I dunno, where the bathroom is, or where the vending machine is. Do that a couple of times, but make sure you dont ask the same thing twice then she'll think your an idiot. Eventually, ask her about tennis, it's a common intrest you already know. If the conversation flows keep going, if it doesn't, try again, or try something else

hope i helped!
~SOME_GIRL

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Hey guys! i just started going out with this boy who is absolutly amazing... he's perfect for me, and is soooo sweet and increible i love him !lol.. we've only been going out for a month but already i've like fallen for him. But i was wondering, what are some tips to keep it going realy well? becuase i don't want to loose him. He also likes me a lot too, but i just want little things that could make him more attachted or somthing. Thankss

If your looking for something long term, be yourself. If you start being fake, it's eventually going to come and bit you in the ass. Show him that you care, Give him a smile, a hug, a kiss. Don't take him for granted and your set!

~some girl

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ok what should i do i mean i like this guy well were together but he always is tryin to make me pissed off and crap and is a total suck up with my mom and when he comes over all he wants to do is be with my mom and brother and totally ignore me and if i dont do what he says he gets all pissed off and threatens to leave and break up with me? help! what should i do?!!
Thanks Kayla Ann!

First of all, you can be happy that he's at least trying to like your parents. I've brought boyfriends home, who say hi, then just wanna go downstairs and make out. But, he's going too far. Remind him that hes dating YOU not your family. Try going out with him instead of staying in. Or try talking to your family, to tell them to back off your boyfriend. If I were you though, I'd probably get fed up.

Plus if he's getting mad at you because your not doing what he says, you may want to dump him. He might have some control issues that could get worse as your relationship wares on.

~some girl

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I just want to know what are some things you can say to a girl to charm her and make her like you. Such what are some things i could say to the girl i like to just slowly make her like me. Are there anythings that girls like to hear that charms them. Thanks any help is pretty much appreciated

Girls are always scared that you don't like them. At least I am, if I start to fall for a guy, I want to know that he likes me too. So, show it. Make eye contact, smile at her, let her catch you looking at her while shes looking away, then pretend you weren't doing it. If you sit next to her, sit close, and try to keep a steady conversation going. Be outgoing, but don't scare her away.

Lastly, if she clearly isn't into you, back off. Theres more of a chance of her eventually falling for her on her own then you trying to pressure her. It makes us uncomfortable, and uneasy. Good luck
~some girl

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Recently my boyfriend and I moved in together. Afterwards I found out he has been making new female friends and not telling me. He never talks to them when I'm arond and only on his cell phone (never our home phone)and calls have been made and recieved all hours of the day and night even as late as 1:00-3:00am. I am ok with his previous female friends, the ones he had before we met, but don't like the new ones. He said he wouldn't do this anymore, if I was uncomfortable with it and stopped talking to them for a few weeks. I recently found out he has a new female in his life and again didn't tell me. Am I overreacting or do I have a right to be bothered by this?

okay, so i agree, a new friend thats a girl isn't that big of a deal. You need to give the guy some space. Yet, he's lying to you. Thats where he made the wrong turn. I say, you confront him, make sure he's clear that he's not dealing with a jealous girlfreind, but a girl that is sumply tired of his lying, that could invlolve cheating.

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