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ahh ok so this guy - my best friend- i think he likes me too and he always flirts and hugs me and holds my hand and i want to let him know i like him. whats something really flirty that i could do to make him realize how i feel. like something cute that he might like. i dont know like maybe a kiss on the cheek would be too much? hmm oh well help me think of stuff! haha thanx a bunch ; )

A kiss on the cheek would be perfect! When he holds your hand does he reach for it? If he does then you reach for his hand instead; that'll show him you want to hold hands. Or you could always just come out and say it to. good luck!!

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I guess I probably just need someone to tell me I'm being an idiot for this, but I'm really pissed off right now.

19/F.

I've been living with my boyfriend for about 4 months. We're both university students. We've become really close over the time we've been dating, so it's not just a casual relationship.

Today is our six month anniversary. I wanted to do something really nice for him, because he's been really good to me. I told him about my plans, and he okayed them. I wanted to have a nice romantic evening and cook dinner for him.

He was at military training this weekend (for the reserves) and he got back about an hour ago.

He brought his brother with him. He knows I don't really like his brother at the best of times. He doesn't know when to back off and leave the two of us alone. He's loud and irritating, and he's obsessed with a certain children's card game (even though he's 20 years old).

This brother of his is staying all night. Instead of the nice dinner I had planned, we're either ordering pizza or having tacos, then they're playing video games.

I'm really hurt, because this anniversary really means a lot to me. He doesn't seem to see what the problem is (because I have a math test to study for).

Am I silly for being hurt? If I am, feel free to tell me. I really suspect that I am, and it would help if someone gave me a figurative slap across the face. If I'm not, I'll bring it up with him later tonight.

Thank you!

yea i'd be really hurt and angry to! just try talking to him about it either tonight or when his bro leaves. and maybe you can just reschedule(sorry i can't spell!) your big plan! good luck!!

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ok so theres this girl i know named allison and shes really really awesome and i like her alot but she has a bf what should i do???

~wade i mean umm stranger.

ugh...ya know i was so excited about someone asking me a question and you just killed it lol
*sigh* k real answer coming talk to her..duh lol

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15/f

Now I'm not planning to be doing this (so don't worry) but if a girl and a guy are fooling around and undressing, wouldn't it be unattractive for the girl to have obvious tan lines? I was really pale but I recently got a tan from going on vacation, and I think my bikini tan lines look a little weird. It's not like anyone will be seeing me in less than my bikini, but is it worth using sunless tanner to cover it up?

Maybe I just worry to much but I've wondered about this for a while. Thanks for your opinion!

i hope not! i have a tan line from my shorts and shoes from last summer during band marching practices! but odds are that if you're into the fooling around then neither of you will notices the tanlines. i dont think you should use the tanner because you never know if it wil turn some weird shade or something or if it will even look right, so you should prob. just bear the tan lines. good luck!

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ok.. well i like this guy and he is morman, im christian , and well i was wondering what i can do or not do around him and what the differences are?
thanks

well im baptist and my best friend is morman and i dont have to act any different around her. just do the obvisous and dont say anything bad about them or anything about how some mormans are polygamysists(sp?) and you should be fine. good luck!

"hope i helped"
~*skippy_pebbles*~

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okay i am in a new relationship with this guy that i have known for about half a year and we work together and we just started dating, officialy. wed been on a few dates before and all but anyways i was just wondering i know us girls seem to think about guys like crazy! haha but i was just wondering do guys think about us girls as much as we think about them? im just curious if he ever thinks of me too. lol. i know i sound dumb haha but opinions are great. question is do guys think about their girls as much as we think about them?

well lol i also always think about my bf. and several of my friends have told me that my bf talks about me constantly. so that makes me kinda think that yea they do think about us lot

"hope i helped"
~*skippy_pebbles*~

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i love my bf. alot. but you see the other day we got in a fight because this other guy was at my house. alden * my bf * thought he was over there to see me but he was over here cause my brother invited him over. later he apolizged and said he was sorry. i did too. i dont think he is really okay with it though. if he thought i was doing something with him, does he trust me or not?? i told him that he needs to trust me but he didn't say anything. HELP!

The truth is, all guys are insecure. They are really just like us, they need to be told that they're loved. He's just jealous cause he really loves you. I'm sure he trusts you but was just a little upset because he just got a little jealous. Maybe you should try to plan something where the two of you can spend the day together and show him how much you love him and that you'd never do anything to try and hurt him. good luck!

"hope i helped"
~*skippy_pebbles*~

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everyone says that if you've been dating over 5 months you should have sex. i've been dating my bf for 7. no i dont want to have sex right now at this age. but my mom says she hopes/wants me to have sex AFTER or WHEN im married. i dont know if i can wait that long. but i dont want my mom not to trust me and get mad at me. help!! please!

Okay first off....forget what everyone else says! It's your decision. Yes, it's actually something you should discuss with your bf first, but only when YOU'RE READY!! In my opion you should wait until your married. But you shouldn't even think about having sex with him until you're sure you're ready to. If your mom gets upset you should tell her that it's your life and you really think you made the right decision. good luck!

"hope i helped"
~*skippy_pebbles*~

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There is a young man I really like, who is also a good friend of mine. He likes this other female who is, really, the ideal girl. Even though she rejected him, he still wants her. I know I can't compete with someone like her, but still, how can I gain his attention (without being a whore, that is)?

one thing to do is if hes ever upset about something, be there for him. doing that will let him know that you'll always be there for him. now onto the fun stuff! always smile!! and when he tells a joke, no matter how stupid it is, laugh! and also wearing makeup might get him to notice you more if you dont wear it all that much. and just drop subtle hints that your interested in him. ifs hes smart, he'll notice. good luck!

"hope i helped"
~*skippy_pebbles*~

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Ok,
I have a boyfriend BUT the thing is that I am not allowed to have one. I don't know how long my relationship will last before my mom and dad find out...but I really like the guy. If I tell them I have a bf they will freak out...I really don't know what to do! PLEASE help!
(14/f)

yep. got that problem too! im 13/f and ive been going out with my bf for a little over 2 months now. i didnt tell my parents. well, i told my mom but only because she asked. what id advise doing is probably keeping it a secret unless your POSITIVE that your parents wouldnt try to break you up or wouldnt completely and totally freakout. thats what my plan was/is and things have been working out fine. good luck!

"hope i helped"
~*skippy_pebbles*~

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I love knowing that my boyfriend is caring and trusting but I can't help but feel like I need to watch him. I know he likes me and doesn't want to be with anyone else, but I can help checking the comments he gets from other girls on Myspace or how he looks at other girls. I know its pretty normal for any girl to do that. When he doesn't message me (when he's online) I get nervous that he thinks I'm insane or something. Yet I know that he probably isn't paying attention to the screen, is busy, etc. I've never been like this with any of my other boyfriends and he makes me nervous/intimidated, (In a good way) because he's exactly the type of guy I've always wanted. I just don't want to lose him but I know inside he likes me a lot. How can I deal with these somewhat jealous feelings I get when he talks with other girls and understand he likes me not them? Sorry if that sounded conceited, I'll rate.

i know EXACTLY how you feel..if my bfs online and hes not talking to me i get upset and really sad cause im talking to my BFF and shes talking about the things my bfs talking to her about usually its about my BFF's boyfriend. but knowing that hes talking to her and not me really hurts. but i just keep telling myself that im the only one he loves. and when you get a message your just so happy, ya know? but if you start feeling really jealus or upset then maybe you should try talking to him about it. but just keep thinking of how much MORE he likes you than all those other girls!

"hope i helped"
~*skippy_pebbles*~

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Ah I once again am having guy troubles, it always seems to happen again over and over. But this time I seem to like a really cute guy, but he is really popular. I don't know if I should fight or if I should just let him come to me... or if I should just stop liking him...HELP ME PLEASE

this happened to me!! dont wait for him to make the first move!! just go and ask him out. but dont stop liking him cause he might turn out to be a really great bf but if u dont ask then you'll never know and you'll hate yourself for it!!

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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I'm not allowed to date....but i have a boyfriend..but if my dad finds out he will like kill me!!! i dont know what to do!!!!!!!!

You can have a bf without dating. I'm not allowed to date yet either, but I did go out with a guy once, and my parents only found out cause I broke my promise and told my brothers gf. If you really want him as your bf and you're sure you're ready, then just dont tell alot of people. If your dad asks just say you're only hugging and holding hands. good luck!

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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Im 15 female and ive never had a boyfriend before. Im not going to say im ugly becuase people will just say "youre beautiful inside" blah blah. But my question: Will a guy still want to go out with me if i dont want to do anything past makeing out? Well at least him doing to me..or until i feel more comfortable with my body.

So am i considered prude?
Will I ever get a boyfriend if i feel this way?

you're gonna get a boyfriend it might just take some time. If you cant find a bf that is okay with not going past making out then, well the dating world just sucks for girls. even if you think that you're ugly theres a guy out there who'll think you're beautiful! if my friend says that i look pretty i'll SAY awww thank you, but THINK girl, what is wrong with you! But I promise that there are guys who'll want to date you and be fine not going past making out. good luck!

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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so i think i shood get a x mas present for my g/f
i dont have much money so i need sumthin a little cheap
ive got like 30 bucks to spend so itd be great to get her sumthin

I dont think that you'd have to get anything really expensive. I know if I had a bf I wouldnt want him to be broke just cause he got my something. My friend gave me an old ring, and she says its really cheap, but its my favorite ring. Maybe if theres something of yours that she really likes, maybe like one of your shirts or something. Good luck!

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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Im making a list for my boyfriend for christmas..


100 reasons why i love you

can you help me get a few?

Awww. Thats so sweet! Here are some that I would write:
I Love You Because...
After a bad day at work you bring the smile back to my face

Sometimes you're the only one who I can talk to

You make me feel special/loved

You tell me I'm beautiful when I look horrible

You're the only one who'll kiss me in the rain

You're not upset when I cant see you because I have to study

You've never tried to change me

Well thats all I can think of right now.

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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Ok i have this ex... *ben* Well ben dumped me after 2 days.. we were perfect for each other. Well I have told everyone that i dont like him but its so hard to get over ben.. i mean we had the same likes/dislikes/initials/personalities.. EVERYTHING! it was a dream come true... anyways, its hard to get over him and if a girl flirts or likes him i get mad. And i figured out that 2 of my friends like him, and i got pretty pissed.. they dont know though. Is the rule of never liking your friends x's true? Like if they break up with you? Im so confused i dont know if im being selfish or normal! sorry this is long
please help!

I know who you feel. I still like my ex and its been over a month since he dumped me. I found out from my ex that my best friend liked him and I had to pretend that it didnt hurt but he knows me well enough(my older bro and his older sis have been dating for over a year so..) to know that knowing that did hurt me. But my friend doesnt like him anymore. After two days you cant tell if your relationship is perfect. But even if you dont have a chance to go out with him again, you could try to be friends with him. That's what I did and its working out pretty well. But whatever you do, dont lose a close friend just because she like your ex. Good luck.

**hope i helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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Okay me and this boy have been friend FOREVER
and now he is saying that people in our school are saying that we are going out, and were not.
And so now everyone thinks we are and i am like WERE NOTTTTT OKAY and so now he asked me should
I go out with him??????
he is cute but he's not that cute HE IS REALLLLLYYYYYY NICE!!!!!!!!

If you really like him and want to go out with him then go for it! But dont be pushed into a realationship just because you think that you have to. Only go out with him if that what you really want or then it could ruin everything. Good luck!!

**hope I helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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hey ok well i am 15 and i am in love with ym best friends little sister. i have known her my entire life and i have never thought of her as more then just like a litte sister i guess but her bro is like rele protective of her how do i ask her out without making him pissed and risk hurting my relationship with either of them or theirs with eachother she has been acting wierd around us when i am over there adn she doesnt hang out with us as much and she has a bunch of guys that r just friends that r over there all teh time too adn i feel weird like i suddenly become all protective like her bro! please help

This has nothing to do with her brother! You have to remember that. If you want to ask her out, go for it. If she doesn't like you like that then do your best to make things normal again. If her brother has something against the two of you being together, then talk to him. I'm sure that if you tell him how you feel about her that he'll change his mind.

**hope I helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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Okay me and my boyfriend were together for about three years, he is 20 and im 18. We were friends for two years before we dated anyways. we broke up because we had respect issues and didnt agree on certain things in the future. he tried getting me back many times...but about three weeks ago he finally gave up. a week ago i saw he had made a myspace...and is now talking to so many girls and gettin their numbers and meeting them up. its really heartbreaking for me because we've only been broken up for about three months max and hes already moved on and talking to all these girls...and im constantly sad now.
how can i move on...not miss him...not be hurt? and i cant stop myself from not going on his myspace cause i get curious of who hes talkin to...help me! i wanna get over him! and plz dont suggest..sleeping with someone else for now cause im not like that.

I know what you're going through cause I'm going through the same thing. What I do is hangout with my friends. Except for me, I feel my best when I'm hanging out with my guy friends. Cause when Im with them, I feel safe, like nothing can hurt me. My email is skippy_pebbles@yahoo.com if you wanna talk.

**hope I helped**
~~skippy_pebbles~~

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