15 - f
from the answers i have read from you
i have this big problem and i think you can help me big on this.. but i need to tlk to you thru myspace or like a phone...
its gonna be just for a while
if you dont mind?
i need someone to talk to and i dont really have those "qualitied" friends i can ask for advice.
especially that your 24 --- says that your matured and experienced...
so im asking for your help..
if you need to message me heres my email: miss_understo0d05@yahoo.com
thanks :)
Please let me know if you still need help. I don't mind for a second! I hope all is well.
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15/F
Over the summer, my half sister took me to a Christian Revival and she introduced me to a boy that goes to my school but hes 16. Hes not gorgeous but hes not hideous and he gives such good hugs! But at the revival he specifically told me that he considered himself to be a Prep. He dressed like it, too. We talked and spent the entire night together. It was great! I heard he liked me from my sister..ALOT
This year hes in my lunch block and I didnt recognize him until he said something. He was all goth er w/e with a fauxhawk, spiked wristbands and everything! I said it was weird so TODAY he dressed.. normal? He has a chasity ring but he doesnt want his friends to know. But his bestfriend actually has a trenchcoat and chains and fangs :/ and i sat with him at lunch one day and his friends talk about really inappropriate things when others are trying to EAT.
But today I felt really bad when the guy tried to hold my hand by comparing their sizes you know.. but I just sort of dismissed it and put my hands in my pockets then he asked for my number but I said I had to go...
And this was more of a VENT session than anything else. But Ive never kissed a guy and its sort of nice to feel so admired.. but I dont want to lead him on. Has anyone else been through something similar? I dont see him until Thursday. But I see his friends.. :/ :[
It sucks when you meet someone and then find out that they weren't themselves to begin with. It sounds like he is wayyy into what his friends think, so you are right to pull away. You are right, it is nice to be admired, appreciated, and looked at in "that way". But know that it will never feel truly 'good' because you know that you don't feel that way.
Let him know that you do not want to have a relationship with him, other than friends. (That is if this is really the way you feel). In the same since, don't let what people would think alter your decision either.
Be friends with the guy. Flirt, talk to, and even eat lunch with him, but you are right, you DON'T want to lead him on. Let him know where you stand as soon as possible!
Good luck hun. Take care and I hope everything works out in the best way for you.
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I'm 17 and a female. Sorry it's long. :/
So there is this boy who is 16 and a junior who really likes me and I like him as well. The only problem is that we don't know each other that well and I told him I do not want to rush into things until we get to know each other. A couple of my friends who know we like each other think I should eventually date him. Some of my other friends said he's a player and could possibly have an std. But that's only what they've heard. And my friend who happens to be his cousin says that he's said things to me that he hasn't said about and other girl. He would usually say inappropriate sexual things to her friends. Asking if they would do something with him, or tell them their hot. To me he has told me I'm beautiful, nice, sweet, things like that. He would also pay for the movies which he never has offered any other girl and he said he really likes me and he wouldn't do what my ex did to me. (my ex happens to be his friend and my ex was basically a prude d-bag). I do like him. And I want to take things slow before we possibly date. I just don't know if I should date him because he has a past of having sex with girls just to do it. Sex is something I do not want to do anytime soon. So should I give him a chance or just stay friends?
You seem to really like him and he seems to really like you, so why not give it a shot. One thing you should do (although not always easy) is put everything out there. Let him know that you are not ready for a sexual relationship. That if you all start dating, you still want to move slowly. Tell him if that is not what he wants, no hard feelings. You all can still be friends but it won't work as any more. This way you are respecting what he wants as well as yourself.
I respect you for being very strong in your decision not to rush sex. I wish more people would think that way!!!
I wish you the best of luck girlie! Let me know how it goes.
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My ex bf of 5 months has some how ended buck in my head. We dated 5 months and now have been broken up for 5 months. Laty out of know where I keep thingking of him and I have had a few BF's after him but I cant get over him. I thought I was but then the other day I herd our song and I have been crying. Everyone says he feels the same but nethoer will talk to the other because I dont htink he does...IDK what to do because I thought I was over him but now he is all I can think about and it makes me cry
A song, of all things, often takes us back into past relationships. My first warning to you is that 9 out of 10 times, the past is in the past for a reason. Try to remember the reason you all broke up as opposed to all the great things about the relationship. If after all this, you still think about being with him, then maybe you should write him or talk to him about it.
I know that it's not easy, especially when you don't know that he feels the same, but you need to find a way to either move on with him or with out him. Worse case scenario he doesn't feel the same and you then have closure. It's easier to get over someone when you KNOW it's over. Best case scenario, he does feel the same and you all can work through your problems.
The best way of course is to talk in person. But I've always found it easier to write. This way, you aren't rushing him to get back with you, but you are letting him know how you feel. Also it's a lot easier to give him a letter than to have to look him in the eye through the conversation. I hope, no I know, that everything will work out for you. Sometimes life takes us places we didn't expect or didn't want, but ultimately it will all work out the way it's supposed to. Good luck hun!
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thanks mucho! i am very very thankful for your wonderful advice about the guy . (im the girl who typed about the guy i liked in spanish class)
you know what you made really good points and i actually think that im gonna be the one who'll start it all.
oh and btw, i cant ask him for a pencil because he sits way across from me (but were like face to face, you know?)
today, i was talking to a friend at church . we both go to the same school and we ended up talkin bout guys and i suddenly mentioned that i was crushing on this guy. (the same guy) i had to describe him cause she might kno him. but i never said the name. then she said "is the name *****?" i was like "omg yes!"
so yeah. she knows him and told me a little about him. she told me that he supposedly used to like her (but i dont believe everything i hear). and that he's "immature" i was like "really? why??" (again i dont believe everything i hear) "because he asks me a lot of retarded questions.. like he wants to know every detail... liek about me.." so i was like hmmmm.. im not gonna put that in my mind cuz i'm gonna find out myself. but i was thinking:
1 if he's shy, why would he act like that to my friend? like "immature" and asks a lot of "retarded" questions? maybe he's just different around other people huh. agree/disagree.. comment?
One possibility is that he is different around different people, the other could simply be that you and your friend have different ideas of "immature". Something she may find immature, you may see as being cute. =P
There is good news that comes from this conversation with her. You both know the same person! So what do we have here...common grounds! Use that to your advantage or to start conversation.
OR
I'll tell you one thing that helped with a guy I had a crush on in highschool. This is going to sound a little messed up, but you'd be suprised how well it works:
Pick a girl in a class (anybody). This girl has become your "pawn". Let's pretend her name is Jamie. When you get the chance to talk to him, just casually say "I heard you were dating Jamie". You both know this isn't true and he's going to want to defend himself by saying so. Then this can lead to a comment about common rumors, things people say, etc. Next thing you know you are both laughing about this rumor that's going around (even though it never was). LOL I told you it sounds a bit insane, but it helped me out! =) Not to mention, if you "get the guy", it makes for a great story later on haha.
Good luck girlie! I say jump in there and talk to him. Worse case scenario, you met a new friend. You don't want to see him walking hand in hand with another girl regretting that you NEVER said anything to him.
I hope all is well and promise to keep me updated! I've been in a long term relationship for about 4 years now..I kinda miss the chase! I can live it through you haha.
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THIS IS GONNA BE LONG BUT PLAESE BARE WITH ME :)
So school started on Wednesday Sept. 3
And in my 6th period i found this guy -- the first time i saw him, i knew i wasnt gonna keep my eyes off of him. i swear he's my first CRUSH in high school..
The second day-- i was so excited to see him again, he is cute, has nice style, cute voice, i can tell he's a little shy cause when the teacher would call on him its like he wants to hide in his little shell. (HOW CUTTEEE) even though i dont know him, theres something about him that gets me attracted to him... i actually think he caught me staring at him!! haha first question, 1 IF HE CAUGHT ME STARING AT HIM, DOESNT THAT MEAN HE WAS LOOKING AT ME TOO?
The third day (which was yesterday) --
I wasnt really focused on him, but i did look and glance at him every 5 minutes or so . To tell da truth, I'm really intimidated .. well because, i dont know how to act! yea yea "BE YOURSELF!" but you know that feeling when you "like" someone and your shy and dont know what to do or HOW TO ACT round him? Yeaaaa, thats what i mean.
So 6th period ended and I WATCHED HIM WALK OUT THE DOOR. I wanted to see where he was going. I was trying no to seem obvious that i was stalking him (haha) but i did follow him. I pretended i was talking on the phone too . and then he stopped walking so, i KINDA stopped walking and pretended i was waiting for somebody.. but then i just went on and walked to my locker to get my book. i met up with my bestfriend in the locker and while we were walking, i was like "Duuuudeee, he's SOOO CUTE!!" and she was like "haha youve got to show me him someday" and as we were walking outside the hallway.... THERE HE WAS!!! he was talking to this dude.. umm probably 20 feet away from me and my bestfriend. i was like "OMG there he is!" but he was turned around so we couldnt see his face so we pretended we were gonna get something in the student store (he was near the student store) and turned around and tried to see his face..
Then i asked my friend if we could just stalk him for a while.. so we were following around faking that we were gonna get something here and there and then all of a sudden i saw him walking with this chinese girl (no not his type, a lil chubby..) and they were talking .. i was telling my friend "omg go away girl go away girl!!!" and we kept on laughing and then the girl who was about 15 feet in front us TURNED AROUND AND SAID "Hey! He wants to meet you guys! He's just shy!!" at that moment my heart just stopped beating.. i swear i was like ohhh myy gooodd.. its like that moment and i couldnt stop smiling!! my friend and i didnt know what to do, cause i dont wanna be the one who comes up to the guy you know? im a girl!
So he ran to the stairs cuz i guess he WAS shy & of course, a little embarrased!! ----
Second question:
Do you think the chinese girl was serious, and when they were conversating, they were talking about me and my friend? Or was she just talking to him, got pissed off at something he said and decided to embarrass him by saying "Hey!! he wants..." by saying that?
Third question:
If the chinese girl was serious, Do you think he wants to meet ME? since i have him in one of my classes, and he doesnt know my friend, isnt it most likely that he wants to "meet me"? or is it ... me and my friend? i dont know why.. maybe he think.. were pretty? idk. OOORRRRR do you think he just wants to meet MY FRIEND?!? (THAT WOULD GET ME MAD.) But heres the one that i want!! -->
Do you think he wants to meet ME? since i have him in one of my classes, he obviously at least KNOWS ME ; doesnt know my friend, most likely he wants to meet me riiighhtt.
Goshh.. from this tory. whats da deal? what should i do on monday when i see him again? i dont wanna be the one who acts like THE GUY -- i mean COME UP TO HIM, ASK HIM QUESTIONS, SMILE AT HIM, you know-- all those things guys do to get at girls. i dont wanna say i want to be "hard-to-get" but i really dont wanna be the first one to start everything with this guy. but I HAAVE THIS HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGE CRUSH ON HIM. i cannnnooot stop thinking about him. this morning i woke up, and thought about him in my bed for about an hour. i couldnt stop rewinding what happened yesterday after school i am currently looking for his myspace right now and CANNOT FIND IT. im not despearate... i just wanna get to know this guy cause obviously.. yeah.. i guess i LIKE HIM.
so im asking you all three CONFUSION QUESTIONS AND PLEASE.. answer the best way you can. it would really help me a lot..
please add some advice, example: what you think this guy thinks of me, what should i do on monday, how should i act, should i smile at him, talk to him after school, etc.
add everything you can!! im suuuuper confuused.. i cannot stop thinking bout this situation.
Thanks a lot.
p.s. he's the first guy i liked in 2 years. yes-- the last guy i had this big crush on was in 7th grade.
First I'll answer your specific questions and then I'll try to add advice that I can.
1. Not necessarily. I mean it definitely means that he looked at you, but not necessarily that he was "looking". I know when someone is staring at me, I can almost feel it. So I'll glance back to see who it is and what they may want.
2. I think that it is very possible that the girl was serious. I doubt that she was saying or doing that to make him mad. My guess is that they were talking and you all passed and the conversation turned to the two of you. There is no true way of knowing without asking him or the girl that was talking to him.
3. I'm not sure who he really wants to meet. I'm with you. I would have to say that since you are in class with him (and if he caught you staring) he wants to know more about you. For what reasons however, I couldn't say.
Now for the advice. I used to think like you do. I never wanted to be the first to 'conversate' with the guy. However..through the years I've learned that if you let that opportunity pass, you may never get it again. You have a big crush on him, right? Then talk to him. You don't have to ask him out, but just small talk. Hell if you have to, start with "Can I borrow a pencil". Atleast then you've let him know that you noticed him. Of ALL the people in the class, you asked HIM. If you truly don't want to talk to him, then make it a point to talk to the girl who said he was interested. Atleast then you can find out what of it was true or not.
Bottom line though..he's shy. Odds are, no matter how much he wants to, he's not going to make the first move. You have to decide which is more important to you: having him make the first move or being proactive and taking it upon yourself.
I hope that I helped atleast a little. Let me know how things go and if you "get the guy" =)
Good luck!
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i really like my new boyfriend but when i asked my friend to hang out with us he was really mean to them. he's nice to my pther friends so i don't know why he wasn't nice to these friends. they've been my friends for a long time, but my boyfriend makes me very happy. they both told me they hate each other. i think sooner or later they're gonna make me pick sides. so who's more important? my friends or my boyfriend?
As said before, you are the only one that can decide that. If you are asking how I would handle it then:
First remember that your friends have been there for you for a looong time. Your boyfriend makes you happy. Here's how I feel. Your friends and boyfriend don't have to like eachother, but if they both love you, then they should learn to co-exist. If I love someone, I'm not EVER going to make them choose between myself and someone else whom they love and who makes them happy. Be honest with them. Tell them that you know you can't force them all to be friends, but that you are NOT going to choose. It's their choice now. If they truly love you and respect you then they will be by your side no matter what. Pick your words carefully girlie. I know that this isn't an easy situation! Good luck hun!
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Hi! Ok so I'm 19 and early in the summer joined a gym. Im already skinny but I really wanted to tone up. So me and my guy friend got a personal trainer. After 3 weeks together I sent him a text thanking him for working with me. He's 24 and gorgeous by the way. After that day he would always text me, and talk to me at the gym flirtaciously. I didn't think anything of it because I thought its his job to be nice, but one day he told me how he thought I was hot. Or that he wants to get to know me. After a month every trainer knew my name and saw how my trainer acted towards me. Last thursday he texts me saying how sexy I am and stuff. And I guess I got the txt really delayed because I texted him back at 11:15pm. On Friday morning I get a call from an unknown number- It's my trainer's girlfriend!!! Mind you, I had no idea he had a girlfriend, and if he did I wouldn't be talking to him. So we talk and she as well as I appreciated knowing whats going on. Yesterday I see my trainer and he acts like nothing happened and yells "Hey Marlene!" Today I went to pilates and 2 other trainers are at the desk and stare me down and start smiling. Im a little self-conscious of whats going on. Are they making fun of me because they knew he already had a girlfriend? Or whats going on? I'm open to all opinions.
Well first off, don't feel self-conscious. If I'm understanding correctly it didn't get farther than texting, so you have NOTHING to be ashamed of. Besides, you didn't know he had a girlfriend. I don't think that the people at the gym were making fun of you inparticular. I am going to be brutally honest for a sec and say that I doubt you are the first girl he's done this to. With that, they may have been looking at you thinking "there's another victim". I'm not trying to be rude, so please don't take it that way. I wouldn't worry about this guy. Just keep it strictly gym. Don't text him and don't respond to his texts. You sound like one of those girls I hated lol. I don't mean really hated, but was jealous of! =P I'm sure you have several choices as far as guys go. If you feel extremely uncomfortable, you can always work with a different trainer. But my advice to you is continue your membership. Let him do his job and you do what you are there for...nothing more! I hope I helped and I hope that things go well for you.
Good luck girlie!
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15/f
Ok, so last summer me and this one guy had a thing. He broke up with me on the first day of school. I was always really shy around him, and I guess that's why he dumped me. We haven't really talked that much since. But, before we started talking, [before we went out] [[he was in my dance]] every time i looked at him, he was staring at me. And, a few days ago, we had a performance, and he was there. He was staring at me alot like he used to. But, he's really popular, and I'm sure he's over me, and doesn't like me, but he stares at me like he did. Do you think he likes me? My friends say i should talk to him, but I'm so afraid to. What would i say? Would I text him, talk over myspace, or in person? Thanks in advance :]
p.s. i'm afraid to text him, because i think he deleted my number, and i'd feel silly if he texted back and was like, um, who is this? and, i've tried talking to him a few months ago, but he seemed like he didn't want to talk.
Without trying to sound mean..I think that it's time to give up on this one. The fact that he always stares at you could mean something, however if that's the extent that he's going with it, don't waste your time. Next time make sure that when he's staring at you, it's when you are having fun talking to friends or someone else. Once you get to a point where you don't want to "be" with him, then it will be much easier to talk to him as friends. If he thinks you are going to wait around for him, he's going to make sure you do just that. Good luck babe and I hope you don't think I was being rude, but advice doesn't help if it's biased. Let me know how things go.
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Okay... Iv'e been in a relationship now for almost a year, and i love my boyfriend so much, but i have a problem. everytime i ask him about marriage he laughs at me... he says he wants to marry me and spend the rest of his life with me, so why does he laugh about that???
Hmm..there could be many reasons. How old are you all?! I don't think it is because he doesn't want to or because he doesn't love you. It could even be his way of not showing that he's nervous about that thought. It's not easy for guys to think about the long term (or admit they are). Give him time. Don't hold it against him, because I'm sure he loves you.
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I just wanted to know if it was weird to constantly be changing my mind on crushes. I mean, I believe I've liked 6 different guys in the past month! =\
I guess maybe I'm just a flighty person, but it just seems weird to me. I used to have really obsessive crushes that would last ages but now there are specific reasons for each new guy I like. It's almost like each of them has qualities that I lack and wish I had in myself.I don't know if this makes any sense, but does anyone know what I can do to fix this problem? Thank you!
First off, you said "Its almost like each of them has qualities that I lack and wish I had in myself" you couldn't be making more since. Have you ever heard someone refer to another as their "better half" or "the one who completes them". That's basically what these things are. Once you find qualities in a person that you lack, you use them to complete yourself.
Sometimes it's hard to answer a question with out asking some of my own. How old are you? Just so I kinda know where you stand. Age can often determine the way a person reacts to and in relationships.
It may be that you are a "flighty person" as you say, or it could be that there are just a certain group of qualities that you are looking for, and you just haven't found someone that hold's all those qualilties. Try not to be too picky when it comes to relationships. Also, maybe you should take a break and be single for a while. Don't jump on the opportunity to be with someone new right away. Hang out and get to know other people and above all, get to know yourself. It's amazing what you find out about yourself just taking some time aside for you. I hope that I helped you a little bit, please let me know how things ago and if you EVER need anything else.
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ok i have this situation me and this guy have been really good friends and recently our feelings have changed he likes me alot and we have been talking alot more and i developed some feelings for him as we were talking but idk wat happened i just dont feel the same no more and he really likes me he is so sweet to me treats me the way any girl would want to be treated and i feel bad because i dont have strong feelings for him like he does for me and my friends are like give him a chance and stuff so i have been and when were together its wierd now he is kinda shy and then i makes me feel wierd cuz the way our relationship was as just friends was kool always laughing and stuff now its just different and i dont really like it i feel wierd to flirt with him and its just not right and i dont know how to tell or what to do at all he is so nice to me and i dont want to hurt him
Oh my goodness..I have been there before!! It's always complicated when you cross that line between 'friendship' and 'love'. I know that you don't want to hurt him, but it's inevitable that this is not going to last. The longer you wait, the harder it will be on both of you. Often people fall for their "friends" and for many reasons. In my case, I saw this guy that I could talk to about ANYTHING, I could always be myself around, I could use as an 'alibi', I could trust with my life, etc. All these things are very charming, very easy to fall for. But you have to remember that that's what GOOD FRIENDS are all about. Once you cross that line, there are things you can't talk about. You know, those things that you ONLY talk to friends about. It's not unusual for this to happen, in fact I think it's probably happened to 85% of people living on this earth!
You don't want to ruin your friendship, so first and foremost, you have to be honest with him. Make sure he knows that the reason you are doing this is because you want things to be like they used to be, like they were when you all were just friends. I warn you, things are going to be awkward at first and most likely, you all WON'T go right back to being best friends. If he needs space afterwards, give him that. Give him a chance to process things. Who knows, maybe he feels the same way and is scared to hurt YOU. Either way, it's unfair to stay in a relationship with him if you don't like him that way. The longer you stay in this relationship, the harder he will fall once it is over. Good luck hun and I hope I helped you out some! Let me know how things turn out.
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okay well i want to know if there are any cute things that i can do for my boyfriend. i've the love letters, the dinner, and blockbuster movies. so i'm out of ideas. so if anyone has an idea that would be great.
Have you tried the homemade "coupon book"? It has things like massage, watch a football game with you, take you to your favorite restaurant, etc. Then he can 'use' the coupons as he chooses by simply giving it to you. Of course you can add whatever you choose.
You always have the 'picnic' also. It sounds corny, but my bf loved it lol. Just get you a picnic basket, find the perfect place (maybe a park, by the lake, could even be your own backyard), set out a blanket. Take the picnic basket so things will be set up BEFORE you tell him. Then tell you want to 'take a drive' or 'take a walk'. Take him there.
Get him a "just because" card.
Above all though, when it came to my bf his favorite thing was the scrapbook I made of our relationship. It had everything from pictures, to letters we'd written, to an empty dorito bag we shared. Just silly stuff that will mean something to you and him, but not necessarily anyone else.
I hope I helped a little! Sorry, but it's hard when you don't know much about the couple. =) Good luck hun!
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I have a child with my boyfriend (been together 3 years with an almost 2 year old). I love him, but I am not "in love" with him...like I don't feel deep down and really don't miss him when he's away, and recently have not even been sexually attracted to him. I have been in love with someone else for 8 years and I believe in my heart that one day we will find eachother again...but it could be a very long time from now. Recently I have decided that I am ready to expand my family (have another baby) and settle down, purchase a home. My boyfriend wants to move to alaska and buy a home together and have another child. I just don't know if I should wait for my true love, or pursue my other dreams with the man I already have...like the song that goes, "If you can't have the one you love, love the one your with". thanks for the advice
WOW! What a complicated situation! First off, you need to leave the guy you are with. It's unfair to you, unfair to him, and unfair to this child you have. I saw that someone else said you should stay with him for the child. It is true that this will be hard on the youngin, but what happens if your "true love" comes along? You sound to me like as soon as it happens you are going to jump on that boat. What if it's say 5 years down the road? Now you potentially have a five year old and a seven year old. They are now old enough to realize that mommy and daddy are apart, but too young to cope with it. I can tell you really like the guy that you are with, but it takes love to have a happy home. Love goes both ways. You need to break it off with this guy (even if the other doesn't come around) so that you all can split amicably (and not because of another man). You all can sit down and discuss custody, etc. It's not your fault and you aren't a bad person for it. You can't make yourself love someone. Kids don't always seem to understand what is going on, but they WILL feel the tension. You don't want that for them do you?
Secondly...and this is ONLY after all is said and done with your current boyfriend, you need to tell this "love of your life" how you feel. Give him the chance to say whether or not there is a future with him. If he says there is not, then you need to accept that both of these guys are just stepping stones to the man you are supposed to be with.
Hun, you can't stay with a man just because he's available or because you "like" him. And you DEFINITELY shouldn't continue to build a family like this. Sit him down, tell him that your feelings aren't the same anymore. Tell him that you aren't IN love with him and that you want to do whats right by him, yourself, and your child. He may not understand now, but when he is with someone who loves him the way he loves you, then he will thank you! I know that good things will come to you both in time. Patience, although hard, is a virtue. Good luck and please keep me informed. I hope I could be of atleast a little help.
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I just a job this summer at a really small store. (i'm 15/f, by the way) There are 5 people total who work there, and it's a pretty close-knit environment. There's a guy who works there too, who's my age (well, he's 16) and in my grade. We've only known each other about a month, but he just told me that he liked me a couple days ago. We haven't had time to talk about it though, so he doesn't know if i like him or not. I think I do, but I'm not so sure. Sometimes he's perfect and wonderful, and other times he's just weird. (he's homeschooled, so that probably has something to do with it). Should I just date him and see how it goes? Or should I say that I'm not really ready for a relationship?
If you don't know that you like him, I wouldn't jump into a relationship with him. Take time to hang out with him, get to know him. Remember that if this doesn't work out you are stuck working with him. If you decide to go with this, then keep in mind that you have NO choice but to keep it professional at work. You don't want to act like bf and gf while you are on the job. Good luck and remember, if you aren't ready, don't push it. Good luck hun.
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this whole month we have barely talked.
he got kicked out of his house and his cell phone was disconnected so he stayed at a friends house (we live in different states by the way) and he would call me some nights and it was really hard cause we used to talk on the phone everynight and fall asleep on it together and then i kinda got used to tlaking to him like 3 times a week and then like 2 weeks later his aunt let him come back and he promised me we would tlak more. and that never happened. and then he just got a job and his hours are really lame. its from like 5pm-12am and im up till like 3 always and he told me a couple times he would call me after work. that never happened either. and when he would get home and would post bullitens and it would be like 1 in the morning saying lets chill ill come pick you up. and you wouldthink since we barely talk anymore he would take the time to talk to me instead of go with his friend which he is alaysss with. its like he doesnt have the time for me anymore. and its hurting me. and i told him that. and he doesnt seem to do much about it. we used to talk everyday alll the time. now im lucky if i even get to tlak to him for 5 minutes aday.
i spill my heart out for him alwayss and i get nothing in return except my heart breaking more and more each day. he always tells me im never going to lose him and he loves me so much.
i need help. i dont know what to do :[
I hate to say it, but long distance relationships seldom work out. It's nice talking on the phone and sending letters, but it's hard when you don't have the ability for physical affection; holding hands, hugs, even a kiss on the cheek..the simple things like this keep a relationship going. Plus trust is ALWAYS an issue. It's hard not knowing where he is, what he's doing, who he's with. You have to have 100% trust in him, because his word is all you have. How often do you all get to physically see eachother? How long have you been going out? Answers to these questions would get you a more detailed response. The first thing you need to do is talk to him. One last time you need to tell him exactly how you feel. If he doesn't react appropriately, then I think it's time to call it quits. Maybe you should try moving on to someone who lives closer to you. It may not seem like the best thing for you now, but you'll see how much happier it will make you. Who knows, maybe you all will find yourselves together again, or maybe when the opportunity approaches you'll turn it down because you've found true happiness. I hope that all works out for you hun. I'm sure it will!!
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ok so here's the deal... i like this guy in my grade and i see him everyday. I really like him and i don't even know him! i don't know if hes nice i don't know if he has a girlfriend and heck! i don't even know his last name... two qustions...
1.) is it bad to like somebody u have never met?
2.) What should i do?
HAHA! We have ALL been there. Sometimes it's the 'mystery' that makes us like him more. The less you know about him, the more you can make him the man of your dreams =P. You are perfectly normal..nothing bad about what you are feeling at all. You need to strike up a conversation with him, get to know him. Pay attention to his friends, where you see him, this will help you to decide what he likes and you will have some basis for conversation. Is he in one of your classes? If so, maybe you could ask him about that. Here's the deal..let's say hypothetically speaking you NEVER talk to him, just continue to dream. You'll have the perfect guy, you've made him everything you want him to be, but his biggest flaw...he'll never be with you. Now next case scenario. You walk up to him, strike up conversation. Atleast now you've given yourself the chance with him. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't..atleast you aren't forever wondering what if. Believe me, you do not want to be in limbo forever. Gain some confidence and just go up to him. You don't have to ask him out..just small talk. Good luck hun and I hope that everything works out. Correction, I KNOW everything will work out, even if it doesn't turn out the way you wanted. It all happens for a reason! Hope I could help a little.
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My girlfriend ask me a question like this
" Baby you know that i love being in love with you but sometimes i get a little nervous that one day you'll fall out of love with me so just be honest with me and tell me something."
How can i keep your attention and interest?
Then she imply's " You say you will always
love me but what will keep you in love with
me? So tell me and i'll leason.
We've been together for seven years now. Don't
get me wrong we've had our up's and down's when
didn't see each other for a year. Doing the
years of break up's and makes up's she dated
another guy while i was single.
I just want to knoe what would make her ask
this question wheni tell here almost everday that i love her.
You seem to be a great person and I can tell that you truly love her. Girls often need to be reminded of these things. I've only been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I still worry that he will get "tired of me" or bored with the relationship. As said below, try and think of things that you can do to show her you love her. Maybe you could do something that she LOVES to do, but you dont care that much for. You know what I'm saying? Something that she knows you wouldn't just go out and do. Also bye her cards for no reason. It doesnt have to be b-day or anniversary..get her a 'just because' card. And DON'T just sign your name to it lol..write something in it. Girls just need simple reassurance, that's all. Plus, you say that you all have been through atleast one break up. Maybe she is just stuck on that thought, wondering if it will happen again. Have you ever thought of a coupon book? You can make them at home. Things like "Wash the dishes" "Give a Massage" "Watch your favorite chick flic", etc. This way she can use them as she chooses. Good luck and I hope that I've been of atleast a little help. You all have been together for 7 years and I can tell just from this post that there are many more to come!!! I wish you BOTH the best!!!
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I have had a crush on my best guy friend since 5th grade (I'll be in the 11th grade next year)... We went to the Sadie Hawkin's Dance together last year and I don't know if I should ask him again or what because We had lots of fun and he was teaching me to dance... What should I do?
Definitely ask him to go again. Let him know how you feel. I know that "FOR" (fear of rejection)is probably kicking in, but nothing good comes if you don't take a few risks. Worse case scenario he says no, but atleast then you'll know. If he says yes then there could be endless possibilities. Tell him how much fun you had, tell him how you feel, don't throw it all on him at once, but maybe start with asking him to the dance. Then at the dance or even after, you might tell him that you like him. Go out on a limb, take a chance..it might be the best thing you have ever done! You definitely don't want to be wondering 2 years from now "What if". Good luck and let me know how things go.
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hi okay so basically i've been hooking up with this guy. we've been like best friends for like 2 years. he's liked me for these 2 years also. then i started liking him.. we were like almost to the point where we were going out, just like not actually going out. he was going to ask me out but there were some complications.. whatever not important. my point is we were REALLY close. then we started hooking up and it's like i started to lose interest. it was only around 5 times but i just started getting bored of the same thing over and over again. and it's not like we even did that much. i was teasing him a lot though.. (not letting him have tounge when he kissed me, like touching his dick but not giving him a hj, etc.) so do you think that's why i got bored of it? because most of the time we weren't actually like really into it..? i'm like a huge tease even when i like the guy and i just can't help it i just think it's because i'm nervous to mess up and when i tease them it makes me look more experienced and stuff.. ya know? i can't explain it but basically i just feel bad about not knowing if i really have feelings for this guy or not anymore. i know i was like pretty much in love with him before we started hooking up but then it just got.. weird i don't know. i don't want to like lead him on though because i don't want to hurt him and i know he's in this for more than just a hook up. i'm pretty sure he wants me to be his girlfriend but he wants to wait until he's 100% sure i like him before he does that. i feel like i might have just continued to hook up with him because it was easy to do. like there's other guys i could hook up with but it would take a little more effort to like let them know i wanna and stuff. i'm not really sure what to do right now. any advice?
Alright, first off, it's apparant you don't have true feelings for this guy. It's not abnormal to think you are 'in love' with someone, especially someone you've known for so long. However, you have to remember, you knew him for 2 years, but only as a 'best friend'. This often times happens when you cross that friendship line. After reading what you wrote, I think you seemed to (even though you didn't know it then) love the 'idea' of being with this guy. This is a guy you call your Best Friend, so I assume you could talk to him about anything, be yourself around him, trust him with your life basically..who wouldn't want a boyfriend like that?! But when a guy is promoted to boyfriend from Best friend, these feelings often change. I think that you need to break this off now. It's not right that you are leading him on, which again..even if you dont realize, you are. It may hurt him at first, but atleast you are giving him the opportunity to find someone who wants the same thing out of a relationship as he does. Letting him go needs to be a selfless act, not selfish. Remember YOU led him on, so it may take him sometime before you can gain his trust, or before he can be around you as friends (like you were before). Give him the time he needs. Don't make him feel guilty as he has done nothing wrong. I hope that this helps and I truly hope you don't think I'm being mean. My guess is you came here for truth, for honest advice..and well..I come to this site to give that to you. Good luck hon and for your sake I hope that you can get your best friend back with time.
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