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Ehh, first impression. warning:: its lengthy


Question Posted Tuesday September 9 2008, 11:17 pm

15/F
Over the summer, my half sister took me to a Christian Revival and she introduced me to a boy that goes to my school but hes 16. Hes not gorgeous but hes not hideous and he gives such good hugs! But at the revival he specifically told me that he considered himself to be a Prep. He dressed like it, too. We talked and spent the entire night together. It was great! I heard he liked me from my sister..ALOT
This year hes in my lunch block and I didnt recognize him until he said something. He was all goth er w/e with a fauxhawk, spiked wristbands and everything! I said it was weird so TODAY he dressed.. normal? He has a chasity ring but he doesnt want his friends to know. But his bestfriend actually has a trenchcoat and chains and fangs :/ and i sat with him at lunch one day and his friends talk about really inappropriate things when others are trying to EAT.
But today I felt really bad when the guy tried to hold my hand by comparing their sizes you know.. but I just sort of dismissed it and put my hands in my pockets then he asked for my number but I said I had to go...

And this was more of a VENT session than anything else. But Ive never kissed a guy and its sort of nice to feel so admired.. but I dont want to lead him on. Has anyone else been through something similar? I dont see him until Thursday. But I see his friends.. :/ :[


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sin_c_chic answered Wednesday September 10 2008, 2:18 pm:
It sucks when you meet someone and then find out that they weren't themselves to begin with. It sounds like he is wayyy into what his friends think, so you are right to pull away. You are right, it is nice to be admired, appreciated, and looked at in "that way". But know that it will never feel truly 'good' because you know that you don't feel that way.

Let him know that you do not want to have a relationship with him, other than friends. (That is if this is really the way you feel). In the same since, don't let what people would think alter your decision either.

Be friends with the guy. Flirt, talk to, and even eat lunch with him, but you are right, you DON'T want to lead him on. Let him know where you stand as soon as possible!

Good luck hun. Take care and I hope everything works out in the best way for you.

<3 Leslie

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