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friends or boyfriend... who's more important?
i really like my new boyfriend but when i asked my friend to hang out with us he was really mean to them. he's nice to my pther friends so i don't know why he wasn't nice to these friends. they've been my friends for a long time, but my boyfriend makes me very happy. they both told me they hate each other. i think sooner or later they're gonna make me pick sides. so who's more important? my friends or my boyfriend?
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Only you can make that decision. However if it was me it would all kind of depend. How long have you been friends with them for? Or, How long have you dated him for? Maybe your friends have said ignorant things in the past or maybe your boyfriend is mean to other people behind your back. I really think you should talk to your boyfriend about the situation. If he offers a good reason then take it if not then he's not worth it. But there not really your true friends if there going to make you choose, same with your boyfriend. Hope I helped.
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Friends are always way important. then a boyfriend because when this boyfriend might leave your friends will comfort you.
But if you want to keep both, You talk to both of the talk to you boyfriend why does'nt he like the try talking to him about why doesn't he like your friends tell him to give the a chance then least he can say is NO.
& about your friends do the same, people take things different ways maybe he was kidding or something or it just takes time to get used to a group of friends. Maybe he gets jealous cause their your friends, boyfriends often get jealous of their girlfriend's friends because you might not be with him at the same time your with your friends. they want you alone with them sometimes.
My boyfriend did the same. My best friend is a guy and my boyfriend is really jealous, & i talked to him about it and he said he was jealous cause my best friend gets to do things that i dont get to do with him(boyfriend), (long time ago) and so did my best friend he was mad cause i wasn't spending that much time with him. So they didnt like each other but i talked to the both and now their best friends :D
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Can we go back to begining here?
Why on earth was your boyfriend mean to them!?
Seriously. Why did that even happen?
When the person you are dating, treats your friends poorly on his first meeting of them, that isn't cool. They should be mature enough to be civil and friendly, simply because YOU care about those friends. Your boyfriend couldn't manage to hold his tongue for a fews hours of hanging out? That is pretty sad, and immature.
They SHOULDN'T make you pick sides, and they haven't yet, so if I were you I would bet them too it and remind that them they CAN'T tell you to pick sides.
Tell your boyfriend it's fine if he doesn't want to hang out with them, but he must not be mean to people you care about. That is disrespectful and not okay.
Tell your friends that it's okay if they don't like him, but that he is your choice and you do like him, and you want them to respect that, even if they don't understand it.
Tell them both to cool it. So they didnt' get alone. So what? Get over it. Don't be childish brats who gossip behind eachother's backs. Simply shurg your shoulders and accept you can't get on with everyone.
DEMAND that level of maturity from them, because it is the level they should be able to reach and the only way for you to stay sane.
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As said before, you are the only one that can decide that. If you are asking how I would handle it then:
First remember that your friends have been there for you for a looong time. Your boyfriend makes you happy. Here's how I feel. Your friends and boyfriend don't have to like eachother, but if they both love you, then they should learn to co-exist. If I love someone, I'm not EVER going to make them choose between myself and someone else whom they love and who makes them happy. Be honest with them. Tell them that you know you can't force them all to be friends, but that you are NOT going to choose. It's their choice now. If they truly love you and respect you then they will be by your side no matter what. Pick your words carefully girlie. I know that this isn't an easy situation! Good luck hun!
<3 Leslie
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Only you can decide that, Nobody can really decide for you. However, Keep in mind that if you're boyfriend makes you choose between him and your friends he doesn't seem like a good boyfriend. A good boyfriend would respect you're wishes to whom you choose to be friends with. If you have been friends with them for along time why let them go? Is it really worth loosing the long term friendship?
BahaiMa22
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