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Loverocks has just been a nickname for me for about 6 years now. I am 26 years old, happily married to my hubby of 10 years. I am a stay at home mom of 4 great kids. Proud cub scout and girl scout mom. Also proud to be mom of a gifted child. Me and my hubby are starting our own auto repair biz. So...I'm a part time mechanic. Right now one of my main goals is to raise my kids the best I know how. I love to pull minor jokes on my friends and family. Dance with my kids and listen to my rock and country cd's.

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We were chatting online because I ask her to meet me on the chat room after her class because I needed to talk to her. When she did I told her I am bi sexual and have feelings for her. We chatted for an hour about my self coming out and my emotion depression I was dealing with. She said she was fine with me coming out and that I like her she supported me, she even told she is sexual confused herself. After that she ask if she can come over I ask why and she said I don’t have to if you want me to. I told her I didn’t mind. She had to get off online because she was going to work. So she came by then we watch TV. she was there for 30 mins then left to go to work.Nothing happen and we didn’t talk much just only about the movie. But why did she come over? I felt awkward because I told her how I felt about her. I am bisexual girl.

I would say since she is sexually confused maybe she likes you too. Or she is testing her feelings out. I would suggest continue the way you are and who knows what might happen. I know its awkward to like someone and them just come over like that. But,the more you talk with her face to face the less awkward you'll feel.

~Loverocks~

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Okay, i'm really confused. I am a female and i think i like one of my best friends, she's a girl. she is bi sexual and one night when we got drunk we did some "stuff" if you know what I mean. we like made out and she like fingered me and everything. I didnt think i liked her like that at the time. and I wasnt bi sexual before this. but now i'm think i am. i want to tell her how i feel about her and that i like her alot but im scared of how she would react. she has a boyfriend and i dont want to get totally rejected. Any advice on what i should do? should i tell her how i feel? or chould i just leave it alone? thanks.

Tell her how you feel. It wouldn't hurt anything if you just let her know.

~Loverocks~

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Okay well there is this boy named tyler and i just found out that he thought i was cute and he liked me. But here is the thing, something happened and tyler and his older brother beat up a kid, (which i dont approve of whatsoever) and now his 18 year old brother is in a detention center and tyler is grounded but i dont know for how long. Well during the summer we were supposed to hang out. and he has a gf, but i dont know how long that would last either. So someone said that because he was talking about me like that, and he had a gf he was a player. That dont necessarily make him a player does it??

and if it does, then how can i play him back??

im not a boyfriend stealer and i dont cheat, but i want to have some fun this summer, and in my gut i just dont feel as though he is a player, i just think he has bad influences such as his brother, or maybe the kid did something horribly bad. So what do i do?? help!

The only way he could be a player would be if he told more girls than you he liked them. Even though he has a gf. I wouldn't try the pay back method if he is playing you. Show him your better than that.
His brother don't sound like a very good influence for anyone. Be cautious of this though if he helped his brother beat someone up it could mean he's trouble. (I'm not saying he is though)
As far as the summertime goes its cool to hang out as friends but be careful not to flirt or anything though since he has a gf.

Ask me questions anytime.

~Loverocks~

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Well, i'm a 14 year old girl so all of you probably think i'm very immature but please help, i need advice. You see my first boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago, at least officially. We were in a 10 month relationship. I don't count the last month because he was distant at times and then lovey dovey at others. One night he would tell me how much he loves me and then the next he'd be cold and tell me to leave him alone. Finally he got the guts a few days ago to tell me its over completely and he no longer loved me. I tried to understand what had happened and all he said was he didn't deserve to feel guilty. That he had to pull the trigger on the gun and had to deal with all the pain. So since i'm young i have to know, do i have a right to be mad? i mean, now he says he just wants to be friends but i mean does a guy really mean that when he says it? that he just wants to be friends? and then i still have feelings for him and it hurts alot. i mean can a guy really just forget the feelings he has for a girl that easily?

I can understand your anger but here's the thing....
Nobody can tell you how he trully feels.I dont think he has forgotten his feelings for you. You see when someone says they still want to be friends means that they want you in there life even if its just as friends.

~loverocks~

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me and my best friend are in interesting situations and we just want to know which one people think is worse
ok so there is 3 guys involved we will call them bill, joe, and bob
ok so my friend liked bill for almost 2 years. she finally found another guy joe. she said forget bill he dont like her. so she started going out with joe. meanwhile her and bill had been talking but she still didnt think he liked her but they were becoming good friends. so shes going out with joe and bill then tells her that he is starting to fall for her. now bill remember is the guy she liked for almost 2 years then found joe. so bill now likes her but she is going out with joe. she likes them both and she just started going out with joe and the relationship is going well but bill is now flirting with her more and it makes her upset. ok so theres one situation the other is me.
i have liked bob for almost 3 years. well one of his good friends is bill but thts besides the point. i cant talk to bob because i am to shy and i start to feel pathetic for liking someone for so long and still cant talk to him. i find out a few months ago he may have liked me at one point but not sure and since i never talked to him i feel that i screwed everything up and that if i would just talk to him mabe things would be better. also i have never kissed a boy or had a boyfriend. i know its pathetic. i just seem to turn alot of guys down. and even weirder bobs best friend happens to be one of my friends and likes my best friends(the one with the situation above) sister.

Both are probably not the best situations to be in.

Your friend should ask herself which one do i like better. If she decides to stay with her bf I would tell the other guy that your just plain not interested. For you, the more you talk to someone the more calmer you will be.

~Loverocks~

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there was this cute boy in this really boring club with me. we would sit in back at the meetings and talk the whole time. talking turned to flirting. soon enough we were CONSTANTLY texting. he was the one who would start the conversations. he had never done anything with a girl before which i didnt understand considering how attractive he is, then again he is a germophobe. well eventually i started to like him alot, and we admitted to liking each other. he would constantly be texting me and saying cute things but tennis invaided most of his time so we wouldnt get to chill till summer but it was okay cause it was the end of the year. he would aleays go on and on about how strongly he felt and how he didnt really know what to say since he hadnt ever been with anyone but that i was really important to him. like he went over the top a little. things with us werent public at all. finally we hung out the weekend before the last week of school and believe me, he was nothing of a germophobe. we talked about becomming official and the next time we chilled he asked me to be his girl and we ended up doing some sexual stuff... we hooked up, i gave him hand and he fingered me. all of which were things he insisted on. well anyways the next day he had people over and didnt even invite me and then he said we were moving to fast and that we should go back to just seeing each other but not being official yet. i was crushed. the texts continues where he either said sweet things or told me how horny i make him. then i left for camp for over a month. i came back and he no longer wanted me. i was crushed beyond belief. one of my friends who is also friends with him texted him asking why he didnt wanna be with me anymore and he said he never was. he wouldnt talk to me. i hated him. finally we started talking as friends. school ended up starting and i decided to find out the truth from him of why he acted how he did. he really is a nice kid and not one to play games and according to everyone he had really liked me. well he told me he never liked me at all and asked to still be friends. HAH! i cried and i let him affect me for so long thinking i wasnt good enough and feeling used. he hasnt been with enyone else this full year and ive heard more and more about his germophobia. apparently he told some people the reason he ended things with me and him is because of his fear of germs getting the worst of him. i dont know what i think. do you think he liked me ever? did he just use me even though he really isnt that type of guy? if so why would he go out of his way just to hurt me? and why do i want to be friends with him so bad again?

I believe he likes you but his fears are keeping him from getting close to you. Germaphobes are very picky with everything they touch and are near. I would try being friends. Also, learn what you can about this phobia of his.

~Loverocks~

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13/f

my best friends boyfriend likes me A LOT.
a couple days ago we were watching softball ***school thing*** and he played me a song. He said "listen to it". It was Far Away by Nickleback. I love that song. I didn't think anything by it. But today at lunch if he really felt that way and he said yes. So the song was in my head and i was listening to it on my ipod. "I dont like him i just really love the song." and my best friend got mad at me because i was listening to the song that explained his feelings. Please help me

She might think you like him and want to steel him. Show your friend you dont and that you are a good friend by only playing the song privately.
If you have to explain to her you have no interest in him. I would suggest not asking him his feelings anymore because this might give mixed signals too.

~Loverocks~



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first of all shes really not my friend she use to be, (but you know what she did the same thing to me)and he was mine untill she stoll him from me lied about it and toled him that i did something and he broke up with me.second hes not going behind someones back at all.and i know that i'll get him b/c i already have him she doesn't know it, buthe doesn't do long distance any way.

Hun, can you please explain everything in more details. I don’t care if its long I'll read it. That way I can get all the facts straight. Also, what exactly is your question?

Thanks Bunches,
~Loverocks~

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Ok me and this guy are pretty close. Well this week his friends sister got hit by some guy. "my guy" hates when a woman gets hit so we was pretty hot and so was this girls brother who is my guys friend. They went to where she lived and stayed the night. Well the other night they was workin on a car and my guys phone went off and I read the text and it turned out it was that guys sister. I asked him who that was in front of everyone he flipped out because I asked whot hat was in front of everyone. Well I took him home that night and he asked me to go to where she lives he was gonna stay the night, because the dude that hit her might come back. Well something just seems weird about it if this girl got hit by a man wouldnt her family be takin care of it? Or am I worrying over something stupid because I accused him of being at that girls house last night and he was like I have nothing to hide or to explain i dont wanna be in a relationship? And this girls family is really protective so if something was to hapen wouldnt that girls brother flip out on my guy?

Yes a protective family always trys to step in. They wont let nothing happen if they can help it.

That sounds wierd to me him wanting to stay at her house. He should've suggested her brother to stay if he's that concerned. Just my opinion.

~Loverocks~

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okay well my boyfrind lives far and i only see him once in a while. i trust him and everything just that when i was looking at his myspace prfile i saw that he had a picture of his old crush and above the picture it said: i will always be loving this sexy girl aqua...when i read it it got me mad and i dont know what to do..someone plz help me..

I would ask him, why is it on there. Also, let him know how you feel about it.

I personally wouldnt like a pic of a crush being on my guys space period. But thats just a preference.


Hope this helped
Feel free to ask me questions.

~Loverocks~

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my name is april and i am 15/f and i really some help on how to get a boy to see me the way i see him and i really like him but i cant tell if he likes me or not i dont think he has a girl friend.but i would really like to get him to notice me.we talk and all but we dont talk enough to know each other.and i dont get to see him that much but i really need some advice.please help me.

p.s. please please please help me

april

When you can, let him get to know April. The more he knows about you the more he will notice you. Having similar interests helps too.

Feel free to ask me questions.

~Loverocks~

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Ok well my question is nothing really like "oh my gosh i like this boy but i dont know if he likes me"

M'kay well i am sort of in a love triangle. Like this girl katie is obsessed with this boy tyler who likes me and who i plan to hang out with this summer. But im not really friends with katie, and i find her annoying. She pretty much stalks him. And from what i hear he thinks i am the hottest thing since microwave popcorn. But i dont know how i feel about him. I mean i dont want to hurt katie if i were to date him. But yeah can you help me??

Well, if your not really friends with Katie then... Hang out with Tyler more and see how you feel about him. If you like him and all go for it. I wouldn't worry about her.

Ask me questions anytime.

~loverocks~

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Ok, well im 14/f and i havent had my "first kiss" yet and all of my friends have. They always ask me in front of other guys, "have you kissed a boy yet?" and im like, "no." But anyways, i feel weird because all my other friends come in and their like "Omg, i totally made out with this guy and he was such a good kisser!" I know i shouldn't feel like this but i do! Please help.

Well, your first kiss will come soon enough. Don't rush it just to fit in. I know the peer presure sucks. But, be patient that special guy will come along before you know it.

Feel free to ask me any questions you may have.
~Loverocks~

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ok, lets start of by saying.. i hav this boyfriend right... weve been together for about a month and a half. everything is going good but theres a few issues i dont know how to handle.
1) his Ex... who happens to be one of my good friends.. the issue is .... i mean, i love her to death.. shes pretty cool with me, but ill admit she can be a real... hmm.. b**** to him too sumtimes. she never liked him. she used him. he fell really hard for her and he had liked her for a while and even wen they dated for that little time.. most of the time she was cheating on him (which i didnt know at the time). well anyways.. even tho she broke his heart repeatedly he still liked her after that for a while. hes tried to hav a few girlfriends after that but they never worked out because 1. him n the girls were usually not friends. 2. he wud always go back to liking his EX, even tho she hurt him so much..
ive tried to be there by his side during every single one of these situations... and ive stuck around because we were best friends, so i know wat would happen each and every time. but this time, he says its different. he even told me he loves me and i told him the same. but back to his ex, im afraid the same thing will happen.. becuz he still kinda considered her one of his best friends still !! and i dont wanna get hurt if he tells me the same old story...
im asking for help on how to make the feelings kind of go away.. i trust him with my heart and to not break it, but the feeling of fear is still there.. is there is way to make it go away?
im kind of happy because so far hes lasted with me longer than the 3 othr gf's after her tht lasted lik a few days...
but he even promises me that he would never hurt me because i mean the world to him, i was the only one that helped him get over his broken heart and hes so amazing and sweet to me.. i know he would never hurt me, or anyone on purpose because he knows what thats like and i know hes not the type of person to hurt sumone on purpose... but sumtimes you cant control your feelings, but i see differences than with the other girls.. *he told me he loved me. *hes lasted with me longer than the other girls *hes still amazing to me, even after this time we've been together and hes not showing any "shifty" signs.. meaning.. he doesnt seem to be "Moving on from me".. at least it seems it because he still acts the same, only every day he acts sweeter to me and more and more amazing and tells me how much he really loves me and that im the first person to realize who he really is and truely accept him..

First of all you probably don't have to worry about your bf. Sounds like he's ver interested in you.

Second, I would suggest telling him that she aint the person he might think she is. Then go from there.

Hope this helped a little at least.

~loverocks~

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i'm 15/f and i have never had an actual boyfriend and i've never kissed a guy. I feel so behind from all the other girls at school. I just don't feel like i want to take on all the drama that comes with a relationship.

I'm not ugly or anything and i think guys don't ask me out because i'm kind of one of them. I love video games and playing guitar, and skateboarding. The dresses and stuff don't really get me.

I'm worried about being single for the rest of my life! I want to keep my guy friends though, they're like my brothers and i'm worried that if i ever get a guy he won't let me hang out with my boys!

Don't worry so much. When the right guy comes along you will know it. One that is ok with you having guys for friends.


~Loverocks~

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Im 19 and ive bin going out with my girlfriend who is 17 for 1 year and 4 months. I live in PA and she lives in NJ. I am obsessive with her. I want her all to me. She use to have alot of guy friends like that was all her friends. she told me that she isnt happy and she wants to hang out with her guy friends and im not good with that. i call her alot more than i should. she said that i have till the end of the summer to change or she is leaving me. She has bin the best friend i never had. I love her to death. im just afriend that shes gona meet a guy better than me cause theres alot better guys that she could have.

I need steps on how not to be obsessive. i want to be with her longer then 4 months.

Give her space. Show her you trust her by letting her have guy friends. Call her occationally not too much.

Hun, dont keep her all boxed up for you. Let the world see what a great girl she is. Amd be proud you have her.

If you over obsess too much it will just push her away and thats the last thing you want to happen.


~Loverocks~

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F/15

okay so recently i kinda feel like Im a total lesbian and i mean believe me i have nothing wrong with LGBTs at ALL. But I think the main problem for me is like the future. I mean i guess i can give up on the fantasy of me marring an amazing guy and having kids.
I keep telling myself it doesnt matter and i have time to figure it out but id just like to know you know?

help?

Oh and if you are just gonna be rude about homosexuality please dont even respond

I know people who are gay,les, and bi. It is not an easy life I'm sure. I found you some info that might help you http://lesbianlife.about.com/ they have teen links on there too.

Hope this helps.
Feel free to ask me any questions.

~Loverocks~

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okay so i hate bringing my boyfriend over my house. my parents dont let us shut the door anymore because i guess they see we are getting more serious..they know he is in a gang so now they think he is a criminal...which he isnt. my dad thinks im going to become a chola (thats a girl gang member in my boyfriends gang) and all i hear is how they think hes a nice guy but hes a bad influence. they treat me like i have no brain and cant make mature decisions every since i got a tattoo. its like the tattoo labels me as "DANGER SHE IS GOING OVER THE HILL" kind of kid. AND IM NOT. i make smart decisions. they think im going to turn into my older brother and get myself locked up. what do i do? i dont want my boyfriend coming over anymore and when i go to my boyfriends house im not aloud over for longer then 4 hours. and yes we are sexually active and im planning on asking my mom for birth control...i want to prove to her im responsible and im looking out for myself. i dont exactly know what im asking...i just want to know peoples opinions on my situation.

-15/f

Well, lets see first of all I am not judging anyone. This is just my opinion. Gangs gets bad wraps because of all the media attention on the "bad" ones(I'll call them). Where you hear of drive by shootings and stuff like that. I guess as parents they fear for your safty more than anything because of it. A tattoo aint that bad its just tattoos are like symbols of rebelion you could say.

You need to prove to your parents you are a good person and you don't like trouble of any kind.

Hope this helps.
Feel free to send me any more questions you might have.

~Loverocks~

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recently... everytime me and my bf make out, hours later my throat starts to hurt and get sore... what can be the cause? this has NEVER happened with anyone else... could it be and std?? help greatly appreciated!!!

sincerely, SICK.

Could be mono (aka kissing disease) I would check with your doctor and see what they say for sure.

Here is some info on mono http://www.coolnurse.com/mono.htm

~Loverocks~

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it seems to me like there is this universal standard look of beauty..... long flowy hair (even beyoncay, hale bare, maraiah carey spend hours turning it into something Caucasians and Latinas have) what ever happened to curly hair? even curls the curls the have are fake!
not that i am saying all those women are ugly or anything but if thats the standard then heck i'm way out of the picture....... and its making me feel terrible. i am not fat or anything, my face is clear no acne... its just that my nose isn't a ski slope, my hair is super curly and my eyes are pit black (i know that is anatomically not possible but it is the last shade of brown before black!) i'm not tall (only 5'4) and i only fit into a size 8 (sometimes!).........

this sounds cheesy but seriously with that high of a standard what are my odds to look beautiful in the eyes of someone?! if there are any odds at all...

this is really depressing ...

Wow, me and you sound a lot alike. Trust me there is nothing wrong with curly hair, dark eyes, and a little short. Have confidence in yourself girl. Your beautiful and dont let anyone tell you different.


P.S. Curls are great thats why the celebs put the fake ones on, to look like us of course. Plus, lots of guys like curly hair.


~Loverocks~

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