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Do guys feel fine with a break up as long as they get no gui
Well, i'm a 14 year old girl so all of you probably think i'm very immature but please help, i need advice. You see my first boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago, at least officially. We were in a 10 month relationship. I don't count the last month because he was distant at times and then lovey dovey at others. One night he would tell me how much he loves me and then the next he'd be cold and tell me to leave him alone. Finally he got the guts a few days ago to tell me its over completely and he no longer loved me. I tried to understand what had happened and all he said was he didn't deserve to feel guilty. That he had to pull the trigger on the gun and had to deal with all the pain. So since i'm young i have to know, do i have a right to be mad? i mean, now he says he just wants to be friends but i mean does a guy really mean that when he says it? that he just wants to be friends? and then i still have feelings for him and it hurts alot. i mean can a guy really just forget the feelings he has for a girl that easily?
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I can understand your anger but here's the thing....
Nobody can tell you how he trully feels.I dont think he has forgotten his feelings for you. You see when someone says they still want to be friends means that they want you in there life even if its just as friends.
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Emotions change. People change. In your case, your ex-boyfriend changed (Or at least, his feelings for you did). This isn't your fault. This isn't his fault. It's just the way people (Not just guys, but people) are, especially at your young age.
There's no such thing as a "right to be mad". Either you are or you aren't. If you aren't, you shouldn't force yourself into anger because you think you "should be" mad. If you are, then try to get out of that state as soon as you can--Nobody likes a bitter bitch.
I'm sure some guys mean it when they say they want to be just friends, but for the most part it's a tool used to soften the blow when breaking up with someone. I know personally, as I've used it before and have had it be used on me.
It sucks to be broken up with, and it's even worse when you're not given a good reason why. Keep in mind that the pain you're feeling is temporary. Tell yourself "This, too, shall pass", and remember that time heals all wounds.
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