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I have this friend that i talk 2 ,but he lives in louisiana and i live in Texas i cant talk 2 him becuz it is long distance. What do i do?

Well I don't have a lot of information to work with on this one, but I'll give it a try. If there is absolutely no way you can talk to him over the phone, then I'm not sure that I can really help. But if you can get in touch with him just once, get his address and mail him! Or just wait until one of you gets long distance available on your phone or gets a cell phone, hehe. If i misunderstood this question or anything, please feel free to come back or better yet, email me at lildiamyn_69@yahoo.com. Good luck!

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ok im good friends with this guy..we tlk all the time on the fone and hang out a lot! i like him a lot but im afraid to tell him...i dont think he likes me "that way" but he keeps sending me mixed signals and a lot of mi friends think he likes me.(especially mi mom)and thinks we would look so cute together! he is the perfect guy and totally meets mi stanstards perfectly! i really like him! what do i do?

i believe you should definitely ask him straight out. or you could tell him your feelings for him. i dont think you're a mind reader, hehe, so this would be the best way to do it.
i think that he really does like you. one big sign is that he's actually giving you some of his time!
the reason hes sending mixed signals, could be because hes afraid of rejection from you! you said you havent told him that, so how could he know that you really like him? =) you're waiting on him, he's waiting on you.....make the first move! =) hope this helps you out!

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My friend && I like the same guy. He just happens to have feelings for me. I really want to get together with him but wouldn't that be betraying my best friend? What should I do?

these situations can be tricky sometimes. i usually wouldn't recommend leaving your friend over a guy, but maybe you two can work this out. I'm glad you're concerned about her feelings.

you have to talk to her about this. if he has feelings for just you, then she may get jealous. it wouldnt exactly be betraying her, since he doesnt belong to her, but she likes him, and since he doesn't like her, that can run into some major problems.

talk to her, and ask her if it would be okay if you and the boy were together or something. if she says its okay, make sure shes telling the truth. let her know that you would never choose a guy over her or hurt her feelings over one.

All in all, if you don't want to go through all of this, you could just wait for the next guy! But this experience should show both of you where you stand when it comes to liking the same guy. Hope this helps!

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I have been wondering if the person you like or you keep thinking who'll end up with you in marriage would usually be the person you'll really get married to. Because in my situation, I've always thought that he'll be the one and don't get it wrong, I have deep feelings for him. But there's this another guy who last time cares for me but now i think not anymore. i just think. But I'm afraid maybe the person i think would be the one for me, wouldn't really be? I know it sounds complicated but it's really giving me a problem. Pls. help me.

Some of this depends on your age. If you're in high school, about to graduate, then there might be a chance that you and this person have so close a bond with, might stay with you until marriage.
But if you're in middle school or elementary, I'd have to say probably not.
Do you believe in fate? I do. I know it sucks, but you can't really pick the one to be with. Fate does that. I understand what you feel. You just have to bear with the cards you have been dealt now until the right person comes along.

Hope this helps you out any.
*Diamyn*

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Ok ive been single for 2 YEARS!! This is too long..especially being that these are supposed to be the best years of our lives. ive been living it up with my friends and thats great and everything; but its like something is missing. Im lonely and i think everyone knows loneliness isnt a great feeling. Nobody really like me..im like the girl with the nice personality, but not the looks...i have guys as friends, but thats about it. It seems like i wont have another bf until after high school. iS there anything i can do?? or do i have to just wait it out : /

I know what you mean=(
There is something you can do; but if its not the time for you two to meet, then things might not work out so well. You could try asking around. Don't be ashamed! Ask your friends if they know a nice kind of guy. If everything seems like it's not working, then I think you ay have to wait it out.

However, your wait shouldn't be too long, because there are lots of guys(just hard to find) that want a girl who's not full of herself, which you definitely are not...Just have hope that things are gonna work out! Hope this helps you out some, and I hope you do meet a nice guy!
*Diamyn*

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Well, So far alot of guys have turned me down. SO i asked my ex why he broke up with me, and he seyd "well, All the guys say you really need braces so they dont like you" .. i have 2 teeth on the bottom that are slightly crooked, but i cant get my braces on till July, whut do i do?!??!

Well, sweet, in my opinion, if i were you i wouldn't worry and stress myself out over guys who want you to look like some sort of supermodel or whatever. I know you may like him, but what if something else happened to you, like all of a sudden you broke out in a rash and he left you again?=O
I think you should keep trying to find that someone that doesnt care what you look like.
Now, I'm sure you probably feel "ugly" right about now(don't mean to sound rude)but if you just don't feel comfortable, then you may have to wait until July, and then you'll be able to show those guys you really are beautiful! =P
Hope this helps you some...
*Diamyn*

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is it wrong to love a baseball player thats a year younger than me?
*honest oppinion needed*
i rate high

If I had a quarter for every question like this... =P.(Just kidding)

To me, I believe that age isn't nothing but a number. Age has nothing to do with a person's emotions, and how they feel toward someone, so don't let this stop you from loving someone.

It does feel funny to think of yourself as being with a person who's younger than you, but it certainly isn't wrong. This is my honest opinion, and I hope that it helps you with whatever you need.
*Diamyn*

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i am currently friends with girls that are always dating and everyone like them..even though they aren't that pretty..but still they get ALL the guys and guys never like me and makes me feel bad, most of the time guys only become friends with me just so they can get close to my friends and last saturday(at a banquet) i really really wanted to dance with this guy i liked, but my friend just was like "oh i will dance with you" even though she knew i liked him and now they are goin out..this problem makes me feel self consicous and that noone likes me..and i have really depressing days..so what my question is what can i do to get guys to like me for who i am and not my friends and what can i do about my friends? thnx in advance.

Your friend who knew that you liked this guy, she isn't a good friend at all, if she was she would try to introduce you to some guys so you won't feel so left out, because I'm pretty sure it was obvious.
So I wouldn't even try to talk to this girl. Take control, and get out and find you some guys on your own. Not guys that know your two friends well. You don't need these girls to ruin your fun! :) Hope this helped you.
*Diamyn*

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so ive liked this guy forever-since the begining of the year..but he had a girlfriend until recently. hes liked me too but he had a really serious girlfriend (for a year!!) and then when he was single i had a boyfriend. now we are both single and weve been hanging out ALOT. weve kissed and held hands and he is soo sweet. hes always like callin me babe and stuff. and he told me to listen to some songs that remind him of me. hes just so sweet. well he told me he really likes me..but he doesnt want a girlfriend right now so we can be "close friends". what does this mean? hes not using me because hes just not like that..hes soo sweet. and i really like him. and we go to the same school. also, his ex recently started talking to me...and shes soo nice and still likes him...shes like making me feel bad for hangin out with him. but i dont know...what do i do?

He does sound so sweet!

Don't worry, hon. After coming from a serious relationship of about a year, I think he wants to be able to breathe before jumping into another relationship.
If he's had a serious relationship, then I doubt it that he's trying to use you at all.
About his ex-you shouldn't worry about her either. Unless you'll feel guilty for going out with him, knowing she still likes him(which happens sometimes).

If he's hanging out with you, then you're the one he wants to be with. So be close friends with this guy, and throw your worries to the wind!:P

Hope this helps you out!!
*Diamyn*

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15f- I like this guy (still). We went out for like two weeks in January then he broke up with methe day after V day! he and I were hanging out the Thursday. We did some stuff. I did it because I don’t want to loose him though. well he said he still likes me. And "he wants to be with me" I don’t know what that means. I don’t know what to do! I like him! he told me he hasn’t been with any other girl since he met me. I don’t know to believe that! he hasn’t talked to me most of this week and every time I do talk to him he’s like I’m busy or I’m grounded! he always tells me he loves me on the phone... and the other day he looked me in the eyes and said it! He told me last night and when I said I love you too he’s like no you don’t...? I don’t know what to think. He told me last night that he had to go to church at 6 this morning. And he said he’s getting grounded from his truck and phone. I don’t know what to think there either! But I had a panic attack the other night. It was because of him. because of texts he’s been sending to a girl He called her baby and asked if she was single. He told me later that she had a boy friend and she’s only a friend. Okay, well he called when I was flipping out (panic attack) I was crying. So I left my house in therain to think about him and what I should do. And he was like baby I don’t want to get off the phone with you until your okay! He sent me like 100 text messages and said I’m so worried about you baby and I love you so much! I’m not sure what to believe. I like him so much. I think I’m getting to the point were I like him so much I hate him. If u know what I mean! I wrote something in his column telling him I like him a lot (said a lot about 150 times. at the end I was like 'but I don’t have a chance anymore'. he responded "yea u do” I don’t know if that was to the fact that I like him (like him being sarcastic about), Or if it was him saying I have another chance. I’m not sure what to do! I like him so much! What should I do about him?! Please answer this with your most honest answer PLEASE! I need help with this guy... thanks...

Well, guys are a mystery in themselves.
This guy could really care about you. But it seems lots of guys have trouble deciding who they wanna be with, like us girls do sometimes.

As for the flirting incident, guys do love to flirt, just like us girls.
At first it sounded like he was just using you, but I think this guy does care about you, even if it's a little. If he was just using you, he probably would have left you for good by now.
When I can't figure out why a guy's doing things like that, I sit down and think about it from a guy's point of view. I put together all of the things I know of in his life that could affect this, and all of his other girls, and how he talks to them compared to me. I seriously think this guy still likes you in some way.

That might hurt your brain some, but you should get a better look at this guy. Then, you should go and talk to him, and tell him what's up. Ask him about the girl he was texting and why he wanted to know if she was single. Get all you want to know from him so your mind can be at ease. This is my most honest answer, and i really hope it helps you out some=)
*Diamyn*

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Well so. I really like/d this kid (Jimmy) and I really liked him he knows, and he liked me too, but I don't know how he feels anymore bc he dones't talk that much anymore. and his cousin knows all of this (and i've known both of them for like 5-6-7 yrs) and he wants to hook up, (they're both 17) like I do wana hook up with him, but i dont wana mess things up with Jimmy if there still a chance. But I have no idea what to do...any advice?

I hate being in these situations.
I think you should find out(by asking) Jimmy if he does still like you. He most likely still does.
You already know the other cousin does, so all that's really left is for you to figure out which you would like better.(Which one likes spending time with you the most, better looks, whatever your reason) Going out with two cousins isn't bad like going out with two best friends, so you have your time to think here.
Hope I helped,
*Diamyn*

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I've been wondering for some time: why do you feel like you're in love, when you have a guy you've been with for a while, but when you find out he's been cheating or doing wrong, you lose everything for him, including what was supposed to be love?
I thought when you're in love you can't get over that special someone that quickly.
I was convinced I was in love with this guy, because I had never felt that way about any other guy. But when I found out he was cheating on me, I just got over him in one day, and it's just like I never had feelings for him before. It's like we never went out, and he's another guy in the crowd. Can you help explain this?

Female's feelings work in mysterious ways. I have developed a theory for this: Your mind and heart, that holds the chamber for your feelings for people, sweep your feelings for a guy that's done you wrong under the rug, not to be seen for a while. Sometimes they stay forever, and sometimes they work their way back to the surface, and you start to miss him and everything.

So it may be your soul trying to protect you from suffering with missing this guy.
This has happened to me before, and I pretty sure you should be thankful that you love yourself enough for your soul to try to shelter you from the pain=P

Hope I cleared this up for you!
*Diamyn*

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Hey everyone, I was just wondering, I've never really just 'hooked-up' with a guy, meaning the only relationships I've been in, they had something serious part of it. I've never done friends with benefits. I was wondering what are your views on fwb and 'hook-ing/up' like what are the outcomes? benefits? feelings for one another? thanks in advance, i rate well. :--)

Well, hmmm..
Friends with benefits is definitely a good thing if you pick the right guy.
I've only had one fwb and it was cool because we both knew that we were single but didn't want to be in a relationship, and we were very close friends, so we might as well, you know, become fwb.You do not want to become fwb if you don't have some kind of feelings for that person.

Benefits are that you both get what you want, and it might bring you closer. Sometimes the friendship lasts long, and sometimes it doesn't, but it all depends if you pick the right guy, and that makes it all worth it.

I knew that he wouldn't tell anyone.
Fwb is something that will be called slutty if a lot of people find out.

I've just 'hooked-up' with a guy before and that didn't work out.(nothing sexual) So others might not agree, but I give friends with benefits a 8.5, because nothing beats a good old fashioned relationship with all that.=)
You're very much welcome, and i hope I helped.
*Diamyn*

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There is this guy I met that doesnt go to my school but I know who he is, his name is Jordan. And well he is like the hottest guy on this planet and well. I don't think that he likes me, and I don't even know if he even knows me because I have never talked to him, I just seen him at my basketball tournament. ANd well I really like him and I want to ask him out. Do you think that I should get to know this guy and ask him out or just ask him out? And how would I ask him out?
Who ever answers my question I will give them a rating of 5. Thanks a lot.

Hmmm... someone has a crush! =P
I've done this before.
Don't be afraid. If there's no chance of another girl grabbing him, get to know him. You'll have a better idea of what this guy is like before you ask him out. I have met quite a few "hottest guys on the planet" who's attitude was anything but hot. They were so full of themselves.

Anyway, to hook the fish, try this.

Just call his name, tell him to come by you, start up a conversation, and if you like what you hear, slip it in that you're bored and was planning to go somewhere and just casually ask him if he would like to come with.
Or tell him you gotta go, but if he would like it, you guys can finish your conversation on the phone, or tell him to come over to your house later=P
Be nice and he can't refuse=D

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16 female. See I have this feeling like i need to choose between these two guys, and i don't know why because i have nothing to choose from. The guy im with loves me and the other guy doesn't even think about me in that way(anymore), and I know that for sure. And a person once told me, never leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one they love. And thats true and some very good advice but in my case the one i'm with isn't the one i love.
So pleaseee tell me why i feel the need to choose when i have no choice to make.

I've had this feeling before, I think.
It's really confusing, so this advice won't be the best...but like you said, you feel so stongly that you have to choose, when there's nothing to choose from.
You may feel like this because you want him, and you want to take a chance, even though you know he doesn't like you like that.
It's hard to explain...
Basically, you know that you have no chance with him, but that's not what your mind is telling you.
It still hasn't got the message yet probably, so hold on, and try to push it out of your mind when you feel this again. Focus on this wonderful guy who loves you=D
Hope I helped to clear things up some.
*Diamyn*

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ok, so me and my husband had a baby when we were 18. i know what your thinking, but no, me and him are fine. its my friend. she really liked him when we were going out, but we were secretly going out so she didnt know. anyway, she's gotten pregnant who this guy who punched her in the eye, and i think she got pregnant to get back at me. well shes had like 9 boyfriends since my daughter Isabella's been born, and its killing my husband because he's trying to protect her from these people, and she keeps getting mad at him. i dont know what to do to help, i hate to see either one of them unhappy. ive known them my entire life.

I think you're definitely right when you say she got pregnant to get back at you. It's like her saying:"I don't care you had a baby for the man I liked; look at me! I've found someone of my own" She my also be trying to keep the guy there by having his baby, so she can really say she has a guy of her own, and a family, like you.

Your husband sounds like a really nice person with a lot of patience, and she doesn't seem to care.
Some people just don't respond to niceness, and are filled with jealousy, and are programmed to try and keep up with the Joneses'.

I know how it feels to see people walk away when people are trying to help them,and I've dealt with these type of people before, so my advice would be to let her go. Try not to talk to her anymore, because she doesnt seem to be a very good friend.

But since you're really worried about her, and you'll feel guilty if you just turn away from her without one last effort for help, I think you should take her somewhere, just her, you and your husband, and explain to her, provide details and examples, of what she's doing and why you're trying to help her.Tell her you're worried about her, and you're willing to let bygones be bygones, because you can't reverse what's happened. You may want to include that you think she's still not over the fact that you and this guy are together now.

She isn't a very good friend, because she should have been there for you, babysitting and everything, instead of doing the things she's doing. I know you want to help, but after all the talks, she still may not respond. Then it would be time for you to take the right side of the fork in the road, and her, the left.
After all this, I surely hope that i helped you out at all, and that everything works out okay.
Good luck =D
*Diamyn*

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so me and this guy i really like decided to be friends. he said i was the coolest person ever and it made his day talkin to me but lately he will IM me and talk but hes weird like is like g2g bye. he stopped callin me like he did before and doesnt text me should I tellh im how im feeling or what? i rate high

I know how it feels to have someone do that.
You feel kinda... ignored and brushed off.

You should definitely tell him how you feel, because he can't read your mind.
Tell him what you told us.
You feel he's acting weird and he stopped calling you, and you feel,...brushed off?

Since he said you were the coolest person ever, he may not have deserted you. For the simple fact that he still IM's you and talks, that tells me he still thinks you're a cool person.
He may just be busy or something. So just talk to him and give it time. If he truly wants your friendship, he'll show you.
Hope I helped you some.

*Diamyn*

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I rate high....

Well me and this guy are friends I like him and stuff well he wants to go to the movies this weekend but my mom said I cant date until im 17. I told her its just as friends but she still says no. Just because she iddnt start dating until she was 17 doesnt mean she had to do that to me. What should I do? I really realllly wanna go with him.

I had this problem before.I know how bad you feel when you can't go somewhere because of your parents. There's usually no getting around parents, but maybe this'll work for you:
1) Talk to her again, and ask her why she thinks you are too young. Ask for specific reasons.
2) Tell her whatever you're thinking, and why. Tell her just that- that just because she started dating at 17, doesn't mean you have to.

This is a different day and age.
3) You two should reach an agreement with this.
Good luck=) Hope i helped!

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I recently met this guy who I really am starting to like a lot. He has even talked about us being togeather, as in boyfriend/girlfriend, but I decided we should take it slow and go out a few more times. He recently admitted to me that he was bisexual. I still really like him a lot, so should this effect me in any way? I'm really confused, please help me. Thanks

Wow, I bet you were shocked!
I know I would have been.
But his being bi doesn't change anything.
You liked him before he told you this, so don't stop now!
Don't worry.He sounds like a really good guy.It must have been hard for him to come out and say it, so he really trusts you. He just wanted to be honest with you, and that is definitely a good sign! Hope i helped ya!
*Diamyn*

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If a guy touches your arm a lot as hes talking to you, is this a good sign?

That is a VERY good sign. It means he really cares about you. My boyfriend used to do that to me all the time, and we had a really good relationship. By all means, don't let him get away!!=P
*Diamyn*

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