there are these 2 guys i like,(A & B)
A is like my best friend but the kind of friend that you can make out with and theres no strings attached, he told me wen we first starting makeing out that he doesnt want a relationship which i was fine with until he started wanting to go further with me and thats when i told him that i won' until i was in a relationship with him,.plus i'm 16 but he is like the guy who hooks up with every girl he meets so its reli awkward sumtimes,.but he gets reli jealous if i hook up with someone
B is another very close friend who again likes to hook up with girls,.but would want a relationship if it came to it,.i think,. but i think i do actually have feelings for,.but the problem is when i go to tell him i like him he likes sumone else and vice versa,.we have made out a few times but we're usually drunk when we do and both take it as a drunken kiss and nothing gets said bout it afterwards
i'm soo confused i don't know who to pick and try and stick with and try make it work,
sorry its soo long but ye kind of neeed to know sum background info to know where i'm coming from
thanksx
in my opinion, I think a relationship with A would last longer. A seems like he sincerely likes you. He wants a relationship which means he wouldn't cheat or treat you wrong. As for B, he seems like he just want some ass from you. He just want friend with benefits and nothing more. You'll get hurt if you stick with him as a bf.
no matter what I say.. I think you should think it through as of who you like more? which one you can see yourself being with? or which one you're more comfortable with? who understand you better? etc. then make your decision base upont that.
hope I helped. good luck =].
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I really like this guy. He's my age and we're really good friends. Call it best friends if you want. We're both a little shy. I can't seem to say I like him and he can't either. Is there an easy way to tell him I like him without saying it to his face?
Note: Please don't tell me to just say it to his face. I don't have the guts.
there's always AIM, or messengers that you use. MYSPACE. umm or you can have your friends tell him for you or his friends. umm but if you want a straight foward answer then just take a deep breathe and go up to him. I know you're shyy but hey.. that one way to overcome your fear. imagine he was someone else and be confidence. go up to him as if he's yours and just tell him straight forward.
you: hey i like you and I was wondering if you would like to hang out sometimes.
but if you're tooo shyy. then yeah. lol aim, myspace, or friends should help.
hope I helped. good luck with the fella. =].
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well, i have a boyfriend and lately it seems we cant talk about anything. even when i try to talk about something it's like it doesnt matter to him.such as, i'll start talking about this "talking problem" and he'll be like, "oh, i didn't hear a word you said, but one of my friends is on the line with us". i just dont understand him anymore. like in the begining of our relationship he was really serious about everything; he would talk about all of our problems with me. ask me if i was okay with something. and i'm scared because he's been talking to a lot of girls lately and it bothers me because a lot of them he seems to be really good friends with and i'm just worried. maybe he's getting bored with me...a lot of guys seem to do that with me, or that's how it seems. are we in a block?...i dont know who to talk about with this stuff, i cant go to my mother, she doesnt take anything i say seriously and all my friends don't even really support me in anything right now. i dont even know if i have any real friends any more. i dont even know if you can help me with my problem, but i just dont know what to do anymore. i dont know what to say to him or anything. im scared we are going to fall apart and i dont want that to happen because i love him with all my heart. i would die for him, but i dont know if i can trust him to do the same. i dont know if i can trust him with anything. i just got out of a really bad relationship about 9 months ago and i have a lot of trust issues and i told my guy that and he said he understood but at the times when i say i trust him, i mean it and then later on, like with the girl stuff, when i say i dont agree or appriciate that, he says he doesnt understand why i cant trust him. he doesnt even say i love you that much anymore and its scaring me. i care about him so badly, will you please help me?
you can contact me at xxmusicforlovexx@aim.com
thank you so much
Heyy. okay. first, take a deep breathe in and out! Sounds to me like his feelings are fading. Maybe he just need some spaces ya know? Every guys want their space w/o their gf on their back all the time. He sounds like the type of guy that would make promises and break them.
I think you just give him some spaces.. do your own thing. If he talks to girls.. you talk to guys eventhough you're much in love with him. But if you cling onto him, he'l take advantage of that and think you're easy. He wants girls that he can have and have fun with right now. Play hard to get now. If he doesn't call, then you don't talk to him. Let him come to you. I know its the hardest thing to do because you want to talk to him and etc. Every guys started out a relationship good.. I mean they'll say the most sweetest thing and do the cutest things.. THEY D0 THAT BECAUSE ITS THE BEGINNING. as time go on.. it became less and less. So just make him jeaklous like he did with you. PLAN A.
If plan A doesn't work.. then PLAN B. ask if he have time ..come hang with you for a lito bit. don't tell him you want to talk or anything. just say you miss him and you want to see him. Then when he comes.. just be cool for a lito bit. Then tell him you want to talk. Say you notice that things been falling apart and you want to know if he wants to make it work. Don't show emotions or cry. hold it in. don't let him see your weakness. its the hardest thing but that keeps him from thinking he have you. If he's being like that.. he doesn't deserve your love. There are a lot more guys out there for you. If its not working out don't hold on to it. Then you'll be hurt 10x worst. let it go before it gets too far. The relationship isn't going to work if only one person wants it badd.. the other person must want it as baddly too. Its not going to work if you're willing to make it work and he's just like w/e about it. So yup. Also tell him, trust is somethin you earn. If he showed you that he can't be trusted then you can't trust him. Plus he needs to understand you got out of a really bad relationship therefore the trust thing is fragile when it comes to you. He needs to be sensitive about it and prove to you that you can trust him not ask you why dnt you trust him.
About your friends.. you ned to drop the ones that can't support you and keep the ones you can trust to the fullest. the ones that won't talk behind your back and back you up even when you're wrong but tells you the hurtful truth. The friends that aren't supporting you 100%.. they're not worth keeping.
hope I helped ? good luck.
this is my AIM sn: shietitzvy. IM me anytime when you need someone to talk to or need help with the bf problem. its easier.
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15/f
so theres this guy and i really like him a lot but the thing is he knows i like him but doesnt know me or even what i look like ... and one of my best guy firends is best friends with him and my best guy friend is dating my best girl friend so me and my biff have been trying to set something up where all 4 of us could hangout together...we are probably hanging out tommorow ... so 1st do you think this will be awkward? 2 what should i wear?!? 3 i need conversation topics .. ive never even talked to him before at all! (hes uber shy)
ahhh im so worried i really need some help i really want and need this to work i havent had a boyfriend in over a year and i havent hooked up in 6 months so i really want this to work out and i reallyyyyy like him
please and thanks
okay first of all, RELAX! second of all, BE Y0URSELF is the best policy. If this guy doesn't like you for you then it wouldn't work out.
Something to wear, okay.. depends where you're going. If you go to the movie and mall.. then be casual but also dressy. Wear jean and tank top with a sweater over and sandals? or skirt and a tee and flats or sandals. Wear earrings, light make up, and accessories not too much. I'm not sure what you have in your closet so I'm just do random pick. ask your friend for opinions too.
Topics you can talk to him about .. well just talk to him about anything. be random. talk to him like you would talk to someone you know. Don't try to impress him. Ask him what he likes, get to know him, but also be flirtyy. Then something will come up and you guys might have a few common things. Just be yourself! don't try to impress him to where you're not you and its a totally turn off.
hope I helped. good luck and have fun =].
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hey!how do I get a guy whos looking just for a one time thing to want more???can u guys give me some tips?plzzzz im not looking forward to commitment just not a one time thing more likely if it could last all summer..since hes leaving after anyway
help plzzz
tips would mostly help..
thx in advance
talk to him about it. Be like lets be friends with benefits. you want to be a summer thing. see if he agrees? I doubt he wouldn't since he's a guy and all. Just be straight up with him but show that you're taking control and not like one of those easy girls. Be natural lol. I'm not sure how that works. Just be yourself. Be friends with him but you just want "benefits".
good luck. hope I helped. =].
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ooook so to make the story short, i liked my best guy friend for a year, never said anything because he had a girlfriend. he breaks up with the girlfriend and we start a friends with benefits relationship, i only gave him a hj and we felt each other up. i started to like him again, like alot, like i thought i loved him and the night i decide to tell him he gets a new girlfriend right before i get the courage to tell him. so we ended the friends with benefits for the month that his relationship lasted...then we started again with the benefits. drama started with his first ex after she found out what we were doing and we stopped for like 2 weeks and then started again. now 3 girls like him and he wants to end it for good. so my non boyfriend is ending our non relationship. i hinted to him that i still like him and he knows i used to like him but him being a stupid guy said "well since there were no feelings involved it should be easy to just stop" now i dont want to complicate all this even more so i told him that i dont like him. guess what i do like him and there were feelings involved. even though it was friends with benefits when we were together it was like we were going out because he was romantic about it. so yeah i feel like we're breaking up and tonight i cried more than i did after i broke up with an actual boyfriend i had last year.
how do i get over this? should i tell him i really do like him before he gets another girlfriend? i know friends with benefits wasn't a good idea if i have attachment issues but its too late for that so dont lecture me please.
o.k. this is S.U.C.K! ya friend with benefits [FWB] .. there's no such thing as no feelings involved. If there weren't any feelings then you two won't be doing things. He sounds kinda like a player to me. I think you should stay away before you get hurt even more. Unless you know that he have some sort of feelings for you.. otherwise you're risking your heart.
I've been through this first hand myself. This guy and I .. we were good friends. I liked him and somehow we became FWB. Then I started to like him a lot! I thought he likes me too because he gave me all signs that he likes me. Then later I found out he didn't? its confusing. so we stopped when he graduated. Therefore, I was hurted.. I didn't know what to do.
Unless its a sure thing, don't tell him anything. If you like taking risks then I say go for it and deal with the consequences. That means you'll be hurted even more than you already are if he doesn't like you back. Then who knows, he mights like you. Be ready for anything if you are going to tell him how you feel.
This is really up to you. You need to make a decision of what you want. if you want to get over him then don't tell him how you feel. Just let it go and move on. Don't think about him or have any contact with him for a while. Just do your own thing and let time do its job. No more FWB.. if you think your feelings will be involve. If you decide to do FWB .. make sure you can control your feelings.
hope I helped. good luck =].
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okay so, i dated this boy for about a year, after all that time, he started taking everything we had for granted and bragging about things that had happened, i had liked this other boy for a while and i found out he liked me and it pushed me to break up with my boyfriend, we dated for two weeks, he got drunk, and broke up with me through voicemail, after a week of crying and not knowing he was drunk when he had done this, he now tells my bestfriend that he regrets everything and started talking to me again, in the week or so we weren't talking, i started hanging out with my ex, and i still really like the other boy, but i don't know if i should trust him enough not to do the same thing again over the summer. help?
I say you should give it a break and date neither of the guy. Just take to them and have fun. Since trust is an issue right now. So why not have fun and while figuring out your feelings than make your choice and regret. I think you should talk to your ex and the other guy. See how it goes with both. Have them gain your trust and work hard to get to you. Let them know you're not some kind of cheap hoe that they can have and leave whenever they want. Its summer, have fun. Don't get involve in a relationship that you're doubting. You'll winding up hurt or lust. keep your options open and see which guy you have more connection with.
good luck. hope I helped. =].
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First let me start off by saying i have been with my boyfriend since October 23rd 2005. I'm 15 yrs old , and he just turned 18. My parents let him move in the 3rd month we were together, so we have been living with each other for awhile. I cheated on him a couple of times when we first got together and everytime we get in arguments he brings it up. I'm really in love with him , when im not around him for one second i have this feeling of lonelyness. We fight all the time , he always says i start them but sometimes i dont. Ive been trying really hard not to start an argument but it doesnt seem like hes putting in any effort. He always calls me names even if we just get into a disagreement. And theres been a couple times hes hurt me physically. He's choked me a couple of times and pushed me down. I know deep down hes not really a bad guy but im scared hes going to really hurt me. He always leaves me when he gets mad and im the one that always has to call him to come back. Hes hurt me mentally to where sometimes i think im not all there. Im young and my mom and dad are really concerned , i shouldnt be going through this. I was wondering if anyone could give some advice on mabe to make this relationship better , because i really dont want to have to leave him. Theres alot more to my story but im not going to write anymore.
- kaylaa
Yes you are very young. You have a whole life out there to experience. What your bf is doing to you is WR0NG. I know he is not a bad guy but no matter how upset he gets with you, he SH0ULDN'T hurt you physically or emotionally. Yeah, he loves you and you love him. But think about it [without including feelings but logically], does he really loves you? I mean if a guy truly loves you, he'll never lay his hands on you. He would control himself and take his anger elsewhere. I suggest you tell him to go to anger management. As for you and him, tell him you need a break and sort things out. Its better to work a relationship out when you're not together. Especially when you guys are constantly fighting. Its harder to work it out when you two are still together. Calling you names isn't a way to treat a girl. You should show him where you stand. If he calls you name.. let him know its wrong and you won't take that. Have your parents involve, tell your parents to let him know where he stands because he's 18 and guys at that age think they owns the house.
I know you want it to work out and you love him. But also think about your safety and how much this can affect you and him. If the relationship is not healthy soonner or later, you will grow out of it and get tired of fighting constantly and emotions will fade. Its just not good.
here's my sn: shiet itz vy .. if you need someone to talk to.
hope I helped and good luck with the bf.
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alrightie. so im close friends with a lot of guys and stuff. and tonight were going to the movies. my 3 girlfriends and 6 of my guy friends. there is this one boy that i think is eally cute. but im not sure if ilike him. i think i do but jsut the fact that he has a girlfriend is holding me back from liking him. so its me my 2 other girlfriends the guy i think is cute (derek) and 4 of my other/his guy friends. well this week derek has been ignoring his girlfriend. im not sure if they got in a fight or not. but he hasnt been talking to her online/myspace/on the fone/ on AIM. he called me a couple of nights and hes like im bored whats up? and stuff and liek i knew he wasnt on the computer because i can always hear him. hes a loud typer. and since i was on the fone with him he couldnt be with her. and she comments him on myspace sayin baby whats up? havnt heard from you in a while. well we have had this movie night planned since last week. and today his girlfriend called me and yelling at me telling me that im stealing her boyfriend. and im like what? so i asked him about it today and hes like me and her just got into a fight today because she thinks im cheating. but i know thats a lie. because my friend was with him. so does he like me? i mean were going to the movies and i wasnt going to go because im really tired but he like wants me to go hes like i miss you and i havnt hung out with you in a while. and were going to a romance movie. and i know his friends like my friends who are coming. and i just dont know. like what if he makes a move? i mean he has a girlfriend. and the fact that his girlfriend called me thinking that im stealing him. when me and her are like best friends. and now she hates me. also, she might show up to the movies. i was reading my friends comments on myspace. so i have no idea what to do. and i have been trying to call him and hes like in 4 text messages:
1. Look, im sorry i cnat talk.
2. Ok....uhhmmm..so...
and then i texted im liek c na you text cuz you said you cant talk?
he said:
3.Very true. lol sorry i sound wierd. uhm yeah
then im like are you ok? anyways how much money should i take tonite?
then hes like:
4: Ehhh im fine. dont worry bout the money cya tonite
and he normally doesnt write like that..
and the first letter of each text message...spells love...im so confused on what to do. the movies at 1130. i think. so yeah. help!!!
Hi, I know I'm younger but thought I can help. You should just go and act normal. If he makes a move, well remind him that he has a gf. You don't want to be involve unless he sort things out with her. You don't want to be a backstabber to your bestfriend. Trust me.. its not a good thing. Be honest with him. I think he has some sort of interest in you or else he wouldn't talk to you and giving you signals. So just go with the flow. Have fun. Stopp worrying too much. If he makes a move D0NT fall for it. If he cheats on his gf.. imagine if you go out with him. He can do it to you too with your other bestfriends. Just set him straight. [if he makes a move on you that is]. Cuz if you go along .. and hook up with him.. you'll be known for a backstabber, slut, hoe.. etc. N0T A G00D THiNG.
good luck. hope I helped. =].
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My feelings in a relationship aren't clear to me.
I have a boyfriend [of almost 3 months] he's amazing, believe me. But we have seem to have nothing in common, only that we are "weird". I spend a week with him over break... and now that we are in school again.. I'm kinda bored with my relationship.. because all we seem to do is.. make out and laugh at jokes.
But.. I think I like this other guy. I'm not sure if it's just a little crush.. because I'm getting symptoms of liking someone [this i know].. [thinking about them, hoping i see them around the hall corner, blushing, smiling too much when they acknowledge my presence, or when our eyes meet together in class] I think I like him for his looks only.. so I'm just waiting for that to go away.
But how can I be so sure?
I'm stuck..
I like my boyfriend, not love.. because I honestly don't. There is feelings for him.. Maybe opposites attract?
I don't know.
Any help? :[
You're just tired of being in a relationship. You're not ready for commitment. Yeah, you like you're boyfriend but at the same time you want to have fun. Maybe you should tell your boyfriend that you need to take a break. Take that time to sort your feelings. You don't know what you have until you lose it. So maybe when you're not with your boyfriend, you can date and stuff, then maybe then you miss your boyfriend and appreciate him more. Maybe so your feeling will come back. If it doesn't and you're still the same, then you and your boyfriend weren't right for one another. You both should stay friends, or friend with benefits, or however you like. If you have mixed feelings and you keep on leading this on.. it would hurt him much more when he finds out later.
hope I helped. and good luck on making your decision. Do what you feel is right. =].
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Okay so theres this guy that i really like and he likes me back i hate to use the term "friends with benifits" but thats pretty much what we are. (we hug alot, kiss, and we'e madeout a few times). so every relationship ive been in i break up with the guy, and not really for a good reason i just kind of loose intrest, i guess i just like the chase..so i really like this guy and im scared that if i go out with him ill soon get sick of him and break things off..so im not sure what to do, if i should risk going out with him and end up breaking up with him or if i should just leave things like they are??
Also can i please have some advice for how not to get tierd of guys and maybe be able to commit top a longer realationship.
thanks :)
I know how you feel! I've been dealing wit this problem for a pretty long time. "The Chase" is always been fun. That's when you're trying to get his interest and work to get the attention that you want. Once you have the guy.. what's there to do other than move on. right?? I know its a BAD habitt I'm trying to drop too. But there's nothing you nor I can do. Its just part of our personality. I came to realize that.. we'll will grow out of it. Plus its not that you don't want to commit. Maybe you just haven't found the right guy to keep your interest in a relationship.
I think you should give that guy a chance and start a relationship with him. Who knows. .. you might be able to commit to him. If you get bored.. then it wasn't meant to be. Plus you're still young. you have all the time in the world. you dont need to commit now.
To commit longer in a relationship, well you can't flirt. stay away from guys as much as possible. You should be only talk to your bf, and hang out wit your bf. so mainly N0 0THER GUyS!. Think of the things that attracted you to him. Learn to deal with his flaws. hmm.. that's pretty much it. The main ones.
But usually it doesn't work. its just part of your nature. You can't help it. You can't really force yourself. just go with the flow. don't plan too much or push yourself in a direction you don't want. you'll grow out of the "single&hookups" scene. Then when you're come to an age where you are ready to commit. You WILL! you're heart and feelings and especially you will know.
hope I helped. =D.
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I am really angry right now. I have been staying at a friends place for a while and she was crying and really upset right now. My friend (lets call her Christina) really really likes this guy named Tacquin. The days I have spent here they hung out/flirted/and yesterday went to the movies (with me and a friend as well). A couple nights ago she told me she had sex with him. I was so suprised since she is only 13! She has liked him for two years and I honestly cant stand him. Last night he got her upset and she practically ran away at the movies until I got her back to her senses. He followed. He then told her "I swear to god I care about you and I will tell everyone to leave you alone and noone will hurt you. I will defend you and I really like you and I will never deny that we had sex cause Im not ashamed because I care about you" now she was overjoyed and then today as they were talking on the phone he told her he had a girlfriend. He has had one for over 3 weeks. She was crushed. He had sex with her and in my opinion completely used her. She is soo broken by it and he is trying to tell her that she shouldnt care and stuff. What should I do or say to convince her to stop liking him? She still does. Should I confront this jerk? Any ideas??
There's nothing you can really say to her. She can't help it, if she could I bet she would get over him already. She doesn't have a choice because she really likes him. No matter how horrible he is, she can't just get over him. In time she will get over him slowly. All you can do is be there for her. Let her lean on your shoulder to cry on. Don't judge her.. if you're her friend. Show her how to have a good time w/o that jerk!. She'll be back on her feet soon. Also show her diff guys who are better than that jerk. A guy who will treat her 10 times better.
hope I helped and good luck. =]
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How do you get your bf whipped? Or realllllly needing of the gf? like i guess... REALLY interested and wanting more and more!!??
If he really l0ves you or likes you a lot and he doesn't want to lose you.. that's when he's whipped. If you act like you don't need him much, caring, less jealous, like less clingy. Then he would wonder more about you and listen to you more so he won't lose you. He would do anything so he can keep you to himself. BUT THIS IS ONLY WORK IF HE IS HELLA INL0VEWIT YOU.
but why would you wanna get your man whipped? you two you treat equally and your bf should care about you enough to do things for you not because he is whipped but because he cares. You wouldn't want to take control over him either. A relationship is suppose to be communication. O0h at times if your bf is whipped.. he grew to get tired since you're always in control. Then the relationship will grow apart. So think before you decide on something.
hope I helped. =].
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19/F
Ok this seems long and soap-opera-ish but please bear with me. I’ve gotten rid of some of the details to make it shorter but please tell me if it isn’t clear enough. And please don't rant at me about being a cheating b**** or anything. I know I am a bad bad person. I just need you to tell me what to do.
Nate has always been the typical "rich bad boy" type. He gets a pack mentality when he is with his boys so he’s labeled an official ***hole. He's had a pretty bad past and when you get him alone, he’s different. He and I go a few years back when I wasn't into the party scene, and it got around that he "wanted" me. I shot that down and he gave up. I've been intrigued by him (i.e. had a crush on him) and we always used to exchange looks all the time at school and parties and I could feel the sizzles (but wasn’t sure it was mutual). Only last year did we start talking a bit inside and outside school. Then I finished school and didn’t see him.
In May, I met Blake. He’s ridiculously good-looking, the sweetest guy ever, and a cook. I didn’t think he was into me so I backed off then recently, Blake started showing interest in me and I was thrilled. We were perfect for each other, our life goals and views were the same, we had minor arguments sometimes, which ended with practically no resentment on either end, and we always made up quickly. It was the perfect relationship. I was still a virgin but he understood because he had only been with one chick (his year-long girlfriend in grade 11).
End of last year, Nate and I ended up at a party together. I was hammered out of my mind and we had sex in a bedroom. It was harsh to the point that he did it, shoved me away and left. I was broken after. Eventually, I told Blake and he was mostly sad for me and he did whatever he could to make me feel better. Including sex and it was just like the rest of our relationship, comfortable.
Then one day, Nate showed up at my house after I saw him at the mall and went home all shaken up. We had sex. We have had sex about five times now altogether. Usually it’s when I’m vunerable. It’s pretty much casual sex but it is explosive as in really really hot, stuff I thought didn’t exist outside novels. Blake and I haven’t even come close, even though there is some sizzle, it isn’t comparable. Told Blake once and he was mad but he came back and told me he’d still have me and he didn’t understand. Usually Nate just has sex with me and sticks around for a while and leaves but one time, he actually stayed after and kissed my face and stuff.
This is what confuses me. Blake and I are perfect for each other and it’s not a completely devoid of sexual drive either but when I’m with Nate, it feels right like it’s exactly where I belong.
I’m just so afraid of hurting Blake. I want to stay with him but at the same time, I feel like puking when I think about what a disgusting unfaithful slut I’m being. And I’m pretty sure Nate doesn’t want a relationship. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to look back twenty years from now and regret it. I know that bad boy’s can’t be tamed but I know his history and I kind of still ache for Nate but Blake is just perfect.
Help?
I know I'm 2 years younger but I thought I could help out. If I was a judgmental person.. yes you are a cheating slut. But then I'm not so .. lets see. You're not a bad person. You just can't help yourself. For example, you have two bags. One you're totally in l0ve with.. but it doesn't go with any of your outfits. Then, the other bag you have.. its alright, not too bad.. you like it [like second choice]. It goes with every single outfit you have in your closet. So which one would you prefer??
Imply that to your situation... Nate is your first bag.. number choice. Blake is your second choice. Its not how perfect you and Blake are together, or how well he treats you, or how sweet he is. What matters is who has your heart. Nate has your heart eventhough he treats you like a booty call [no offense]. At times love doesn't make sense. You don't chose who you're going to fall in l0ve with. It just happens. It doesn't matter how well the guy treats you. You're just so in l0ve that even if he treats you like dirt.. you would nver let go.. cuz he's the only one that can make you happy.
I think you should make your choice with no regret. l0ve is a 50 50 chance thing. You either risk it all .. or risk nothing. If you were to chose Blake.. do you think you l0ve him enough to make the relationship last? will you be happy with him years from now? [you think you are happy but deep down, are you really ??]. If you really l0ve him, you wouldn't have sex with someone else more than once. You didn't have any remorse for havin sex with Nate either. That's not love hun.
With Nate.. I know he has your heart because of the way he treats you.. and you still head over heels for him. Maybe you like bad boys. You like him because you can't have him. Eventhough you guys are havin phycial contact but you don't have his heart. That's why you want him.
Which ever one you decide to chose.. don't regret it because you made that decision. Decide as if it is what you believe in and you don't give a care what the consequence is. If you chose Nate.. think about Blake's feelings. How you should break it to him. Make sure you really end it between you and Blake. Its not fair for him if you keep on cheating on him. If you chose Blake.. then end everything with Nate. NO more FWB [friend with benefits]. Make sure your feelings for Blake is real and true. Make sure you look beyond now.
hope I helped. =]. good luck.
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is kissing ur bf like kissing ur dad?
I don't think so... if you like your bf then .. you wouldn't feel like you're kissing your dad.
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Me and my boyfriend are REALLY close. We've been going out for about 2 years. He calls me everyday after school. I go to his house/he comes to mine like 3 times a week. On the weekends, he calls me at 10:00 EXACTLY to tell me good morning. Don't get me wrong, I love him to death! But.. it's kind of getting old.. I've been talking to other guys, and I think I might want to take a break from this boy. Should I stay or take a break?
It seems to me like you're having doubts or getting bored. If you need some air or some room to breath.. I think the best thing to do is to take a break. If you keep this relationship going and you're talking to someone else.. eventually you and your boyfriend would fade away since in your mind is what happen if I go out with someone else. But if you decide to take a break .. that case you can experience with other people and you can compare to your bf. From that you can see who you would prefer to be with. If you truly love your bf, you will get back with him. If not, then you know what to do.
but just talk to him, have him understand how you're feeling... if he loves you.. he'll try his best to understand and wait for you. In the end its up to you to either take a break or stay. Follow your instinct and feelings. hope I helped and goodluCk!
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This is a very long question because i have alot to explain so please be ready for quite a long read.
It all started a few months ago when a college mate was becomming very desperate to get a gf, he was asking people left right and center and then was rejected almost every time until he met this girl. From what i can guess she didn't want to reject him like he had been before and after two days told my friend "she wasn't ready for a relationship right now" this completely destroyed my friend and he spent weeks getting over her until finally he started his search all over again. i wasn't exactly heppy over this fact because it seemed to me that every so often he would complain about how "he was never going to get a gf" and stuff like that. I tried my best to help him and tell him that he was looking in all the wrong places. This went on for a few more weeks but while this was going on I ended up talking more and more to the girl and we became pretty good freinds. She helped me through a breakup i had recently gone through. The problem occured when i realised i was developing feelins for this girl so i ended up talking more and more to her. This put a serious strain on my friendship with my friend because I soon found out he was not over her yet and had been talking to her while i had been. After a while of this she told me she had feelings for me and i told her i felt the same way. Things with my freind got very bad here up to the point where we stopped talking but i couldn't just ignore what i was feeling for this girl. She told me she would go out with me if it wasn't for my friend and maybe she would later on when he got over her. I knew she didn't want to hurt my friend and i was half expecting her to say it but it didn't make it any easier. She also told my freind at this point she wouldn't take things any further with me but i didn't find this out til later through one of my other friends. Time passed and me and her got alot more friendly with each other and we were always talking and stuff. I didn't know what to think at this point because I felt very confused about what she was telling me and what she was doing. Then one tuesday (i'll always remember that tuesday, it was the worst day of my life) at the end of what had been a good day (she had borrowed my jumper because of the cold) after class i waited outside her room and walked her to her buss then did wha i normally did to get home. After getting home i went up to my room and turned on my laptop, signed in msn (the usual stuff) and kept a close eye on it incase she signed in, I stayed up til 3 in the morning in case she came on but she didn't so i justsorta fell asleep. The next day i was so tired and worried because i didn't know what had happened (she usually caem online at some point) but it was wednessday so i never saw her then later I was on msn and she came online. she told me in painful detail about this boys house she went around on tuesday. I kept thinking to myself why she was telling me these things and whether she realised how much she was hurting me. A few days after this she came up to me with tears in her eyes telling me that this guy had told her he only wanted a bit of fun with her and never cared about her. I couldn't help but feel a little happy about this and that made me feel terrible about myself. I hated that i was taking joy in someone elses misery. Things went on and soon we were almost back where we started until one day she told me that "she didn't want another relationship". I was too blind to see that this was exactly what she had done to my friend before. I thought about it and said i still wanted to be freinds but I wish so much i had just walked away right then because it would have saved me from the worst pain i have ever felt. This went on for a little while and I realised that she had a thing for the guy who had hurt her before and he aparently wanted a real relationship now. I asked her repeatedly if she liked him and it hurt more and more each time because i knew she was lieing to me. Eventually i got her to admit the truth and i just couldn't take it. I walked away to around the corner and blacked out. according to my friends I acted normal during this time but i couldn't remember any of it. I later learned this was due to stress.
This is where i am now, it's been a month since all this happened and for the most part i'm over it. That is to say that you wouldn't know from looking at me what i'm feeling inside but every night i cant even sleep because every time i close my eyes I relive those painful moments again and again. I havent had a good nights sleep since this happened. I cant even see anything that reminds me of her without the tears welling up in my eyes and I have to make some excuse to leave. MY question is what do i do, because I cant keep this up for much longer and also is it a good idea to move on? even if i still feel this way?
I need serious help and any suggestions would be much appreciated. If your still awake after reading that please give me any thoughts because i am completely lost.
Wow! that was long and painful. First.. at least now you know how your friend felt while he was trying to get over her. But umm back to you. I think you can do better than her. Don't try too hard to get over her because then you wouldn't be able to forget her. The more you're trying to forget her, the more memories of her will pop up in your head. Just let it go easily. If her image pops up .. don't fight it. Think of the good memories instead of painful ones. Then .. in time .. she'll just be part of your memory and life goes on. It will be hard.. at times you would feel like she need her and want her and how much pain she putted you through. But you need to be strong about it. Ask yourself if she is worth your time? tears? love? .. if she hurts you like this.. and she doesn't care about you or give you the time of her day.. do you think she's worth while?. Even if you have her now.. knowing that she'll screw you over for another guy. You'll be back from the beginning trying to get over her and in pain all over again. DO YOU THINK ITS WORTH IT??.
.. I suggest you should have fun, go on with your daily life. Try to hang out with other girls for a while. Don't talk or see her for a while until you're over her. Choose friendship over girls. Seriously nothing is worth more than friendship. When that girl left you.. all you have left is that friend of yours. He'll always there for you no matter what. But that girl comes and go.. didn't last forever. So just try your best to be happy and not be too stress over a girl who doesn't worth your time. One of these days there will be a right girl who comes along and brighten up your day.
hope I helped.. good luck with everything .. and get your life back on track =].
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17/M
I know I've asked similar questions but I don't think I've been asking the right question. Sex vs.Love, I'd like some advice. In the battle between sex and love that I've been fighting I feel like I love her, I cry when I talk to her because I miss her. I haven't cried in 4 years until I started going out with her. But at the same time, I really miss her touch and what we do. Whenever I see her we do something to do with sex. Is there something else we can do? Is this excessive? We see eachother every weekend. In this scenario I just need to know, what is greater, sex or love?
If you love her then .. whether you two have sex or not it shouldn't matter to you. If she decided not to have sex any more and wait til marriage. Since you're completely in love with her then you wouldn't mind and respect her decision. Sex is a physical thing. Its great to do it. But Love is a more emotional thing. Love and sex doesn't go hand in hand. Love is when you care for that person endlessly. You put their happiness before yours. All you want to see is for the person you love to be happy even if it kills you inside. You're not selfish when you love someone. You're able to open up to the person you love. There's no secrets between you two.
Sex is something more physical. Of course if you both love one another ... you two want to be close to one another and be intimately. But don't let sex overpower the relationship. Love is about honesty, communication, and trust.
when you two see one another.. you guys can talk about anything. You can tell her something she nvr knoe about you.. and she can do the same.
but you guys can have sex too.. just not a lot.
I can't tell you which one is better sex or love. its all on your opinions and how you look at it. You can see it in a diff way than I do. But I can try to give you the best examples and my opnions.
hope I help =].
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I can't seem to stop comparing myself to my boyfriend's ex-girlfriends and old "crushes." I know he loves me, but I just can't seem to stop thinking, "She's thinner than me," or "Wow, she's so much prettier than I am," and "She's so funny, do I make him laugh as much as she does?" The irritating thing is a lot of them are still his friends, and he sees them when he's away at college. He's completely against cheating, but I still worry that something will spark between him and one of his exes and he'll leave me.
Incase it matters, I'm 19 and female.
I know I'm 3 years younger but maybe I can help you out. Its okay to have those feelings. You're just worried and jealous [in a way]. But think about it.. those girls are his past. You're his present and future. He loves things about you that those girls doesn't have. Or else he wouldn't be with you. I understand that you're worried there might be sparks again. But if a guy is truely in love with you, no matter how mayne hot girls out ther, you'll be the hottest girl in his eyes. A relationship is base on trust. You need to trust him. If he goes out with 20 sexiest girls on earth, you would be able to trust that you're the only girl on his mind and he wouldn't do anything. Of course you'll be jealous if that's a case, but trust is a key to a relationship.
So just don't worry too much. He's all yours and not theirs. hope I helped =].
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13/f
sorry this is long!
Lets start...Theres this guy,Cody,we've been best friends since like 4ever.And our moms are too.he used to cum over whenever his mom sold stuff to my mom,but she quit that job so we dont see eachother very much nemore,cause I moved to homeschool and he goes to public school.We've been b/f & g/f like 3 or 4 times b4...and every time i told him that I would NEVER fall 4 him again.But latley i've been finding myself daydreaming about him and getting all exited when he calls,and then when we are done talking i get all 'perky'...Im confused...i even feel like i might even "Love" him!But the thing is...i'm scared he'll hurt me...(not physically) agian...every time we've went out,hes either,broken up with me because he didnt like me nemore or because of a new girl.Hes even cheated on me once!But i forgave him every single time,I dont wana ruin the friendship but I dont wana look baq and think what it coulda been.PLEASE HELP!!!!!! (will rate answers)
I've been in your shoes before. I came to realized this guy doesn't love me and he's just using me as a booty call. I've been hurted so many times by him that I told myself not to fall for him again but then when I talk to him.. I fell for him all over again.
So I think you need to be strong and tell yourself that he's not appreciate you. You're too available to him. Let him call you and knowing that you won't be there. Then he will be wondering why isn't she here. What is she doing .. etc. When you're less available, the guy takes you more seriosuly. Guys love girls who are hard to get. It makes more fun and interestin for the guys and it makes you more valuable. When the guy have you.. he learns to appreciate you. He had to work to get to you. Its like a thing.. if you work you get the bag that you love then you will appreciate it more than the bag that you reallyy want but you can just get it like that.
I think you should just laid off with him for a little. Get your mind and feelings straight out. Be strong. try not to fall for everything comes out of his mouth. it mights be sweet. but its all b.s. if he kept on hurting you.
I hope i helped. good luck =]. a guy like him aisnt worth it. you deserves better.
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