|
my boyfriend and i cant talk
well, i have a boyfriend and lately it seems we cant talk about anything. even when i try to talk about something it's like it doesnt matter to him.such as, i'll start talking about this "talking problem" and he'll be like, "oh, i didn't hear a word you said, but one of my friends is on the line with us". i just dont understand him anymore. like in the begining of our relationship he was really serious about everything; he would talk about all of our problems with me. ask me if i was okay with something. and i'm scared because he's been talking to a lot of girls lately and it bothers me because a lot of them he seems to be really good friends with and i'm just worried. maybe he's getting bored with me...a lot of guys seem to do that with me, or that's how it seems. are we in a block?...i dont know who to talk about with this stuff, i cant go to my mother, she doesnt take anything i say seriously and all my friends don't even really support me in anything right now. i dont even know if i have any real friends any more. i dont even know if you can help me with my problem, but i just dont know what to do anymore. i dont know what to say to him or anything. im scared we are going to fall apart and i dont want that to happen because i love him with all my heart. i would die for him, but i dont know if i can trust him to do the same. i dont know if i can trust him with anything. i just got out of a really bad relationship about 9 months ago and i have a lot of trust issues and i told my guy that and he said he understood but at the times when i say i trust him, i mean it and then later on, like with the girl stuff, when i say i dont agree or appriciate that, he says he doesnt understand why i cant trust him. he doesnt even say i love you that much anymore and its scaring me. i care about him so badly, will you please help me?
you can contact me at xxmusicforlovexx@aim.com
thank you so much
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Heyy. okay. first, take a deep breathe in and out! Sounds to me like his feelings are fading. Maybe he just need some spaces ya know? Every guys want their space w/o their gf on their back all the time. He sounds like the type of guy that would make promises and break them.
I think you just give him some spaces.. do your own thing. If he talks to girls.. you talk to guys eventhough you're much in love with him. But if you cling onto him, he'l take advantage of that and think you're easy. He wants girls that he can have and have fun with right now. Play hard to get now. If he doesn't call, then you don't talk to him. Let him come to you. I know its the hardest thing to do because you want to talk to him and etc. Every guys started out a relationship good.. I mean they'll say the most sweetest thing and do the cutest things.. THEY D0 THAT BECAUSE ITS THE BEGINNING. as time go on.. it became less and less. So just make him jeaklous like he did with you. PLAN A.
If plan A doesn't work.. then PLAN B. ask if he have time ..come hang with you for a lito bit. don't tell him you want to talk or anything. just say you miss him and you want to see him. Then when he comes.. just be cool for a lito bit. Then tell him you want to talk. Say you notice that things been falling apart and you want to know if he wants to make it work. Don't show emotions or cry. hold it in. don't let him see your weakness. its the hardest thing but that keeps him from thinking he have you. If he's being like that.. he doesn't deserve your love. There are a lot more guys out there for you. If its not working out don't hold on to it. Then you'll be hurt 10x worst. let it go before it gets too far. The relationship isn't going to work if only one person wants it badd.. the other person must want it as baddly too. Its not going to work if you're willing to make it work and he's just like w/e about it. So yup. Also tell him, trust is somethin you earn. If he showed you that he can't be trusted then you can't trust him. Plus he needs to understand you got out of a really bad relationship therefore the trust thing is fragile when it comes to you. He needs to be sensitive about it and prove to you that you can trust him not ask you why dnt you trust him.
About your friends.. you ned to drop the ones that can't support you and keep the ones you can trust to the fullest. the ones that won't talk behind your back and back you up even when you're wrong but tells you the hurtful truth. The friends that aren't supporting you 100%.. they're not worth keeping.
hope I helped ? good luck.
this is my AIM sn: shietitzvy. IM me anytime when you need someone to talk to or need help with the bf problem. its easier.
]
More Questions: |