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Well me and my ex after we broke up we were still talking. and then after awhile we didn't talk for a year. And then out of the blue he starts talking to me again and like i still ahve feelings for him deep inside of me things that make like i can't stop thinking about him. and then one night he calls me and was like baby i love u ur the 1 that makes mi heart go crazy and was like making me feel like some1 realy cared about me that much
so he was like i'm going 2 call you like 2marrow or the next day but it's been like 3 weeks and he never called me. and wen i looked at his myspace he's always talking 2 gurls. But wen he's on and no1 ealse is on like mi profile view's go up like 20 views up. i mean i have these feeling wear i can't stop thinking about him.
can people help me like with things like 2 help me talk 2 him are things 2 do in my situation?
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When a guy says he's going to call, and then doesn't, the reason is usually one of the following three things:
(1) There was some kind of genuine emergency that prevented him from doing it.
(2) He's so nervous, he can't bring himself to do it.
(3) He's blowing you off.
It doesn't seem to me like #1 is the explanation, because apparently he has time to go on myspace. I also doubt that he's too nervous, again because you have history and he has no reason to be THAT scared to call you. So, he's blowing you off.
I think he needs to be called out on it. It's inconsiderate of him to rekindle something like this and then shut it down. I think the time has come for you to call him and say something like, "You said you were going to call the next day. Then you didn't for three weeks. Are you trying to hurt my feelings, or are you just being thoughtless?"
Here's what I think is really going through his head: I think he's afraid he said too much in the heat of the moment during that last phone call, and he's having second thoughts about whether he wants to start this relationship again. So, he's spending time looking at your myspace page and thinking about you, he's talking to other girls and comparing them to you, and in the midst of all this he's probably completely lost sight of the fact that three weeks have passed since he said he would call. I'd STILL call that a blow-off, even though it's not a malicious one. He's still thinking only about his own feelings and not considering yours, so you have every reason to be upset.
If you want to get some results out of him, then put it in his terms. Guys like things to be straightforward and clear, so you need to give him something of an ultimatum. If he wants to get back together with you, then (presumably) that's something you're willing to talk about. If he's not, then he needs to avoid things like calling you, feeding you some lines, and then clamming up for a month while he thinks about whether he really meant it. It's not fair for him to play games with you that way.
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He might have chickened out on calling you or got scared and didnt know what to say. Ask him if he still feels that way and that you should talk or meet up sometime. Now i don't want to get you upset but he might have changed his mind. Guys are strange sometimes..well alot of the time so just try and talk to him and get him to go out with you somewhere or do something. But be careful because as the previous advice said, he could just be playin games with you. If he likes you and he tells you he does again and wants to spend time with you then get him to go out with you and do stuff together. If hes acting indecisive and confusing then i know its hard but your probably better off without him. Just be straight to the point. Ask him "do you or do you not like me" if you wana ask him out then do it! If you love him then do it! It's worth a try. Love xXxPuNki-PiXiExXx
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This relationship is pointless. He is playing head games with you. Your going to have to get over the feelings and move on. I mean who takes a year to figure out thry love someone dearly?
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