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Scared Of Gettin Hurt (Again)
13/f
sorry this is long!
Lets start...Theres this guy,Cody,we've been best friends since like 4ever.And our moms are too.he used to cum over whenever his mom sold stuff to my mom,but she quit that job so we dont see eachother very much nemore,cause I moved to homeschool and he goes to public school.We've been b/f & g/f like 3 or 4 times b4...and every time i told him that I would NEVER fall 4 him again.But latley i've been finding myself daydreaming about him and getting all exited when he calls,and then when we are done talking i get all 'perky'...Im confused...i even feel like i might even "Love" him!But the thing is...i'm scared he'll hurt me...(not physically) agian...every time we've went out,hes either,broken up with me because he didnt like me nemore or because of a new girl.Hes even cheated on me once!But i forgave him every single time,I dont wana ruin the friendship but I dont wana look baq and think what it coulda been.PLEASE HELP!!!!!! (will rate answers)
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It's hard to get over someone. Being friends with them afterwards doesn't help the situation at all. Don't date him again. As much as you like him, he's not right for you right now. He'll continue to break your heart over. The bad news is that if you remain close with him you'll continue to fall for him over and over. Although you probably won't want to take my advice, I think that you should stay away from him for awhile until your feelings have calmed down. It's not that you can't be his friend anymore, but you need some time apart to get the closure you need. Relationships aren't just about liking someone. They're about being compatable with them too. You're not compatable in a relationship with this guy. Maybe in a few years, but for now, it's not going to work out. If you really want this to work, staying away from him for awhile doesn't mean a week. It means however long it takes for your feelings to go away and trust me, it's not going to be a week. It's probably going to be closer to a year. I wish you the best of luck and please, whatever you do, don't date him again. It really isn't going to work.
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I've been in your shoes before. I came to realized this guy doesn't love me and he's just using me as a booty call. I've been hurted so many times by him that I told myself not to fall for him again but then when I talk to him.. I fell for him all over again.
So I think you need to be strong and tell yourself that he's not appreciate you. You're too available to him. Let him call you and knowing that you won't be there. Then he will be wondering why isn't she here. What is she doing .. etc. When you're less available, the guy takes you more seriosuly. Guys love girls who are hard to get. It makes more fun and interestin for the guys and it makes you more valuable. When the guy have you.. he learns to appreciate you. He had to work to get to you. Its like a thing.. if you work you get the bag that you love then you will appreciate it more than the bag that you reallyy want but you can just get it like that.
I think you should just laid off with him for a little. Get your mind and feelings straight out. Be strong. try not to fall for everything comes out of his mouth. it mights be sweet. but its all b.s. if he kept on hurting you.
I hope i helped. good luck =]. a guy like him aisnt worth it. you deserves better.
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