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hey everyone! im caitt♥ yes, im only 13, but trust me ive been through alot. from parents getting divorced, to bad relationships, to losing friends, to people from my family passing away, to my whole family being on a hitlist. so yeah you can pretty much ask me anything. i usually get a chance to get on this site at least once a day. dont hesitate to ask me questions. send me something in my inbox and your question will be answered the same day! also if you add me as a favorite columnist, i automatically add you because you added me =]. thanks for reading. byee♥
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Right. This could be a bit long.
For the last few days/weeks, I have been thinking about having a baby. Me and my boyfriend are very happy and it definatly looks like we will be together for a long time. He has mentioned before bout kids and stuff. but I always said to him that I would but not yet. I am only 17 years old and I have got a 2 year course at collage coming up. also i dont know if he would actually want a kid yet.
but I have been thinking and I would really love to have a kid.
Can someone please help me change my mind because I know I'm to young to have a kid and I probly wouldn't be able to cope. Even though I'm pretty sure my mum would help me out if I did have a child.
Please help me change my mind because I really want a kid but I am only 17.
Any advise would be brilliant.
Thanks
xXxXxXx
hey, well i dont its your age that matters. i think its because your going to a 2 year college program and you probably wont be able to take care of your kid. i think you should wait until your done with college then have your kid. liked my advice? add me as a favorite columnist!
-caitt♥
hey right just wondering what are the tell tale signs that someone might like you when talking to them on msn??
hey, if they hint to you that there single is a major one. also if there fliry towards you. if you need some flirting tips go to http://www.links2love.com liked my advice? add me as a favorite columnist!
-caitt♥
ok... so im confused... well i've been treated like pure shit when it comes to boyfriends... they all start out amazing but end terribly... i no alot of relationships end badly but this is pretty ridiculous... my last one we were dating for like 5 months... the day he left for vacation he told me he loved me... 9 days later when he got back from mexico he broke up w/ me... he really didnt have a reason... and i havent done anything to make him all of the sudden want to break up.... the only thing he said is he was going into highschool (i already go to the highschool) and it is going to be cross country season (which i thought was a poor excuse becasue i play tennis)... well i know you dont want to read alot.... but seriously i want to talk to some people (ill tell you about myself so maybe you can help me understand y this keeps happening) but basically i really dont understand and im confused becasue i dont know y some guys are like this.. i told myself that they were just stupid and made a mistake... hopfully u can tell me... but before you do i think you need to know about me.... so please respond and ill tell you about me
hey, well next time before you get into a serious relationship make sure the guy is 100% commited. flirt alot and make tons of eye contact. if you want some flirting tips go to http://www.links2love.com its an amazing site! liked my advice? add me as a favorite columnist!
-caitt♥
I've been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for over 3 years now. I suppose to everyone else he's a dog- thats just what I've been told, but it was never the most important thing to me. He has the best personality and he's hilarious. My problem is, I've started fantasizing a lot, and I know its ok to do sometimes, that its normal and all, but I can't stop. I can't stop wishing he had a hot body like some of our friends. When those friends are around, I find myself flirting shamelessly because I'm just overcome with lust! He's said he's going to start working out and that he wants to get fit, be more attractive physically, but he's not very motivated. I want to stop fantasizing- it makes me feel so guilty! I'm starting to pull away from his affection because I can't help but notice his love handles or spare tire or whatever. My body is less than perfect, but its not that bad because I work out and take care of it. Is it wrong of me to feel this way? How do people deal with these feelings???
hey, just think about what you love about your boyfriend. every girl flirts with other guys sometimes [ even when they have boyfriends ]. its okay to do but when it gets too far you need to stop. maybe you and your boyfriend could join a gym together and both get fit. that why you guys can spend time together and then he will be movitvated to go to the gym with you. liked my advice? add me as a favorite columnist!
-caitt♥
My bf keeps telling me what girls hot, and etc. It lowers myself-esteem. How do I look sexxy, so he looks at me, more then them. How can i plan hard to get, for him to want me more. I just want him to want me still.. we've been together for a year and a half.. so dont go saying breakup. Its not that harsh.
((sorry if you've seen this question twice.. the other one got deleted.. sorry))
hey, well spend a little more time on yourself and getting ready before you see him. maybe add more make-up and get some new clothes and do your hair up cute. also tell him that it lowers your self-esteem. if he loves you enough he will care and fix the problem. if not then its his loss.
-caitt♥
I really like this boy...and when ever i talk to him i dont know what to talk about it always ends up in an akward silence. i need help on things to talk about cause i really like this guy. thankss a lot.
hey, talk about things he likes too. treat him like hes your friend and you wont get as stuck on a subject to talk about. try going to http://www.links2love.com
-caitt♥
where can i buy two nice rings for me and my boyfriend. I only have 80 bucks
hey, go to filenes.
-caitt♥
okay, basically, i have a hickey on my neck, and its big and purple
ita hot, so no turtle necks, and i dont wear collars
the cover i have isnt working at all
anyways to make it go away faster
or any other ideas on how to hide it?
hey, well i thinky uos should but some cover-up on it. also wear a scarf like not one for the winter but just for like fashion purposes. you can also wear your hood on a sweatshirt.
-caitt♥
I was at work yesterday at the college I go to and there was a high school recruitment thing going on. This girl and her friend asked me a question about the Ticketmaster we had and I gave them the number for it. When I found out they wanted tickets to a country concert, one of the girls said she hated country. When she said she like Pink Floyd and stuff, I jokingly said "Haha what's your number? J/K" Well a few minutes later, her friend gave it to me. This girl isn't that attractive and goes to a high school far away from the college I go to. I didn't know that at the time and asked her out for coffee. When I confronted her about the high school thing, she got all sad and shit and said you prolly won't talk to me again. I'm not that mean and I said we should still go for coffee. She will not stop text messaging me. I don't know how to politely tell her I don't want to do this anymore and to get her to leave me alone. I don't want to hurt feelings but this has to stop. Any little interest I may have had in getting to know this girl has quickly evaporated. How do I tell her to buzz off?
hey, well next time you should find out more info on a girl before telling her that you want to get to know you. telling a girl that your not interested in her because of where shes from is like a stab in the heart. just explain to her that you dont like her in "that way" and that you just want to be friends.
-caitt♥
ive been goin out w/ my gf for about 6 months now. but yesturday i heard from 3 people that she liked this other guy from her church but she wont admit it can someone give me a good way to make her confess that she does like someone else
hey, what you hear sometimes isnt true. it sounds like you already questioned her about it. maybe you went about it all wrong? if you said something like "i heard you like someone else come on now admit it" thats wrong. say to her "i heard from the some friends that you like someone from your church, is it true?". also explain to her that if she tells you that she does you will not get mad. tell her that in the end it will ebe better for the both of you. also tell her that you might have to breakup with her if she does like someone else, and that it would be easier just to tell you if she does.
-caitt♥
There's this guy who says he likes me (on this site) and I have no idea how to talk to him. Because I don't know who he is...he sent me a personal question about a girl named milly, me thinking it was a quincedent answered and when he gave me feed-back he said i like YOU (my name is milly)...so what do?
I don't get in a relationship with someone I don't know and I don't meet with someone somewhere who I talked to over the Internet...I want to ask him why and a bunch of questions...
please help if you know what I'm talking about and trying to say...
help!
hey, well then just ask him. also explain to him what you just explained to us!
-caitt♥
Well I have dated this guy for about 3 months and i fell in lvoe with him but I had found out that one of my crushes from before liked me and i did stuff with him too and broke up with my ex because i felt so guilty. The thing is no one will ever treat me as well as he has or does but my feelings ffeel like they are fading yet I dont't want to lose him...I am so confused about what is going on and what i should do. I will always remember him and honestly NO ONE will EVER treat me well like he does
hey, the same thing happened to me like a week ago. i stayed with the one i loved not the crush. hang out with the one you love [ just you two ] and spend more time with him. build a solid relationship.
-caitt♥
What attracts guys to girls? Like what personality traits or whatever?
hey, go to http://www.links2love.com
also flirty girls who make the first move and stuff usually attract guys.
-caitt
hey, thanks for reading.
so i'm working at a summer camp this year and i became really great friends with this kid, josh. we started talking online and last night i hung out with him , his sister and her boyfriend, and his sisters best friend. ( i know his sister and her best friend really well .) so we went out to eat and hung out for a little and then saw a movie. we sat next to eachother , and we were both kind of leaning towards eachother on the arm rest, but we werent touching or anything. today he called me and we were talking about the movie , and he goes, so my sister was pretty convinced we were on a date last night, do you know anything about that? and i just kind of laughed and said i didnt think it was either. i am really beginning to like him, he's two years older but it seems like we click really well.
what do you think? i'd really appreciate opinions, good or bad.
thanks:)
hey, well first off age doesnt matter. i know people might tell you that it does, but if your in love age def. doesnt matter. anyways if you guys click well then i would continue seeing each other.
-caitt
I don't understand why boys my age think I'm not that pretty but then guys 6 years older then me think I'm soo sexy. I can't find a boyfriend my own age but then I find a boyfriend whos 5 years older then me who thinks I'm gorgeous and loves me !! When my dad is driving me to somewhere and I feel like waiting in the car all of these 20 year olds park their car right next to my dads and they stare at me and start whistling and then honk at me when they drive away and start waving. But then I walk into school and the boys that are in my school could care less about me. I don't get it!!! Why are guys 10 years older then me think I'm attractive and random dudes come up to me saying I'm hot when they are like 22 and the ones my age think I'm just okay?!!?
hey, im not sure. try asking the guys your age what they dont like about you. also havign a boyfriend 5 years older then you isnt a bad thing. age doesnt matter, even tho people always say it does.
-caitt
Last night I found out that my close friend slept over my boyfriends house. He didn't tell me that she was going to even though I was with him all day. That really anonyed me because he doesn't even want me to come to his dad house (it's a 30 minute drive from here & he says he hates it there) The girl is one of my close friends, but I know her well and she tends to almost act like they're going out by doing little things like touching his arm and getting really close to him (and she has a boyfriend) I can flat out say I trust him but I don't trust her especially because she lets other guys do stuff to her and lies to her boyfriend all the time. Yes, their good friends but why was she sleeping over his house in the first place? It just seems odd. Do I have the right to be mad? I want to get back at him so bad for not telling me .. idk what to do ):
hey, yep you should be mad at him. first let him try to explain himself. also explain to your friend that you dont feel comfortbale with them doing that.
-caitt
this question is for both boys and girls.Let;s say you really like someone, and she/he is single.Would you still go out with them even though they have had two or three girl/boy friends in the past?or do people prefer girls/guys that haven't been attached before?
For instance, I prefer girls who haven't had a boyfriend before to girls who have.
hey, it doens matter to me how many relationships a person has had in the past. as long as he was into me and stuff its fine.
-caitt
how do i know if he's with me 4 sex or not
hey, ask him.
-caitt
Okay I like this guy and we've been going out and like he really really likes me too and my parents dont like him for some reason and i dont want to break up with him and my friends dont want me to go out with him anymore and want me to break up with him to but I rele dont want to what should I do ?
thanks
- xoxo Vanessa
hey, well its not your parents that are in a relationship with him. its not your friends that are in a relationship with him. its you. just because people want you to break up with him doesnt mean you should. if your still in love with him then stay with him.
-caitt
16/f. At school I get hit on all the time, and at the mall, things like that. I am so not a slut I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and never had sex. The thing is I'll be walking down the street and there will be these like old mexican gardeners and they will like check out my ass and that just disgusts me so much. I feel so disgusting because of them. How do I get over this?
hey, it happens alot to pretty much every girl. its a part of life and you just got to learn to deal with it. also you should take it as a compliment lol. thats what i do.
-caitt