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would you ever consider going out with girls/boys who have h
this question is for both boys and girls.Let;s say you really like someone, and she/he is single.Would you still go out with them even though they have had two or three girl/boy friends in the past?or do people prefer girls/guys that haven't been attached before?
For instance, I prefer girls who haven't had a boyfriend before to girls who have.
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doesnt matter for me , as long as they arent sluts or something. That jus shows that a lot of ppl saw the samething in that person that you see.
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well for me it doesnt matter that much. but you have to remeber that soon everyone would have had a boyfriend/girlfriend and there would be no one to date. but what really matter i think is not in the past but what kind of relation ship you guys have. i hope i helped!
kckstartmyheart
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hey, it doens matter to me how many relationships a person has had in the past. as long as he was into me and stuff its fine.
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It wouldn't matter to me if the guy had girlriends before as long as he's a faithful person I can trust,nice,caring,and respectful to me that's all I ask for in a guy.
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9I'm speaking from a male perspective, but I think it applies either way)
Up to a point, it doesn't matter whether they've had several boyfriends. I say "up to a point" because if I were looking at dating someone who had gone through a dozen boyfriends in six month's time, then one has to wonder why none of them stick around for very long.
One also might look at the sort of guys a girl has dated in the past. If they're all pieces of scum, then what does it say about her that these are the guys she chooses to associate with (for that matter, what does it say about you that you're next in line?)
For the most part, though, it's immaterial. The present matters more than the past. In any event, I'm married now, and totally relieved to have left that whole mess behind.
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I see what you mean, but as you get older you have to accept that everyone you meet will have been attached to someone else at some point. For example, it would be very difficult to be 20 years old and find someone who had never been with anyone else.
My boyfriend, for example, had been with three women before we got together. Now, I won't lie and say that it doesn't bother me a little but it would never have put me off being with him because at the end of the day, everyone has history and as long as it was nothing truly awful, you should never refuse to date someone purely because of something or someone in their past.
I can see the attraction you might see in finding a girl who has never really been with a guy before but you can't restrict yourself only to girls who don't have a history because it will serve only to make life difficult for yourself. Bottom line, if you like someone and they like you too you should go for it and forget the past.
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At some point you won't have anyone else to date because everyone will have been w/someone. It's inevitable, but as for me, I go w/my heart. What's good about someone having had a boy/girlfriend before is that you can find out how they were in that relationship. If they treated their other relationships in ways that you don't like, chances are that will be how this person will treat you as well. That could save you a lot of pain and heartache. But, whatever your decision, it is your life path and how you want to live it is fine. You don't want to be with anyone who's had a boyfriend before? Then don't. This is your ride and as long as you don't hurt other people you can live it the way you want to. Enjoy and good luck!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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personaly it doesnt matter to me. i love to be a guys first but if i am not then it is ok. if i am into him and he is into me that is what matters. i have been with my bf for a year now and still whenever he talks about another girl i get jealous. i question the hell out of him about her and even though i know he loves me i still get jealous.
it is grat to go out with someone who hasnt had past realtionships but then again. it is harder because you gotta make them open up to you and they dont all know what to do. hope thsi helps
♥ Steph
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I prefer both, for both different reasons.
Well let me tell you i'm a very, jealous type.
I have been with my boyfriend for about 10 and a half months, and everytime he talks about a girl, i get jealous, and i'm stupid enough to ask him questions about his ex's, then i get jealous. (yeah, i'm pathetic)
The reason i like when guys have had girlfriends, is because they know how (or should know) how to treat a girl and how not to, and they are probably a little experienced.
Now, the reason if they didn't have a past relationship is because (well for me) they have no one to talk about how they're ex did this and that. And you are most likely they're first whatever, and guys probably like it because they feel like that are in control.
So both can be good. :]
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I personally prefer guys who have had girlfriends, just because he would've had a little bit of practice before the relationship. But, I can see where you're coming from, when you prefer a girl who hasn't had a boyfriend, just because you'd want to be her first everything, and stuffs. =]
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I really don't see what the big deal is. As long as I am convinced that the past is in the past, it will not matter. If anything, I prefer someone with a background. Personally, it would drive me nuts if it were otherwise. I would rather not have the chaos that might come along with first time feelings.
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Well I mean ususally they don`t care if you were attached to someone before unless you did "stuff" with them , like for guys girls usually don`t care if they were with someone and did stuff with them because their guys , but for girls guys would usually care if the girl did stuff with a guy if they are looking for a seriouse relationship , but if they just want to do stuff with the girl then they`ll go with the girl that did stuff with other guys in the past , but it really matters at what age you are and how many boyfriends you have had , because if the girl is like 16 or 15 and she only had 3 boyfriends than that`s okay , as long as she didn`t do stuff , but if the girl is like 10-11 and had 3 boyfriends , then that`s not so good. So just think over it , & I hope I helped. Good Luck! ♥ =]
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