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i wrote to you earlier today about my troubles im 17 and im a male and ive lost trust in my girlfriend we have been together for 2 years she cheated on me in an early point of our relationship when she cheated our relationship was fine no arguments we were okay but as i said i happened along time ago i forgave her it doesnt bother me any more im an understanding person after the initial shock i was ok but recently she went on a trip with her friends i was ok with it but while she was gone i realized i dont trust her i dont think she would cheat on me i just get that filling in my stomach and then i think what if i mean i know she loves me and she knows i love her but if i fill like that when she goes away it could become a problem for both of us i just need to know if you have some advice on how to get my trust in her back (link)
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There isn't a sure shot remedy for this... What I think is you should just try and talk to her about it.. Its only when she assures you that she is never gonna do it again will you ever be at peace... But dont just storm at her... When you two are alone, tell her that you love her more than anything else and that your priority in life is her happiness. Then tell her that you feel really uneasy when she goes away coz you think you might lose her again the way you lost her when she dwindled in the relationship previously (don't use words like cheated and trust)... Then tell her never to leave you ever again... And say mushy stuff like that. Trust me, its all gonna get sorted.
XO
DS89
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ive been with my girlfriend for two years and i love her to death im 17 and im a male she cheated on me once but i forgave her but recently she went away for a couple of days to hang out with some friends of hers i was ok with it but while she was gone i realized i dont trust her anymore but i still love her and to me trust is a very important thing in a relationship i dont know why i dont trust her anymore i think it probably has something to do with her cheating on me but i just need some advice on what i should do to get my trust in her back (link)
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Hey!
First of all, trust is really very important in a relationship. I have gone through a lot of issues in this in my previous relationship. I used to fight with my guy a lot and cry my eyes out and accuse him of cheating me... But he never really gave it any importance and continued going out with other girls because I used to whine so much when he would call and he was so bugged with me. After a point, I realised that, I was making a complete FOOL of myself. I had got obsessed about him being ALL MINE and all that. So I let myself ease up a bit thinking less about my "obsession" and spending more time with my friends and other guy friends...And soon enough, he started thinking why I was all normal all of a sudden. He actually started going out with me when I went to meet my guy friends and hung out with me more often.
You have been with her for 2 years...That’s a lot in these times. You know her mentality pretty well now. What was your situation when she cheated? Were you completely normal? Or were you going through a rough patch? Are you in the same situation now? I don't think so...
You say you love her. That is a very strong word. So don’t compromise on your relationship because of one mistake she made. Try and love her as much as you can so that she doesn’t get an excuse next time...
Also, try not to think about it so much...Give her the space she needs. You too may have friends, hang out with them, have a nice guy time and talk about guy things...Meet new girls (as friends).. This will help you to think about other things.
When you say you have forgiven her, forgive her entirely. Don’t let bits and pieces of the past eat you up coz later on it can be a big thing.
Do mail me again so I can know how it’s going. I wish you the best, bud...
XO
DS89
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I have never had a boyfriend, nor have I felt the desire. I wanted to wait , until I was mature, ready. Last week, at a party, I met a guy. I just loved him, maybe not loved him, but wow.
I never like guys, but this was different. He had all the qualities, I really liked him.
My best friend, HAD a boyfriend at the time. They were going though a rocky patch.
A couple of days after , my best friend's relationship ended. She was PRETTY gutted. She said to me, I still love him. The guy I met invited her round (cos he did get to know her, as well) and he turned round and kissed her. She didnt stop it - obviously I know she was on the rebound - BUT she didn't even like him - I mean she was making little remarks about him during the party.
He said to her, that he really liked her. And now they are going out. WTF.
I am so hurt, I can't even breath. My friend doesnt know I've fallen for him, and now, they're happy together. I am so gutted, it hurts so bad, the first guy i like and I'm already been knocked down. I spoke to him and he was saying all this stuff about how happy they are and I had to sit there and smile.
& I have to be a best friend to her. I am not going to say I've fallen for him, when she's going out with him and she's on the rebound. But it hurts so bad because, well this is no jealousy issue she gets what she wants. I am second best against her(not as intelligent,pretty etc) that DOESNT bother me, because I know I am still a good person :) I am totally secure.
But she gets everything, and it's just lie YOU HAD A BOYFRIEND, why for once? Couldnt I get the guy? I've never felt this attraction, and now. It's over.
The whole gang go out together all the time, I have to sit there and be happy for them.
God, I''ve been crying. I never cry.
How do I get over this? I mean, what advice do you give me?
I Still wanna hang out with the gang - just because my best mate and him are there doesnt mean I should stop hanging out and dodging them. I should be happy for them, I should support her right no matter how much it hurts me, right? (link)
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I can’t help but feel sad for you... You sound like a very strong girl. But, sweetie, sometimes you feel like your second best. But that's not true. You are an individual who for the first time liked someone. But he just couldn't be yours. Not this time at least. Think about it this way: Maybe its just not supposed to happen right now. Maybe some other guy is probably waiting right now for someone special and it could be you..
I say stick around with your gang. Get used to seeing those two because I know, for one thing, it might just ease the pain. Don’t compromise out on your happiness. And don't try and avoid the boy to get out of your misery. Think of him as just another guy. Try and be his best friend. One day he might just be yours. This is your first heartbreak. It's gonna suck big time! You won’t forget it. But at least you will learn from your experience.
I'm not trying to be preachy...But I actually felt really sad reading about your problem...
XO
DS89
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Hi i'm 15 and a girl. you see when i was 13 i met this guy and really fell hard but i never told him how i felt and eventually i got into a different relationship and moved on and he started dating a friend of mine and we got close as friends. Recently his relationship ended like HARD it really hit him. you know how first break ups are and she wouldnt just leave him she'd still flirt and send mixed messages. I stopped being her friend and spent all my time helping him and such. these past two days he told me he was depressed and really just wanted to do something physical with anyone really to possibly distract him. He asked me first if i wanted to just basically make out and such without the relationship part. but you see i'm in a relationship now with another guy so i kinda said no. However now i cant stop staring at him and just wondering what it would be like to kiss him just once and etc. Today we were waiting outside an office to get some forms signed and he was really flirting. he stepped on my shoes one on top of the other and i was like 'stop i'll fall' all giggly and he was like 'not if i catch you.' and he put his arms around me and gently tried to knock me back and he was so close my heart was racing so hard. and now i've like not been attrated to my current boyfriend at all but i would hate to hurt him cause he tried so long and hard to get me and i just dont know what to do....help (link)
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Look, i do not think it is a good idea to get physical with this guy if your a girl with sensitivity issues, coz then u might just get hooked onto him. But if you feel you can stop your emotions from moving forward, do it. It will stop your curiosity. But then there might be consequences like if he turns out to be better than your bf, you might not be attracted to your bf. Then not only will you lose your bf, this guy wil not be with you coz he's already said that he doesnt want a relationship.
Whatever you do, think of its consequences. If I were in your place I would have stuck to my bf, and tried to make the other guy less important in my life.
Best of Luck, Sweetie...
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I'm in a serious relationship but there's a problem. I love my boyfriend (I'm female...sorry :P) but I'm not physically attracted to him anymore. Like I think he's hot (because really, he is!:P) but when he tries to kiss me or hug me I just roll my eyes - I just don't want to do it back to him.
I used to love hugging and kissing him but now there's just something in me thats died. I only have two (pretty lame) theories: 1. I've been finding studying and work stressful (I just started a new job) and I thought that may have something to do with it and 2. I started taking the pill about 4 or 5 months ago and I've heard that can effect that sexual drive - or what ever it's called.
Anywho, my question is does anyone know what could be causing this? And any ideas on how to overcome it?
Thanks heaps (link)
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I think that you should definitely talk to your doc about the pill.
But I presume that you have got so used to your bf that it is affecting your sexual attraction towards him. I've been through the same thing and I somehow understood that even though I still loved him, i was at such a stage of my life that other things were more important to me than sex (that, for you, could be your work) Also, we made out frequently in the one year I was with my bf which, towards the end, made it very meaningless and boring. Probably if you wait for sometime and then make out, i think both of you will have a good time (because the whole desire thingy might build up inside) lol ...
Best of luck, sweetie...
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Hello, I'm 15/female.
THIS IS NOT LIKE THE OTHER RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS, HELP IS GREATLY APPRECIATED! ALITTLE LENGTHY.
Okay, so I've known John for almost a year now, we met in school were we have 1 class, and lunch together. We talked in school, as friends. Well the last 2 months of school her met my best friend Jess at a party, they both got drunk & you know what. Well they began to like eachother, which was great. I talked to him about her in school, not badly or anything, but he'd ask questions about a girl he liked, which is normal, right ? Okay well my Jess would fight with me & tell me he and everyone else said I was flirting with him, which I wasn't. So I talked to him about it, he never said I flirted with him. Jess also told him the exact thing, just vise-versa. Well John seemed to think she's jealous of me.
Another time we were at a party, Jess got out of control, John couldn't handle her alone & asked me to help. I did, she punched me in the face. He got mad because she was so out of control & they got into a fight. Well later on that night, he was texting me & seeing if I was okay and if I needed a ride or anything, and got into the subject that she has a lot to be jelous of me for, may I mind you they are going out now. Jess & me fought because her boyfriend talked to me, even though I did know him first..
Now they haven't been going out for a week, and a few days ago he commented me on Facebook and said, 'so you stop talking to me now" and commented my picture saying I was cute. Well I commented him back. & he started texting me again, saying things like he wanted me, would ride me all night LOL, he just kept saying he wanted me, things like that. So later on that night, he called me & was like Jess is retarded, & he three-wayed her with me, her not knowing. And he was a total ass to her, calling her slut and saying that he was talking to me and to give me all his things because he'd be seeing me, knowing she'd get mad. Well Jess and me fought again, because I commented him back and because I was talking to him. After that me & John stayed on the phone talking for almost 2 hours. He says in the middle of the conversation " Honestly can you talk to any guy like this " I said no, because I can't. Well I think he's into me, or atleast wants to 'get busy.' & in his facebook, it says like Thanks to people, I'm 2nd, right after his best friend, I'm in caps, and periods all around so I'd be noticed, he said.
He claims to not like her at all, and be 100X happier without her. Also he thinks she's a slut & liar. Also he always has weird Facebook names about her, like "She has STD's" stuff like that. Does he just like Love to Hate her, you know?
He trusts me a lot, and always came to me for help with her or when he thought she was lying btw.
Now me & him haven't talked for a few days, and he called Jess one night when he was drunk & asked her out.
To my questions,
1) Am I wrong to be talking to him when, I knew him first, even thought he's my best friends ex & she forbids us to talk.
2) Does he still like Jess ?
3) Does he like me or just want to have sex with me ?
4) Should I text him, or wait for him to text me, which he might not do ?
5)Should I give effort to him, or his he 'over it' since he hasn't bothered to text in almost a week.
6) Does he just use me to get to her(to get her angry), as she says ?
7) Any other imput is great!
Thank you so much, sorry for the length & scattered-ness. I will clarify if asked. (link)
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Ok hun,
1.you are not wrong to talk to him. I think your best friend is just posesive about him. Probably john must be telling her stuff about you to make her jealous (trust me, guys love cat fights). Just talk to him like you talk to anyone else. See if you are giving out any wrong signals at all.
2. No he does not like jess. Infact I dont think he likes any of you. This guy is bad. He likes to get attention. When jess gave him attention you didnt, which is why he was bothered and so he started talkin to you. And when he and jess stopped goin out you gave him attention and jess didnt so he asked jess out again.
3.He totally wants to have sex with you and leave you. I think that is what he's doin with jess too. This guy is a sucker for sex as i understand.The way he gives you hints about 'riding you' and stuff totaly proves it.
4.Do not text him. Wait for him to do so. And then ask him to come clear of all this. Does he like jess? If he says no then ask him why did he ask her out? And remember a guy is never too drunk to not know what he is doing, right?
5.Do not give any effort ,hun. At school just act like he is just another friend. Dont respond to his flirty behaviour. OK?
6. As I said guys love cat fights. And 2 girls fighting for him is obviously making him feel like king of the world or adonis or whatever...He wants to see to what extent the both of you can go to get to him.
7. I think since jess is your best friend you should give her a call and tell her that john is all hers and that you never liked him in that way. Tell her that you dont wanna spoil your friendship for a guy which in my case is the worst thing to happen.
Just remember that guys will come and go but having a best friend in the present times is rare. And i hope she understands.
Best Of Luck hun,
xxxxxDarkSide89xxxxxx
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Soo ive been dating this kid for the past 14 months.. We have been on and off but i think our relationhip is pretty strong.. Anywayz about a week ago i got caught smeakin over to his house for the night and his mom flipped out on me.. She completely cut me down and then kicked me out of her house.. Then she called my parents and told them that me and my boyfriend were on crack! Which is all lies. Since then my boyfriends mom took his car, threatned a restraining order againt me, tryin to get random drugs test on me and him, took his cell and pretty much isnt goin to let us see each other.. So now i cant relle see him and i barely talk to him and i feel liek things are falling apart.. He said he would do anyhting to fix out relationship... but is it relle worht it?
Please help.. (link)
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Have you ever tried talking this out with your parents? I think you should bring ur parents and his mom together for a talk. She wont listen to what you have to say but she obviously will listen to your parents. Tell your parents this
: "Mom,Dad, if you want you dont have to trust me anymore for your whole life but just this one time ...trust me. I can lie about anything but this." I think they should get convinced. But I think you should try everything to get this guy coz if it were someone else it would have been over and dont worry if a relationship is worth it it will really find a way out of the mess...
Best Of Luck hun...
xxxxxDarkSide89xxxxx
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Alright, so my boyfriend of 2 years and 4 months is finally leaving off to university in september. I am gonna be really devestated and i wanted to do something really nice for him as a good bye. I know it is like 3 months away but i want it to be big and memorable for him. The only idea i have is that i would like it to be a surprise. (link)
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When my boyfriend left for university, I made him a memory scrap book (Fabriano hardbound, 50 colored pages.) These are the things that i put in it:
1. A section of photographs of places like where we first met, kissed, wined-dined etc...
2.A section of our photographs with various people and alone.
3. A section of poems which i wrote for him.
4. A description of our relationship from the time we started dating, how he changed me, our best memories, et al..
5. A section of good-bye notes from me and all our friends.
I used a lot of deco like ribbons and sequins.
Apart from this i gave him 2 cds of our favourite songs and videos of time we spent together.
I didnt really take hm out but instead called him to my terrace at 3 in the morning. I also baked a cake for him...And we cried and celebrated and all of this at 4...It was really special and probably thats why even though he's far away we're still going strong..
Best of luck
darkSide89
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Ever since I was 12 years old, I had a crush on this guy (same age). We're now both almost 16 and he still doesn't know. He's been in most of my classes from the 6th grade to the 10th grade. We don't really talk. But we sometimes sit next to eachother (either from a seating chart or somewhere else) but we still never talk. Now, believe me...the crush is HUGE. I have ALWAYS tried EVERYTHING possible to get his attention lol.
Me and this guy speak the same language. The problem is that..I think I intimidate him ??...Like, I'm one of the smartest people in my class and I think that's a big turn-off because you'll always hear the teacher calling my name as the highest score or something. I also always used to cry in the 7th/8th grade because of any bad grades, and that mightve creeped him out. (He told one of my guy friends that I annoyed him when I cried)
I REALLY like him. And I don't know what to do. I've changed since the 6th grade (I used to be fat/acne/etc) And now I think of myself as much prettier/worthier. I can't tell if he's worth it or not (seeing as how he talked "shit" about me to my guy friend)
What can I do? What would you do?
I'm too shy to flirt with him :| he doesn't even talk to me!
almost 16/f. (link)
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Seeing your position, I cant really just tell you to quit liking him... Because i know what its like being next to the one person you like alot and not uttering a word to him...But let me tell you guys dont generally think "shit" about a girl without a reason...Have you done something that creeped him???(Excluding the crying part?) The answer is probably a no. And the person who told you that the guys been talking crap about you? Is he reliable? He could be lying, you know... The best way is to talk to him...You cannot expect things to happen on its own...Start with a simple Hi (with a smile)...Later,Move on to studies (and tell him how your people force you to study so he doesn't think youre a nerd)...And Finally, move on to your life gradually... It is simple...Guy dont like girls who are shy, they like girls who speak their minds and be themselves. And about the deserving bit- I think you are the judge of that. Look at the other girls he talks to. Are they as pretty as you? If no, then he probably doesn't deserve a pretty girl like you and if yes, then YOU deserve him...
BEST OF LUCK Hun...
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f/17
me and my boo, weve been talking for a long time like 6 months, and i think its time i ask him out since hes so shy. I seriously think hes never been in a relationship before and im surprised he grabs my hand wen we walk or puts his arms around me alot. I want to ask me out but dont know how. Hes really shy with that, and how can i ask him to be my boyfriend without flipping out, like getting a heart attack because he gets nervous?????I really want to be his girl, i need advice. How can i ask him to be my boyfriend??? (link)
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OK first of all, you're so lucky to have someone who cares for you... And the best part is, if you both date, he'll be your best friend and your bf's....
Conversations that can help:
1. You: Hey 'Boo', I've been thinkin alot...About us....you know...
Boo: Uh-huh...
You: Do you think we are friends... umm... or something more than that...
His answer will say it all. Or you can simply write a note to him
or
I know you wanna kiss him... So go for a walk...alone... take him to someplace quite and look into his eyes...And kiss his cheek...And look back into his eyes (with passion) trust me, guys always fall for this... Then if you kiss, Then its obvious that he likes you too...
Best Of Luck, sweetie, xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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i can not figure this out! i really like this guy let call him bob. well everytime i see him my heart pounds against my ribs like crazy i get butterflys everytime i think of him it's crazy! but then he asked my friend if i would go out with him and she said i dont know. then i got that feeling... like the feeling that your heart sank like when you really don't want to do something. i think i am afriad of commitment and having a boyfriend. i have never had a serious one. i really like to have fun but i really like bob! how can i get over these dumb commitment issues? (link)
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Commitment doesn't come as soon as you start dating a person... You start of with this liking thing... And then if you really like him and you think that he's the best thing that's ever happened to you.. Just tell him that you love him... Or wait for him to tell you that and then think if you are ready for commitment... Trust me, if either one of you will not be commited you will find better people for yourself... You likie him... and you are sure he likes you...then why wait...Enjoy life without these issues...You wont even know when you when you'll fall in love...
Best Of Luck Sweetie... xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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ahh so i dont know what to do. theres this [white] guy who recently got transferred to my school from a rather, mind you, 'ghetto' school in another county. hes like one of them skater guys but talks like a gangster kinda and is the total quiet but hard bad boy, but is a sweetheart when you talk to him.. kinda like eminems character in 8 mile. i dont know why, but recently ive become super attracted to guys like that. i guess its because he reminds me of my cousins ex, but i never liked my cousins ex like that?? so i dont know. anyway, ive talked to him once for like 5 minutes, so really i dont him at all, but im falling for him just because of his "type". and i have a boyfriend that im crazy about and no i dont wanna leave him. i just gotta snap myself out of likin this other guy, but i dont know how.. ahh annoying right? any help is appreciated! oh and hes in my class & lunch soo yeah kinda hard to avoid him because im obviously aware of his presence.. (link)
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I have the same creepy problem... What I do is that whenevr I see myself thinkin of this other guy... I immediately call up my boyfriend and talk to him to remind myself that there just CANNOT be a better guy than my baby... And now I've kinda got over that other guy and even made him my friend. The trick is to not make such a big deal about it and just be normal in front of the guy. Hang out with your bf mnore often to stop thinkin about this and even hang out with ur bf in front of that other guy... This way, even if the skater boy likes YOU he will get it that you love your bf alot and his feelings moight just stop...
Best of Luck Sweetie...
xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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ahh , 0k me and my b0yfriend have been g0ing 0ut f0r a m0nth . and its great bascilyyy ..
well we have an 0pen relationship , where we tell each 0ther everyy , well in the summer he REALLY liked my friend ashley [ like bef0re we started hanging ] she was like his first l0ve . well he really really liekd her and she screwed him 0ver s0 badley and he g0t raely hurt . tonight we was talkin and i was like wat did it feel like t0 be in l0ve and he said like she was the 0nly pers0n that mattered and all this 0ther shit . well i was like are y0u ever g0nna be able t0 like me like y0u did ashley , he said im really trying its just s0 hard t0 trust girls after her . s0 h0w d0 i get him t0 trust me with 0ut havin his gaurd up ? (link)
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Hey...the best advice I can give you is forget this shit and just concentrate on loving him like you do... I have gone through the same thing and I used to think about it so much it used to drive me crazy !! But then I just thought over and realised that it's of no use... All I can do his divert all his attention from 'the other girl' and love and care for him so much that he forgets her or atleast considers her unimportant. Do stuff for him to let him know that he matters... Like make cards or write poems,letters...You dont really need an occasion to show what you feel for him... And plus you have a long way to go...His wounds are fresh from his previous experience...You have to heal them with your love and time...
Best Of Luck sweetie, xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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im 15/f/ny to make a long long story short, theres this guy who i liked and then i didnt like him and when i didnt he asked me out and i said no but then when i realized when i couldnt have him i wanted him and then i fell in love. we were getting to be close friends and then he had no choice and had to move to florida which is 1300 miles away from ny =[ i havent seen him in 7 months but i talk to him online and myspace ect. hes coming back to visit in the summer. i really wanna be with him but im afriad it wont work out =[ what shoujld i do!? any suggestions or help i can get! please help me
signed helpless (link)
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Ok so when you talk to him online...Tell him stuff like, "I can't wait for you to come back again" or, Better still, why dont you ask him out this time...? Make up for your mistake and let him know that you are making up for it...When he comes back to NY make stuff for him which will melt his heart like a Banana Sundae...(heehee) Like, make a nice scrapbook for him filled with memories of the time he was in NY with his friends and YOU... Let him know he means a lot to you...
But always remember that when he goes back you'll have to put in a lot of effort to make this work because it's a long-distance relationship...
Best Of Luck sweetie, xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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Alright, so it seems that my boyfriend is not all sweet and stuff to me anymore when we talk, almost like he is distracted. I know that the 'honeymoon' phase is over but I still wanna feel like he misses me or appreciates me and he doesn't. Like I don't care if he calls me all the time but just since I don't see him much during the week I try to keep communication between us and he is just so short with me sometimse. What should I do? (link)
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You know sweetie, guys can act weird and dumb sometimes... The problem with you people is not about him liking you or not. It's how much you know about each other. And I dont think you know each other that well. Get to know him...Stuff which he is intrested in...his dreams and ambitions in life...how he spent his day...Dont forget to mention about your own personality... Tell him how much he means to you...Do stuff for him which will melt his heart to the core...Tell him hoe much you're girlfriends are jealous when they see how much you love each other... Make him feel glad that your his girlfriend and I'm sure all will work out great !!
Best Of Luck Sweetie, xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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14/f
I have never been fingered in my life, only rubbed.
My boyfriend tried to finger me, and when he BEARLY pushed I asked him to stop because it stung...
Is this normal..i've yet to be fingered because I am afraid..
My question is this:
How bad does it hurt to get fingered..
Or anything along those lines for someone who has never done anything sexual..
:[ help, please. (link)
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IT DOESN'T HURT TO GET FINGERED... It's like plesure pain, Like it may just sting for some time but it will go away in a few hours... You dont feel the pain...All you get is the pleasure...So dont be afraid...
Best Of Luck sweetie, xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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ok me and my bf have been goin out for like 3 weeks now and he wants to hav sex but i dont know if i should do it or not esp. this early. I need help on if i should have sex with him or not? Do you really think he likes me because he asked me pretty early in teh relationship? Please help me out
thanks~! (link)
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Yes sweetie, three weeks is way too early... You should just tell him that you're not ready for sex right now and you need more time to know him properly. If he really likes you he will understand. This way you dont have sex early and you get to know if he really likes you.
Best of luck sweetie, xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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my bf and i have been going out for 2 months 2mrw, and i love him to death. he sends me these messages telling me how much he loves me and how he was never truely in love until he met me. well him and his ex gf went out for about 8 months and then they went through a big break up. some how they remained friends and "best" friends at that.even though im not particulary found of her,(i have never met her, but talked to her on the fone), i don't care that they are friends, i don't want to be one of these gf's whose says that he can't be friends with her because shes his ex. but she calls him all of the time talking to him about how she madeout with this 19 year old guy when shes 15 and all this stuff that she can go tell her girlfriends, and she asks him all sorts of personal questions about us, like how many times have we made out (like we count) but anyways its driving me nuts and i don't want him to think that im jealous, i just don't kno wat to do about her????what should i do?????thanks for any help that you can give me (link)
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Ok... This happens all the time... But trust me, if you let him know how you feel, he will not think that your jealous or anything. Why dont you start like this...After getting into your usual conversation (When you're hangin' out with him),"...Baby, you're the best thing that's ever happened to me......Hun, do you, like, tell 'people' about us? Like, about whatever we do? Ok... because I dont want people to know intimate details about us...what we do is really special to me and I dont want other people to know about this and spoil it? Can you please not tell people about us...For me??" And try and not talk about his Ex.... Conversations between you and your bf are supposed to be about you both & people who really matter to y'all...And I dont think that his ex matters to you or him...
Best of luck sweetie xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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Okay so a few days ago my boyfriend and I were lsaying on a couch watching a movie and while we were facing eachother i whispered i love you. (this was the first time either of us has said it in person) and he just kinna smiled and kissed me. now i'm not 100% sure he heard me but it seems like he did.
should i see this as a bad thing? i expected him to say i love you too. please tell me what you think. thanks. (link)
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Ok... why dont you say it again... clearly... and then see his reaction...? I know it sometimes gets confusing for us girls to decipher our bf's actions.. but if you're not sure of what exactly happened, do it again... I think he loves you too because he kissed you when you said "I Love You"...
Best of Luck sweetie...xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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So okay. I'm 15/f and the guy is 18...and he talks to me every day...and when I come home and go on MSN...he starts flirting with me.
Some examples of things he says (exact) : baby, boo, baby-blue, love, darling, i love you, do you love me?, I'm gonna wait for you, call me when you're 18 ;)...and like a whole bunch of MSN emoticons...(love emoticons)
he's also very personal with me. Lately, i've been finding all of this flirting around strange. And I confronted him. Whether he likes me or not....he told me he was being JUST friendly...and that I mistook everything for love.
"I love you...more in a friendly kind of way. You mistook friendly for love".
But i know that's BS because when he said it...that he was just being friendly...he was in front of other people.
Is he denying that he has anything to do with me just because of what his friends will think? Cos it sure seems like it...and he was leading me on....and he keeps on doing it! It all seems to lovey to be JUST "friendly" Is this a common thing to happen?
=/ Thanks in advance. (link)
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Ok... first of all let me clear one thing out for you--- " PEOPLE WHO CHAT WITH YOU ONLINE CAN SAY ANYTHING BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT IN FRONT OF YOU." I'm sure it would have been a different case if they would have been in front of you. He is full on flirting with you because even if he would have been in front of his friends when he was doing this and he really meant what he was saying he wouldn't have felt embarrased telling you anything... So that's it...He's just using you emotionaly and I don't think you should trust him... Just let him be a friend only in the cyber world ...Dont let him enter your real world...
Best of luck xxxxxDaRkSiDe89xxxxx
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