|
my bf's ex
my bf and i have been going out for 2 months 2mrw, and i love him to death. he sends me these messages telling me how much he loves me and how he was never truely in love until he met me. well him and his ex gf went out for about 8 months and then they went through a big break up. some how they remained friends and "best" friends at that.even though im not particulary found of her,(i have never met her, but talked to her on the fone), i don't care that they are friends, i don't want to be one of these gf's whose says that he can't be friends with her because shes his ex. but she calls him all of the time talking to him about how she madeout with this 19 year old guy when shes 15 and all this stuff that she can go tell her girlfriends, and she asks him all sorts of personal questions about us, like how many times have we made out (like we count) but anyways its driving me nuts and i don't want him to think that im jealous, i just don't kno wat to do about her????what should i do?????thanks for any help that you can give me
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
hey, well she is just an ex girlfriend and he seems crazy about you! i don`t think that you have much to worry about, but if you can`t just resist letting it get to you, than you need to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel - not us. if he cares about you enough, he will stop talking to her as much.
]
She's jus the EX. She's no worry. He likes you and that why he's with you. The only thing that SOUNDS like he's doing wrong is that he's still talking to her.Your man hasn't gotten out of the habit of talking to to her. If all she asks personal q's, and he tells her, it's not like he's having an intimate conversation with her.
But if you don't like how she asks about your personal stuff ,just politely tell her "that's our buisness and I'm not comfortable with sharing that with you" But you can't control how your b/f speaks to others. He may see that your angry at him,but a relationship is based on trust. Without that, it could turn ugly. Don't bug him about it, and eventually he'll keep his conversations with her short. Some people can't let go all at once and get pulled back into talking too much with their exes even when it would be better all around if they had boundaries.Ask him if he minds her calling as often as she does. If he does, perhaps he should tell her so, or not answer the phone some of the time .If he's happy with things as they are, and is true to you, then lay off. Don't worry be happy. Hope this helps. Sorry so long.
]
Ok... This happens all the time... But trust me, if you let him know how you feel, he will not think that your jealous or anything. Why dont you start like this...After getting into your usual conversation (When you're hangin' out with him),"...Baby, you're the best thing that's ever happened to me...<Blah,blah,blah>...Hun, do you, like, tell 'people' about us? Like, about whatever we do? <Wait for his reply> Ok... because I dont want people to know intimate details about us...what we do is really special to me and I dont want other people to know about this and spoil it? Can you please not tell people about us...For me??" And try and not talk about his Ex.... Conversations between you and your bf are supposed to be about you both & people who really matter to y'all...And I dont think that his ex matters to you or him...
Best of luck sweetie xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
]
More Questions: |