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my relationship with my girlfriend
ive been with my girlfriend for two years and i love her to death im 17 and im a male she cheated on me once but i forgave her but recently she went away for a couple of days to hang out with some friends of hers i was ok with it but while she was gone i realized i dont trust her anymore but i still love her and to me trust is a very important thing in a relationship i dont know why i dont trust her anymore i think it probably has something to do with her cheating on me but i just need some advice on what i should do to get my trust in her back
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Hey!
First of all, trust is really very important in a relationship. I have gone through a lot of issues in this in my previous relationship. I used to fight with my guy a lot and cry my eyes out and accuse him of cheating me... But he never really gave it any importance and continued going out with other girls because I used to whine so much when he would call and he was so bugged with me. After a point, I realised that, I was making a complete FOOL of myself. I had got obsessed about him being ALL MINE and all that. So I let myself ease up a bit thinking less about my "obsession" and spending more time with my friends and other guy friends...And soon enough, he started thinking why I was all normal all of a sudden. He actually started going out with me when I went to meet my guy friends and hung out with me more often.
You have been with her for 2 years...That’s a lot in these times. You know her mentality pretty well now. What was your situation when she cheated? Were you completely normal? Or were you going through a rough patch? Are you in the same situation now? I don't think so...
You say you love her. That is a very strong word. So don’t compromise on your relationship because of one mistake she made. Try and love her as much as you can so that she doesn’t get an excuse next time...
Also, try not to think about it so much...Give her the space she needs. You too may have friends, hang out with them, have a nice guy time and talk about guy things...Meet new girls (as friends).. This will help you to think about other things.
When you say you have forgiven her, forgive her entirely. Don’t let bits and pieces of the past eat you up coz later on it can be a big thing.
Do mail me again so I can know how it’s going. I wish you the best, bud...
XO
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