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Mistaking flirting for friendliness
So okay. I'm 15/f and the guy is 18...and he talks to me every day...and when I come home and go on MSN...he starts flirting with me.
Some examples of things he says (exact) : baby, boo, baby-blue, love, darling, i love you, do you love me?, I'm gonna wait for you, call me when you're 18 ;)...and like a whole bunch of MSN emoticons...(love emoticons)
he's also very personal with me. Lately, i've been finding all of this flirting around strange. And I confronted him. Whether he likes me or not....he told me he was being JUST friendly...and that I mistook everything for love.
"I love you...more in a friendly kind of way. You mistook friendly for love".
But i know that's BS because when he said it...that he was just being friendly...he was in front of other people.
Is he denying that he has anything to do with me just because of what his friends will think? Cos it sure seems like it...and he was leading me on....and he keeps on doing it! It all seems to lovey to be JUST "friendly" Is this a common thing to happen?
=/ Thanks in advance.
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Ok... first of all let me clear one thing out for you--- " PEOPLE WHO CHAT WITH YOU ONLINE CAN SAY ANYTHING BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT IN FRONT OF YOU." I'm sure it would have been a different case if they would have been in front of you. He is full on flirting with you because even if he would have been in front of his friends when he was doing this and he really meant what he was saying he wouldn't have felt embarrased telling you anything... So that's it...He's just using you emotionaly and I don't think you should trust him... Just let him be a friend only in the cyber world ...Dont let him enter your real world...
Best of luck xxxxxDaRkSiDe89xxxxx
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he is definately 100% flirting with you. not a doubt.
boys talk different in front of their friends. its just the way it works
i dont think a relationship between you guys would work, because of the way he acts around his friends
harmless flirting between you cant hurt
but i dont think he means it in a relationship way, he is just being flirtatious
still hes flirting with you, not sum1 else
he must like u @ least a little bit
but i dont think hes relationship material
who am i to judge though? ive never met the boy
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I agree with the advice below. Ask him the same question when he is alone, and make sure you do it in person, not on MSN. I dont think that it's too common for a "friend" to be flirting that much or to say that he loves you. He could be wanting more than friendship too, but may be afraid to come out and say it. Flirting could be his way of leaving hints. But I would confront him again for sure.
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he's obviously stupid if he cares about what other people think, but it might also be that he could like you, but since he's 18, and your younger than him, he wouldn't want to get caught doing anything with you or dating you because it could cause him to goto jail. Maybe he's just a player and he's just acting like he likes you, just try asking him when he isn't around his friends, and see if you get the same response you got when he was in front of his friends.
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