Hi everyone... I've got a Psychology degree so I like to think that i know a bit about how people think and why they do the things they do- maybe i don't know a thing, make up your own minds! Also i work with a youth group of girls aged 10-14 so that helps too! Anyway ask me anything no problem too big or too small and I'll do my best...
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omg i hate my parents not really they're making me do stuff i don't wanna do though like they're trying to get me to break up with my boyfriend and i don't want to do it i mean i think i might love him but i'm not sure. i mean i really care for this guy and they don't even care (link)
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When they say things like how they want you to split up with your boyfriend how do you react? Do you scream and shout at them and tell them you hate them? If so, perhaps you need to think about talking to them gently about how you feel. Sit them down and explain that this is not what you want and your reasons behind this. This way they see you as a responsible mature individual who is control of their actions and they will take what you say far more seriously. At the same time, this needs to be a two way process. Why are they saying these things and do they have a point in some ways? Perhaps he's not the best choice in a boyfriend for whatever reason or perhaps they're just being unreasonable parents!! Think about it and good luck!
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i'm 16 and been with my boyfriend for 8 months, we havn't had sex but we mess around alot, he's fingered me and i've done stuff to him. one day a few months ago we was messing around and his penis was close to my hole. it was my first month of being on the pill and i've had my periods since. but i've also read symptons that i think i've been experiencing. i've felt "fluttering, sick, i've put on weight and my boobs have got bigger. he's told me i'm worrying over nothing and do to a test if i'm really worried. but couls i be pregnant? (link)
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It's highly unlikely as you've had a period since. In fact it may be more likely that the symptoms you are experiencing are your reaction to the pill as the pill can certainly cause these things you've described. However if you are really worried do a test just like your boyfriend suggested- it would do no harm would it!! If the test is negative (which is the most likely outcome) but you're still experiencing these symptoms you may want to consider going back to your doctor and asking to change your pill as different pills can cause different side effects. Good luck!
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Hi im 14 years old. And on thursday dec.7th i had sex with my boyfriend. We used a condom but it ripped. It had that stuff called spermacide on it. But im not sure if any of his sperm got in me,because there was a not big but a normal sized spot on my sheets. I just got off my period like 3 days before we had sex. Im not having any syptoms that im pregnant but im having little pains once in a while at the bottom of my stomach. Im not only scared that im pregnant but i dont know how to tell me mom && dad. They dont even know im having sex. What is the percent chance that im pregnant? and any other advise will help. Thanx alot. im so scared.
always- scared.confused.
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There's always a chance that you're pregnant if the condom ripped. Unfortunately that's the absolute truth. Before you start worrying about telling your parents etc you need to go and get a pregnancy test or go and see the doctor. This is so important to do this as soon as possible. The alternative is to be absolutely honest with your parents and then they'll be able to help you out. This is obviously going to be difficult so you'll have to weigh up whether you'd rather do this yourself and go and get a test/ see the doctor on your own or tell your parents. Bear in mind that it's highly possible that you may not be pregnant at all and therefore whether you want to tell your parents unnecessarily is up to you. However if you don't tell your parents you MUST get a test. It's going to be hard but you need to be strong about this.
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I have been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 yrs. We moved in together about 4 months ago. And I asked him before I agreed to move in with him if he thought he loved me enough to ever marry. He said yes. But since we have moved in together I am scared he will never ask me. How do I know if he ever will or not? (link)
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He will- because 1) he said he would before which he wouldn't have done if he didn't mean it and 2) he's still living with you! So it will happen at some point. You've only been living together 4 months and thats quite a short amount of time so i wouldn't say he was biding his time. It will happen eventually just be patient!
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Do you think its possible for someone *your best guy friend* to start liking you even though a couple months before he told you he didnt? We hooked up since then and really formed a strong bond along with a great deal of trust and respect for one another. Is it possible? Do you have any stories of this happening? I just dont want to get my hopes up.. (link)
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DEFINITELY it's possible. In fact some of the best relationships ive known about happen exactly because they were friends to start off with. Surely if you know loads about each other you're off to a good start and thats exactly why these relationships last! Anyway whats the point in worrying about a relationship that you're having a great time in?? Just appreciate what you have and don't worry about something that's great in your life! Face it you're one of the lucky ones!! Hope it lasts sweetie
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OK, this is going to sound rather strange, but please bear with me. I ,a woman in her early twenties have been in an on/off relationship with a man in his late forties for a few months now. I sometimes love him to bits, and sometimes am rather wary of him. The relationship is in any case going nowhere because he is still in love with his ex girlfriend, who lives back in the US(I am British, he is American but we both live in Britain).
Anyway, I had given us up as a bad job, and wrote as such to my journal on Thursday evening. The next morning, i switched my phone on only to find he had left me a message, and must have called at THE EXACT TIME that I was writing my journal.(my phone was off on Thurs evening). My question-does anyone believe that , just possibly there is an explanation beyond sheer coincidence?(ie some kind of spiritual link?) sounds nuts I know, but still.....?lol
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Sounds to me like a coincidence! Sure it's great to think that you have some sort of connection of sorts and you could probably have a giggle about it but at the end of the day it's just one of those really weird things in my opinion! However I am a sceptic and at the end of the day if it keeps you happy to think that then why not? There's no concrete evidence to say that things like that are totally impossible!!
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Hi. I like this girl alot and she wont realize how much we are meant to be. Yes i am only in highschool but i know she is right. I told her several times but she just keeps saying not now or i cant see you as more. I need to know how i can tell her that we are meant to be. Please help.
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It sounds to me as if you may be being a little too full on. You've told her several times you want to be with her and she keeps giving you the same response? It might be best to leave it for a while as it doesn't sound as if you're really getting anywhere. You don't want to make a fool of yourself. Maybe you should lay off for a while and give her some space- the old playing hard to get thing works a lot better than people think! See how it goes! Good luck
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so tonight i was at a big party type thing..and i notice this guy kind of looking at me from the corner of his eye and purposely turning it seemed to look at me. i picked it up that he was doing it..but i thought nothing of it until later..he started doing "laps" around me when i was talkng to my friends. he went from one part of the room where everyone was all the way to where i was with my friends *it wasnt nearly as crowded..* he did this a couple times! my friends thinks he likes me..when they told him to talk to me he said he was shy. where do i go from here? we dont really talk so help me out from the beginning pleaseee!! this is just new for me because usually the guy likes one of my friends..i happen to have very pretty friends..ok thanks to anyone who tries :) (link)
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Why not smile back? This will encourage him! Then maybe move towards him a little bit to show you're interested. He should get the hints- as he would be looking for any signs from you as he's shown he's interested. Maybe then he'll start talking to you. If he doesn't cos he really is as shy as he says why not go and talk to him and introduce yourself? You're not going to make a fool of yourself cos you know he's interested so you won't get knocked back! Then perhaps you both can strike up a conversation and see where it goes- it's really that simple!! Good luck
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I'm 16, and my boyfriend who is 18 will have been going out for 2 months next Friday. I was wondering.. should I get him a card? Or buy him a present? Or should I just not do anything..just simply wish him happy anniversary? What do people usually do for their 2 month anivarserys? (link)
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It depends on what sort of guy he is. What do you think he will do for you? If you're not sure then here's what i'd do- i think a card is going a bit far- that should normally be saved for year anniversaries. How about giving him his favourite chocolate bar? Or a cd or game you know he wants? Just a little gesture!!
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Ok so i am a 17 female and ive been with my boyfriend for about 3 1/2 months...i had heard some stuff that made me upset...so i asked him about it..he told me that he would never hurt me and the reason for that is that he loved me--the problem is he wrote it through a text message...he says he wants to say it 2 my face but its hard because of what had happend in the past...all he is waiting for is for us to be alone and the right moment...so when do u think that will be? i want to say it back but i dont know when the right moment is either help (link)
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Seriously don't worry about it! You know he feels strongly so it's not as if you're worried about how he feels or anything. The best moment for both of you to say it is when it suddenly seems right and just pops out! It is really difficult when you say it for the first time but don't waste your time worrying when he's going to say it or when you should say it. Just enjoy the fact that you know he loves you and look forward to when he says it to your face!
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I'm 14 yrs old girl and my boyfriend has changed he doesn't act the way he used to. Should I suspect he's cheating or that his feelings changed about me? or should I break up with him anyways I kno I should but I like him to much to do it. What should I do? (link)
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How about just talking to him and teeling him you feel like this? Just ask him if there's anything he wants to tell you because you've felt that things have been different recently and not how they used to be. If he says that he doesn't know what you're talking about you might need to think about ending it because there's no point if the situation is making you miserable. Good luck
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im 17 bout to be 18 i've been serious with my boyfriend for the last 9months now. He really cares for me but sometimes i feel like im losing interest what should i do me and him have been through alot together, he's a great guy, should i stick it out? (link)
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I know what you mean i've been through a similar thing and i couldn't be happier with the same guy now. The best thing that you sould do if you feel comfortable is just to tell him how you feel. It may be that you don't do enough interesting things together such as go out for dinner or do special things for each other. In relationships that last a while quite often interest is lost because both of you get comfortable and don't make quite as much effort as you did at the start of the relationship. Say to him that you love him to bits but you just wish you did a few new things. I bet then you'll wonder why you ever felt like this. Therefore, for the time being i think you should stick it out if you love him. However, if he doesn't feel the same about you 2 doing new things or if the new things do not make you more interested you may want to reconsider the relationship! Good luck
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I was searching through some xangas and I came across this girl that I'm not too fond of. I stopped to look at all the pictures she had thinking it might be pretty funny. I found multiple pictures of this girl, with my boyfriend on his bed. Nothing sexual, I think, but the fact I'M not even allowed in his room let alone his BED kinda ticked me off. Am I wrong to be upset that he had a girl that EVERYONE knows is basically a slut on his bed with him?
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I would be!! Especially if you're not allowed and you're supposed to be his girlfriend! However don't jump to any conclusions or get too cross without talking it through with him as there might be a good explanation for it. (not sure what but give the guy a chance!!) If he can understand how you feel and has a good explanation then that's great but if he comes up with some lame excuse and you begin to doubt whether you can trust him then you may want to rethink the relationship. Good luck
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My English teacher once told me, 'Don't marry someone you love, marry someone who completes you.'
Does anyone have any idea what that could mean, in a way? Like, how can someone complete you? (link)
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You can't understand until you're in love with someone! Basically you feel complete when you're with them, like they're a part of you. So when you're apart from one another you feel like something about you is missing. Have you ever heard people referring to their partner as their other half? It's the same sort of thing. However i kinda disagree with your teacher- i think if you fall in love with someone, they complete you automatically, i don't think you can fall in love with someone without them completing you! ugh this is getting all lovey dovey now!!!! Hope that made sense.
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(Sorry this is so long)
I have a crush on this guy, and I have for a while. Like...ever since school started. I was doing this psychic board thing (Kinda like an oija board) and usually I never believe those things, but it kept insisting that he liked me, too.
So I kinda went along with it still not believing it, and kinda watched what he did around me. I started talking to him online and he gets really nervous and doesn't know what to say and won't talk a lot. In school, he looks at me and stretches in the middle of class and he'll accidently touch my leg or my desk or something and pull back his hand, blush, and say: "Oh, I'm sorry." And I always laugh at my jokes, because if I don't he'll look back at me and then kinda bow his head.
Anyways, my friend has had a crush on the guy since she was in Preschool. She's in 8th grade with me now. She's really jealous because I keep telling her I think he likes me, and finally she told me how much she likes him, and how they used to be best friends but then he became popular and they grew apart.
So whenever I talk about him she gets really jealous and hurt and yells at me to stop talking. I'm afraid if I go out with the guy she'll have a nervous breakdown, or be afraid to hang out with me anymore.
So my two questions:
1. Do you think this guy likes me? If so, should I ask him out?
2. Do you think if he does like me, SHOULD I ask him out? Or should I be considerate of my friend? Because she said she's never going to actually ask him out, 'cause she knows he would say no, but she doesn't want me going out with him.
What should I do?
Thanks!!! ♥
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I always say this but it's true- friends are there for a lifetime but guys come and go especially at your age. You've gotta ask yourself what would create the most hurt? 1) you not being able to go out with the guy you fancy or 2) your friend feeling betrayed because you started something with this guy when she fancied him and after she specifically said she didn't want you to go out with him. It is hard because no noe can help their feelings and who they fall for but at the end of the day friends should come first. Good luck
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ok...i have a serious boy problem...lets call my jus broke off boyfriend(tyler)and my ex before him (lee) ok tyler and i went out alil over 2 months and i fell so hard for him but lee kept coming in the way...i went out wit lee for about a year and now i just want to be friends with him nothing more but tyler cant understand that.tyler heard that i was with lee the other week and just broke up with me without wanting to talk it out but it wasnt true and i tried to tell him that but he wont listen...he told my bestfriend that we was gonna get back 2gether but he needs time 2 think...should i wait or move on? (link)
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You should wait- if you want to be with him he's worth the wait. Give him time to think and be there and tell the truth when he's ready to try again. Good luck
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well their this kid that i been dateing for like a year and cheated on me like 4 time i dont no if i wamms be with him or not but their this really nice kid that likes me and i dont no i need help (link)
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If the one you're with at the moment has cheated on you 4 times that means he's going to do it again- he's had too many chances and whats the point in beign with someone if you don't trust him? End it with him and start something with the nice one especially if you like him back!!
Edit: Yes i honestly believe you should leave him otherwise i would not have given you that advice! No trust= relationship won't work. Pls don't give me a 2 if you're not prepared to hear the truth.
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i met a cute guy this weekend, at a rebel paintball cuarse - he works there - my house is jus a few blocks away from it - we started chattin right away - well - long story short - i was playin with his phone, and he told me 2 put my number on - i asked him why, and he told me its so he can call me when hes there again - i dont know if he likes me - but it sure looks that way - i jus wanna know - does he like me - or doesnt he - cause i sure-as-hell like him. (link)
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Yeah course he does!! He's not going to ask for your number when he's not interested in you!! Good luck hope he calls soon!
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*this may be kinda long sorry! but thanks for taking the time to read this*
*well me and my ex boyfriend "mike" have been broken up for 9 months now! we talk about once a day or sometimes every other day! we have hung out quite a few times..and this is where the problem starts
*last night he came over and picked me up at my house around 10! he lives like 30 mins away from me so the whole time we were driving he was just kinda flirting with me..like making fun of me and stuff! well we were going to his friends house to get him and then gonna go bowling but his best friend was there and he doesnt like me so we didnt go there..instead we just went to mcdonalds! he kept asking me if i wanted something but i said no! well he got something and while he ate we sat in his truck and just talked..he kept staring at me and i was like what and hes like can i not look at you! and he kept calling me turtle lip which is what he called me when we went out! well then we left and went to his house and i started playing with my hair and
he was like whats wrong? i was like nothing and hes like what are you thinking about and i was like nothing and he was like dont lie to me i know better..well i didnt wanna talk about it! so we get to his house and he undoes his seatbelt..he looks at me and goes do you think it would really work out? i was like i really dunno and he was like honestly and i was like i dunno maybe! well i told him i was cold so he moved the thingy in the middle up and came and cuddled with me! well he was rubbing my feet for a while and he knows i love that! then he layed his head on my chest and was listening to my heart beat! well then he looked at me and was like can i bite your lip and i was like why and he was like i want to so i was like sure..so he did..then he layed his head on my chest again and just stared at me and was like can i kiss you so i was like i guess so we kissed! and that happened quite a few times! he kept trying to hold my hands and hold me in his arms! well i got up for a sec so he laid in my spot! well i was like fine ill go in the back and he was like no lay on me so i did! the seat belt thing was in my way so i went to the back..so he came back there with me and of course we cuddled and ended up messing around! weve hung out several times before this and weve never touched eachother like that or cuddled/kissed or anything! well then it was 1:30 and his dad was like you need to take her home! ya it seems awesome i know..but heres where it doesnt make sense! today he was on AIM and imed him (he was away though) and i was like you know things are gonna be hard now cause i cant get over him at all..and he signed off so i was like what the heck! so i got on myspace and he was on so i was like whatever cause sometimes it just leaves it on! then again later i got on it and he was on it again but he wasnt on AIM so i felt like he was avoiding me! so i called him and was like why are you ignoring me and he was like im not im watching a movie ill ttyl so i was like whatever! and he hasnt been on AIM all day..sometimes hes not but its kinda weird! i dunno if its just me or if hes ignoring me! i guess my question is what should i do? let go or keep trying? keep in mind he is my 1st love but i have been trying for 9 months.. how do you think he feels? do you think he really likes me and is scared to tell me or fall me or what? ughhh someone please help me! thanks so much (link)
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It sounds to me as if he still likes you- he's making all this effort to come 30 mins drive and pick you up he must still feel something pretty strong. The reason he's not replying to you online may simply be because he was busy doing something else or maybe he's playing hard to get. The best thing you could possibly do is talk to him. I know everyone always says this and it's not nearly as easy as it sounds but the only person that really knows whats going on is him! And surely if you want to start something with him again you'll need to feel as if you can talk to him. Good luck
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hi well its my boyfriends birthday next week hes 17 and weve been goin out for like 3 week what should i get him (i live in england by the way)
and i want it to be nice but i dont want him to think ive made too much of an effort.
thanx xxx
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I reckon getting him a photo frame with a picture of you two in it? Or a dvd of a film you know he likes? Or a cd? Or you could take him out to dinner? Or buy him a driving lesson? Ebay is also really good if you wanted to get him some autographed stuff of people he likes? There are some sites that do funny t-shirts or personalised t-shirts, mugs etc etc....
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