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Im really scared. Can u help?
Hi im 14 years old. And on thursday dec.7th i had sex with my boyfriend. We used a condom but it ripped. It had that stuff called spermacide on it. But im not sure if any of his sperm got in me,because there was a not big but a normal sized spot on my sheets. I just got off my period like 3 days before we had sex. Im not having any syptoms that im pregnant but im having little pains once in a while at the bottom of my stomach. Im not only scared that im pregnant but i dont know how to tell me mom && dad. They dont even know im having sex. What is the percent chance that im pregnant? and any other advise will help. Thanx alot. im so scared.
always- scared.confused.
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first of all any time you have sex even with a condom there is a possibility you can get pregnant. my advice to you is stop having sex at a young age or get on the pill and have emergency contraception"morning after pill" you can get it at plan parenthood look up planned parenthood.com
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Dear Scared,
You are so young. I feel for you, Sweetheart. I started having sex when I was 16, and I know at times that it can get a little overwhelming; Making sure protection is being used, pregnancy scares, and so much more. First and for most, let me reasure you that you should not feel ashamed for being sexually active. You are a human being and you used protection. I recommend going to the nearest drug store with a trusted friend or adult and buying an early pregnancy test. Having done that you will have faster results and less drama if you find out that you are not pregnant. If you are pregnant, please build up enough courage to inform your boyfriend and parents. You are going to have a lot of growing up to do in such a short period of time and telling them starts that process. If you are adult enough to have sex, you have to be adult enough to deal with the consequences. I also recommend that you later on tell a parent that you are sexually active. Doing so might result in getting a form of birth control in which will help reduce the risk of pregnancy. Please be true to yourself and to everyone else. Please update me. Good luck to you. ♥ Miss Moo
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The chances that you're pregnant are very small. You can only get pregnant around the time you ovulate, which is about halfway through your cycle. You did make a big mistake by not getting a day after pill just in case though. It is very important to do that. I think it works up to 72 hours after, so you have three days to get one. If this ever happens again make sure that you do! Try not to worry about being pregnant. If your period is very regular you should have nothing to worry about at all. The more you worry, the bigger the chance that you will miss your period out of stress. Take it easy and if you don't get your next period get a pregnancy test. Please try not to worry though, it's very unlikely that you are pregnant. Good luck!
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Alright, i wouldnt panic! i have been worried about get pregnant, though i'v never had sex but lets just say close to it. i think its mainly self concious i got little pains to, and was totally worried. i did tons of research, and the MAIN symptom of pregnancy is if your nipples start changing. symptoms usually take 2-6 weeks to show up at all, so any pain your having has nothing to do with that. thou the "pre-semen" does contain millions of sperm so theres always a possibility, but dont panic its really really rare. With you just getting off your period, you egg has BARLEY made it out of the lil sack, so then its not likley you could be pregnant, but dont forget there is always that possibility. if you have any more questions about early pregnancy symptoms feel free to ask. but the BIGGEST to symptoms are your nipples changing & morning sickness. good luck! i hope everythings alright!
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First of all, chill out. Don't worry so much about it because stress can cause your period to start much later then its supposed to. Second of all, you don't have to tell your parents if you prefer not to. Go to a local clinic that is confidential and get checked and get the morning after pill. You can get it within two days after having unprotected sex(or in your case, ripped condom). Only problem is, you have to pay around fifty dollars for it. If you don't have the money, then you're probably going to have to tell your parents so they can take you to get it. Good luck and i hope i helped. Tell me how things go.
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Don't freak out ok because lets hope that you'll be freaking out for nothing. Well, you need to at least wait ten days in order to get a pregnancy test. Go see a doctor and if you don't have enough money to see a doctor, go to a clenic. I recommend a free clenic instead of going to buy a store pregnancy test because store pregnancy tests are two times riskier than the ones that doctors offer. If you know nothing whatsoever of any clenics, then I advise you to talk to a guidance counselor. They can help you with any questions that you may have about this . And you should try and find out anything that you can from a doctor or a guidance counselor. Listen and listen good. And if you're not pregnant, as I probably expect, take this as a lesson and be extremely careful the next time. And that is if it's a next time. Don't forget it because in the end, although I'm not trying to be mean or anything, it's just one of those hard lessons learned.
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Ok you're not going to like this but I'm going to say it anyway- if you don't know how to deal with the possible consequences of having sex, i'd really advise against doing it at all.You need to know, before you even consider it, you can handle walking into a doctor's surgery and be able to be open and mature about sex, pregnancy and STIs if you ever need to.
Lecture over. What you need to do sweetie is buy an over-the-counter pregnancy kit to put your mind at rest. Chances are you are not pregnant but better to have that peace of mind. Secondly you need to have a serious conversation with this guy of yours, if you haven't already, and decide what you would do should you, heaven forbid, ever find yourself in a situation where you are pregnant and/or wheter you two are really ready to deal with all the possible consequences of sex. If at all possible you should try to talk to at least one of your parents about this. You don't have to tell them you've already had sex, just open up the lines of discussion. Most likely they'll be horrified their daughter is thinking about sex at all (always a difficult thing for parents to get used to|) but if they're sensible they'd prefer to know that you were able to come to them with any problems you might have rather than have to worry you're safe all the time.
Don't worry, pound to a penny you'll be fine this time. Just learn from it.
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There's always a chance that you're pregnant if the condom ripped. Unfortunately that's the absolute truth. Before you start worrying about telling your parents etc you need to go and get a pregnancy test or go and see the doctor. This is so important to do this as soon as possible. The alternative is to be absolutely honest with your parents and then they'll be able to help you out. This is obviously going to be difficult so you'll have to weigh up whether you'd rather do this yourself and go and get a test/ see the doctor on your own or tell your parents. Bear in mind that it's highly possible that you may not be pregnant at all and therefore whether you want to tell your parents unnecessarily is up to you. However if you don't tell your parents you MUST get a test. It's going to be hard but you need to be strong about this.
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Okay, dont be so harsh on yourself--ya, your a youngin', but give yourself alittle credit that you attempted to use a method of safer sex, not that I am applauding sex at 14--sh*t happens. What you need to do now is get a home pregnancy test, go with a girlfriend or and older sibling (if you have any to confide in), get a middle priced one (run you around $8-25), and read the directions carefully. Its always easiest to use the sticks, but with a cup so you know you saturated it enough. Always take these tests your first AM (morning) urination, because the pregnancy hormone is less watered down, and can be easily traced using the pregnancy test. I would use at least two tests for sometimes they are faulty, and use them on alternate days. For example take one 2maro, then the next day, or whatever. If the results come out positive--sorry kid you have to tell your parents. If negative (after much testing), what did you learn? I hope both of you (bf + u) talked about--STD's, AID's etcetc, and I pray that hes cleared of such ailments. Its not the end of the world, take the tests, have a friend near you, and relax. All things can be taken care of. I would in the mean time, think of something to say to your parents if in case. Good luck.
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