Missing an ex is a very very common thing, especially if you were together for any length of time. Once you start spending alot of time together they become intertwined in your life and separating the strands once they're gone can be tricky. First you need to figure out how you really feel about your current boyfriend, if you're just with him so you aren't alone then you should probably break up with him. You may need some time to yourself to think and figure out how you're really feeling about your ex, if you're thinking about him alot there may be a reason why. If you're just missing hi but know that things will never work then I recommend focusing on you, your wants, your goals, stay busy with friends, hobbies, sports whatever. Don't force yourself to move on before you're ready.
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Honesty is the best policy, yes it will hurt her and she is probably going to be REALLY pissed, BUT its better for her to hear it from you then from someone else. She is more likely to give you another chance if you come clean then if you keep it from her and she finds out from someone else. Just sit her down and be like "Listen, I care about you alot, but I made a mistake. I met up with another girl and some things happened. I realize now it was a mistake, but I want to be honest with you and hope that you can forgive me and give me another chance. I understand if you need sometime to think, just let me know when you are ready to talk." Something along those lines, and tell her in PERSON, not through a txt or over the phone, thats just rude. Don't turn it into a screaming match either, if she yells let her, she just found out her long time bf cheated its tough. But be honest with her and hopefully things will work out for the best.
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I don't agree with the below poster really, most guys that you ask will tell you that they get turned on by porn, that doesn't make them addicted to it. Its a boy thing, my husband likes porn, and its normal to fantasize about other people. I mean I'm sure you think about hot celebs sometimes, most people do. Maybe you should try watching some porn with him, role play some of the scenes from the porn, try and understand where he is coming from. There is no reason to jump to conclusions about porn addiction or that he is cheating, wants to cheat, etc. Just because he fantasizes about other women and likes porn doesn't mean that he doesn't love you. Does he still act the same? Are you sexually active, if so has your routine changed any?
I think you should call him back and try to talk to him about it, and I mean really sit down and talk to him, listen and try to understand where he is coming from.
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The best thing to do is just take a step back, don't call and text her constantly, don't quiz her about where she is, who she was with, who she's talking too etc. Also try talking to her, let her know that you really do care about her and tell her that you are really going to try and take a step back and let her live her life.
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My husband and I sorta had this, I don't think it was really a bad relationship, but we dated when we were younger and it just never really worked out. We stayed close friends and then when I was a Junior I broke up with my long time boyfriend and he and I rekindled, we are now married and couldn't be happier :))
All relationships are different, you can't break up and always think that you are going to rekindle down the road but there is that possibility with some relationships. With my husband and I, it just wasn't the right time for us. If I were you I wouldn't worry about it, if its meant to be then it will work out and if not then he wasn't worth it in the first place. One day you will find that person that you are meant to be with and no one else will ever cross your mind again.
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Boys often don't think about things the way that we do, I think that he didn't think that you would be angry then once you found out he kinda panicked and hid it and is denying it. I think the best thing for you to do is to sit down with him, tell him you saw it, and then tell him why you are upset about it. Let him know that you don't appreciate the lies, because if he can lie about something this small he could lie about something bigger, therefore its hard for you to trust him. I totally get where you are coming from, but you just have to try and think about it from his point of view. My husband and I have had this problem before, and once I sat down and talked to him about it things are much better. Let him know that you will not stand for him lying, relationships are based on honesty and trust, there is no place for lies. Communication is key to a happy healthy relationship.
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You shouldn't feel like you have to stay with him just because he is going into the military. You should stay with him because you love him, period. Yes, its going to be tough as he will be away from you, whether or not you are going to college. You just have to put in the effort that is necessary for your relationship to survive.
Im not sure how often he will get to call and such while he is at basic training, but discuss it with him that way you are there when he calls or you can email or write. My cousins husband is in the military and just came back from afghanistan, him being away and then coming home has made them a lot closer and stronger as a couple. You just have to be sure that it is what you want and then put in the effort that it needs to flourish.
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My husband and I got married when we were 18 and 19, but we had known one another for years and had been together for 2 years. I think that it is a little too soon for you two to be getting married, I mean you have only been together 11 months, you dont know everything about each other yet. Marriage is tough even for people who have been together for years and have known one another for ever, it takes lots of compromise and its hard work. It isnt something that you take lightly, its supposed to be forever and divorces are expensive so keep that in mind as well.
I think the best thing for you to do is too just date for a while longer and get to know one another and figure out if you really want to be together forever. IF you think hes and asshole sometimes, then can you really imagine living with him everyday, doing everything for him, not really having any of your own space or time. Its tough, trust me.
You also need to think of if you are capable of being financially stable, I mean if you are gettig married then you need to be able to afford your own place, bills, car insurance, etc. Most 18 year olds really arent ready for it, honestly. It is very stressful and you have full responsibility for yourself and your partner. Its a lot for you to take into consideration, before you take the leap.
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Im thinking that his ex is angry because 1- she is his ex and 2- he told his guardian about her father's abuse. Often times abused children get angry at the people who are trying to help them, they see it as someone trying to tear apart their family instead of what it actually is.
I think that she is just angry about everything that is happining, has happened, and she is just trying to ruin your relationship with him. Just ignore her, if you feel like you know your boyfriend better and that you both care for one another then screw what she says. Enjoy your time together, period.
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Inside jokes aren't things that you can TRY to make up, you have to just kinda let them come up. The harder you try, the less likely it is that you are going to make them. Just have a good time and enjoy yourself, let the conversation flow and don't try to hard. They will come on their own.
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He is a boy honey. Men don't communicate like women do, he probably just didn't have anything to say after that. You need to learn it now, don't read into every little thing that he texts or says or doesn't do. As long as he isn't ignoring you and you still feel like things are going in the right direction, enjoy it. Don't worry too much about relationships just yet. You have loads of time to worry about that, so have fun with people you care about and have a connection with.
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Men don't think about marriage like women do, most don't see the need, to them it's just a piece of paper that society says you should have. I think the best thing for you to do is to sit down and talk to your boyfriend about it, let him know that you love him and would like to be married one day and see how he takes it, see what he wants. It doesn't matter how long most people wait, you have to do whats best for you and your relationship.
I think you should just enjoy one another, most people will tell you that being married ruins things, but honestly people stop communicating and stop enjoying one anothers company. Love each other, move in together, and take all the other steps that a married couple would take and then maybe if he feels its right and you do as well then get married.
If you love him, then there is no 'time table.' Marriage doesn't change that love anymore than not being married does. Don't pressure him, communicate and go from there.
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Honey, you are 15 years old, I wouldn't be too worried about commitment right now. Just focus on being a teen and having a good time, if you happen to find the person you are supposed to be with then so be it. But don't go looking for it, don't worry about commitment. Most boys at your age aren't looking for commitment anyway if you start stressing about that then you will never want to go out with anyone. I think that you should have given him a chance, but now it seems as though the time for that has passed so forget about it. You aren't looking for someone to get married to right now, look for someone that you like to be around, that you can talk to, and who makes you laugh, screw the rest of it for the time being. Love will find you, when IT is ready to find you. My husband and I got together and fell in love when I was least expecting it, I was 16 and had known him for years. He was always so funny, honest, and was always always respectful of me, thats what you need to look for. Don't worry about getting your heartbroken or finding Mr. Right.
If you speak to this guy and he still likes you then I think yes you should give him a chance, if you like him and he is as great as you make him seem. But don't break him and this girl up, make that his decision. No one likes a boyfriend stealer :) If he doesn't and is happy where he is, let him go and the next time you like a boy and he likes you go for it and stop thinking about the future and commitment in relationships. Trust me, its more important to be a teen and experience it :) Im speaking from experience, I was with my ex-boyfriend for 3 years, from 8th grade to 11th. I don't regret it, but I wasn't worried about being commited, I cared about him and wanted to be with him, it works that way. But if you are stressing about commitment and such then it will ruin highschool and your teen years.
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Woah, not to be rude, but are you saying that you are cheating on your husband?! Honestly, if that is what you are saying no this is not okay. It really isn't fair to your husband, it seems to me like you are feeling like you are missing out on all those guys that you didn't get to have sex with. I think you should consider yourself lucky that you found a guy that really loves you, didn't use you for sex, and you didn't have to sleep with a number of guys to find them.
Now if you and your husband have discussed this and decided to sleep with other people while married then that is your own business and thats fine, but if you are doing it behind his back I really don't think its okay. Would you want him looking for sexual favors from other women? If you want something different, talk to him about it. Maybe you can try toys, different positions, or more partners as a couple[swinging}. But discuss it as a couple, at least out of respect to him and your son. Communication is the biggest thing in a marriage, talk to him about feeling unsatisfied and maybe you can work something out as a couple that works for the both of you.
Now, I am married and I am 19, my husband is the 2nd man that I have slept with and man am I thankful for him. He is an amazing guy and I love him more than he will ever know, I am his first :) You got married young and are beginning to feel as though you are missing something, it actually happens alot. But if you want your marriage to work then you have to talk to him about this.
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Thats life love, if life and love were easy then we would not cherish the good times like we do. There has to be trouble and heartache in order for us to realize that the good times are to be held dear to us. I think the best advice that I can give to you, is to stop looking so hard. Love will find YOU, when you least expect it, so once you stop looking BAM! it'll hit you.
Now I know that right now it seems like you are never going to find someone who loves you and understands you and won't hurt you, but you will. It just takes time, you can't force it, and the harder you attempt to hold on to it, the quicker it will fade away. Don't look at the negative side of it, look at the positives, you are getting lots of life experiences and you are still standing. And once you find that special person you will hold them very dearly because you have been through so much to get there.
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Sounds to me like she is just trying to start some drama between the 2 of you, she is trying to make you jealous and trying to get inside his head. I think the best thing that the both of you can do is to just ignore her, block her on facbook or myspace or whatever and don't let her bother you because thats exactly what she's trying to do. Thats what I hate about most girls', it seems like they are always trying to start some drama somewhere. I have learned just to stay out of it and mind my own business, its better that way. Don't let them get to you.
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Thats boys for you, but like the below person said if you really like him and he seems to like you then just forget about, boys do stupid things like this all the time. You're young, so just enjoy it and don't worry too much about romance.
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Honestly, I think that you should get away from him and try to get over him. In my opinion you like him because he is a bad boy and you feel like you can't have him, in most cases you want what you can't have. Also, a person who is into drugs and alcohol and who has cheated on you in the past does not sound like someone that you should be trying to be with. You deserve someone that will take your feelings into concern and to get off all that crap for you.
One more thing, you are only thirteen darling, you are way to young to be worried about boys. Just have a blast and be young and if you happen to find a boy that makes your heart sing and that you truly feel like he could make you a better person then go for it. But always remember that you do not need a man to make you you, you are beautiful and deserve all the happiness in the world, and never let anyone tell you any differently.
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Sadly, most men are not romantic beings, now it isn't their fault they just aren't wired that way. You will probably be asking him to do romantic things for you for the rest of your relationship. Your best bet is to sit down and attempt to have a conversation about it with him, this may or may not help. I have been with my husband almost 3 years and have known him for almost 8 years, and I still have to ask him to do romantic things for me. I know he loves me, but he shows it in his own way. You are correct, every girl dreams of a perfect romantic relationship, sadly that doesn't exist. The best you can do is to compromise and realize that no one is perfect and to love someone is to love their little imperfections as well.
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Honestly and in my own experience, I fell in love with my husband pretty much immediatly. You don't have to know everything about someone to fall in love with them, although sometimes the things that they do make you either fall more in love with them or out of love. When you first meet someone, you know if you (a) could love them or (b) have no future with them in that department at all.
If you already know someone, my husband and I were friends beforehand, it is easier to fall for them because you know pretty much how they react to your opinions and what you have in common etc. I do think that it would be a shorter amount of time to fall in love, simply because you are already comfortable with them and with someone new you kinda are feeling out the boundaries and everything. I also do not think that this is always the case, I think when you find that one person that you are meant to be with you know. Whether you have known one another for years or days, you feel comfortable with them immediatly and you just sorta know that you have finally found that one person. Love is a very complicated thing and even more complicated to attempt to explain, but I hope I voiced my own opinion and stance well.
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