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young marriage
I'm 18 and my bf is 19, we are planning on getting married, is it the right thing to do?
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Only you will truly know if it is the right thing to do or not. Other people can tell you yes or no but they arent in your shoes. In my opinion, it is smafrter to be out of college before you get married so money issues are more secured. If you are having all these doubts then you may not be ready for marriage quite yet. You need to be sure that your boyfriend is going to stay with you and that is going to take longer than eleven months.
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What's the rush? I think you guys are thinking of marriage too soon. Why don't you two just enjoy your time together instead of planning how big the house is going to be or how many children you're going to have together. All will come at it's rightful time. If you want to marry him because you fear of loosing him, that's no way of tying the knot. Allow yourself and him to feel comfortable with each other and ready for a long term comitment. Don't use marriage as a resource to keep him with you forever.
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My husband and I got married when we were 18 and 19, but we had known one another for years and had been together for 2 years. I think that it is a little too soon for you two to be getting married, I mean you have only been together 11 months, you dont know everything about each other yet. Marriage is tough even for people who have been together for years and have known one another for ever, it takes lots of compromise and its hard work. It isnt something that you take lightly, its supposed to be forever and divorces are expensive so keep that in mind as well.
I think the best thing for you to do is too just date for a while longer and get to know one another and figure out if you really want to be together forever. IF you think hes and asshole sometimes, then can you really imagine living with him everyday, doing everything for him, not really having any of your own space or time. Its tough, trust me.
You also need to think of if you are capable of being financially stable, I mean if you are gettig married then you need to be able to afford your own place, bills, car insurance, etc. Most 18 year olds really arent ready for it, honestly. It is very stressful and you have full responsibility for yourself and your partner. Its a lot for you to take into consideration, before you take the leap.
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Don't marry him. Date him, be with him, go to school, you don't need to marry this young to be together and move forward.
11 months is soon. Especially at your age. You're both going to be a different person every year until you're 30. Give yourselves time to grow, because if you put the pressure of marriage on it now when you're 23 you could end up being divorced simply because you put too much pressure on yourselves.
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I'm going to have a bit of a different perspective on this, just because of how my life has turned out.
I met my fiance when I was 18, and he proposed within 10 months of us starting to date. Insane, right? At that point, we had been living together for 6 months, and had been through a few serious crises.
I won't tell you not to commit to your boyfriend because you're 'too young'. 'Too young' isn't a reason to not do anything; we got engaged, moved in together, bought a house and adopted a dog, all when we were 'too young' for it. We're thriving because of it.
However, there are serious warning signs in your question. If you're concerned that he might leave you, then those concerns need to be addressed before you get married. You should feel 100% about getting married. Do you want to marry a man who you feel might leave you? Do you want to be put in a position where you depend on him for everything?
That's why 3 years later we're finally planning for our wedding next year. We were ready to make a serious commitment, and we were certain that we wanted to marry each other. Were we certain that it would actually happen? No. There was a lot of stuff that needed to be sorted through before we made that commitment, especially because I don't believe in divorce.
Take some time. There's nothing wrong with a long engagement. It's a nice way to commit without taking that last huge leap. Be sure before you get married, and especially be sure before you have children. And don't let anyone tell you you're 'too young' to know what's best for you, because only you know the true nature of your relationship.
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You are way to young to be thinking of marriage, You have years ahead of you for that.
People who marry young have a high risk for divorce, I highly suggest you wait. Weddings are expensive and divorces are not cheap either.
Don't rush into it, Continue doing what you are doing and be happy. At least wait until you are both over 21. You'll be better off that way
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Dear Reader,
You know wht is right,but in my advice to you is to do not rush into anything,you are young,and if u want to get married sure,but think about what you want to do as an adult,so think what is best for you ,if you love him,then you have your answer!!!
Gallina
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No. Why? Because the two of you are still very young, and haven't morphed into your complete adult selves. Both of you are yet to experience a lot of personal growth - your views on some of life's most important things are yet to change, perhaps even more than once. This includes what you want from a relationship as well. Five years down the road, your boyfriend may be a bit of a different person than you fell in love with, and so will you.
Wait at least three more years. Do the two of you plan to go to college? So far I'm guessing you've been in your relationship throughout high school, well relationships in the adult world are very different. Give it a few more years, and see if your relationship can make it through that.
There's no rush, you have your whole lives to be together, and you want to make sure that you're making the right decision.
MAK, 19
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Only you and your partner knows its right. But just don't do it because of love. You also need to think about your living situation,Your money situation,and is that going to withold with your future.
Lillian
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