I play volleyball. I'm not just a normal teenage girl. But I am going through the same crapola of highschool like everyone else.
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so most of the guys that i have liked have been preppy.
cute type boys.
but then one guy came up and started flirting.
callin' me "beautiful" and "baby" and all this stuff.
its kind of obvious he likes me.
[not to sound conceded]
and i didnt think he was cute or like him really before, but every sine he called me those things and we flirt or wahtever i have grown to like him.
is this because he likes me?
is this the wrong thing to do?
im prepppp and he is hardcore!
weirdd. (link)
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Classifying who you like by genres or cliques is bullshit. Just because you're preppy, doesn't mean you HAVE to like preppy guys. It seems to me like the only reason you like him is because he shows you the most attention. Every girl likes attention from the opposite sex (unless they're gay), so maybe you're more excited from a boy calling you beautiful rather than your actual liking to him. If he likes you, cool. if he doesn't, he's a flirt. No big deal. And I'm not sure what you mean by is this the wrong thing to do? You're not even doing anything. Simple flirting isn't a crime, it only gets messy if someone's feelings are involved and signals get crossed; and the person thinks you like them rather than simply flirting. So ask him if he likes you!
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OK so I am male/28 I've been with my BF for a year and a half (we're gay) and 3 nights go we had a massive argument.
In the heat of my rage I threw the contents of a glass of wine in his face, and then I made a run for it for the sake of my own safety.
We havent spoken since then, even though i have written him a long msg on facebook and told him we need to talk. He has taken most of his stuff and the only times he makes contact is to say something spiteful on SMS.
We live together and so the rent is our joint responsibility. I just about afford it on my own, but i wouldnt really have much money over to life the life I used to. My question is, should he continue to pay for the rent cos he choose to move out? If so, for how long?
Also i'm still not 100% sure that is definately over but the more time passes the more sure it is looking.
Please give me advice. THanks (link)
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You're just going to let him go without a fight? After a year and a half? Come on...perhaps the rent shouldn't be your biggest concern, perhaps it should be the person that you care for is leaving over one fight. Couples fight all the time, but the love stays. And if you're willing to let him go this easily, regardless of whether he answers on Facebook or not, then perhaps it's time to split after all.
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So i've liked this guy for 2 or 3 months off and on. i told him i liked him a couple weeks ago. he seemed to understand and was looking straight into my eyes the whole time and he seemed like he liked the thought of it.
but then again, after i tried talkin to him once, (i just kept it small talk. i just said hi how are you) he wasn't looking at me at all. he answered and everything but he didn't seem so open and then one of his friends came up and he acted like i wasn't there.
but then in the last week, he said hi and bye on his own (which, we know who each other are, we just haven't talked since 5th grade and it's like we don't know each other, so it was a good thing) and i've been catching him looking at me for a while, but i haven't seen anything else. he acts like he's thinking about it (if he likes me or not) but i don't know if he really does...
so after a while, how can i tell if he likes me or not? what kind of signs will he show?
16/f
thanks in advance. =] (link)
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You could just ask him, plain and simple. It sounds like he does like you, but isn't sure what the next move is. So he results to avoiding you because he doesn't know what to say. But just to be sure and not get your hopes up, ask him what's up, don't be hostile, just be like hey, things have been a little tense lately, is everything alright? Tell him you're not expecting a proposal or anything, you just wanted to let him know what was up.
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Well the only thing that i look forward to these days is guys flirting with me and giving compliments because my families been fighting, my friends have been mean and ditching me, adn this one guy was flirting with me soo much and then my friends ruined it. He said i was hot, but i had no boobs, and then i was embarassed. He goes to a different school, and i only see him at the movie theater. 1-is there anyway to make my boobs look bigger? Also, my hair gets all fuzzy at the top, and 2-is there any way to get rid of that?
Thanks a bunch!! (link)
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Sounds like this guy is kind of skeez. (skeez- inconsiderate pervert) No matter how hot he is, he should like you for you, not what your cup size is. But if it really concerns you, you could try enhancing bras like push up or extra padded. Don't stuff your bra or anything because first, it's totally noticeable and second, it's not something anyone should be proud of. For the hair issue, I would just spray A LITTLE hairspray or use some really really light gel and smooth down the top.
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If a guy that you like just broke up with his girlfriend, how long should you wait before you approach him? (link)
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It kinda depends on how long their relationship was. You can't make it too soon, cuz that'll look a little trashy. I would wait a week with no communication, then talk a little bit, you know ask him how his day is going, then gradually start talking more and more. This way by the time you start talking to him, everyone probably knows that him and his girlfriend have broken up and he'll have a little healing time. If it was a super long relationship, maybe 2 weeks.
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There is this one boy at my school who gets on my nerves 24/7. he likes me and he has told me he has liked me but i dont like him at all and i only see him as a friend. Plus im taken. And he nos that but he just wont quit. he keeps trying to touch me and get close to me but i just push him off me and tell him to stop. i dont know how to get this dude to stop because i just want to be friends with him.
any advice? (link)
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Just be real straight forward. Don't let him just shake it off or take it as a joke. You need to say "You are my friend, but stop touching me, stop flirting with me. period. I have a boyfriend now and I don't feel the same way about you as you do for me, so back off. I mean it." it may sound harsh, but once he gets the point, he'll see the error in his ways.
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okay so my boyfriend ended up breaking up with me after everything because he said that he loved one of my best friends at school and that he has ever since the beginning of last year and so basically he dated me three times while being "in love" with her and playing me thinking that he loved me. but nope i got played. and well i dont know what to do. i am fine in a way because well he has his own feelings and i understand... but well me and him are friends and me and my friend is.. but the feeling is still there (link)
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That's a little heartless of him, but he can't helps the way he feels and neither can you. You can't just rush those kind of feelings out the door. You have to take time. So many girls try to get over guys by hooking up the next day or talking shit about their ex's. The truth is you just gotta let it all out. If you wanna cry, cry. If you wanna yell, yell. You can't bottle it all up. And as for the two of you being friends. I know, every guy/girl says "Well we can still be friends" but honestly we know that's never the case. Maybe you should just take a month with no communication whatsoever with him, no talking, messaging, not even eye contact. I know that sounds extreme, but after the feelings have died down a little, it's gonna be easier to be friends. It's gonna be hard if you still have feelings for him and you're around him all the time. You have to get over him before you can befriend him.
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Ok well me and my girlfriend have been dating over 5 months now. She grew up with her grandparents and they have always been strict. Once she turned 18 and started college we figured things would be better and they were. Now all of a sudden they are trying to control and ruin her life. They are trying to prevent her from seeing me and from going on a trip with me to visit her mom in Florida. Thing is they don't even want her going to see her mother. All the have been doing is calling her and flipping on her about things. Now they even have her father after her who now thinks she is doing drugs which isn't true. My question to you is what else can we do to get them to just let us be? But wait there is a catch. They are paying for all her schooling and they keep money in her account and if she does the wrong thing they may not support her anymore. Please Help!! (link)
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In your case, you can honestly tell them what your best intentions are for their granddaughter. Just say sincerely, that you understand their overprotectiveness but you are a gentleman and are only thinking of her best wishes and you would never do anything that they would disapprove of. As for her parents, that is her own battle to fight. She is 18, and if she's still scared to have a mature conversation with them about what has been going on, then nothing will ever change. She needs to point out that she appreciates their hospitality and money for school, but that at this point in her life, it is time for her to take action for herself, without consulting them because she is not a baby. This way you're not telling them that they're wrong, but just stating your point and how things will be handled. Your girlfriend needs to make sure that she is not asking them what is okay and whats not okay, but telling them that if she wants to visit her mom and her boyfriend, that is what she will do. But remember to say that in a way that understanding and respectful. They might get upset, but i doubt they would turn on their own granddaughter and take away funding for her schooling. Good Luck!
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I've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 months. We've been doing great. We haven't had a big fight or anything and he's really sweet. We started dating at the end of the summer when I saw him every day. We go to different schools, though. After school started, I got a 10:00 curfew on the weekdays, a 12:00 curfew on the weekends, and only two days I'm able to take the car (I don't have one of my own, so I have restrictions on my parents' car). My mom has helped me out by giving me an extra day or a curfew extension here or there and she lets him come over and she takes him home so I can be with him without using one of my days. He only works on the weekends with his uncle and I've only been working on the weekends too. For the most part, we've gone a maximum of 2 or 3 days a week without seeing each other. We always find ways to be together.
I am getting my own car within the next day or so, so I no longer have restrictions with a car. However, I now have to pay for insurance and my own gas. Therefore, I got a better paying job where I'll be working Monday-Thursday evenings and Saturday mornings. He works Saturday mornings so it's not a problem. That means that I'll get Friday, Saturday, and Sunday nights with him, and that's it. I still have the same curfew. Plus, he may have to get a job soon during the week, so we may be seeing each other even less. It will just be phone conversations for the majority of the week.
I'm about to turn 18 and I'm graduating high school this year. After I graduate, I'll be able to do more things. I can stay out a lot later, stay the night out of the house, and eventually get my own apartment while working and going to college. After school lets out, if my boyfriend and I are still together like I hope we will, it will be a lot easier for us to be together. It's just now that is going to be hard for us...at least until this school year ends in May. That means 7 months of only seeing each other 3 or 4 days a week. I'm scared to death that 2 1/2 months isn't long enough to withstand 7 months of working to see him.
I just wanted some thoughts on my situation. I'm extremely stressed out, because between school, work, graduation, college applications, etc. I won't see him nearly as much as I have been. Maybe this is a good thing? But maybe not. Any thoughts? (link)
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Considering that this is your hardest school year, working in a boyfriend who goes to a diifferent school is going to be extremely difficult. I'm not saying you should break up with him by any means, but because this is a new relationship, I'm sure you still feel that this year is more of a priority than your boyfriend. You can try to set up a schedule where you can both see each other regularly eithout overloading yourselves with work. It's going to be hard to try to make it operate all together, but if you and him honestly feel that this is a relationship that can make it far, then you'll work through the odds. Plus, theres always holidays during school years and spring breaks to see each other for longer periods of time. Good luck!
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me and this kid hooked up and we've kept in touch. we really like eachother .. well i really like him and he says he likes me and ive heard hes something of a player, but thats not my problem. he has a drug alcohol and ciggerate problem. He said he was getting sober just for me. hes really important to me. Hes gettin off of drugs, but going thro really bad withdrawels and i dont live near by so its not even like i can run to his house and help him. Hes also getting off alchohol and he says that he needs his ciggs right now to help him get through all of this. The only thing is i havent talked to him in 3 days. He hasn't been home and he hasnt been online. Im really worried. I dont know what to do. He cant go thro this alone, but neither can i. I wood really like to talk to someone whoes been thro this to talk to. Please, anyone. (link)
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This is his personal issue. You can help him through it but in the end this has to be something he does for himself and you should consider.....keeping your distance until he shapes up because it's not healthy or safe for you to be with a guy you think you know really well when it sounds like you don't just because you guys have a little crush on each other. I know it sounds harsh, but if he has all these problems and you're going to be in a relationship with him......you're going to have to carry around a lot of extra baggage. And eventually you're going to get fed up with it. I think you should let him figure out his thing before you consider being in a relationship with him,
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hey :)
im almost 16 and im going to be a sophmore in highschool. i've had over 26 boyfriends since what the sixth grade. and i kknow thats outrageous. i've never been broken up with and my longest relationship was a little over 2 months. most of my relationship end in a matter of weeks. i dont know what's wrong with me i just can't keep a relationship going i always end up breaking it off. then i tell myself not to say yes to anyone else so i dont go through it again but i can;t help it sometimes. =. any advise, or explanation? thankss (link)
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If you find yourself breaking it off with every guy, then he's just not the right guy. It sounds to me like guys are liking you before you like them and end up asking you out and you just say yes to give them a chance. Well wait until you like somone because then you know that if you go out you already have the "liking" factor there. Sometimes even if you like someone and they like you and you go out, it doesn't work out anyways. And there's nothing wrong with experimenting with a lot of guys but eventually people will begint o notice and you might develop a bad reputation and then guys will give up on asking you out. For right now, if guys you barely know ask you out, then you know it's kinda a waste of time, because it'll most likely end up the same as the other ones. But if you can look at a guy and look at a year from now and you can see yourself still with that guy, then go for it. Hope this helps!
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this is a complicated situation, and goes for a while but please any advice is greatly appriciated.
I've known this guy for a while now, and originally we were only just mates. We used to hang out a fair bit & chat pretty often. I never thought of him as someone that i could have any potential feelings for and those kind of thoughts never crossed my mind. Reflecting back on it i guess we used to flirt a fair bit, but i never really thought about it in that way.
Then out of no where one night we kissed, he made all the moves and kind of just came on really strong. I didnt bother me but it was just really unexpected and weird. I realised after i had kissed him the first time that i actualy kinda did have a thing for him. My best friend said she saw it coming a mile away. Ever sinse then we started kissing on a regular basis, except for the fact that he was uneasy about the differences in our age, him being 20 and me being 16. I know that sounds like its such a big gap, but it really doesnt feel like that and we get along really well.
The more i saw of this boy, the more and more intrested i became in him, and im never one to develop feelings for people, or put myself in a position to be hurt, but with him everything seemed different.
I go to an all girls private school, and everything at my school gets blown about 100 times out of proportion. As soon as i started seeing this guy all the girls at my school seemed suddenly really interested in him, talking about him alot in front of me, and going out of their way to catch up with him & see him.
It never really bothered me until they started saying things to him about me, just that i was "super keen" and that i seemed to really like him.
One night when all of the girls were at a party and he was there too, and i couldnt make it for some reason, he was apparently "all over" a girl in my friendship circle. Nothing happened apparently, but even now its still a bit of a grey area. The next day i had my 2 best mates ringing me up telling me about how dodgy the whole situation had looked & how this girl had been saying she wanted to kiss the boy id been with. I was a bit annoyed aboutt he whole thing, but thort it wait until i spoke to the boy before i said anything to anyone, kinda just to hear both sides of the story.
When i approached the situation with the boy he got all defensive, telling me that hes been friends with girls all his life, and hes not gonna change the way he interacts with them because of my insecurities. He bascially flipped his lid at me and told me that i needed to not listen to anything that "my stupid friends" told me because they were obviously over exagerating. i let it all slide but later that day he sent me a really indepth text msg telling me that maybe we should just be friends until "those around us" settle down and stop causing trouble.
i took the news really hard, and struggeled heaps to get over him. I didnt really no what id done wrong because everything seemed to be going so well. We decided to just be friends and he thort that i was fine with that, but i was really upset and had alot of trouble seeing him in social situations. All of my friends new how hard id took it and were really good about the whole thing. I was eventually getting over him when i saw him one night out in town (nightclub) i felt so confident around him and didnt even get the whole butterfly in the stomach feeling. I kissed another really nice boy that night and thort that it was the last id have to worry about the first guy. The next day i started getting attention off him again, him sending me txt msgs telling me how great i looked the night before and that he hopse i had an ok night etc.
from there onwards we have been talking heaps as i presumed as just good friends like we usd to be before the whole "fling" happened.
The other night he invited me over to his house to watch a movie and hang out I went around with no intentions, but he ended up kissing me. I knew the whole time that it was happeneing that it was the wrong thing and i shouldnt be putting myself in the situation i was in but i couldnt help it. The next day he sent me a msg telling me that his mum had liked seeing me again, and thort i looked as "stunning as ever" and that he was sorry if he came on too strong, he just couldnt resist.
The weekend after he aledgedly spent the night with the girl who had tried to kiss him ages ago (the one that was all over him the night i wasnt there) and naturally my school made the rumours about 100 times worse. I felt really hurt and used seeing as he had kissed me only a couple of days earlier and had been calling me and msging me all week. I came the conclusion that he was just playing me and to steer clear, but that night he came over to my house pleading me to understand that it wasnt true and that he would never do that to me.. making out like i had some reason to be mad, like we had been something serious or something. I accepted his apology and sinse then we have basically been kissing regulary again, but this time more secretive so less people will get involved and talk about it.
I dont no whether he has any real feelings for me or if hes just going to play me all over again, but i dont really no what to do about getting an answer to this whole situation. I know that if i want to protect myself i should just steer clear all together, but i have such strong feelings for him i am just hoping that this time he treats me a bit better and understands what i want. i really dont no what to do!
sorry this has been so long, but i just thort it would be easier to explain everything this way!!
please help me, would be much appriciated, i will rate highly for any attempt!!
regards,
steph x (link)
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It kinda sounds like he only has feelings for you when it's conveinant for him. When you got more attention from another guy, he suddenly came in all lovey lovey again? But then when things were finally getting back to normal, he does stuff with other girls? It sounds to me like when you're there, he's the sweetest but when you leave you're just a grain of sand on the beach to him, not even considering you when he does stuff with other girls. If you honestly think that if you end up staying with this guy as more than a friend is what is best for you and that you think you guys have potential and you can look at a year from now and still see you two together, then tell him that you want to try and if he wants to too, then he has to stop fooling around with other girls. But if he can't give up his flirtatious ways for you, then you deserve better anyways. And whatever you decide, don't tell people because it's none of their business. Let them find out on their own, because the more people that know, the more rumors start. And if everyone ends up finding out and rumors are overflowing then clear it up with him first and ask him to do the same so you don't get mad at one another for a stupid lie. Good Luck!
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My boyfriend and I see eachother every day and talk on the phone every day. I am 18 and he is 21. Sometimes we get naggy or fight about stupid things. He always has to be right and he sometimes says hurtful things not meaning to hurt me. I was wondering how we can strengthen our relationship so we dont ever fight and we are happier together. I love him so much and I love spending time with him. We have sleepovers sometimes and we are intimate. We have been dating for 3 months but we moved really fast. (link)
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There's no such thing as a relationship without fighting. You're going to have your little spats where someone gets hurt. It sounds like you guys don't fight about anything serious where it could end the relationship so, to be blunt, you just need to toughen up a bit. Obviously, if he likes the last word in things, it's because of his personality. You guys have only been dating for 3 months. Maybe your bothered by his stubborness and shortness with you because you guys spend too much time in the bedroom and not enough getting to know each other.
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im 14 ...ok i've read like 1000 answers to how to make out and it all seems so weird the whole tounge action and i dont know i never made out before but i really wanna wit my b.f and he did it like 20 thousands times and im really scared cuz i dont no how and the other answers to like" put ur tounge in " really like dicussed me ..so i need some help !!!! and quick (link)
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First of all, nobody is a good kisser. Just because he has a little more experince doesn't mean he's talented at it or something. No need to fret. Once it starts, it'll all just sort of fall into place. Don't worry about where to put your hands or move your tongue. Since it takes two to make out, he'll kinda lead you along the way. Don't try to force anything, believe me, it'll be a little nerveracking, but completely comfortable once you get the hang of it.
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hello there , i have this big problem! ok there is this boy and we have been "talking" If you no what i mean . and well he says he likes me and i really like him , but i jsut found out he goes out with this other girl and i dont no what to do! so i really what to know what i should do please help me ! thank you (link)
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Well if this other girl knows about you, she might be in the exact same position. He's probably just dating around, not boyfriend and girlfriend, you'll know if he likes you when you guys make plans and suddenly the other girl is no longer in the picture. It could just be a friend that he goes out with sometimes. I wouldn't bring it up, because it'll sound a little obvious that you were interested. I would just make more plans to get together, and if he agrees to them, then he probably does like you. But if you guys just stick to "talking" and don't go out anywhere, then he most likely has something with this other girl and wants you two to be friends.
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ok my friend likes these 2 guys can she CANT pick who to choose so would u please help me. 1 man is evan- whos 2 years younger, hes a cutie and he asked her out twice and she denined him and wishes she didnt and ever since then she loved him for like a year but hes in florida now but hes coming back in middle of july. the only thing is she hasnt seen him in a year and she doesnt kno if he likes her. ok next guy is kevin- who just met her and hes in LOVE with her and obsessed. he cares about her alot and hes a year older. hes a cutie and they just started hanging out. shes torn between both of them and i doesnt know what to do. please help! any advice!? ill love you forever
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I think she should wait a little longer until making any final decisions. Just because she likes both doesn't mean she should feel pressured to choose. Maybe she should wait until Evan comes back and start talking to him again and see if things are still the same. But meanwhile, while he's gone, she can get to know this guy Kevin a little more before she just dumps a year's worth of affection for Evan for a guy she barely knows.
Maybe she should date for a little. NOT GO OUT BOYFRIEND AND GIRLFRIEND. but see one boy one night and the other another night. There's nothing wrong with that.
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my life is going go so good right now. everythings perfect, ive got the perfect bestfriend, and i have the perfect kid.
but, hes not mine. hes someone elses, and they fight constantly, i dont even think he likes her anymore. and him and i have always liked eachother, and he came over yesterday, and we were having like, 45345x of fun. we went to the park, and well, when he said goodbye, he said "i love you" and gave me a big hug, that like picked me off the ground. :P
and wouldnt ya know it... his girlfriends brother was there to pick him up. :[
they are fighting again, but becuase of me.. and well, i dont know. he always says sorry to me, and says he does love me.
but, he wont break up with his girlfirned, becuase his friends are her friends, and her brothers are his bestfriends. :P
:[ should i stick around, or just give up on all of it togehter. ? (link)
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If his relationship is bad, he should break up with her regardless of the connections made or if you're in the picture at all. You can't hang on to a realtionship based on the same friendships. This is a battle he has to fight on his own. Let him know that if he really loved you, he wouldn't be with the other girl right now and being a little pussy and backing down from the truth isn't going to solve anything. You can wait, but don't wait forever.
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well, ever since i started to like guys, people have told me i have very "weird" taste in guys. Because of this, i've had this habit of concealing (very well i might add) who i like (by not looking them in the eyes, etc.). Now people are thinking i'm bi or a lesbian, and it's very obnoxcious because sometimes they don't believe me when i say i'm straight. And on top of all this, i've started doing these habits with guys i don't even like! I really need some tips on how i can stop this, because this weekend i'm seeing this guy i really like at a party and i want something to happen between us and i don't want to look like a freak with all my weirdish habits. Thanks in advance! (link)
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Don't worry if other people say you have a weird taste in guys. People like who they like and sometimes we can't help it. We're drawn to who we're drawn to, initially, and if it's not the person that other people would consider liking, then it's not their business. Girls shouldn't have to follow a trend about who they're attracted to. Because in the end, the ones who don't, end up with the best guys. Now that you're self conscious about who you like, you just need to get back into that groove where you're comfortable around them. There's no need to avoid them because of other people, because then the person you like won't notice you! Be their friend before you pursue them because then it'll be easier for them and yourself to get along and think of each other as more than a friend. Hope this helps!
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My ex got a summer job at the same camp I'm working at. Last week was our first week working together and he kept flirting and said to me "you know you want me back" right in front of other counselors. He's been calling me at night but I've been avoiding his calls until I figure out what to do. I like him so much. We were together eight months and we broke up in March. We met at this camp last summer. He knows I go out with someone else now and he keeps asking me what he can do to make me like him as much as I like my current boyfriend. So far I've just smiled and gone on about my work. The guy I go out with now is great!!!! Almost too good to be true. We don't argue and he treats me like a princess. Life with my ex was drama filled. My current boyfriend knows we are working together and he has no problem with it. Should I stay with this guy that is wonderful? or should I follow my heart because my heart is telling me to get back with my ex? Either way the rest of the summer is going to be hard...seeing him everyday. Yesterday he started flirting with some other girl but made sure I was around to see it. It hurt so bad but I didn't let on like I cared. What should I do? How do I sort this out? (link)
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Responding to the Additional Info:
I wouldn't break up with your current boyfriend. I have a great boyfriend now and I love him with all my heart, but I'd be lying if I said that when I see my ex, sparks don't fly. I'd be a hypocrit if I said, I wasn't attracted to other guys while i'm with my boyfriend, but it wasn't enough to make me pick up and leave. You might always have a little thing there for your ex because of all the memories you shared and such. But is it really worth to let a good thing go for something you're not in 100% with. It seems like this other guy is just playing with your mind and is a jerk. Your boyfriend sounds great, but if your ex is the only thing in your head, you need to be true to yourself and your feelings. It sounds like these feelings only appear when you're with your ex, and thats okay! If when you're with your boyfriend, there is no one else on your mind, then I think you'll be fine.
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I've been with my boyfriend since October 23rd 2005, i'm 15 almost 16 and he turned 18 in March. [ if that helps ]. He started living with me about 6 months after we met. We fight sometimes , but when we do fight he sometimes gets abusive. We got in a fight like a week ago and he grabbed me by the back of my neck forcing my head down in the my bed. My first thought after he did it was " well i don't feel the pain now , but i know in a couple days my neck will hurt ". and so it did.... i really love him alot and i wish he would change. is there anything i can change about myself for him to stop this , because i know in the future if this keeps happening , we won't be together.
thank you so much.
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YOU DONT NEED TO CHANGE! HE NEEDS TO CHANGE! The reason you won't be together in the future is because he's gonna end up in jail for killing you if you don't stop this now. You need to put him in a serious reality check and stand up for yourself. You might love him, but you sure as hell won't love him when he hurts you harder. Let him know that if he ever lays a hand on you again that isn't a gentle touch, you will retaliate and you will end up leaving.
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