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Being Busy with a Boyfriend
I've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 months. We've been doing great. We haven't had a big fight or anything and he's really sweet. We started dating at the end of the summer when I saw him every day. We go to different schools, though. After school started, I got a 10:00 curfew on the weekdays, a 12:00 curfew on the weekends, and only two days I'm able to take the car (I don't have one of my own, so I have restrictions on my parents' car). My mom has helped me out by giving me an extra day or a curfew extension here or there and she lets him come over and she takes him home so I can be with him without using one of my days. He only works on the weekends with his uncle and I've only been working on the weekends too. For the most part, we've gone a maximum of 2 or 3 days a week without seeing each other. We always find ways to be together.
I am getting my own car within the next day or so, so I no longer have restrictions with a car. However, I now have to pay for insurance and my own gas. Therefore, I got a better paying job where I'll be working Monday-Thursday evenings and Saturday mornings. He works Saturday mornings so it's not a problem. That means that I'll get Friday, Saturday, and Sunday nights with him, and that's it. I still have the same curfew. Plus, he may have to get a job soon during the week, so we may be seeing each other even less. It will just be phone conversations for the majority of the week.
I'm about to turn 18 and I'm graduating high school this year. After I graduate, I'll be able to do more things. I can stay out a lot later, stay the night out of the house, and eventually get my own apartment while working and going to college. After school lets out, if my boyfriend and I are still together like I hope we will, it will be a lot easier for us to be together. It's just now that is going to be hard for us...at least until this school year ends in May. That means 7 months of only seeing each other 3 or 4 days a week. I'm scared to death that 2 1/2 months isn't long enough to withstand 7 months of working to see him.
I just wanted some thoughts on my situation. I'm extremely stressed out, because between school, work, graduation, college applications, etc. I won't see him nearly as much as I have been. Maybe this is a good thing? But maybe not. Any thoughts?
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Considering that this is your hardest school year, working in a boyfriend who goes to a diifferent school is going to be extremely difficult. I'm not saying you should break up with him by any means, but because this is a new relationship, I'm sure you still feel that this year is more of a priority than your boyfriend. You can try to set up a schedule where you can both see each other regularly eithout overloading yourselves with work. It's going to be hard to try to make it operate all together, but if you and him honestly feel that this is a relationship that can make it far, then you'll work through the odds. Plus, theres always holidays during school years and spring breaks to see each other for longer periods of time. Good luck!
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As you get older, your life gets busier. I don't talk to my boyfriend all week, not even by phone, and rarely we speak on the computer, and it's because we both work full time jobs. I just graduated college in May, so I had a little more free time, but now he started college after taking a few years break, so we basically see each other once a week and it works. You just really have to trust that you care for each other enough to not let your busy schedules come between you. Make the most of the time you do have together and try not to let little things like missing a phone call you both had planned or something like that. You don't want one your few times talking to be a fight. You really have to work at being flexible and understanding. If you're able to do that, you should be fine. After all, distance makes the heart grow fonder.
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