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ok so i'm a 17 year old guy and my girlfriend is now almost 17 and we're in love and have been for about a month and a half (we've been together for about 4 months now). we've master the whole kissing thing so recently i asked her if i could get a blowjob in the near future and she said that she wouldn't mind giving one to me because i deserve it. i want to make her feel good too so i told her that i would return the favor and do something for her. she's never given a blowjob before but she has received oral sex. the thing is, i have no idea what to do, or what i'm looking for, or anything. i'm thinking that i'm going to finger her first and then go in with the tongue and stuff but that's really all i've got right now. i really need some help from both guys and girls. i love her so much and i really want to make her feel good so i don't want to mess this up badly. if i did horrible though, i know she would still love me but like i said, i want to make her feel good. so any help would be much appreciated. (link)
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Step 1: Find the clit.
Step 2: Swirl/suck/lick/flick/do whatever to it.
Step 3: Do an occasional lick of the whole area/stick tongue inside her...play off of her reactions to what you're doing to her.
Do a little trial and error, and again if she reacts more intensely to something you're doing, keep doing it. You have to figure out what she likes, because all girls are different.
Here is a map of where the clit is:
http://www.infosex.com/pics/clit.jpg
Good luck, my friend.
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In my AP Biology class we were discussing diseases and viruses.
And we started talking about bulimia,
if it is a mental disease, is it contagious?
I know you cant like cough and catch it.
But can you "catch" it?
I think u can.
What do y'all think?
Thanks.
XCody*X (link)
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That's like saying you can catch alcoholism. It just depends on the person and their state of mind. Someone with a distorted body image is more likely to develop bulimia but if you hang out with someone who has bulimia, you aren't going to become bulimic yourself by default. I know quite a few people with eating disorders, and I myself have never struggled with anything of the sort.
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okay so i have love handles, but yet im skinny
and it bugs me so much cuz i can never wear belts it just like sticks out. and it also bugs me how not so skinny ppl dontt even have them, it seems like im the only one
so is there a way i can get rid of them
like a certain excericse. or diet
and how long would it take? (link)
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The only way you can get rid of them is to exercise and eat better and hope they shrink. You can never target just one area or do a certain exercise to hope one part of your body shrinks.
As far as other's not having them, some people just collect fat in different areas. Also, some people just carry their weight different so it depends on the person.
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Hello! I am a 17-year old female. I am not sexually active but lately a kind of thick white substance has been coming from my vagina. It doesn't have a smell or anything, but is there something wrong with me? Please help (link)
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If you're near your period, it is just an effect of PMS. There is a mucous plug in the cervix and it comes out just before you menstruate.
If you are not near your period, then it is simply vaginal discharge. Basically, it is your crotch cleaning itself out. I wouldn't worry about it unless it gets excessive or starts to smell really bad. Then you may have a yeast infection. Otherwise, it is natural.
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So, I got linked to this site and I'm basically on the last thread of my sanity, and thought, "Hey why not." The bottom line is I cheated on my girlfriend. There's more to the story i can spare, but nonetheless it was a terrible situation, where we weren't together, but turned into more of a blackmail when I got back with my girl, "If you don't sleep with me again I'll tell." After a few times of destroying my morals even more, I put an end to it, and sure enough, my girlfriend was told about what I had done thereafter. I have been with many chicks, had many heartbreaks, but this is one I can not leave behind. I have never been more sure about anything in my entire life, unlike a lot of people who ask advice on here. I have exhausted a lot of time and effort into trying to find resolution with us for months (and I know she's still in between on the idea of giving me another chance), and I would give anything in the world to obtain it. What should I do? A lot of things I read on here about cheaters are very close-minded, and leave no cushion for a human error, or even the possibility of an honest change. Please help?
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Well the first thing I will say is this: Take absolute responsibility for your actions. Do not reply to anything with "but we weren't together at first" or anything like that. The first step to making her realize that you are serious about moving on from this is the fact that you are willing to take total blame for fucking up. I don't know if you have done that thus far, but if you have, keep it up, if you haven't, own up.
Second, I am not sure as to what kind of interaction you have with her during this time, but try to keep it at a "friend" level. That way it doesn't seem like you are really pressing her to make a decision. If you still hang out, try to make it as casual as possible. It is a way for her to remember why she was with you in the first place, seeing you for the person you are again rather than the person who hurt her. Be yourself, it is the reason she was with you to begin with.
Third, she needs a reason to trust you. You are the only person who can really figure out what that reason is, as corny and cliche as that sounds. It has to be beyond "because I love you" or "it will never happen again" because anyone can say that stuff until they are blue in the face, but it doesn't matter unless they are able to see it in you. So work hard at regaining her trust, because if anything, this will be what determines both whether or not you have another chance and whether or not the relationship will withstand this type of incident down the road. Sometimes when a person cheats and is taken back, they find a way to put a bandaid on it and think it's fine. What can happen is the trust is never regained and the other person becomes extremely insecure about it and it can ruin the relationship.
I am not sure if this is what you were looking for, but that is my take on it. If you have other questions, I can try and answer those as well. But good luck and I hope things work out for you.
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I recently met a wonderful, mature guy in his forties (I'm in my thirties) and we spent a great night together and a long late breakfast the next afternoon in which we told each other quite a lot about our past relationships. I divorced four years ago after a marriage of seven years. This marriage was to my first boyfriend, my first sexual experience, and turned out to be somewhat abusive. I tried to get out of the marriage twice, first by simply telling him I wanted out. I stayed that time because I couldn't handle how much it seemed to hurt him to leave. The second time, I went off to an artists' colony for a month and actually cheated on him, the first time I'd ever done this before or after. I told him immediately and it was the end of our marriage. One of my friends thought the cheating was the only way my husband would have let me go.
So I told the new guy all of this. He had said something about my being mature enough to get out of the marriage or something that I thought wasn't quite right, wasn't quite honest if I agreed, so I told him of the cheating so he'd really know what happened and told him I suffered untold guilt about it for a long time.
Well now I'm wondering if I made a mistake, if my desire for honesty will simply scare him off instead. He took what I said very kindly, seemed to understand, but now I'm worried. Maybe it's just that I'm waiting for that call to see him again that's gotten me so worried. In any case, would you recommend this kind of honesty on my part in the future (on future dates, if this one doesn't work out)? Shouldn't I keep things open? Or am I just shooting myself in the foot.
Thanks,
handwringing (link)
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I think it was perfectly appropriate for the conversation you were having. It is great that you showed him you're able to be completely honest even at such an early point in the relationship. If anything, he'll see it as a sign that you're willing to be completely open about anything and that you aren't hiding anything about your past. I would be surprised if he is scared off by that. Since he is in his 40's, I doubt he is going to run off for petty reasons the same way a guy in his 20's would. You are probably worrying yourself over nothing.
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i go running every night but is it better to go after i eat a small dinner or before? (link)
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It is best to run in the morning before you eat anything, that way your body is burning pure stored fat calories rather than the calories you may have just put in your body after eating. So if you must run at night, go before you eat anything, that way it is likely that you will be burning stored fat rather than whatever had just been put in. Also, if you run before you eat, your metabolism is kick started and whatever you eat afterwards will burn faster.
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do pregnancy signs show up
within one week?
if so what are the signs? (link)
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No. After having sex, it usually takes about a week for the sperm to even make it's way to an egg. The tricky thing is, pregnancy signs are much like the signs of getting your period: swollen/tender boobs, achy, tired, cramping, etc. So if you start to get these symptoms and you aren't expecting your period, you might want to take a pregnancy test. Even so, I assume you are in your teens, so your period is never quite regular anyway and it is hard to predict in the first place.
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I've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 months. We've been doing great. We haven't had a big fight or anything and he's really sweet. We started dating at the end of the summer when I saw him every day. We go to different schools, though. After school started, I got a 10:00 curfew on the weekdays, a 12:00 curfew on the weekends, and only two days I'm able to take the car (I don't have one of my own, so I have restrictions on my parents' car). My mom has helped me out by giving me an extra day or a curfew extension here or there and she lets him come over and she takes him home so I can be with him without using one of my days. He only works on the weekends with his uncle and I've only been working on the weekends too. For the most part, we've gone a maximum of 2 or 3 days a week without seeing each other. We always find ways to be together.
I am getting my own car within the next day or so, so I no longer have restrictions with a car. However, I now have to pay for insurance and my own gas. Therefore, I got a better paying job where I'll be working Monday-Thursday evenings and Saturday mornings. He works Saturday mornings so it's not a problem. That means that I'll get Friday, Saturday, and Sunday nights with him, and that's it. I still have the same curfew. Plus, he may have to get a job soon during the week, so we may be seeing each other even less. It will just be phone conversations for the majority of the week.
I'm about to turn 18 and I'm graduating high school this year. After I graduate, I'll be able to do more things. I can stay out a lot later, stay the night out of the house, and eventually get my own apartment while working and going to college. After school lets out, if my boyfriend and I are still together like I hope we will, it will be a lot easier for us to be together. It's just now that is going to be hard for us...at least until this school year ends in May. That means 7 months of only seeing each other 3 or 4 days a week. I'm scared to death that 2 1/2 months isn't long enough to withstand 7 months of working to see him.
I just wanted some thoughts on my situation. I'm extremely stressed out, because between school, work, graduation, college applications, etc. I won't see him nearly as much as I have been. Maybe this is a good thing? But maybe not. Any thoughts? (link)
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As you get older, your life gets busier. I don't talk to my boyfriend all week, not even by phone, and rarely we speak on the computer, and it's because we both work full time jobs. I just graduated college in May, so I had a little more free time, but now he started college after taking a few years break, so we basically see each other once a week and it works. You just really have to trust that you care for each other enough to not let your busy schedules come between you. Make the most of the time you do have together and try not to let little things like missing a phone call you both had planned or something like that. You don't want one your few times talking to be a fight. You really have to work at being flexible and understanding. If you're able to do that, you should be fine. After all, distance makes the heart grow fonder.
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hi. 15/m. i eat my breakfast at about 7.30am, and after the the next time i eat is about 1/1.30 pm, because im at school and my lunch time is at 1pm. But by 10.30/11ish im really hungry, and at about 12, my stomache starts to rumble, and tis really embarrasing because sometimes the class is quiet and it starts making noise. i need something that will keep me fuller for longer. even oats wont work, ive tried virtually everything you can eat bor breakfast, and it doesnt work. any suggestions? (link)
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Well since you're 15 I'm guessing you're in high school. If that is the case, keep something in your back pack/locker to eat quick between classes. When I'm at work I bring wheat thins because I get hungry around 10:30/11AM myself. You're supposed to eat something every 3 hours in order to keep your blood sugar high enough to function well throughout the day. As far as breakfast goes, keep eating what you usually eat, the key is to really just get a little something in your stomach when you start to feel some hunger pangs.
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I met this guy at my dads friends party. i liked him ever sense i saw him he was soo cute but i didnt REALLY like him till he was talking to my dads friends son and i saw his personality, a bit. then we started talking and i liked him RIGHT away. soon he had to leave but i asked for his number and he asked for mine. soo long story short whenever i talked to him from then it allways made me soo happy and in such a good mood he would waste his time talking to me. but you know i was allways cool about it i never called him to much or text him to much just like once in three days or whatevr cause i didnt want to get annoying. but i felt annoying when he didnt talk to me for a long while. so i decided to lay off about a week l8tr without talking to him i felt so bad i accualy screwed it up with this guy [i was THAT insucure]and accualy cried overnight. worst night ever over me not even talking to him! then i called him mad i thought i DONT deserve this! im gonna call him and figger out what the heck is going on cause he never calls me back, imagine that he didnt pick up. the next day though he texted me, and we talked and i was happy. the day after that i called and we talked. then stopped till i texted him a few days l8tr. now a few daays ago i talked to him and as allways i felt great talking to him, we talked about everything, and his friend was there too and he accualy flirted with me then . ALOT. he would tell me i was hott and whatnot and that he wanted to see me, stuff like that . i asked him why he hasnt returned my calls. his friend yelled out CAUSE HES LAZY! and he laughed on that. afew days later called again, you get the picture. i feel it keeps going over and over he have a GREAT time talking then he dissapears on me. he gets me all happy but know later i will get in a bad mood feeling i did somthing wrong cause he never returns texts. i dont know, is he just not into me or not much of a talker or what ? i like him soo much and think of him every day. he seems into me on the phone but after that nothing. but hey if he says hell call me that night in a few he will that must count for somthing. please advice !
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Chances are, he just really isn't into using his phone. I am the same way. Even though I can REALLY like a guy, if he calls or texts me, 90% of the time I never get back to them because I am just not a phone person. Next time you talk to him, see if you can get a screen name for an online messenger or maybe an email address if you haven't already got them. Since his friend called him out on being lazy about answering his phone, chances are he ignores his friends phone calls/tests just the same.
It seems like he likes you from the way you describe your interactions, so just try to play it cool and not overthink things when he doesn't return calls/texts. If there's one thing that people should learn it's to not "smother" someone they are interested in. If you call too much, he might get the impression that you're clingy. Big turn off if you're a boy or a girl.
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me and my boyfriend has been together for a while now, and we lost our virginities to eachother. and it's almost been a month before my period is supposed to come. and right now, we're both scared because he thinks i'm pregnant right now. but i'm not really sure if i am. because we've used condoms and we've changed it over and over again too. and it didn't break or leak or anything. we were very careful during sex, and i haven't been throwing up or anything, i felt like it.. but that's maybe because i'm kind of sick and i've been coughing hard that makes me wanna throw up. and my stomaches gotten kind of bigger, but how is that possible for less than a month? it's probably because i've eaten alot of junk food or something. my period comes at random times, supposedly it's supposed to come around this week or next, but i don't even have my warning yet. maybe i'm just worrying too much that my period hasn't come yet... i'm not sure.
PLEASE HELP ME! i'm really scared, nobody knows that i'm not a virgin anymore, and neither does my boyfriend's friends or whoever. please help me! we're really scared. (link)
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First of all, try not to stress yourself out. The more you stress, the less likely your period will arrive since stress causes the menstrual cycle to become erratic. I'm assuming you're young, which makes your period even more erratic, which means it is likely you have nothing to worry about. I can't gaurantee you aren't pregnant, but go to Wal-Mart or Walgreens and buy a pregnancy test if you are really worried about it. That way you will have some peace of mind if it turns out negative making the probability that your period will arrive much higher.
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does anyone poke their ear with a stick to get junk out? or is my family just weird. it hurts so much! (link)
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Nah, they aren't weird. I use bobbypins to clean my ears because it scrapes all of the gunk out of there WAY better than a Qtip.
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14/f
is it normal for me to feel bad about myself (my personality, and stuff) on somedays and feel good about myself other days?
how do i know the difference between just having a "bad day" and a geniuine self-esteem problem?
please give me the truth, dont sugar-coat your answer or condense it. i need as much motivation to keep "being myself" as possible.
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When you're 14, that is completely normal. It is a crazy time in your life when you will be an insecure as ever. I can assure you, you don't have a "geunine self-esteem proble." At the age of 24, I still struggle with certain insecurities. It's a natural part of being a human being. To be honest, I don't think there is such a thing as "high self-esteem." Behind any one person's confidence are the same insecurities that everyone deals with. Some people are just better at hiding them rather than leaving them on the surface for everyone to see.
Just continue to try and be a positive person. Positivity is a powerful thing and can change not only the way you look at yourself, but the way others look at you as well.
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my boyfriend has been saying i love you for a couple of months now. i do say it online but not in person or over the phone yet. he understands i'm waiting for the right moment. [btw, i'm speaking from a 9 month relationship]
it's just i don't know what's wrong with me. i can feel it, but the words don't come out. i love you is like saying sorry. by the age 7 or 8, i never spoke of those words [to parents or friends]... maybe because i was embarrassed or i dont know. i want to say it but i'm afraid i'll freeze up. i'm naturally quiet, close to a mute anyway. so maybe it's the anxiety or the experience/reaction of his that's scaring me. i felt forced to say it [over the phone] in another relationship.. but this one.. i told them how i felt about it and i can wait comfortably. i think i'm strange.. it took me so long.. by the age 14.. i could finally apologize to friends.. and maybe around 16, i would go and say i love blahblah [a close friend]. but in a relationship.. it's.. a lot different. what's wrong with me? there has been times i've wanted to say it but.. it just won't come out. i freeze up and get shy. (link)
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I grew up the exact same way. In fact, my parents and I didn't start saying "I love you" until I moved away for college. It is normal, especially if you grew up in a household where it wasn't tossed around all the time. I had friends who said it to their parents everytime they left their house. It's not that they are any closer with their parents than I am, because I am actually pretty close with my own parents, it's just not something that needs to be said all the time. It can lose it's meaning if you toss it around too much. It almost means more when it is hard for a person to say and they finally say it. The guy seems really understanding and like a decent catch, so just continue on with what you're doing. He knows you love him, you just have a hard time expressing it. You will become more comfortable with time and it won't even be an issue anymore.
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Ok.. there is this guy in one of my classes that i thought was really hot. I never really had the courage to talk to him but then i got over my little shy thing and started talking to him on aim. I sent him pictures of me like naked and he sent me a picture of his .. you know lol. We started hanging out and I really like him now. I gave him head.. and he wanted to have sex [hes a virgin] but we didn't have time so i told him know. He says that he likes me and I like him too. I want to date but im not going to ask him out. Anyway he IMed me like 20 minutes ago saying he wanted to ask me a question but didnt want me to take it personal. Well asked me if I'm looking to be in a relationship with him and I told him i dont know i was like " I really like you, and I would date you but I'm not going to be here like oh my god we need to date" he told me thats good because right now he doesnt want a girlfriend because of drama.. and then hes like no that you cause drama.. im like ok hes like dont like when they are all clingy and then hes like not that your clingy.. and all this other stuff. Oh ya thens hes like I dont want to get tied down to one girl.. not that im like a man whore.. and then hes like but i really do like you i just dont want to be in a relationship right now they make me feel weird.. and all this other stuff. What should I do at this point? Should I just hangout with him and get him to like me or and more till the point he asks me out.. or do u think it will even get like that? (link)
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He is using you. If he is telling you he doesn't want to be with you and wants to be with other girls, he just wants the physical aspect of what you're willing to offer. "Friends with benefits" if you will. Your best bet is to keep it at a friendship level without crossing that physical line. I am pretty sure he won't ask you out no matter how long you hang out with him.
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okay well ive been on ortho tryclen lo for only two weeks. on the 11th day. i had sex, without a condom, he did not ejaculate in me. whats the odds of me being pregnant? thankss. (link)
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Your chances of being pregnant are about as good as they are while having sex without a condom or birth control. If you're close to when you should have your period, then the chances are considerably higher. If you're really worried about it, go to Planned Parenthood and get the morning after pill. Unless it's been over 72 hours since you had sex, then it might be useless and you will have to wait it out.
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so i forgot how to write a summary and i have to read a small, smallll article on something inparticular and write a summary about it, what do i say? (link)
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You want to pick out the main arguments or points that were made in the article and just write a little bit about each one. All a summary is, is a report about what was in the article you read. It's not difficult at all.
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I want to do a sport this year and I build muscle quickly, so I was thinking about water polo, The thing is, I dont know how to train for the sport so I can be in shape for try outs
any suggestions???
thanks
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Your best bet is to swim until you feel you may never want to swim again. You may even want to swim with weights. Water polo is an exhausting sport, so you have got to build up some stamina.
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((the story)) Im pregnant oh and im also 19 years old.. i recently found out and i called the father of the baby.. he is not my boyfriend.. but he is the boy i love with all my heart. he is the love of my life. when i told him he just right away said i dont want it, that i needed to take care of it.. i got mad and just hung up the phone and sent him a text saying i would talk to him later, that i wasnt in the mood to talk... later that night we talked some more, he made it 100% clear he doesnt want it.. he told me to take a pill or get an abortion.. i said ok... but the truth is.. i dont know if i want to... i know im young, i know i have my life to live... but i want a child... i feel like i need it.. to fill the emptiness i feel inside me.. that i have felt for such a long time... but at the same time.. i know if i keep it i will loose him, which makes me not want it... i love him with all my heart, with everything i have..but i know and feel in my heart that he and i will never be what i want to be... we have been "together" ((friends with benifets/bestfriends/'inlove'/all of the above)) for 2 1/2 years now.. and he knows i love him, and he claims he loves me aswell.. but he never wants something "real"... if i keep the baby, i am like 90% sure he will have nothing to do with me because i will be going against his wishes.. that or i just dont tell him and i leave to live in the US ((i live in mexico bythe way)) to stay with my family who lives there...
((the question)) should i get an abortion and continue being in this f*ed up relationsip that goes no where with theman i love.. or should i keep the baby and risk losing him forever, yet gaining a new never ending love of a child?? (link)
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First of all, DO NOT keep a child just because you want it to fill some void in your life. That is completely selfish and I don't think you realize the work that goes into having a child. Grown, married women with full-time jobs struggle to raise children because of the time it consumes.
Second, do not get rid of the child just because this guy doesn't want to have it and won't take responsibility for his actions. If he was man enough to have sex with you, he is man enough to raise a kid.
If an abortion is really something you want, then make a mature decision based on what YOU want after evaluating the effects it will have on your life. There is also the option of adoption, which will give the kid a chance at a life with a family that actually gives it the love and stability it deserves.
Lastly, ditch the guy. He sounds like a jerk. You said yourself the relationship is going no where. If he loved you as much as you love him, this kid would not end the relationship.
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