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Grandparents trying to ruin us
Ok well me and my girlfriend have been dating over 5 months now. She grew up with her grandparents and they have always been strict. Once she turned 18 and started college we figured things would be better and they were. Now all of a sudden they are trying to control and ruin her life. They are trying to prevent her from seeing me and from going on a trip with me to visit her mom in Florida. Thing is they don't even want her going to see her mother. All the have been doing is calling her and flipping on her about things. Now they even have her father after her who now thinks she is doing drugs which isn't true. My question to you is what else can we do to get them to just let us be? But wait there is a catch. They are paying for all her schooling and they keep money in her account and if she does the wrong thing they may not support her anymore. Please Help!!
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if she's away at college... can't you see her without them knowing?
maybe you guys shouldn't go see her mom... it seems like there's something they don't want her to see.
make sure she doesn't piss off her grandparents just to be with you... money for school is very important! just humor them and maybe they'll stop buggin out. <3
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In your case, you can honestly tell them what your best intentions are for their granddaughter. Just say sincerely, that you understand their overprotectiveness but you are a gentleman and are only thinking of her best wishes and you would never do anything that they would disapprove of. As for her parents, that is her own battle to fight. She is 18, and if she's still scared to have a mature conversation with them about what has been going on, then nothing will ever change. She needs to point out that she appreciates their hospitality and money for school, but that at this point in her life, it is time for her to take action for herself, without consulting them because she is not a baby. This way you're not telling them that they're wrong, but just stating your point and how things will be handled. Your girlfriend needs to make sure that she is not asking them what is okay and whats not okay, but telling them that if she wants to visit her mom and her boyfriend, that is what she will do. But remember to say that in a way that understanding and respectful. They might get upset, but i doubt they would turn on their own granddaughter and take away funding for her schooling. Good Luck!
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My grandma can be the same way sometimes. Basically, since they're paying for school, unless you can find another way to pay for it, you'll have to deal with it for a few more years until she graduates. It sucks to be dependent on someone who you don't want to be, but it's a fact of life, and there's nothing you can do. Especially if they're like my grandma (fixed in her ways, always thinks she is right, never apologizes, etc). I don't think you should be talking to them directly, but your girlfriend can if she wants to.
Sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear.
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