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What Do I Do
My ex got a summer job at the same camp I'm working at. Last week was our first week working together and he kept flirting and said to me "you know you want me back" right in front of other counselors. He's been calling me at night but I've been avoiding his calls until I figure out what to do. I like him so much. We were together eight months and we broke up in March. We met at this camp last summer. He knows I go out with someone else now and he keeps asking me what he can do to make me like him as much as I like my current boyfriend. So far I've just smiled and gone on about my work. The guy I go out with now is great!!!! Almost too good to be true. We don't argue and he treats me like a princess. Life with my ex was drama filled. My current boyfriend knows we are working together and he has no problem with it. Should I stay with this guy that is wonderful? or should I follow my heart because my heart is telling me to get back with my ex? Either way the rest of the summer is going to be hard...seeing him everyday. Yesterday he started flirting with some other girl but made sure I was around to see it. It hurt so bad but I didn't let on like I cared. What should I do? How do I sort this out?
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I wouldn't break up with your current boyfriend. I have a great boyfriend now and I love him with all my heart, but I'd be lying if I said that when I see my ex, sparks don't fly. I'd be a hypocrit if I said, I wasn't attracted to other guys while i'm with my boyfriend, but it wasn't enough to make me pick up and leave. You might always have a little thing there for your ex because of all the memories you shared and such. But is it really worth to let a good thing go for something you're not in 100% with. It seems like this other guy is just playing with your mind and is a jerk. Your boyfriend sounds great, but if your ex is the only thing in your head, you need to be true to yourself and your feelings. It sounds like these feelings only appear when you're with your ex, and thats okay! If when you're with your boyfriend, there is no one else on your mind, then I think you'll be fine.
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well it sounds like your boyfriend is definetly a nicer guy and it sounds like he really likes you. it is true that you shouldnt be going out with him if you have feelings for someone else, but you really have to think about this. if you broke up with him do you think your ex would take you back? or is he just leading you on to prove to himself that you really do want him back? this could be the case.. especially if you were the one that broke up with him. guys hate it when girls break up with them b.c it embarrasses them soo much. you have to think about who is the better guy for you. just make sure if you break up with your boyfriend, that he doesnt know that youre breaking up with him for your ex. maybe you should take a little break with your boyfriend (make sure your ex. knows about it) and see what happens.
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It's always been my belief that if you have feelings for ANYONE else, then you should not be with your boyfriend. It's really not fair to him, since he's really dedicated to you. I say that you should do what your heart says, but also remember that y'all did break up for a reason.
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I agree with the girl below me. Feelings never disapear easily so maybe you are feeling a little regretful but rember that if you ended a relationship there had to be reasons why.. and remeber those reasons Also next time your ex calls you ask him if he could be more professional at work to make it easier to get through the summer . Try to rmeber how much you love your boyfreind and ignore your other feelings.
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this sort of thing your have to just let go. you have to remember that you broke up for a reason, whatever the reason was it may probly come up again if you went back to your ex. maybe you arent ready for any BF tho if your still having feelings for your ex. now too the answers: i think you should see if you can get a transfer as far away from yur ex as you can. you can sort this out by doing your absolute best to forget about the past and to remember that hes an ex. or if it gets way too bad, tell your boss either he leaves or you leave, the only problem with that is youd have to find a new job =/. well best of luck through the summer, im sure youll do fine tho.
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Follow your heart!! If you ex is what you truly want then its not fair on your current bf to stay with him. And as for your ex flirting with the other girl..obv he was only doing it to make you jelous lol :P Good Luck x x x
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