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My wife recently told me that her feelings for me aren’t there anymore, and while she loves me, she doesn’t love me like she used to. In a follow-up conversation, she let me know that she has feelings for a much older coworker of hers (16 year age difference). She says nothing has happened with him, but she’s confused with her feelings at the moment and doesn’t know what to do.
While heartbroken, I feel like this could have been much worse. And I’m struggling with what I can do or say to her to make her keep her commitment to me. She has said that none of this was my fault, but I’m sure he’s giving her more attention and communication than I was (we had gotten to the “comfortable” stage).
Obviously I can’t force her to love me, but I’m struggling to come up with rational ways to verbalize why she should stay. Can anybody give me advice on what I could say? What I’m trying to get at is yes, I understand that a new person can be exciting and fun, but we have already built the foundation to make a marriage go the distance.
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im sorry that you are in this situation.
but she has married you for a reason, didn't she? sometimes people can get bored after a while, and yes, new things are exciting, but doesn't mean that you should give up.
sway her again, do the whole dating routine again, woo her like how you were when you were still young lovebirds. the fact that your wife is honest to you means that she still loves you very much, and deep down, still believes in keeping your relationship alive.
http://www.livelifehappy.com/stories/30-days-of-carrying-my-wife/
ignore the sad ending. but it can act as a guide for you to start gaining your wife's love again.
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Tonight, my girlfriend of 4 months has told me that she doesn't deserve to date me. She has had some rather rough relationships where abuse (not physical but mental abuse) was involved. She also has the genital herpes STD, and she's not a virgin either and I'm still one. We are both 26 years old as well. But anyways, when she told me this, I did feel hurt and even angry that she would say this to me. Now usually like every month, she talks about her past. However, its getting to a point where her complaining about her past is beginning to frustrate me. Now I haven't gone through the things in my life that my girlfriend has gone through. Often it can be hard for me to help her too. We did date for a while back in 2010 for about 4 months, but we broke up because at the time she was very clingy to me which I hated and I had issues going on with my life back then too. We got back together in the spring of this year and said we would try to have a better relationship. I want to keep that going, but the fact that she often complains about her past is something that bothers me and I won't tolerate it much longer. What should I do? Also, she lost her grandfather in September of last year and her grandmother recently passed away too. Any help would be appreciated.
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if just by reading this post, i assume that what she really wants from you is reassurance. we girls always have a very complicated way of being in a relationship. by telling you about her flaws etc, it sounds like she wants to break up. instead she probably wants to hear you say something like 'despite all that i still want to be with you'. we're all suckers for romance. seeing how she was clingy towards you before, that means she likes/needs you very much and she still wants to be with you. however, at this point you seem to be tired with her whole drama by now (if im wrong, then im very sorry with the misunderstanding). so it's up to you. you can stay with her and let her know that you'll be there for her, or you can just be like 'you are absolutely right' and walk out the door. because i absolutely do not fancy girls who go into relationships just to feel better about themselves.
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I have this friend and its been two years since we met of course at school he's actually a good guy with a humor personality which i love about him. and in the pass months i been feeling something special for him like more than friends and i dont know if he feels the same way for me? we always hanging together going to parties , chilling at the movies but should i tell him how i feel for him? i dont want to mess up our friendship too aw what should i do? (link)
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i dunno. i say get more confirmation that he at least feels the same way as you. try subtle flirting or hints that you may feel a little spark between you both. just flirting goes a long way, even if he wasn't interested in the first place, he'll do a double take when you treat him a little differently. maybe start commenting on how smart he dresses, brush against him arm slightly when you guys are in the cinema. he'll take the hint. true, now there are more men who prefers the girls making the first moves. but it's still better to make sure first than to rashly confess and be sorely embarrassed. been there, done that.
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I made out with one of my best friends one weekend. We didn't talk about it the following week.
Then the next weekend we both went to a party and I ended up staying at another friend's house and drunkenly had sex for the first time. The asshole didn't even use anything.
I told my best friend straight away and he stopped talking and looking at me altogether.
I then completely killed everything by drunk texting him 'I hate you'. I then went on to apologise and called myself a 'disgusting whore', to which he replied 'stop guilt tripping me', 'I can't even look at him (the guy I did it with) the same' before he said to 'never text or call' again and to 'go to hell'.
So I deleted his number to do just as he said. About a week later I get told by a mutual friend that he wasn't mad at me, so I tried to talk to him but he always says he's busy. I've tried for about 3 weeks. It's not an excuse but I'm so shy I kinda die when someone asks me to repeat something cause I think I said it wrong. I'm thinking of just giving up altogether on any type of relationship, friendship or otherwise. Opinions? (link)
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i hope that you won't give up on the guy.
I think that he was/is mad at you, because what happened at the other friend's house was a really silly, careless thing for you to do. even if he wasn't mad at you. anyway, he probably thought that you were playing with his feelings since you kissed him, so you like him, and then you suddenly told him you had sex with another friend. he probbly got really confused and that confusion just leads to anger and embarrassment.
however, his anger is a good sign. that means he still cares about you and angry that you put yourself in a reckless situation. after all, the opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.
just keep trying and saying you miss having him around and reminding him of how great your friendship/relationship was. give him a reason to come back to being your bestfriend/whatever. he has to get over this some day.
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info:I'm 17 years old, a senior and go to an all boys high school and the girl I like is a Junior at the all girls school (our schools are practically right next to each other and there are co-ed classes) but I don't have any classes with her, I only see her at creative writing club (CCC for short) (we meet once maybe 2 times a month she enjoyed some of my stories)
Situation: There is this girl that I like and I think I've seen 2 signs that she may like me but before I try to make any move I want to be at least 80% sure that she actually likes me back
1st sign: On my second CCC meeting she kept slowly changing seats around the room until she asked the club mod if she could switch seats with him he said sure then she rolled the seat until she was right in front of me she said "I heard that you gave jenny(fake name for privacy) a really sweet valentines day gift So do you like her? I hesitated for a second (because the only reason I gave jenny the gift was so that I could have an easier time asking her out to the prom I don't think i really liked her)but I didn't look her in the eyes and said yea then she rolled back to the front of the room and acted like nothing happened
2nd sign: I asked her out to the prom and she agreed to go despite falsely thinking that I liked jenny
So does she like me or am I over thinking it?
BTW I realized I liked her the second I said I liked Jenny (I can't stop kicking myself for that) (link)
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yeahhhh she definitely likes you. asking you was her being jealous and when she says yes, that means she likes you.
unless, she's like enemies with jenny, then she might be just trying to make jenny jealous.
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okay so i like this guy and were really not that close but we do talk some. but when we talk its get alittle akward like its always the same thing hey, whats up,...etc. like theres nothing to talk about. any advice on how to make it less akward? (link)
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some ppl just have chemistry when they talk and some... not yet. find out what his hobbies are or fave music, movie, or what is he passionate about, or maybe talk about any of your mutual friends. if you've got something in common with him, then conversations can last for hours. if you dont have anything in common with him, then maybe think back why you like him in the first place.
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I'm a 32/female. I work as a server and worked til midnight on Thursday. I drank alot of caffeine while working so I thought I would stop on the way home and get a drink and order some food for my boyfriend who i live with. I ended up drinking 3 beers and got some wings for him and talked to this girl who said she had just moved here from LA and had no girl friends here. When i got home it was almost 2:00 in the morning and when I walked in the cushions were gone off the couch, the tv was gone, computer was gone, mattress gone. My phone had been dead so i put it on the charger and called my boyfriend. When he answered he called me a whore and said i had been out whoring around. I said first of all dont ever call me a whore, and that i had gotten him some food and had money for him as he had said he was broke before. He called me a liar and this made me very angry. I have never cheated on him. I have since been able to get him to bring back the tv and computer but have been sleeping on the box spring with no mattress and thinking what should I do? I do love him very much so this has really hurt me. None of my friends or family like him which makes me feel even more sorry for him. I guess I will move out the first of May. He will not take my calls except once to tell me he loved me and hated this sitution yesterday morning. What should I do? ANY ADVICE?!!! (link)
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that is kinda psycho. from what i get here, he stole furnitures from you and accused you of being a whore the moment he cant find you. and you had to buy him food and give him money? girl, leave, just leave.
you seem like a great girl, hardworking and really tolerant. if your friends and family dont like him, it's for a reason. he seems to just be using you. im glad you got your tv and stuff back, but he has to give your bed too. are you sure he's not cheating on you and thats why the bed is the only thing that he's not giving back. and when he left with the furnitures, to whose house did he bring all those stuff to?
im sorry if im too harsh. it's just my opinion. good luck with your decisions.
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so i have been dating this guy almost four months. and i found out about the time we started dating that i can never have children. i feel like im keeping this big secret from him but also we are still early in our relationship. but then again i dont want him to find out later and think i have been lying to him this whole time and being dishonest. im one of those people who are very big on honesty. i hate liars. and thats why this is so heavy on my heart. i just don't know what to do. this guy is great. he is the best guy i have ever gone out with. he's sweet romantic. amazing. help please? (link)
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You should tell him and risk the relationship. be honest with him. especially if he's a great guy and you do see a future with him. these things should not be kept a secret in a relationship.
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Hi my boyfriend wants to have sex but i keep telling him no we are to young and he says if i dont he will break up with me and i love him what do i do? (link)
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DUMP HIM! he's just with you to have sex with you. guys like that are not worth it. and it is better to be the dumper and the dumpee. believe me, it will be so much better to cry over the break up (i know you love him) than to cry when he dumped you after he's succeeded at taking your virginity.
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Ok this may sound kind of wierd but bear with me while I give the set up please. I am a teenage male and I have been dating this girl for about 2 1/2 months. When we hang out in a group of friends we have a mutual friend who is a boy. When ever my gf walks into the room he is always hugging her and sitting with her and she lets him. The catch is that this boy is gay so I should have no problem with it except that I want to be the one she hangs all over and sits closely with. She is not big on PDA but I would like her to be able to walk up to me and not act like complete strangers when we are in public. Is there something I can say to her about this mutual friend and also on a general note of mild affectionate PDA as a whole. Please help, I am not sure what to do and it is ruining the relationship. Thank you. (link)
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i think your gf is cool. some girls get too clingy and ugh in public it's embarrassing. you could just show a little jealousy and be playfully like 'hey, why do you hug him but not me? i'm your bf'. or you could initiate it and be 'i just wanna show the world you're mine'. but slow down on the PDA. holding hands and cute kisses on the cheek is fine, but more than that is just plain rude (especially if you have a friend with you)
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Okay. Well. Lemme give you the backstory. Me and my roommate went to Foot Locker to buy stuff for her boyfriends birthday and we met this guy that we see on campus in there (he works there)and so when we were checking out, i asked him if he goes to my university, and he said "yeah, howd you know?" and i said "we see you at the black parties and at the gym" and he replied "oh yeah i train at the gym sometimes" and then continued with small talk.
So later, I asked my neighbor if he knew him, and he does, but i told him not to say anything cause i didnt want to act like im in 8th grade passing messages but he said something anyway:
He asked his coworker where the guy was when he went into foot locker for shoes, and said "oh well my neighbor wants to holla at him"
and the coworker replied " Which one?"
My neighbor: "The white girl"
Coworker" Mann. You know he dont do the white girls. hes never even kissed a white girl in his life"
Then after he told me that, it wasnt a big deal, I wasn't his type so nbd.
but then, last weekend, my neighbor calls and wakes us up asking if we want to go to the mall with him and his roommate and we do, so we get dressed, we look nice cause its a saturday and were going out.
and we ran into the guy and his friend walking to the food court. we said hi, but then the boys had their own separate conversation.
Then my roommate and i sat down to eat lunch and the guy left, but he came back, and apparently behind us, they were pointing at me like "is that the girl?" and my neighbor gave him a thumbs up, asking "is she good?" and he smiled, then looked at me again. My neighbor said he did a triple look at me, then we were properly introduced to eachother.
Then that night we saw him at the party, but we all had to pee so i was being tugged along to the bathroom and the guy passed us by and tried to give me a hug but since i was moving, he just like grazed my lower back and grabbed my shirt. it was an epic fail of a hug.
After that horribly long story, I'm wondering from an outside perspective if this situation sounds promising? I'm gonna continue to talk to him and get to know him. Thank you if you help me out.
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i hope im not blunt, but i think the guy was just being nice. no matter if you're his type or not, a guy would feel flattered if a girl likes him. So the double look was probably acknowledging that 'oh, this is the girl that likes me'. the awkward hug, too, was him acknowledging that he knows you and he's being friendly.
all hope is not lost though. if you like him, 'stumble' upon him more, get to know him, chat more, then maybe he'll find out that you're his type after all.
Good Luck, i hope this helps.
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First of all, my boyfriend and I have been dating for like 1 1/2 years. I love him and I don't think he's a bad person, but I've really been having a problem with the way he treats me lately. We always hang out everyday after school until 4 (so like 30 minutes) and then we hang out every friday night from 7-10:30. Now, it's not that I have a problem with the amount of time we get to hang out, I just HATE how it's so scheduled...I feel like he doesn't even want to hang out with me outside of the schedule unless he wants to do sexual stuff. He never wants to break the schedule :( I just want to have a carefree "see each other when we feel like it" thing so it's fun and spontaneous, but he's more focused on keeping everything in order so he can get home and play his videogames for the rest of the day. I guess I just feel like he puts my feelings 2nd to videogames. I've already tried bringing this up to him many times and he just says I'm "accussing him of being a terrible boyfriend and I need to understand that he isn't going to part from his hobbies for me"...but I didn't ever ask him to do that. I'm glad he has hobbies but I just don't understand why he has to schedule his entire life, including me, based on his videogames...I don't know it just makes me feel like I'm not very special, I'm just part of the schedule to him...I don't really know what I'm asking, I just need advice please. Thanks. (link)
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ahhh if you've talked to him and he wont listen, then there's no use beating around the bush. why dont you make plans with your friends after school or go out on friday nights with your friends? i mean, sabotage the meeting times. say you're busy and cant meet him up during those times. yeah sure, you'll miss him and you wont be able to meet him for a few days. but sooner or later, he's gonna start missing you more than his video games and be more than willing to be flexible with your scheduled meetings. right now, he probably feels that you will always be around and takes you for granted. you gotta let him know that if he doesn't work for it, he wont get you. plus, it's fun to spend more time with your friends or families once in a while.
Good Luck!
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I have a boyfriend of 4 years. Here recently, a couple days before our 4 year which was like a week ago I went on to my boyfriends Facebook, just to randomly check up on him. I go through his messages and come across a conversation that my boyfriend started up. It goes along the lines of " Hey so I just wanted to let you know I had the biggest crush on you back in BCIS class and I thought you were cute" she said aww why didnt you tell me? i feel the same kind of thing. and he mentioned he STILL thinks shes cute and that the vodka helps. Gave his number to her and the next morning puts "even sober I meant all that" After that, I was BEYOND pissed and confronted him about it. He claimed he got drunk with a couple friends and left his Facebook up and his friend talked to a couple people. Obviously I don't believe him and his friend called me up and wanted to make sure he told me he's the one who talked to her and sorry for getting him in trouble and that he thought it was funny at the time. Also, I went ahead and messaged that girl, and of course she didn't respond like I thought. Which makes it seem more supicious. With all that said, I am not sure how to approach this issue. I often bring up I am still upset with him and he continues to deny it all. I feel as though it is never-ending. I don't know if I should either brush it off or end it between us because I don't think I could trust him after seeing that.
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Onestly im not judging you cos i dont see anything wrong with looking at my bf's fb if he's doing the same thing (reading phone texts etc). but these things only happen if you dont trust your bf/gf. it's kinda worrying that he's flirting with this 'cute' girl. i suggest you drop the subject when you talk to him, but quietly check his fb or email without him noticing (note: he MUST NOT NOTICE). and if he's still flirting around with the girl (or other girls), take a screenshot and confront him.
but if he doesnt do anything of the sort for like, say, 3 months, then stop checking his fb and treat that flirting as a one time thing. and trust him. sometimes being drunk makes you do stupid things.
GOODLUCK!
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previously asked a question about my first kiss. also, i really could nto get into it. i kept turning my head, my body language was off. my arms were wrapped around myself; what does that mean? i was really nervous and i dont want to be bad again. i know the guy likes me but after this, im pretty sure he doesnt
help!
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the beauty about first kisses is that you don't have to think that much about it. if he doesnt like you anymore, or you're bad at it, dont care, just move on. for all that matters, it could be him thats the bad kisser. you have other chances to practice, it's alright. watch more kissing scenes, read kissing tips in magazines, use breath mints. when it's right, a kiss can be very exciting :)
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i am a freshmen in high school and i am 16 i have been in a long distance relationship for 4 months and he broke up with me because he said he does not know what to do anymore so what should i do should i give him space or what???? (link)
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long-distance relationship is hard. some relationships are just not strong enough. dont feel bad, even a decade long of marriage can crumble after a long distance. you're still young, it's better to experience a sweet on-the-spot relationship (you know what i mean) with a guy. holding hands, walks together, dates etc.
your ex knows you deserve better than a relationship with a phone and computer screen. so just accept the break up.
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Alright, So I'm 15 and my boy friend he's 17.. we've been dating for a year and 4 months now.
From the beginning I knew he was the right one, I felt something different with him..I was dating someone when I fell for him though, I felt lonely and my boyfriend who I was with compeletly stopped talking to me, and I was really depressed over it..and I met him..and my god it was such an amazing feeling..It started with a simple crush and it grew into something amazing..
Pretty much like all relationships, rumors start people were saying he was cheating on me.. which he denied and he said with his past relationships..since people disliked him so they made things up.. There was only ONE time when he actually screwed up, and that was when he wrote a note to a girl he use to like before me..who was my friend.. he wrote to her saying some of his feelings came back, and he wanted them to be cleared up.. she didn't want to be with him, and he realized after almost losing me..that he made a mistake, and didn't want to be with her..and only me.
I'm getting tired of rumors..I really am..a new one just started about him cheating on me with someone in the 8th grade..he only knows to ppl in the 8th grade and he does not like them..
His cousin has this obsession with this one girl, and he was using my bf's fb to chat with her, when I saw that I FREAKED..and called him..he told me it was his cousin..and I told this girl Kait..and now I believe she's starting stuff because she use to like my bf..but she has a "boy friend".
I love my boy friend..but I have horrible trust issues.. I don't know what to do?
Please tell me your thoughts, don't be harsh please :/ (link)
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cant stop rumors from going on, nosy people unfortunately have mouths. being in a relationship, sometimes you just have to tune out the rumors and see things as it is.
besides the letter thing, has he ever gone alone with girls? does he flirts around with girls alot? judge it from what you see and know, not from something you've heard. not even from your bf.
it can be super frustrating when ther's no trust or security in a relationship, so give him a little break.
h'ever you guys are still young and green, whatever happens take it as a learning experience :)
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20 female.
So every one tells me that i still look really pretty without make-up. I won't lie i will go out in public without make-up and it doesn't bother me. I do usually wear make-up when I go outbut I'm not like some girls where they have to always have make-up on. Usually when I'm around guys, and its night time or something I'll take a shower and so I'll have no make-up on and my hair will be all gross haha (my hair is kind of wavy, but not cute when i leave it naturally) My best friend that i'm always with freaks out whenever a guy might have to see her without make-up and I don't see it as a big deal. Sometimes I feel less pretty around her because I won't have any make-up after a shower and she will be all done up still though.
For instance. Last weekend we were at a hotel and four of our guys friends stayed with us in the same room. I just had to take a shower because I always do at night so I don't feel gross. So i had no make-up on and my hair not done. I guess I didn't really care. But my friend got in the shower and just washed her body off and didn't get her hair wet and didn't take her make-up off.
I guess my question is, do guys really care if a girl doesn't ALWAYS have her make-up on? I asked one of my guy friends that night at the hotel if i looked different without make-up because people tell me i don't look that different and he said "no, but that's a good thing!" i don't want to be walking around sometimes without make-up with me thinking it's not a big deal and guys are thinking "oh gross, whats she doing"
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sometimes guys think its more sexy. whats more attractive than beauty is confidence. and if you're still good looking without make up, then thats the best thing ever.
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This is a very complicated story. It's also very long, but I'm going to make it as short as I can. Last Saturday (the 5th) I was talking to this guy on facebook. (I know him personally, I wasn't talking to some random creeper). We talked for about 5-6 hours that night, which is a long time. I was listening to the song "beauty in the breakdown" by The Scene Aesthetic. Heard it? No? Look it up :) Anyways, he liked my status and then he sent me the next part of the song through chat. Then I sent him the next next part. See a pattern? Haha, we sent it back and forth for a few minutes. About two hours later, we were talking about how everything strangely happens for a reason. So, as my status, I put "Sometimes it's the smallest decisions that can change your life forever." then he asked, "do you like my status?" So I looked, and his status was "....but it's the biggest things that will ruin your life forever." I was like, shocked haha. About an hour later, I got tired of my status so I put another part of the song as my status. Later, I went to his profile (cause I'm a creeper like that) and his status was the entire following verse. He kept like, finishing my statuses. I didn't hate it, haha. We talked for a few hours after that, then he had to go. On Monday in school, he kept looking at me in lunch. Him and his friend stared at me for like 9 seconds at one point. I got scared. haha. Then afterschool on facebook, I asked his friend why they were looking at me. He told me that "steve" (the dude is "steve", obviously) said something about me so he turned around and looked. I asked him what "steve" said, but he said he 'didnt remember'. So when I didn't believe him (lol) I asked "steve" about it. He said that his friend looked because he asked him what he was staring at, then turned around and looked. Then I asked "steve" "what were you staring at?" he said "who do you fucking thing i was looking at?" "me?" "no shit." (he's funny). So I ended up talking to him for a while. While I've been talking to him, I've had a boyfriend. Don't yell at me. I'm not a cheater. The thing is, my boyfriend never acted like he cared about me, and that sucked. I told "steve" that I was having trouble deciding between my boyfriend and this other guy I've been talking to. On one hand, I dont wanna lose my boyfriend. But on the other hand, I don't wanna be with someone who doesnt care about me. But I was afraid that if I lost my boyfriend over "steve" then "steve" wouldn't like me and I'd end up alone. So I was telling "steve" this, and he said "hmm... thats quite a pickle you're in" (he's so funny). He told me that if my boyfriend was like that, then I should get rid of him.. and he asked who the other guy was. I told him I couldn't tell him. So I told him it was him (of course). He said that he needed to focus on school and stuff, and that having an "in school" girlfriend would distract him. I thought that was just an excuse.. wouldn't you think that? So I told him, "you dont have to say stuff like that. If you really don't like me like that, then just tell me. Don't make up excuses though." and he replied "well, if you think about it, I'm saying the opposite." He told me that he thought I was cute, but he had to get to know me better before anything happened... and I understood that. And then when I had to go, he said "goodnight cutie(:" which was cute of him to say.. OH JEEZ. Tuesday. The most complicated day. He kept looking at me and smiling at me in lunch, right? Then I started talking to him afterschool on facebook (again). He talked to me, but then after a while he just ignored me. Long story short, my boyfriend ended up dumping me that day. I told "steve" "Look I dont know if you're busy or anything, but I really need someone to talk to. Could we talk? Please?" He didn't say anything for the rest of the day. Wednesday.. he still looked at me in school. Then on facebook, we talked then he ignored me.. again. Thursday.. he did not look at me at all. Of course, we talked on facebook for a while, then he ignored me. Big surprise there. I had this idea. I told myself that I'd just give him his space for a few days, you know, so he didn't get annoyed. I didn't talk to him on friday or saturday. Then on sunday, when I logged onto facebook, I saw he had blocked me. (I have my ways of finding out). I didn't understand. My relationship was over just because this asshole that told me he liked me told me to end it. Then after he tells me he likes me, he just ignores me. We have a mutual friend, "steve" and I. Lets call him billy. (his name is billy). He's been my friend for a while, so I knew I could trust him. I told him everything that had happened. He told me that if "steve" talked to me for that long on saturday and did all those silly status things, then he must like me, because he doesnt waste him time with/for just anybody. Then, billy asked "steve" if he liked me or not. "steve" told billy he didn't like me. Then billy told me that they don't really talk about girls that much anyways... they're not "best" friends. billy also told me that "steve" doesnt really tell a lot of people who he likes. I just don't understand though. We talk for hours. He flirts with me. He stares at me. He spends his time talking to ME. He tells me he likes me. The next day, he ignores me. He doesnt look at me. He tells his friend he doesnt like me. He blocks me. Did I miss something?? Note: none of his friends know what his deal is. Hes not the kinda guy that normally lies to girls like this. (link)
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a pretty long story. im sorry if im being rude or hurtful, but i think he's just messing with you. he's probably starting to like you (hence the fb statuses), but your enthusiasm probably freaked him out. especially when you just broke up with your then-bf, after you just insinuated that you're choosing between your bf and steve. he might think that you're willing to dump your bf after just a few chats with him.
looking at you during lunch is a good sign. i bet he still thinks you're cute. maybe he's just the type of guy who likes a chase. i say, do a 180. act uninterested, dont ask around about him, pretend you dont care about him anymore. sooner or later, he will remember how to unblock people on fb. good luck :).
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The topic says it all really! husband has a lady friend that works with him and she is married and in her 50's. Not bad looking for 50 but the fact is she IS MARRIED! We ran into her last night when we took our kids to superkicks she was there with her kid. This woman was all over a guy that was NOT her husband alot of flirting he was playing with her hair giggleing with eachother. If that were my man i wouldnt apprecitate this behavor from her. I told my husband I have lost alot of respect for her she is a disgrace to the married name. I took my vowels seriously and how do I know she is not like that with my man, well his responce you have to trust "ME". okay I do but I dont trust HER. How can she do that knowing she has a man at home. unmoral to me!! I told him as much as he was touching her leg and she was whispering in his ear she has no morals he disagreed with me on all points. What does that mean for him? Does it mean its okay to flirt and touch eachother just cause spouse aint there. How dare her and I cant stop thinking he is defending her cause thats how she acts with him.. I kindly let him know if I EVER see her touch you in a way I should only be able to touch you I will walk my happy ass to her office and give her a piece of my mind. So we agreed to disagree on it all and went to bed!! (link)
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You're overreacting. If he's cheating on you with her, he would not defend her so you won't be suspicious and blow on him like you did. He's just defending her because she's his friend. It's cool to have a good sense of moral but doesn't mean you are entitled to criticize peoples behavior based on your ideals. You should apologize to your husband for scolding him for something he didn't do wrong in the first place.
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So my girlfriend and i have been dating for almost a year know and before now she had hung out with me a ton like almost everyday possible. I'm not saying thats all we did, we definately had some free time and hung out with our bros or girls. but just now she didn't hang out with me this whole week and like was like i'm just out don't worry. Then she called me and told me that she was hanging with these dudes who have been like wanting to hookup with her for like ever.. and i was like its whatever and she was like "well i mean i didn't want you to get upset cause i know you know that they think i'm really hott and stuff.. it was just so much fun like i felt so special cause they like just talked about how attractive i was and how they were obsessed with me! i know it sounds weird but i wanna hang with them a lot more i'm sorry if it interferes with us but like they make me feel so wanted.." like i feel like scared and what not like i dunnoo.. am i overreactinggg i feel like they are going to like take her and stuff... There has been other situations too but this is enough for now.
idk but it's been worrysome.. Thank you
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If I were you, I'd dump her. What she says is very disrespectful to you as her boyfriend.
Okay, so maybe you haven't been giving her those kind of attention, like 'you're so pretty, I'm obsessed with you'. And she just wants to make you jealous and realize she wants to feel needed by you. If you still love her, then maybe you can spark some change in the relationship, more candlelight dinner etc etc.
But is she worth it? Just one week away from you and she decided to hang out with these bunch of guys who wants her sexually. And she plans to hang out with them more, knowing full well what they want from her. First of all, a good loyal girlfriend will stay away from this kind of attention. It's okay if she enjoys the attention, it's bad if she's looking for it!
The way I see it, she's not telling you that 'its nice that they make me feel wanted', she is telling you ahead of time that she's gonna cheat on you with them.
Step up and tell her this behavior is unacceptable.
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