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PDA with my gf: My girlfriend acts like we are strangers in front of anybody!
Ok this may sound kind of wierd but bear with me while I give the set up please. I am a teenage male and I have been dating this girl for about 2 1/2 months. When we hang out in a group of friends we have a mutual friend who is a boy. When ever my gf walks into the room he is always hugging her and sitting with her and she lets him. The catch is that this boy is gay so I should have no problem with it except that I want to be the one she hangs all over and sits closely with. She is not big on PDA but I would like her to be able to walk up to me and not act like complete strangers when we are in public. Is there something I can say to her about this mutual friend and also on a general note of mild affectionate PDA as a whole. Please help, I am not sure what to do and it is ruining the relationship. Thank you.
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Give the poor lady some time! Only 2.5 months and you're expecting her to be hanging all over you?
How long had you been friends with her before dating? Is this a pretty new relationship? If it is, it's pretty understandable that she doesn't want to be all clingy and climbing all over you just yet. 2.5 months isn't exactly an eternity. Try waiting it out and see if she warms up a little to the idea.
If waiting doesn't work, you might just have a lassie who doesn't relish the idea of being "that couple". You know the ones: all over each other, all the time, pushing their relationship in everyone else's faces.
I'm pretty much the same way as her. I've been engaged for 4 years to a fantastic guy. I refuse to do anything beyond hold hands or link arms in public. I think it's gross when people are all over each other in front of others, especially friends or relatives. However, I will hug my best friend (a guy) freely without the slightest bit of discomfort. This isn't because I prefer my friend's affection. It's because I don't think of my friend as 'a guy'. It's just like if I was to hug my female friends. No romance whatsoever. That's how her 'public displays' differ from the ones you're looking for. She might just be a little skittish when it comes to being snuggly in front of others, and if that's the case, you will have to accommodate that.
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Is your girlfriend ashamed of you? You should ask her this question. It shouldn't matter if her friend is gay or straight she is still showing more affection to someone else rather then to the one she is in a relationship with. You need to talk to her. Simply call her up or pull her aside and let her know how you feel. It's not fair to you that she disowns you when she's around a crowd. If it was vice versa she would not like the feeling. So talk to her and ask her if she can change a little maybe be more affectionate with you. Let her know that they way she hangs with her friend it kind of makes you a little jealous because you wish you had the same connection. It's ok to be a little jealous haha it's not a bad thing sometimes girls thinks it's cute. Good Luck!
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i think your gf is cool. some girls get too clingy and ugh in public it's embarrassing. you could just show a little jealousy and be playfully like 'hey, why do you hug him but not me? i'm your bf'. or you could initiate it and be 'i just wanna show the world you're mine'. but slow down on the PDA. holding hands and cute kisses on the cheek is fine, but more than that is just plain rude (especially if you have a friend with you)
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talk to her and tell her that you sometimes want to show some pda. tell her that it is no different then what she is doing with the mutual friend. make sure to let her know that you think this is going to ruin the relationship. comunacation is the key thing in a relationship. so comunacte. hope this helps and everything works out! :)
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