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Have I lost a friend forever?
I made out with one of my best friends one weekend. We didn't talk about it the following week.
Then the next weekend we both went to a party and I ended up staying at another friend's house and drunkenly had sex for the first time. The asshole didn't even use anything.
I told my best friend straight away and he stopped talking and looking at me altogether.
I then completely killed everything by drunk texting him 'I hate you'. I then went on to apologise and called myself a 'disgusting whore', to which he replied 'stop guilt tripping me', 'I can't even look at him (the guy I did it with) the same' before he said to 'never text or call' again and to 'go to hell'.
So I deleted his number to do just as he said. About a week later I get told by a mutual friend that he wasn't mad at me, so I tried to talk to him but he always says he's busy. I've tried for about 3 weeks. It's not an excuse but I'm so shy I kinda die when someone asks me to repeat something cause I think I said it wrong. I'm thinking of just giving up altogether on any type of relationship, friendship or otherwise. Opinions?
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When alcohol use creates problems you have a problem. Please consider seeing a therapist or going to AA.
That the one guy didn't use a condom is also your fault. If he didn't wrap his weasel then your legs should have closed right up.
As for your best friend, well, guys and girls can't be friends. He feels betrayed because he has a thing for you and then you cuckolded him through completely irresponsible behavior.
Really, you're trying to blame others for your inability to say "no" not just to booze, but to sex with people who didn't deserve to have it with you. What you need to do is fess up and apologize to your best friend and learn from this. Sometimes people have to do some very stupid crap and inherit some real consequences for it. Moreover, some consequences can be irreversible. So even if your best friend won't accept an apology you have to look at it as, "God, that sucked what I did. I will never do THAT again."
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i hope that you won't give up on the guy.
I think that he was/is mad at you, because what happened at the other friend's house was a really silly, careless thing for you to do. even if he wasn't mad at you. anyway, he probably thought that you were playing with his feelings since you kissed him, so you like him, and then you suddenly told him you had sex with another friend. he probbly got really confused and that confusion just leads to anger and embarrassment.
however, his anger is a good sign. that means he still cares about you and angry that you put yourself in a reckless situation. after all, the opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.
just keep trying and saying you miss having him around and reminding him of how great your friendship/relationship was. give him a reason to come back to being your bestfriend/whatever. he has to get over this some day.
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Don't give up.
At some point he is your friend right? or was but either way, I'm sure your 'friend' has his reasons. Whatever it is. Maybe his misunderstood. Just don't give up, do everything you can to reach out to him. Or maybe he likes you, I guess he's just scared to tell you.
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