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cuny portal. college/ love life
20 f
Hey guys so this is probably going to sound really dumb to you guys but I need help. I took 2 years off college because I wanted to save up the money before going. And all of my friends were already going and I basically felt like a bum. Some of my "friends" would make fun of me and stuff so I just told then that I went back to school last semester. That was a big fat lie. I know I shouldn't have lied but I was desperate. El last year I met my current boyfriend by one of my friends. And she told him I was in school and he would always say how much he loved that I worked and did school so I felt horrible. I finally applied and im an upcoming freshman this September. Im really excited! But my boyfriend is done with college and is offering to help me get my classes. He wants my cuny portal password. I trust him we've been dating for over a year now so I know he wants to help. Im just worried that he goes into my account. Im basically asking if he goes into my account can he see that ive never went to any school before? Will he find out ive been lying? If he does what can I say? Please dont say the truth. I am too ashamed and I'll feel so stupid and just bad cause I know I lied and everyone will find out. So thats not what im looking for. Please help I'd grately appreciate it! Thank-you
-kate
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Kate,
I'm going to be honest with you but you have lied to someone that you've been with for a year. That's not a good way to start a relationship or to even have trust in a relationship. You need to tell him like NOW! Don't wait another minute because he will find out eventually and that could ruin your whole relationship. HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY. There is nothing else you can do or say other than to be honest with him! If you don't have trust in a relationship than what do you have? The sooner you tell him the better!
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I know it's not what you want to hear... But if you continue lying, it could only get worse. Lying to cover up a lie, it will only just continue and continue until eventually you end up saying something incorrectly, and if his memory is very good, he'll remember a lot of what you say, and eventually put two and two together. There is really nothing you can do other than either 1. tell the truth, 2. change your password and don't let him help you anymore, and hope that he never finds out the truth. 3. Continue lying and hope it does not get any worse.
As for whether it shows up or not, your best bet is to ask your school counselor, or a teacher and have them answer that for you, or log into your account and check for yourself. Of course, before he is able to log into the account.
I'm not going to come up with the lie for you, as I do not know you and do not know what you do or where you live to come up with a viable/passable excuse, so more lies will have to come from yourself.
Do remember, in a relationship there can be no real love without real honesty and trust.
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