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heyy. im lori and im 16. i am currently in senior high school but i can give really good advice if i know what im doing. feel free to ask me anything: love life, sex, friendship, school (im a straigt A student btw), health, music (i play guitar, piano, violin, and i love to sing), etc. hope to help you guys out! :p

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haha, my boyfriend well he really loves my butt (it's a kinda big),says so all the time. But he says some thing that are a little hurtful, like they don't hurt my feelings really I'm just not used to someone saying things like "You have a fat ass" or 'Damn, girl you have a nice big butt". haha, I remember once when I was sitting on his lap he was all 'Oh is my phone hurting you" I was like "Nope", he goes "Yeah, probably all that padding" he says it though, in a loving way. Its not rudly spoken.
I don't know what to think, it is a compliment right?

hes prolly just teasing you. girl, if your really not sure, get straight to the point and ask him urself. tell him that you dont feel comfortable wiht him saying that.
good luck!

lori 16/f

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I am with a girl now that had cheated on her previous boyfriend with me and now i work a 3 week on 3 week off rotation which puts me out of state for weeks at a time and its been eating at me that she might be cheating on me while im away. what should i do? im lost.

well give her a chance. if she still cheats on you, shes not worth it. break up with her and just tell her to get back together with her ex or something. good luck!

lori 16/f

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16/f
i love my bf and everything but we were on the verge of breaking up today.it started off with him asking me if i thought about him. then he said thathe didnt think that i wasnt an important part of my life. he is! i asked him if he wanted to break up and he said no. he got mad cause i didnt answer my phone at 5 and he was looking forward all day to this. then he said that he was thinking and saying that he didnt like me. after thinking he was like im stupid i love you. he said he was having a really bad day.then i got really hurt by that. we were both crying on the phone. then he said he loved me i wanted to be with me.2 min later i called him back saying i wanted to be with him he said the same. i dont know what do i do ? i love him but do i just take his word for it?

well sweetie, theres nothing you can do. just wait for an answer. and try to improve yalls relationship. be nice to him you know. act sweet and show him your feelings for him.
good luck!

lori 16/f

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Female 21.
I moved in oct to fl. I made friends fast and had been flirting with this guy for months. Finally I had to move and moved into a house with my new friends two brothers and ones girlfriend and two other guys. The brother(21) without a GF is the guy i had been flirting with for months. We finally hooked up (no drinking involved) He said he didnt want to date anyone but wanted to try new things since he never had a gf he was pretty innocent with alot of things and that was fun to me. I was ok with this. Then every now and then we would have sex(no drinking), months later he started having this other girl come over and hooked up with her. Since it was bothering me i new i was getting attached. So we disscussed this and i stated no more sex.He didnt really want to stop but he didnt want a commitment. It was fun but now it was over. Well now everytime i get drunk and come home from the bar i brush my teeth and he comes into our bathroom and i end up having sex then going to my room. Hes not nice he dosnt want me to sleep in his bed even though the other girls do. Sometimes i dont even remeber. But my roomies tell me they told me not to.Now I cant figure out how to stop having sex with him. I tell him i dont want to and i tell everyone in the house not to let me. but when i drink i come on to him and he dosent tell me no. Any advice?

well you should just try and not get drunk. if you dont get drunk then you wont want to have sex wiht him. dont drink so much.
good luck!!

lori 16/f

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With my guy friend jaymes i really like him like alot , i've liked him the whole school year , and i'm not sure he likes me now but i know he used to . i'm scard to ask him out and he says not and it will then feel akward cause i see him alot helives two house away from mine but i LIKE hime soo much

the best way to know if he likes you is if you have a friend ask him for you. if he does like you, ask him out. dont be shy. if not, then... find another great guy or try and make him like you.
but if you get a freidn to ask, tell them not to say that you asked them to ask, then he'll know and probably wont tell the truth so...
good luck!!

lori 16/f

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I recently found out that my ex-boyfriend is gay. I'm not saying this is a bad thing at all. I could care less what sexual preference people have. I have three lesbian friends and it doesn't bother me. It's just that when I met my ex, he wasn't gay. When I met my lesbian friends, they'd already come out and everything. It's just such a shock to me. It just feels weird. He only just realized that he was gay a few months ago, and he came out last week. (We broke up in March, and he realized this apparently in the beginning of May.)
I'm not prejudiced at all against gay people, it's just a weird feeling that someone I was dating turned out to be gay. There's nothing wrong with that as a person, just the idea is sort of uncomfortable you know?
Him and I are still friends and everything...it wasn't a messy break-up. I don't have a problem being around him even though he's gay, in fact it makes things a little easier. Just the idea is hard to get used to.
-15/f

so... if you dont have a problem wiht him, what's your question?

i answered to make a point. if you need advice, ask a question. dont think that people will automatically understand what you're saying.

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this must sound really wierd but me and my boyfriends kisses are really boring- wenever we make out its the same thing. wat can i do to spice them up

try different positions and use your tongue.
think different. good luck!

lori 16/f

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I have been with my boyfriend for a year now, and at first our relationship was amazing.

my dad hasnt spoke to me fot nearly 3 years now after a bad split with my mom, but he still sees my 11 year old younger brother. so my boyfriend really helped me through tough times when i had councelling for other family problems.

he has been my rock. i couldnt even imagine my life without him.

now he acts as if he doesnt care if we are together or not. like he hates me in a way. he is constanly in a mood with me. he just says hes got alot on his mind. we had a healthy relationship - we didnt see too much of each other.when he first got with me he was crazy about me, which was flattering. im a young model and i know i am good looking. modelin really helps my self esteem. but now i cant bring myself to get out of bed, let alone turn up to shoots. he makes me feel like shit. he told me he didnt fancy me today. he is tryin to make me leave him i think.

should i leave him? i know i can do alot better. but there is just so much on my mind. my councelling doesnt seem to be helping either.

i would just break up with him and find someone else who is good to you the whole way. but really think it through before you make it final. good luck!

lori 16/f

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im 14/f and in desperate need of some help...
well here goes...i've liked this guy since about january.he lead me on.he flirted ALOT!so natrually i flirted back and began to like him
this continued for a few months and during those few months i had my friend ask him out for me a couple times and he said no...which got me real confused.i didnt understand why he would flirt so much,but not date me.my best guy friend told him if he didnt like me that he should stop leading me on,but he didnt.so it kept on.close to the end of the year,there was a field trip for all the good kids at school(my parents didnt let me go).
so my best guy friend,the flirt,and me stayed at school with everyone else who couldnt go
there was alot of hugging and flirting going on
a game of truth or dare started up and i got dared
to kiss the flirt and well i did it that day we started going out than i thought everything was going good and he dumped me a week later...
well the last day of school came along and that day he kissed me good bye but little did i know i would be seeing him again...my friend invited him to her pool party and just my luck he showed up and so it began...we hugged.we flirted.we kissed
ALOT!!!
i saw him a week later and only got one hug
it was like nothing ever happend
could someone please tell me what is up and what i should do?im really confused.Thanx in advance

well if you think he doesnt like you, dont seem too anxious. maybe hes playing hard to get. if he pretends nothing happened, go should you. just wait for it. good luck.

lori 16/f

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15/m.

Ok, so I just recently got into a longdistance relationship and its been going strong for almost two weeks, we see eachother via webcam everyday, we text nonstop and sometimes talk on the phone..

But yesterday night she told me she had to go to the movies with this guy. She said the first time they met was at the movies, and within the first hour of the movie they were almost at thirdbase... Im hoping this doesn't happen again, can I trust her?

i wouldn't trust her. but i can tell that she really wants to not cheat on you. but i wouldn't continue to date someone who's not clean or cant control herself. besides, yall ought to start seeing other people anyway. long distnce relationships never turn out into a great future for the couple. good luck

lori 16/f

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I have a child with my boyfriend (been together 3 years with an almost 2 year old). I love him, but I am not "in love" with him...like I don't feel deep down and really don't miss him when he's away, and recently have not even been sexually attracted to him. I have been in love with someone else for 8 years and I believe in my heart that one day we will find eachother again...but it could be a very long time from now. Recently I have decided that I am ready to expand my family (have another baby) and settle down, purchase a home. My boyfriend wants to move to alaska and buy a home together and have another child. I just don't know if I should wait for my true love, or pursue my other dreams with the man I already have...like the song that goes, "If you can't have the one you love, love the one your with". thanks for the advice

wow that is a complicated situation. you're in love with another guy but you already have a child with this guy. i definitely think that you should stay with the guy you already have. if yall seperate, think what would happen to the child. but you seriously need to get over that other guy. if you're in love with him, then you're never gonna live in peace wiht this guy yoiu already have. just try it. good luck!

lori 16/f

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Theres a boy i've liked since forever, and well we started to text, but we lost contact of each other becuase i found out i was a hit and quit ( i found out and left before anything happened) and i was shocked that a guy like him can actually break my heart after telling him that i liked him for a while, and im wondering if i was just some one he tells his firends that he got some some action, for he can look good. i really wonder if he liked me back does anyone know how you can find out if someone really liked you? does he still me if he talking to another girl? does anyone have advicce on what to do and how to react around him?
-loverslanecrashedcar

loverslanecrashedcar, (lol)
umm i think you should just ask him. youll never get the best answer from anyone but him. you should just go straight up to him and ask. get him to tell the truth. maybe all this time, this guy was just trying to get to konw you. but the thing about your relationship that would've helped you guys is if yall had real dates. just by instant message, you cant tell what the opponent is really thinking. yoiu can't tell sarcasm or exaggeration as well.
but just try and talk to him. get all the information you need from him.
good luck!!

lori 16/f

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There's this guy that I just met [well, not really "met", but I knew who he was but then I got to know him] maybe like, 2 weeks ago and we've been talking almost every day since last week and I've kind of started to like him. We just went to the movies together the other day, but it wasn't a "date", we mutually agreed to go together and my friend tagged along, but she didn't sit with us. However, on the phone, we talked and he kept saying we were just "good friends" who are going to the movies together and how he didn't understand why my friend kept thinking we were more or something.

It seems like he likes me though because we just talk SO MUCH and I don't know a lot of guys that talk that much. And we talk at night until like, 1AM. What do you think?

mayube he just wants to get to sorta try it out for awhile, you know see how it would feel to date you, but he deosn't wanna admit it until he is sure. but if you really want to know, just go straight to him and ask. demand that he tells the truth. he just might really like you! :)

if he says no, then maybe he's telling the truth.
if you think he's lying, just wait for it. if he does like you, he'll wana date you. he'll ask you out. but if not, then maybe yall can just be good friends like wat he said.

lori 16/f

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15/f
Right now i am "talking" to this really cute popular guy that goes to my school. I'm really excited and everything but there are some problems i don't know what to do about.

Problem 1- He has a lot of girls that are his best friends and he talks to them about us and sometimes the conversations we exchange. I mean, i don't care if he has a lot of friends that are girls but sometimes i don't want the stuff we say or do for them to know. Also, the first time we started "talking" he called his friends and told them only 5 minutes after we did and they all called me and were like "aww, you guys are talking now?" I can't tell him about this because i am just now getting to know him and i really do like him and i don't want to scare him away.

Problem 2- I haven't ever been kissed before and he found that out and he was talking to one of his friends (leads back to problem one) and she called me and she was like "you don't care if he kisses you right?" I really don't care but i have never found a guy that i want to kiss. I am very unexpierienced and let's just say he is very expierienced. I don't care but his friend which is one of my friends to kind of said that if we date, we will be doing a lot of kissing.

Problem 3- I don't know how to make out and i really do like this guy and we will probably make out if we start dating.

Problem 4- Even though there are some problems so far i still like him and i don't feel like i am giving him emough clues that i like him. He dosen't call me everyday and that's okay but i think he thinks i don't like him that much so i want to give him hints or clues so he knows. Can you give me any clues on how to do this?

I'm really sorry about how long this is but i really need your help. Please help me on each problem. Thanks so much!

well... you can just tell him about not sharing your conversation with his friends, but nicely. hope that he'll understand. if doesn't, well.. maybe he's just too concieted to understand how a girl like you might feel.
if you really like him, you'll know when to kiss and it'll come to you.
making out is just like kissing... and again, it'll probably come o you naturally. making out show how couples are really sexually attracted to each other.
kiss him, not necessarily on the lips, but maybe on the cheeks or forhead, or something. make him feel your like for him.
goodluck!

lori 16/f

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15/f
Okay, i went to a party a couple weeks ago and this guy thought i was cute and i thought he was cute to. We exchanged numbers through our friends and started texting and talking to eachother and so now we are "talking." We onlysaw eachother from like 10 or 15 ft away so he might not of seen my facial features. The only bad thing is that i don't get very many boyfriends and this popular cute guy thinks i'm cute and i think once he sees me up close that he won't think i'm pretty anymore. I mean why would a cute guy like him fall for a girl like me? I mean i'm not the prettiest girl in the world but i don't think i am the ugliest either. What do i do?

well he obviously likes you for a reason. maybe not just because of your looks. just try it out and don't jsut stick to texting. go on a real date and see what he really thinks of you.
good luck!

lori 16/f

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so my boyfriend and i have been dating for 7 months now, and i was always very mean to him, just because i was truly scared of him breaking my heart. i would always threaten to break up with him just because i was scared that he would do it first, but i knew that i would never really break up with him because i love him, with all of my heart. well yesterday he was talking about a break up due to all the mean hurtful things that i sometimes say to him. well obviously it tore me apart and i literally begged for forgiveness. we came to the conclusion that we should trial date for a week and see how that goes.. and see if i can stop my mean ways, and if i can regain his trust.. just try to get back to normal again.. well i slept over his house last night and we had a conversation about how he does truly love me and how he still wants to marry me.. and i thought that this meant that we were back to normal and everything.. so we had sex.. twice.. well then today he tells me that he isnt sure about whats going to happen and that we still have alot of work to do before we're normal again.. he told me that theres still a chance that this wont work out.. and so here i am devastated.. and clueless as to what i should do.. any advice is greatly appreciated.

umm... i don't think your relationship is a good idea. both of you need to work on how to be part of a good relationship. well, you obviously need to work on that trust problem and he needs to learn to, you know, not have sex when the situation isn't right. so there you are, happy that he truly still loves you, and yall have sex..twice. then the next day he tells you that he still doesn't trust you. that means that the sex you had last night didn't mean anything. well, you thought it did, but he apparently only did it for pleasure, not bc he really loves you. i think you should really consider this b4 you decide if you want to stay with him or not. i suggest yall both lay off a while, to think this over. i mean i can see you two love each other, but i also know that relationships shouldn't just continue just because both sides have sexual feelings for each other. just think about it.
good luck!! (i know this was really long. sorry)

lori 16/f

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16/f

ok. so there is this guy named jeffrey and he and i have been on and off liking each other for over two years. we would talk, become really good friends and usually ending up making out or something then we would just stop talking and eventually he would call me again and the process would repeat. so we stated talking again in march and in may he ended up taking my virginity. he knew i was a virgin and he was reallly sweet about it. well he just graduated and he drinks all the time and does some drugs. and we arnt talking. i hevnt talked to him in a month or so and im really upset because i feel used. i know he didnt use me because he is too sweet and i know he cares about me but im still so hurt and depressed. what should i do?

just try and lay off him for a while. if he doesn't talk to you or anyhting, find another great guy. chances are, jeffrey isn't The One. so just if he dosn't let you know how he feels, he might be wanting to end it. go find other guys. be happy.

lori 16/f

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hi. im a guy and i have been going out with this girl. now i would realy like to start moving in this relationship but we havent had our first kiss. i dont know whens the right time and what to expect and i dont know what shuld i do like what if i do something wrong. hope you can understand. i need of lots of good advice. thanks.

well if you dont know if your gf's ready for it, jsut slightly lean in at the right time. if she wants to kiss, then shell lean in too. if not, she wont. thats a good way to tell. but jsut lightly touch her lips ont he first try to make her feel romantic. good luck!!

lori 16/f

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I never have anything to talk to my boyfriend about on the phone and he always gets mad can u help me because i get kind of scared when i talk to him on the phone

yea. i had the same problem. and i still kinda do but just you know, ask him questions about his personal life and stuff. maybe once he gives you a good answer, yall will have something to talk about. if that doesn't work, keep asking or start talking about yourself. just don't let any awkward silences come into your conversation.

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im 18 yrs and its been 8 months with my boyfriend...i want to tell him that and prove him that i dont love or have any feelings for my ex boyfriend how can i tell him in a way he could believe it??

well, if you don't think he'll believe you, make sure he does. just convince him in everyway possible. talk to him and make it clear that your ex is outta your life. say that he's the one and only guy you're in love with. if that doesn't work, then maybe yall have trust issues. or maybe its jsut him. but there's gotta be a problem if a guy has trouble trusting his boyfriend.
good luck!!

lori 16/f

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