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talking
15/f
Right now i am "talking" to this really cute popular guy that goes to my school. I'm really excited and everything but there are some problems i don't know what to do about.
Problem 1- He has a lot of girls that are his best friends and he talks to them about us and sometimes the conversations we exchange. I mean, i don't care if he has a lot of friends that are girls but sometimes i don't want the stuff we say or do for them to know. Also, the first time we started "talking" he called his friends and told them only 5 minutes after we did and they all called me and were like "aww, you guys are talking now?" I can't tell him about this because i am just now getting to know him and i really do like him and i don't want to scare him away.
Problem 2- I haven't ever been kissed before and he found that out and he was talking to one of his friends (leads back to problem one) and she called me and she was like "you don't care if he kisses you right?" I really don't care but i have never found a guy that i want to kiss. I am very unexpierienced and let's just say he is very expierienced. I don't care but his friend which is one of my friends to kind of said that if we date, we will be doing a lot of kissing.
Problem 3- I don't know how to make out and i really do like this guy and we will probably make out if we start dating.
Problem 4- Even though there are some problems so far i still like him and i don't feel like i am giving him emough clues that i like him. He dosen't call me everyday and that's okay but i think he thinks i don't like him that much so i want to give him hints or clues so he knows. Can you give me any clues on how to do this?
I'm really sorry about how long this is but i really need your help. Please help me on each problem. Thanks so much!
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well... you can just tell him about not sharing your conversation with his friends, but nicely. hope that he'll understand. if doesn't, well.. maybe he's just too concieted to understand how a girl like you might feel.
if you really like him, you'll know when to kiss and it'll come to you.
making out is just like kissing... and again, it'll probably come o you naturally. making out show how couples are really sexually attracted to each other.
kiss him, not necessarily on the lips, but maybe on the cheeks or forhead, or something. make him feel your like for him.
goodluck!
lori 16/f
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Well for the first problem, if anything I think you should feel flattered that he's willing to talk about you to other people -- esp. girls. It's almost as if he's letting them know that's he's ready to get "off the market" and with you. But if there's anything "private" that you don't feel comfortable about him telling people, you could just let him know that. Maybe bring it up like "so and so said...blah blah and it's really nice that you talk about me, but I'd feel more comfortable if you kept some things between us..."
Problem 2 - I keep seeing this all over the place about someone being unexperienced and wants to kiss a guy who is, basically just DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT. If he goes in for the kiss, just go with the flow! If anything his top lip will touch your bottom lip and vice versa so just keep that in mind and GO WITH IT. Since he already knows you won't have to worry about him "finding out" when he kisses you (which guys usually don't anyway) and plus that hasn't detered him from wanting to kiss you, so there's really no cause for concern!
Problem 3 - Pretty much the same as number 2, JUST GO WITH THE FLOW. It won't be bad at all. The more you kiss him the more you get used to it, and then making out will just come naturally.
Problem 4 - Just be you and let him know that you're happy to be talking to him. If he seems to be flirting, don't be shy and flirt back. Any time he hints at liking you just give it right back to him. And don't worry about him not calling you everyday - that's not a problem. Since you guys aren't dating yet you can't expect that from him (heck some guys you can't even expect that from if you are dating them, lol). And maybe let those girls that talk to you know that you're interested as well, and hopefully they'll put in a good word for you :).
Hope this helps, and I hope everything works out between the two of you! =)
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