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he wont talk to me
16/f
ok. so there is this guy named jeffrey and he and i have been on and off liking each other for over two years. we would talk, become really good friends and usually ending up making out or something then we would just stop talking and eventually he would call me again and the process would repeat. so we stated talking again in march and in may he ended up taking my virginity. he knew i was a virgin and he was reallly sweet about it. well he just graduated and he drinks all the time and does some drugs. and we arnt talking. i hevnt talked to him in a month or so and im really upset because i feel used. i know he didnt use me because he is too sweet and i know he cares about me but im still so hurt and depressed. what should i do?
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You were used, all guys are sweet when they want some sex. Ohkay, lesson learned and don't stress yourself any girl would have done the same. But It's your best intrest to forget him, and let go. you don't need to drug drama in your life, and you certainly don't need a man whose gunna use everytime just because he can. Move on girl, be strong.
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just try and lay off him for a while. if he doesn't talk to you or anyhting, find another great guy. chances are, jeffrey isn't The One. so just if he dosn't let you know how he feels, he might be wanting to end it. go find other guys. be happy.
lori 16/f
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hunny, the best advice anyone can give you right now, is "forget him".
i know it's harsh, but that is one of the hardest lessons i've never learned.
being young is about happiness, and the key to happiness is surounding yourself with only people who make you happy. (i mean, for me it was cutting off bad friends who bring too much drama, and only dating guys that really make you laugh-for you it may be something different)
really, I'm sure "using you" was not is intension but guys will be guys, and they're all fucking idiots (excuse my french), and they think with their dicks, not their heads.
best advice about men: "he's just not that into you" -sex and the city-
and it's something that is hard for us to accept because really, as women we're pretty fabulous.
but bottom line is, if he's causing you more stress than happiness, screw that, I'm sure there are tons of guys who would love to spend their time on you. you just need to believe in yourself(ew, excuse my cliche), and be confident that you ARE a good catch, and don't bring yourself down to his level.
best of luck hunny. (oh and don't call/text/message him first. i know it's hard, but it's the best thing)
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Try to get some important figures in Jeffrey's life together for an intervention.
Or if he insists on his new lifestyle, let him go. No good things are going to happen if you stay around a self destructive person. You're only going to end up feeling more used.
So try to help him out of his habits. And if that doesn't work, then just leave him.
cheers,
stargirl
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