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so my boyfriend and i have been dating for 7 months now, and i was always very mean to him, just because i was truly scared of him breaking my heart. i would always threaten to break up with him just because i was scared that he would do it first, but i knew that i would never really break up with him because i love him, with all of my heart. well yesterday he was talking about a break up due to all the mean hurtful things that i sometimes say to him. well obviously it tore me apart and i literally begged for forgiveness. we came to the conclusion that we should trial date for a week and see how that goes.. and see if i can stop my mean ways, and if i can regain his trust.. just try to get back to normal again.. well i slept over his house last night and we had a conversation about how he does truly love me and how he still wants to marry me.. and i thought that this meant that we were back to normal and everything.. so we had sex.. twice.. well then today he tells me that he isnt sure about whats going to happen and that we still have alot of work to do before we're normal again.. he told me that theres still a chance that this wont work out.. and so here i am devastated.. and clueless as to what i should do.. any advice is greatly appreciated.
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It's very common for you to be scared of a broken heart, especially if you have been through it before, but you have to learn how to be on the guard without completely shutting him out. It seems as though you really care about him and don't want to lose him, so I think that you need to focus on letting him in and stop saying hurtful things to him. Let him know that you are scared, let him know what you are feeling, and get his thoughts on it; relationships work so much better when the two of you can communicate to one another.
As for him saying it still might not work, I think that you hurt him by saying these hurtful things and now he is unsure if he wants to continue to be in a relationship with you, even if he does love you. In the next 'trial' week, I think you need to work hard to show him that you truly love him and care about him. Let him know that you are willing to let your guard down and let him in. Show him you trust him and have faith in your relationship, if you do I'm sure things will get better and you guys will last for a while.
But if things don't work out just remember that if he ends up in your past, keep him there. He was there for a reason and you will find someone that you care about and love and want to be with forever.
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I understand you truly love him, and losing him would be terrible, but your actions and attitude towards him is pushing him away and straining your relationship. if you love someone you have to accept that it can be painful but also great if you are open to it. don't push love away. he may not be the perfect boyfriend either, but if you two overcome your obstacles and work together, your relationship could improve. have sex after you work everything out, not when you are in limbo. work to gain his trust and remember how you would feel if he treated you that way.
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umm... i don't think your relationship is a good idea. both of you need to work on how to be part of a good relationship. well, you obviously need to work on that trust problem and he needs to learn to, you know, not have sex when the situation isn't right. so there you are, happy that he truly still loves you, and yall have sex..twice. then the next day he tells you that he still doesn't trust you. that means that the sex you had last night didn't mean anything. well, you thought it did, but he apparently only did it for pleasure, not bc he really loves you. i think you should really consider this b4 you decide if you want to stay with him or not. i suggest yall both lay off a while, to think this over. i mean i can see you two love each other, but i also know that relationships shouldn't just continue just because both sides have sexual feelings for each other. just think about it.
good luck!! (i know this was really long. sorry)
lori 16/f
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i would say u should try to trust him more, if you show him you trust him; he might realize that he should stick with you. & if he realizes that, then you know that he probably won't break up with you. i know it's going to be extremely hard but - you have to try to not worry about the slim chance of him ending the relationship. you can't always worry about something that you don't know will happen for sure or not. & since he said that theres a lot of work to do to make the relationship work out; try your absolute hardest to make it work.
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