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drunk sex with roommate.
Female 21.
I moved in oct to fl. I made friends fast and had been flirting with this guy for months. Finally I had to move and moved into a house with my new friends two brothers and ones girlfriend and two other guys. The brother(21) without a GF is the guy i had been flirting with for months. We finally hooked up (no drinking involved) He said he didnt want to date anyone but wanted to try new things since he never had a gf he was pretty innocent with alot of things and that was fun to me. I was ok with this. Then every now and then we would have sex(no drinking), months later he started having this other girl come over and hooked up with her. Since it was bothering me i new i was getting attached. So we disscussed this and i stated no more sex.He didnt really want to stop but he didnt want a commitment. It was fun but now it was over. Well now everytime i get drunk and come home from the bar i brush my teeth and he comes into our bathroom and i end up having sex then going to my room. Hes not nice he dosnt want me to sleep in his bed even though the other girls do. Sometimes i dont even remeber. But my roomies tell me they told me not to.Now I cant figure out how to stop having sex with him. I tell him i dont want to and i tell everyone in the house not to let me. but when i drink i come on to him and he dosent tell me no. Any advice?
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well you should just try and not get drunk. if you dont get drunk then you wont want to have sex wiht him. dont drink so much.
good luck!!
lori 16/f
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I got feedback that i should stop drinking. And that is a valid point. I Dont do it often. I have always been safe at home (not that i dont feel safe now!!!) but i prepare myself to be completly concious of all my actions while out enjoying myself (remebering everything). I do however let myself go when i get home.. anything that happens between getting in the door and getting to my bed has never before now been a problem.Thank you!
- From me
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Stop getting so drunk.
Seriously. Stop getting so drunk that you can't seem to control yourself, or that you forget.
Stay at the bar or club, drink a few glasses of water, walk around the block before coming in and lock the door to bathroom even while brushing your teeth.
If you so drunk that you can't manage to think of, or follow through on those ideas, then you are way too drunk. If you can't recall simple tactics like those, then you are drunk enough to posion yourself, or worse.
If you want to continue to drink to excess like that, plan to stay with a friend or at a hotel/motel, move out of this place, or accept that the result of that choice is fucking your roommate.
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Ok you are going to hate my answer. Before I tell you what I think, I just want to point out that I am not preaching to you. I have enjoyed nights out that involve drinking for many years, so I have no issue with an adult indulging in that way.
However, if when you drink you cannot control something as basic as this, you should not be drinking. Its not even that you made one mistake, you repeatedly make the same mistake and regret it afterwards. That means that when you drink, your reasoning is so impaired that you cannot even follow through on something that you have promised yourself over and over to avoid.
Another thing that is worrying is that you wrote that you sometimes dont even remember. That is usually considered a sign that one should lay off the alcohol. Small memory gaps are one thing, but having entire portions of your evening black out, is not a good thing at all.
Now, you can tackle this any way you like. However if you have this little self control when you drink I think it is completely reckless to keep doing it at least in those sort of quantities.
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It sounds like he likes other girls but he just wants to have sex because he is a player. It seems like he is taking advantage of you because your drunk and he knows you won't refuse him. I would have a talk to him about this and tell him you won't have sex with him anymore even if your drunk and have your friends have a close watch on you so you won't do it when your drunk. Hope this helps!
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