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I'm a 17 y/o guy in highschool with a mad crush on this girl that I've known since middle school. In middle school, she tried to hook up with me in an indirect way with obvious hints but then I didn't have any idea what to do so we stayed friends. I guess I was still in that cootie phase of puberty. But now I'm a junior in highschool and recently she's been on my mind alot like crazy. There's something about her that keeps my head stuck on her all the time, other girls might catch my attention but damn she got something special. There are a few guys that are trying to hook up with her but I heard from word of mouf that she likes me. Now that I've given you the intel on my situation, I was wondering what would you do to get the girl or to improve the chances of hooking up with her? I'd be real grateful if you can help me out.

Well, I hope for your sake that you want to do more than just hook up with her :-P From the context of your question, it is obvious that you do want more than that, so I'll stop teasing. At any rate, chances are if she liked you in middle school and you didn't undergo this huge character change, that she would probably still be willing to go out with you. You just have to ask her. Now I am not sure what I can say to help you ask her other than you aren't going to get anywhere by any other method. Communication is essential during a relationship, and is also the only way to begin one. So just walk up to her and ask her if she would go with you to a movie, or something along those lines. I know it is "easier said than done" but trust me, the results are worth it. :-)

Ok I just got over this relationship from an online girl. We were together 5 months but she held so many lies to me and I never saw her. She lived like 4.5 hours away from me tho. But here is the question. I meet this other girl and she likes me and I like her. She lives in the same state and pretty close. How should I go about this without getting hurt again? I would love to be with her but just am scared i'll be hurt. Please help all that can. Thanks Much

Chances are you aren't going to like this answer, but I suggest that you stay away from the realm of internet dating. It eliminates the physical concept of the relationship, which is 1/2 of the whole relationship. Internet relationships are normally not successful. I think it is in your best interest to find a local lady who you can see and spend quality time with. In the end, Pixels really don't mean much. And about getting hurt: That is unavoidable. Love is painful. But when you find that special girl, you realize that the pain is worth it and there is joy to accomodate that pain. I hope you take what I said into consideration when you make your choice.

OMG my mom is such a bytch! she wont even let me date and i am a 14 yr old female! she doesnt trust neone except herself(which is CRAZY!!) how can i make her change her mind about boys?
signed,
pissed off

Are you sure you are mature enough to date someone? If you believe you are, then you're going to have to prove that to your mother. Help out around the house, when you go out to hang otu with your friends, tell your mom exactly where you are going and the times you will be gone. Share everything that happens with her, and show her that you trust her. Usuallu, when you trust someone, they return that trust.

Okay, I'm a freshman and there's this junior in my spanish class. Well, I always catch him looking at me, like all the time. And he's REALLY cute. But he has a girlfriend, I'm just wondering.. but what do you think about this? His smile like melts me, and i'm just wondering if there's something there.

He has a girlfriend. Doesn't that say enough? If he asks you out while he still has a girlfriend I would think his morals are in question. Put yourself in his girlfriend's position. How would she feel if she knew that her boyfriend was eyeing you up and all? Consider that if this progresses.

I apologize if what I said isn't what you wanted to hear. But not taking other people's feelings into consideration in situations like this is cold and wrong. Hopefully after you grow up you'll realize that for yourself.

Okay, i like this guy and he can be SO SO sweet sometimes.. but he really can be a jerk too. He's called me names, and i think he takes advantage of a lot of people... but to me, he's still great, and i try to tell myself that he's not, but it doesn't work! i've liked him for over a year now. right now he's mad at me, and he tends to do this a lot. he like finds reasons to get mad, and he won't even tell me what it is! i don't understand it. i just need help on what i should tell him or what i should do. PLEASE DON'T SAY "GET OVER HIM"... I've heard it TOO many times, and I don't want to hear it again..
--*Thanks for the help. I'll rate*--

You have acknowledged the fact that he is a jerk. You have acknowledged the fact that he gets angry at you and makes up reasons for it. You've acknowleged the fact that he taks advantage of people. But he is sweet too? This doesn't sound like an excellent situation to me. If this guy cared about you and you want to have a nice little relationship then he is going to have to stop being such a dick. And if he contineus to act this way, you need to find a new boyfriend. Clinging to this one will NOT help you. From your question you have asked me not to say "get over him." This shows that people have told you this before because they acknowledge that this guy is a two face. Why haven't you taken their advice?

Ok, I'm 14/f
And there is this guy at my church. He is soo funny and he's a really good Christian, which is very important for me, and he has an awesome personality and is very fun to be around. The only problem is, he is really small. He is like 1/2 a foot shorter than me and weighs about 30 lbs less. Beside all this, I really like him a lot because of the inside, which is really what counts, but I'm afraid of what my friends would say if we dated. Because well, I've been known for going for the good-looking guys. So what should I do?

If you like him, then you shouldn't give a damn what your friends think of him. If your friends look down on you for dating someone you like then they aren't very good friends and you should get some new ones. I say you go out with this guy, he sounds awesome. So what if he is short? Since when did height matter? :-P

Ok, well heres the thing...I still like my ex boy friend, I think...see I am not sure if I like him...or I just liked making out with him...lol I know it sounds childish but when I am in his arms I feel safe, and it feels like nothing in the world matters anymore...I dont know what to do because we dated for 3 days and then broke up for about a week and then we dated for another 4 days and then broke up and it has almost been a week, both of the times we broke up it was because he was flirting with another girl and had told his best friend that he liked her more then me, and his best friend proved it to me both times...I dono what to do...i want him back, I think...PLease help me I dont know what to do...I feel so good when I am in his arms and when we are kissing but I dont know if i just like the fact of feeling that way, or feeling that way "WITH HIM"....if you know please tell me!!! I need to figure this out because it is driving me crazy!!

Chances are you just liked being held and kissed by someone. This guy doesn't sound too great if he was flirting with other women. If you broke up with him twice and only dated him for a week total then there is obviously nothing special there.

Ok i made a big mistake by saying i didn't want to kiss my boyfriend just yet (he wants to) but i've just realised today that i really do! We went shopping after school today and i kept trying to get us into a situation where he could kiss me but he didn't take the hint! How should i let him know subtly that i want to?!

Why does it have to be subtle? Just give him a kiss already :-)

Ok im not sure what to do Im still kinda in love with my ex and he still likes me but THe like 4th day of school we were forced to sit my eachother so he talked to me about that he lost his virginity and hes had sex like ALOT we vowed to eachother we were gonna take eachothers virginity but then we broke up now I dont know what to do help????

I don't see how he can like you and then go off and have all this sex. If he liked you he would have kept his promise to you. I think you need to find a new guy. One that doesn't have "ALOT" of sex and doesn't break promises.

heyy .. okay i have lotss of like problemss .. and i really need so0me one i kan have to look foward to and be happy about what i mean is a boyfriend .. and i havent had one for a whilee .. and i havent liked any one for a while .. whats wrong with me .. and how can i find new guys to find a boyfriend .. i really wunt a long relationship

From the context of your question it sounds like you are rather young. You need to ask yourself: will having a boyfriend REALLY solve your problems? I doubt it will. A long, committed relationship is not a game. It is a lot of hard work. Granted, if you find the right person, you will enjoy yourself, but doing that when you are young is very difficult. If you REALLY want a boyfriend so badly, then you should just talk to people. Get to know some guys. When you find one you like, spend more time with him. Although I am warning you that a romantic relationship increases your stress level in life.

[Sorry about the lengh, but I need some advice=)}About a year and a half ago, I met a guy who changed my life. When one of my best friends introduced us, I didn't really think anything of it. We hardly ever saw eachother, but talked often and had the most deep, intriguing conversations that would last for hours on end. We had a connection, somthing I had never felt before...but there, of course, was a problem...He lived an hour away. We were 14 at the time, and, me , being an only child, continued to be extremley protected by my parents when it came to dating. I saw him literally once every 6 months, and it would always be someplace public, with each one of our friends involved. A year later, and a year older, my parents agreed to take me out there for a few hours so we could finnaly be together. After that visit, we started seeing eachother more and more often, and our love grew stronger and stronger. My parents started allowing me to spend the night, and I have made so many new, interesting friends. The summer, amazing, every weekend me and him would spend together. Now that school started again, it came to realization that we have different lives, and a lot of things are going to interfere with our relationship. I am in love, and every minute i spend thinking about him...but I'm afraid that our distance, even if it is only an hour away, is going to damage our connecton. I see couples in the hallway at school, around town, and other places, and it makes me so depressed, I never take any time spent with him for granite. Some people really don't know how lucky they are to have such a great person becasue they're always with them. So I guess my question is, how do I keep this relationship strong, despite the fact that I am not around to see his actions. I mean, I trust him, and he trusts me, but all the girls I know from his town love him. He's a ladies man and I am so very jelous. I wish i could do somthing, but he always brings up how far away i am, thats why we held off going steady until the summer....please i really need some intelligent advice.

Thank you for reading this...

Granite is a rock. You meant to say for granted. And if you don't take it for granted, thats good. That means you appreciate his time. Grammar bugs me. Anyway, on to your advice. If you truly love this man, then the distance could possibly strengthen the relationship, as odd as that sounds. My girlfriend lives an hour away as well, and I miss her every moment I have time to think. But I cherish every second I get to spend with her. Do you have a way of talking to him often? Communication is essential to a relationship. As long as you are constantly talking to him and you get to see him every now and then, I think your relationship will work out just fine. But remember that long distance relationships are very difficult, and only the truely best couples can withstand them. I hope you and your love make it through :-).

Hi well see I met this guy from Paris, France, well he is sweet and everything , but my boyfriend dosnt like him , he said if I talked to him that he would break up with me , what do I do?Plz
help

I personally see no problem with you just talking to a guy in France. Some of the comments said below are ptretty asinine and incorect, there isn't anything more wrong with French people than American people. But anyway, if your boyfriend is going to dump you because you talk to some guy on the internet that poses no threat to your relationship what-so-ever, I think it is time you found yourself a new boyfriend. This one sounds rather controlling and obnoxious, from the limited information I was given.

I really like my best friend... We've been best friends for almost 10 years.... I don't know if she likes me though... i don't wanna look weird.... and i don't wanna ruin our freindship. What should i do?

If you have a 10 eyar strong friendship then asking her to move it up a level can't hurt. I mean, 10 years is a long time. There has to be a lot of trust there. Asking her a simple question won't ruin your friendship. If she says she does want to go out with you, great. If she doesn't, no biggie. She will still be your friend.

so theres this person who i met online. and hes the sweetest thing ever. and i know hes not some crazy stalker whos 76 yet he always says he loves me and he wants to go out and everything. im freaked out that like..he says that. i mean i told him i wanted to get to know him and everything. but sometimes like..i forget about him. blah im just wondering what to say to him..

Avoid Internet Relationships. They cause autism.

I just broke up with my bf. I told him that we'd still be friends but I just wasn't feeling anything. He was ok with it and acted fine. So, why do I feel so crummy? PLEASE ANSWER! I'M BEGGING YOU! I RATE! PLEASE!

Enough of the capitals. You do realize that is the equivalent to screaming online, correct? No one wants to help someone who screams at them. And begigng doesn't help, we are here to give you advice, and we are here on our own accord, you don't have to beg us to help you. Now, on with your question. You just got out of a relationship. You are going to have some negative feelings, no matter what. You were attached to that person for some time, otherwise there would have been no relationship. And the loss of that attachment has hurt you. Those feelings will fade over time. Just mimic the Gilmore Girls and sit down and eat a lot of chocolate ice cream.

Hey I'm 14/m and i still haven't ever kissed a girl outside my family.... I feel kinda out of place here because I'm already in high school and ive never kissed.... is there something wrong with me?

Dude, there is nthoign wrong with you at all. I personally did not recieve my first kiss until I was 18. Just wait until you meet that girl who is really worth it. :-)

Is it ok to not want to kiss your boyfriend? I mean, I do want to but not just yet, we've been going out for a week is that ok?

That is very mature of you. It is perfectly all right not to want to kiss your boyfriend after a only a week-a week is not long enough to get to know a person at all. You should only kiss when you are good and ready. :-)

Hey I just found out that my new boyfriend was cheating on me with another gurl, Im crushed!
But last night after I broke up with him He called me alomst 6 times before I answered it.
well he said he wanted to met me on the cornor of my road well I went but he didn't show until 12:12am, Then he wanted to make out I didn't and I left Did I do the right thing?

From this viewpoint it seems as if you have indeed done the right thing. If he was cheating on you and then wanted to meet up with you only to make out with you, then he was really not worth yor time. I applaud you on your actions.

Ok theres this boy and we hooked up BUT now hes like I like this other girl better then u HOW do I get over him?

I'll give the same answer I always do. Use the Gilmore girls method. Lots and lots of chocolate ice cream.

Im in the army, been with my girlfriend 5 years. Im leaving again for iraq for the 2nd, should i ask her to marry me before i ago, just incase i dont come back. i love her with all my heart, i would give my life for her. but do you guys ever have the feeling how do you know if they are the one. its just so mind boggling to me. and advice would help.
thanks
josh

I am in Air Force ROTC right now and I have a very loving relationship as well. I know that if I were in the same position, I would ask her to marry me. It is important to tell your lady how you feel before you lose the chance to do so. Go with what your heart tells you to do.

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