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Marriage
Im in the army, been with my girlfriend 5 years. Im leaving again for iraq for the 2nd, should i ask her to marry me before i ago, just incase i dont come back. i love her with all my heart, i would give my life for her. but do you guys ever have the feeling how do you know if they are the one. its just so mind boggling to me. and advice would help.
thanks
josh
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First of all thank you for serving our country and protecting all of us. I admire you and my prayers are with you. I hope and pray that you will have a short tour over there and return home safe. But know that you are going over there with my gratitude for keeping us all safe.
Now, to answer your question... Ask yourself this one question... "If I weren't going away would I ask her to marry me right now?" Whatever you answer is what you should do. Unfortunately everyone asks the same questions that you are right now when they are considering marriage and sometimes the answer is that you need more time to know for sure. I say that if they answer is that you would like a little more time to know what your feeling really are that you should wait. If she really loves you she will wait for you to get home. If you can honestly say that you would marry her if you were saying I would say congradulations and I wish for you many years of happiness and a wonderful life together.
Either decission you make it will be the right one for you. God Bless you and return home safe real soon... :)
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absolutely. thats so sweet. i fyou love her like you say, and you want to marry her, then definately ask her. if you want to marry her, then she is the one.
good luck, and we love our troops.
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I am in Air Force ROTC right now and I have a very loving relationship as well. I know that if I were in the same position, I would ask her to marry me. It is important to tell your lady how you feel before you lose the chance to do so. Go with what your heart tells you to do.
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Aww you definetly should. She probably worries herself sick about you being in Iraq and it'd be good for her to know exactly how much you really do love her. I'm sure she'd be indescribably happy. Good luck with everything and have a safe trip back home!
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Hi , I REALLLLLLY THINK YOU SHOULD ASK HER! if you really love her !because if you dont come back atleast she'll know you wanted to marry her !!!
GOOD LUCK IN IRAQ! THANKS FOR SUPPORTING THE USA!
GOD BLESS!
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I think she would be very happy if u asked her to marry u before u left and that u mention to her that u would give ur life for her. Thats so sweet. O and u will know that she is the one just by instinct. U will feel like there is a band that connects u 2, to each other and no one can ever break it. If u do ask i hope she says yes. Good Luck!
~*Michelle*~
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First of all thank you for your service to our country. And as for your question i think that you should go for it. Especially during the war u'll need someone to count on and she'll be there for you.
thanx again
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u should wait till u came back...wat if something were to happen to u and she had already said that she would marry u..it would be harder for her to move on if she was ur fiance...just wait till u get back, then there wont be ne worries.
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if you think she feels the same way about you then totaly go for it. and 5 years is a long time to be with someone just dating. i'm actually shocked. good for you guys! the whole being in the army thing i'm sure it scares her and she's worried. don't tell her that you're just asking her to marry you before you go "incase you don't come back" because it will seriously scare the shit out of her... i have that feeling about my boyfriend we're so young but he already wanted to know if i'd marry him. we aren't engaged though because we are only in highschool but we are very much in love and it seems like you guys are too. i hope everything works out for you two and may god be with you while you're in iraq.
..::..emily..::..
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I'm married, and I just knew. I know that's not a real answer, but it's the only honest one I can give. I felt no doubts, no questions, and no hesitations. I knew the situation was right in every way - emotionally, financially, etc.
If you think you might not come back, I wouldn't ask her. You need to ask her for the RIGHT reasons, not because you feel worried about heading overseas. It's not fair to either of you, and if something DID happen to you, it would only make it harder for her.
If you are hesitant about her being 'the one', there are plenty of ways to let her know you love her. Marriage is a lifelong committment and should only be entered when you KNOW you are ready. In the meantime, make sure she knows how much you care.
Write a bunch of letters or cards and ask a family member to deliver them to her every week or so. Hide little post-it notes around her room. Spend some nice quality time with her before you leave, and call her as much as you can once you are overseas.
I wish you the best of luck, both in Iraq and with your love life. I'm sure both will be fine.
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i would say definetly. God bless you for going out there, and atleast if anything (god forbid)ever happened, she would know just how true you are to her. Best of luck -- thanks for fighting for us.
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yes you definitely should. since you don't know if you're going to come back or not (god forbid) you should try to live your life to the fullest and get all the things done that you want to do before you die. best wishes.
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Marriage is a lifelong committment and one that shouldn't be entered into until you know that you are ready to share the rest of your life with someone through thick and thin. I understand your desire to make a strong statement about your love for your girlfriend since you are going away and there is the thought in the back of your head that you might not return.
The best way to get clarity on the situation might be to think about whether you would be asking her to marry you if you weren't going away. If the answer is no, then I suggest you resist the urge to propose before you head out. There are other ways to show how much you love your girlfriend. Just simply sharing with her what she means to you and how much you care about her will make her feel special and loved.
I say save the proposal for a time when you are truly ready to become a husband. If you've thought about it and decided that that time is now - then I say go for it! Best of luck to you overseas - my thoughts are with you for a safe return.
Kind wishes,
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awwww...god i feel so bad for u..goodluck in iraq..and no dont ask her to marry u ..tell her u love her to death tho..if u marry her its gonna hurt her so bad even worse if u die..and pluse ull probably get a house together a bigger one..and itl be hard for her..or maybe u should ask her how she would feel..and if thats wut she would want or no..if u do end up getting married goodluck w/ the wedding send my love out to the heros in iraq. hope i helped u out good luck
<3Shelby<3
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This seems like a hard question to answer. No one can really tell u to marry this woman except for YOU. Chances are, this trip to iraq, and being apart for a long period of time, will make your relationship even better, and you'll grow to love and appreciate eachother even more than before..its your decision to make so think hard!
im sorry i couldnt giv u an exact answer but this is a decision youll have to make on your own..hope i helped out a bit..xoxo
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Five years is a long time. If you are not sure by now that she is the one, then she is not. Don't ask her to marry her because you feel like you should. Do it because you want to.
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