Hi, I'm Sophie. Welcome to my advice column!
I know I'm only fourteen and you may think that I know practically nothing, but I've been through a lot for a fourteen-year-old and I've seen a lot of things that other fourteen-year-olds haven't.
I've been depressed before and I've been through stages of my life where I've had nobody to talk to and nobody to turn to. I know how tough it is, so I suppose that's why I signed up for this site.
I want to help others who aren't as fortunate as I am now.
I'll try and help with whatever I can. I'm just starting out on here but soon hopefully my personal page will be slightly nicer to look at and stuff.
All the love in the world,
Sophie xxx
I am realistic, competitive, sentimental, crazy, private, cynical, ambitious, determined, self-centred and I always look on the bright side of life. I try to, anyway.
I hope I can help xxx
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okay-i just started to go out with the guy i love nd the guy that loves me,we had to wait 2 months to go out though because he wasnt sure if he was over his ex.me nd him have been going out for a week now.. nd his ex is telling me he likes her still. but when i ask him he says no i hate her. nd he shows me convo's of her nd him fighting..but she still contines to say he loves her she is a bitch nd really anoying.. nd when every i asked ryan(my bf) if he likes her he also kinda gets mad cuz i ask him alot nd he thinks i dont trust him but i do.. i just dont no who to belivie.who do u think i should belivie my love or the bitch? (link)
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I think you should believe Ryan. I think this "bitch" (sorry I don't know her name and she sounds pretty bitchy so...hey!) is just jealous and trying to make things bad for you two.
Ryan came to you and left her-if he still did love her I'm sure he'd be with her and not you now.
Stay strong, try to trust him and good luck!
Sophie xxx
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my boyfriend and me have been going out for a lil over a month and i still dont feel anything for him, hes totally obssesed with me and i dunno what to say to him without hurting him because hes a really good friend of mine! I feel like im just stuck in a bad relationship. Some people keep saying stuff like i cheat on him all the time which i dont, im just a natural flirt and i cant help it!..id really just rather be single for awhile because spring breaks coming up and i dont wanna have to be tied down! Does anybody know what i could say to him that wouldnt hurt his feelings? :( (link)
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You've got to bite the bullet and do it, cause otherwise it's not really fair on him.
Let him down VERY gently and tell him that although you'd love to be friends, you don't see the relationship moving anywhere right now. Assure him that you haven't cheated on him and tell him that you're sorry.
He'll be upset at first but he will get over it-and this way you'll be free!
Good luck,
Sophie xxx
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ok so the kid i like broke up with his girl friend about a week ago..and i really like him..my friend ask him if he would ever go out woth me and he goes no.. and i was really sad..and i'm trying to get over him but I can't..it hurts so bad..I don't kno wut to do either try again later (much later) or move on...help
What is this love? (link)
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This is quite a difficult question 'cause it depends on the situation, but I'll try to help as much as I can!
Firstly, he might have just have said he doesn't like you because he was shocked or in a difficult situation. If you talk to him regulary and you get on well, then there might be a chance thathe does actually like you. If you think that this might be the case, then yeah, try again later. You've got nothing to lose!
I think the love that you're talking about probably is just ione hell of a big crush. I've been there before and it's nasty-but you WILL get through it eventually.
If you're really sure he doesn't like you, it's gotta be time to let go. Flirt your socks off (though not literally, lol!) with any other boy and go out with your friends as much as possible.
You will like someone else again soon-and I'm sure they'll like you back :-)
Good luck and I hope I helped!
Sophie xxx
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I really like this kid and he says he likes me. We talk on the phone all the time and he says how much he likes me, and he always ends our conversations with, I love you. One problem, he has a girlfriend but he doesnt want to dump her because he doesnt want to hurt her. I really like him what should I do? (link)
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I think that you'll have to tell him to end it with her, because otherwise then, in a way, you're cheating.
It sounds to me as though you make a great couple and I think that you should tell him that.
You will hurt the girl, obviously, but you'll hurt her more if the girl finds out what's been going on behind her back.
Hope I helped,
Good luck hun,
Sophie xxx
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i feel the need for a girl friend, just to hear the comfort words i love you or sumthing. is that rong or right im like undicided. is it sick or ok??????? (link)
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No it's not sick or anything like that, it's normal. Everyone wants that in their lives, and I'm sure that you'll find a girlfriend soon who's just right for you.
Good luck,
Sophie xxx
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i really like this guy... and he likes me too.. and heres the problem... hes 18... im 14.. and my mom wont let me go anywhere w/out her when im with a guy.. so i cant ever go anywhere with him.. and he doesnt go to my school.. and my mom just said im not allowed to talk to him since hes 18.. what should i do? (link)
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I know you've probably heard this loads of times before, but hun, you are too young for him.
Try to slowly let go of him and branch out to someone your own age-and then your Mom won't mind so much!
Good luck,
Sophie xxx
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I have liked this guy for ages over a year and nearly all my friends have dated him. I think one still likes him. I have a strict policy not to date guys my friends liked, have liked or have dated. So I ask should I ask him out or stick to my policy?? Ps I am no glamour model
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That's a good policy to have, and it shows that you're loyal and all.
I think you should go for it, but if you want to stick to your policy then I'd ask he friend who you think still likes him if she does.
If she says yes, then you should probably leave it. If she says no, however, definitely fo for it! Then, if she's lying about not liking him, it's her problem.
Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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see here is the thing!i like this guy named chad but my friend taryn liked/likes him, and i know he used to like her but he told me he didn't anymore and now i like him. he even invited me to one of his baseall games and everthing should i go and continue likeing him or wat? (link)
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If he doesn't still like her, then there's nothing that you can do about that.
He definitely likes you back if he invited you to his baseball game (yay!) so if I were you I'd follow your heart and go because you'll seriously regret it if you don't.
But make sure you do tell Taryn that you're going, otherwise she'll probably get upset.
Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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My best friend Anna and I both like the same guy, Dan. We are both really good friends with him and he flirts with us and other girls a lot. The problem is that he told me that he didn't like Anna, and only wanted to be friends with her. Then he told me that he always is really good friends with girls and then they end up liking him.
I told Anna this and she is really upset and I'm not sure how I should do. I still really like Dan, but it sounds like he doesn't like me because of what he said about his friends falling for him. I was about to ask him out, but now I'm not sure if I should.
why do guys flirt with girls and expect that the girl will never like them? Shouldn't they know that the girl will end up liking him? (link)
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Guys so suck like that. I think they like the attention or something, but I've been in the same position and it's VERY annoying!
I can understand why you like him, but he sounds like a bit of a player to me. If I were you, I'd wait for another few days or so before you decide if you're going to ask him out.
He might still like you and using what he said to cover it up. So don't give up hope yet.
Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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I've just had a few knocks lately with everything and i've lost my confidence and i've got low self esteem how do it get my confidence and steem back. Many thanxz (link)
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What you have to remember, hun, is that you're you for a reason and deep down, would you change that??
Everyone has hard times in their lives, but try to remember that one day you'll see the sun again and stuff will cheer up for you.
For the moment, try to concentrate on what you're good at and, if possible, go out with your friends for a day.
Try to tell someone how you feel, too. A problem shared is a problem halved!
And also know that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
Good luck and I hope I helped,
Sophie xxx
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one of my friends asked the guy i like if he likes me and he said he doesn't know and he likes a lot of people. so when he says he doesn't kno...does that really mean "No but i'm not gonna say it"?? thanx! i rate high (link)
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No. Usually when a guy says "I don't know" it actually means yes! I know that sounds stupid, but if a guy doesn't like you he always seems to say so...
Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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HELP!!
I am totally in love wif this guy in ma class which i fine the only problem ma best m8 hoo i have known since i was 3 fancies him 2 and i dont want to give up my best m8 but this guy keeps talkin 2 me and she keeps givin me these dirty looks and i havent told her that i like him. Plz Help Me !! (link)
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I was in the same position and it's tough.
Tell your friend how you feel. If she doesn't accept it then you have to work out who's the most important to you-your friend or your guy.
I know the sayong says, "Boyfriends come and go but friends last forever" and all of that, but if a friend is being a bitch about it (and you've tried being nice) then it's probably best to go with the guy. If thw friend is really important to you, go with her.
Another strategy is to try and talk to him when she's not around.
Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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Just out of curiosity, what are some hints that guys may give if they like you? And what are some really subtle ones? I'm always oblivious to these things and was just wondering. Especiallly to see if any of them apply to the guy I like. Thanks! (link)
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Thy'll usually stare at you a lot, and smile quite a lot, and also drop you some (subtle) compliments. It usually depends on the guy, but those three are usually common with all.
They usually always remember the conversations you've had and know more about you than you knew.
I hope he likes you back!
Sophie xxx
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okay. i have a blind date this friday. what do i do ? we are going to the movies to see constantine those who have seen it, is it good? look, it's my first blind date ever and i have no idea what it's gonna be like. what do i do if he is gross and like tries to do something in the movie? what do i do if he hates me and i like him? is there anything i can do to make sure i can escape if i need to or something? Please help!
signed,
blinded (link)
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To escape, it's pretty easy in the movies. If he's annyoing you halfway through the film, tell him you're going to the bathroom and then just walk straight out of the cinema. He'll love that!
I saw Constantine and I thought it was pretty good :-)
Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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Okay, I liked this boy named Max for a while and then he was an idiot and I stopped liking him. He keeps coming up in my head and I am so obessesed with him and I don't want to be this way at all. I try not to think about him, but everything I think about some how relates back to him.
Anyways, recently I got an AIM from a guy claiming his name was Joe and he saw my picture from my friend Rem (who doesn't go to our skool) and he thought I was super hott. I asked how he knew Rem and he didn't remember. Joe said he lived in some place far from me and he really thought he had no chance with me. Once he mentioned he heard about my "boyfriend" which was a joke I played on Max a long time ago and I began to think that this "Joe" guy was really "Max" playing a prank on me. I told Joe that I don't think he's telling the truth on who he is and he just needs to admit hes Max. He finally did and then he denied it again! I just know it's Max and he AIM's me still being Joe and flirts with me all the time. Why was he such a jerk to me and now flirting? Is it just a thing between him and his friends to make fun of me? Or does he really like me? I'm so confused and I really need help! I'll rate super duper good! Thank you for bearing with this super long question and I'm sorry!
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Hey, don't apologise! A long question's better than a short one that doesn't explain the problem properly :-)
To me, it definitely sounds like a)Joe is Max and b)Joe likes you.
If Max didn't like you, I think that he would have admitted being him quickly. I think that this was Max's clever way to tell you that he liked you. That's good news!
And though he was a jerk in the past...maybe he deserves a second chance??
Good luck?
Sophie xxx
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ok im gettin mixed signalz from a guy @ school like he has a girl friend but he flirtz with me constantly but when she'z around im invisible! what should i do? (link)
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Argh this guy sounds like a bit of a player.
However, it does sound like he likes you a bit. If I were you, I'd wait until they split up (how long can that take?) and then get down to some serious flirting ;-)
Sophie xxx
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Ok everyone, I am a 16/f. I just found out Saturday that a friend of mine that I have known since middle school died. Then Sunday I found out my boyfriend is cheating on me and he is now denying it. Let alone Wednesday being the anniversary of my grampas death.
And I don't know what to do. Its so hard to hold on. I need some advice on what to do.
And on top ok everything my cousin who says shes my bestfriend is trashing my life. What do I do??
Please someone help me! (link)
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Argh that sounds really tough hun. Try to listen to some uplifting Music and remember that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
Try to stay tough and know that things really will always get better. I promise!
Sorry, that advice wasn't great!
Best of luck,
Sophie xxx
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Recently I started this kinda...relationship with one of my best friends (he's male, I'm female) and then I split up with him because it just wasn't working. I was happy after I broke up with him - I feel free, coz being with him I felt trapped. However, I keep wanting to read his live journal...I think this might be because I was friends with him so long so I can't just block him out (however much I try) and still kinda want to know what's going on with him...but what do you guys think? (link)
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If he used to be one of your best friends, then why not? I know it may be kinda...wrong, bu t it'll help you continue to understand what's going on in his head and continue your friendship. Don't block him out coz friendship is very important!
Good Luck,
Sophie xxx
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Ok, well, my one friend, Chrisy is going out with this one kid named Josh. See the thing is, is that one day i was over at my other friend's house, leah, and she asked Josh if he like her and he sadi yes, and that he was going to break up with Chrisy a weeek after valentines day. I promised Leah i owuldn't tell anyone. See the thing is is thT IDK if i should tell Chrisy what happened or not. I love Chrisy and LEah the same, but idk wut to do....please help! (link)
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I think that you should tell chrisy. She deserves to know what her "boyfriend" is doing behind her back. Once you've told her, treat her to an ince-cream or something special.
Good Luck!
Sophie xxx
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my friend doesn't really like this guy who i like but she's leading him on. she said to my face she's doing this on purpose. he likes me and we are like best friends but my friend askes him to dances a month early so i can't ask. What should i do?
female 16 (link)
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That sounds really nasty of your friend. I think that you need to tell her how you feel and also, if it gets desperate, tell the guy.
Good luck!
Sophie xxx
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