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Ok... i see my boyfriend every day for at least 3 hours or so... well he works during the week...
is it weird that i miss him all day?
people tell me i'm too dependent on him but i just love him
and i miss him (link)
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It's npt weird that you miss him.... my bf works everyday from morning till like 10 at night... so I know how you feel. I'm very lucky if I get to spend a whole day with him. You are not too dependent... you just like being around him and you love him, so obviously you are gonna miss him when he's not around. Try and keep yourself busy while he's gone. Hang out with your friends or something.
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I really like my new boyfriend alot. He's my first & we have a great time together. However, I'm deathly afraid of a broken heart. I know I should live a little & not be afraid but I can't help it. Now I have the urge to break things off with him before he breaks up with me. What should I do? Can anyone who's experienced lend a helping hand?
Thank You! (link)
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The only reason that you should be afraid of having your heart broken is if you feel that your relationship with your boyfriend is not strong. If you think that everything is going great, then there is no reason to be afraid of a broken heart. Believe it or not, some guys are into long term relationships and will hold on to their girlfriend for a while. If you two have a strong relationship, then there is no need to worry about him breaking up with you, so you don't need to break up with the guy. If you're really worried, then maybe talk to him for reassurance that he's still really into you. However, if you feel like the relationship is going downhill, talk to your boyfriend... and if you really feel that you should break up and you're afraid of having your heart broken, then break up with him. But it sounds like you don't have to worry about that right now. just enjoy your relationship... don't worry about it unless you feel something is wrong. I hope that helps!! Ask me for anything else!
~Jackie
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i like a girl older than me but i am afraid to talk to her. (link)
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Well, first of all... it sounds like you have to change your mind set. You can't show that you are afraid to talk to her. Just be confident... and you shouldn't care what anyone else thinks of you or what she thinks of you. Don't be afraid that she'll think you are weird or something like that. You just have to be confident and be yourself. Next time you see this girl look confident and stand up tall... maybe if you don't want to talk to her right away just smile and wave or something. When you finally think you can talk to her, keep your confidence up and approach her. Just be like "hey, how's it goin? I think I know you from...." ask her how her summer's been, what she's been up to... if she seems into you (smiles when talking, touches you when talking, looks into your eyes, seems flirty) then go on and ask for her number or sn or something. I really hope this helps! Your question was kinda broad... so if you need any more advice on this just ask me... thanks sooo much!
~Jackie~
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Ok, i had a boyfriend and we were totally in love, but we barely saw eachother (once or twice a month) because we both went to different schools and were in all honors and ap classes (aka TONS of hw). In the end he ended up breaking up with me because "I love you, but i really cant b attached to someone right now." We still ended up being best friends, but about a week ago he told me that he had never told his mom about us breaking up, and i asked him y. He told me that it was because he still loved me (after 2 months), and that he could never take down the picture of us that i gave him for valentines. We're going to the same school next year, and he wants to get back together then....should i go for it because i love him...or just not put the used gum back in my mouth? (link)
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I don't see why you wouldn't go for it. You love him... he loves you... I don't see a problem here. It sounds like the two of you have an incredible relationship because you are able to love each other even though you barely ever see each other at all. It might be better this year, too because you are going to the same school which means you might have more time to see eachother. It sounds like you guys are really in love and i don't have any doubts that you should get back together with him. Good luck with everything... I hope it all works out!
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ok so here it is.....
i really like this guy and i have known him for about a year know. He likes one of my friends and he always tells me how much he likes her. I dont know what i should do. Should i give up and move on or stick in there and hold on to him??
please help me
Thankx* (link)
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If you really like this guy you can't give up on him. Does he know how you feel about him? Maybe if he knew that you liked him he may express some good feelings towards you. Either tell him that you like him yourself, or have one of your friends do it (but not the one that he likes). Also, when you talk to him look for signs to see if he is interested in you. He will touch you when he talks to you, look into your eyes when you talk, scratch his head or throat when he's talking to you... little things like that. If you feel that he's into you then go for him. If you don't think he likes you after he finds out that you do, then just move on. You are still young, and there are so many guys out there. So good luck with this... i hope this advice helps!!
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i have a bf of 2 weeks..for the 1st week we talked all the time on the phone and stuff but then we just stopped..we talk ocasionaly on the computer and stuff but not alot like most couples..i still like him but going out with him isnt as great as i imagained..he always seemes irrated by me and i dunno if thats just his guy tone..i dunno if i should break up with him and see what else is out there..im just scared b.c i love the idea of having a bf and dunno if ill find some else
plz help/ill rate (link)
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You said that you liked the idea of having a bf and are afraid you won't find someone else... I think that you shouldn't be going out with a guy just because you are scared there is no one else. A bf is someone who you really care about and love hanging out with. The feeling should be mutual, too... he should love hanging out with you as much as you do with him. So maybe you should talk to him and see if he really likes you and if not, then call it off. Also, if you don't really feel that strongly about him, then break up with him. Don't go out with him just so you can have a boyfriend. Find someone who you really like.
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Thers a kid named Cam, and he spends every summer at his cousins house, kyle, who happens to be my neighbor. So last summer he liked me alot and I didnt know it because I liked someone else. Then when summer ended I found out and started being OBSESSED with him. But he didnt like me anymore! Then in February he went over kyle's and I had two friends over, so Cam, kyle, my two friends, and I hung out. And at the end of the night kyle told me that Cam didnt really wanna go out with me because he didnt think I would do stuff with him. And I got pissed, so I confronted Cam and told him how shallow that was, then he got mad and blocked me and we didnt talk for about 4 months. Last Sunday he went over kyle's and we hung out and kyle told me he liked me again! But I dont know if I shoul;d like him back cuz I dont wanna get hurt. what do I do? (link)
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I hate to tell you this, but it sounds like if he does go out with you it would be just to do "stuff" with you. He wouldn't like you for who you are because he's hung up on doing stuff. I was in this situation a couple times and I just decided to move on. This guy obviously isn't worth your time... you can do a lot better than him. You need a guy who will appreciate you for who you are... not how well you make out or how far you'll go. So, try and forget about him, because most likely he will hurt you.
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why is my ex trying to ruin the relationship im in with my new boyfriend robby?? i mean i dont like my ex and he has a girlfriend so why is he doing this to me?? (link)
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I can think of countless people who this same thing has happened to. Guys tend to get really jealous even after a relationship with a girl. He is probably just upset about the break up and can't stand to see you with another guy, so he is being immature by trying to ruin your new realationship. This is completely typical of guys... pretty much every guy I know has done this to friends of mine they have gone out with. Just don't let it bother you and ignore your ex... don't let him see that you are upset about it (if you even are). He will feel like a loser for being so selfish, and he will eventually stop bothering you. Just remember that this is his problem, because he can't stand to see you with another guy. Just ignore him and he will eventually quit.
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ok so this guy i like named sean. moved away. and he has this friend that he meet and he asked me out. and sean told him that he asked out his g/f which was me. and we are not even going out. so it was weird. and then sean calls back and we started talking. and he told me he had a date...i was like o ok. and i hung up. should i feel heartbroken b/c i do. about this. i mean i no we weren't going out or anything but it still brought me down. plz help me. (link)
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It is perfectly normal if you are feeling heartbroken about this. You liked the guy and he liked you and then he went out with another girl. What girl wouldn't be upset about this? You are probably just sad because it is hard for you to see him liking someone else besides yourself. This would be hard for any girl to see. You just have to realize that he has moved away and he has decided to move on with his life and his relationships. Since the two of you weren't going out, he figured it was okay to go out with this girl. Just remember that you couldn't expect this guy to move away and be stuck on you forever. He was bound to move on, and you should too. I know it's hard to get over this guy, but try your best to meet some new guys or have fun with your friends. You deserve to move on too, even though it may seem difficult at first. So hold your head up high and go out and have fun, because you have your whole life ahead of you... who knows who you may run into next?
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hi! i am seth i am really confuzed with myself right now.i want to be straight again ireally dont understand myself right now i have recently had a boi friend and dated a girl afterwards that tried to help me become straight because she thought that she could. hahahahahahahahaha and now I STILL LIKE GUYS!!!!!!!!!!!! i dont kno why i want to get over it and start likeing girls again i dont kno how. i kno that it is against gods word and i want to go to heaven when i die, and i want to make my family happy. they dont exactly kno about me but i cant say that i havent thought about telling them. they think i am the highlight of their life they think i am lil mr perfect cuz i make straight a's and all that #@*% but there are many things i hide from them that r not good. i hope that some one can help me understand myself and try to help me become straight or watever i am........ thanks alot !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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This is a very tough problem. It sounds like you really really want to be straight, but when you try it doesn't work. It probably doesn't work because you aren't straight and maybe that's the way it was meant to be. I know that this isn't the answer you want to hear, but it sounds like there is nothing you can do about this. You just have to accept yourself for who you are and be proud of it. The worst thing you can do is be ashamed of yourself for liking guys. I know that you wanted me to come up with some answer to help you to not be gay, but the thing is... i can't tell you how to like girls. You like guys and that's the way it is and nothing will change that. As for your parents... they love you and I'm sure that they will support you whether you are gay or straight. At first, it may be a shock to them and it may be hard for them to accept, but they still love you and being gay isn't going to change that. So accept yourself for who you are and don't try to change just to please other people. Stay confident and stay true to who you are, because you are an incredible person.
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Can anyone give me ways(or signals) to tell if a boy likes you? (link)
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If a guy likes you he will most likely stare at you from across the room, look interested when you are talking to him (his eyes will stay focused on yours), he will find excuses or ways to touch you or poke you, he will tease you a little bit,he will try and make small talk, he will position himself to be facing you when your sitting in class
Hope that helps... if you have anything else to ask just let me know!!
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i really like this guy dylan, but i dont think he likes me. all of my friends say he does, but i dont really feel like he does. he doesnt call me or im me and that is making me feel depressed. i need help, cause i really want him to like him. what can i do to make him like me again? oh, and by the way, i am throwing a party and inviting him...what should i do there to get his attention?....thanks in advance! (link)
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First of all, please try not to feel depressed because a guy doesn't like you. I know it really sucks, but there is no need to be depressed about it. However, I do have some advice for you on this one. Does Dylan know that you like him? If not, you should let him know... either you can tell him yourself, or have one of your friends tell him. It would be a lot easier and less complicated if you told him yourself. He may just be shy about this and that may be the reason why he doesn't call you or IM you. During this party of yours you should be really friendly and confident and try and talk to him... even if it's just small talk... do something to get his attention. Just remember, before you get all sad about this, make sure that this guy knows that you like him. Maybe if he knows that you like him he will admit that he likes you. Who knows... well, good luck with everything and remember to be yourself! Let me know if you need anything else! Thanks soo much for hearing me out!
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ok me and my boyfrind have been datin know for 9 months i am 14 and he just turned 17. we are in a long distance realtionshhip(he live about 2hours away from me) and he left on staurday for 2 weeks to a basketball thing and the thing is he went with his "firend" that likes him. like this girl is a bitch she always tryin to do something with him and trying to get me mad.i trust my boyfriend that wont do anything with her but they are stayin in the same room and bed..i know there is nothing goin on wit them because he doesnt like her like that and his sister would have already told me there is.. his sister is going with him too and the same room but different bed.. should i be worried.:( i trust him but not her. can someone please help me. (link)
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Okay, first of all, I just have to ask this... why would your boyfriend sleep in the same bed as his friend and not in the same bed with his sister instead?? That just seems kind of strange to me. But anyways, that aside, I think that since your boyfriend is already gone on this trip there isn't too much you can do right now. Maybe if you talk to him on the phone or something you could just let him know how you feel about this girl. Make sure you tell him that you trust him, but not her. You don't want him to think that you don't trust him. If your boyfriend really cares about you then you shouldn't have to worry about him doing anything with this girl. If he is tempted to do somthing, he is probably not worth it, anyways because he wouldn't be considerate of your feelings. I'm sure that if he really cares about you he will respect your feelings and be good to you. I hope this helps... just let me know if you need anything else!
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what do you do when a girl who you truly like chooses a different guy over you for the 3 time and still wants to talk
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It sounds like this girl probably only likes you as a friend. Since she chooses other guys over you, that means that she's not romantically interested in you, because she obviously likes these other guys. Just because she still talks to you doesn't mean that she likes you as more than a friend. She probably just likes talking to you and being no more than friends. Just learn to accept the fact that the two of you will only be friends and get out and meet some other girls... who knows, maybe she'll even change her mind about you!
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hey this guy i know said that he loved me, but i never saw him before and know nothing about him..and after he told me he loved me i asked him if he knew anything about me and he said my name and then he said isent that enough..he was acting really retarded..and now every time i talk to him hes like hey babe, what's up sexys...should i go out with him?! (link)
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He kinda sounds like a creep to me. He's just being a weirdo.. I don't think he really loves you. I'm assuming you met him online, but I could be wrong. Don't go out with the guy unless you really know him well. But this doesn't sound like the kind of guy you want to be hanging out with anyways.
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hi/ i am 16 years old girl and never had a bofriend, is that a bad thing, first there was a boy and he said that he like me, but the very week we met he move out of my school, so we became talking on the phone, and he said that i was his girlfriend, but we never wet on a date or kiss, that very week he ask me out to watch movie, but my dad didnt allowed me to go, i lied to him that i have to babysit my brother, he said ok another time we could go, but he never ask me out again and we were talking, but we never saw eachother. one night he told me that we should be friends that his ex want him back, from then he never called me, he just disappear, since then no boy has ask me out or something like that, i have never been kiss or do anything sexuall in my life, am just asking is that normal or am i gay or maybe i havnt find the right person. Please i need ur help
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That is completely normal. I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 16, and we've been going out for a year now. It's different for everyone. Just wait, I will assure you that you will find the right person. Now, I can't tell you if you are gay or not, but I know that you will find someone and this someone will be a good one, because you aren't one of those girls who is constantly dating around. I consider that a good thing. I know it's hard and you've probably heard this a million times, but try to have patience and the right person will just show up... sometimes when you least expect it.
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Hey Every One i been dateing my boyfriend 1year and 2 mounts i love him so much he mean everyt thing to me i dont know what i will do with out time well i will just asked the question well here i go he is talking about getting marryed 1 day and have kids soon and he talk about have sex to when ever i talk to him an the phone i say i am ready when ever i see him he say are u ready to have sex then i well just not saying anyting i dont want to loser him he say that he well not but what should i do?
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If you are not ready then you need to let him know. If he really loves you then he will wait until you are ready. He's not worth it if he forces you into something or breaks up with you just because you aren't ready. Since you two have been going out for so long, I'm sure he will accet the fact that you aren't ready.
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hey..well on IM all of a sudden this guy told me he loved me but the only thing he knew about me was my name and i told him he didn't but he saying he does..but i don't believe him should i? (link)
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Don't believe him... he's just being weird.. he's probly some fat old creepy man... you have to watch out for those!!
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ok so i know you guys get this a lot..but i really need specific details on how to tell if a guy likes you..any help would be appriciated(sp?)
thnx in advance!:) (link)
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Ways to tell if a guy likes you.
*Finds ways to compliment you
*You catch him staring across the room
*His body language: ex- he is turned towards you during class, points his feet in your direction
*Makes up random topics just to start a conversation with you
*He laughs at you even when you're really not that funny
*He finds little ways to touch you or poke you
*Sometimes he'll tease you a little... but not too harshly
Hope that helps... need anything else, or need to ask me more about this guy just write to me!!!
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okay i have this friend but i like him as more then a friend ...we've never seen each other but we talk on the phone almost every day ...i want to find out if he likes me as just a friend or as more ..how should i ask?? ....o and i want to see him some where do any of you guys have any suggestions?
ill give every one 5's who trys to help!
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Go to a park or something... that's always a lot of fun.. or get ice cream, and just hang out with him. Maybe say, "So, I've been thinking and I really like hanging out with you because I think you're (then say what you like about him)... and I think I might like you as more than a friend." Say something along those lines. If he likes you as more than a friend, then good for you! But if not, just let him know that he shouldn't let this affect your friendship and that you didn't mean to weird him out or anything.
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