Guaranteed...I'm probably younger than you think. I know there's a time and place for everything so at times I seem pretty mature and serious. But believe me when I'm with my friends I'm the biggest goofy goober around XD. Don't let my scary girl picture fool you. I'm just wise beyond my years.
Life is unpredictable. All the mysteries and surprises, you never know what may come your way BUT that's exactly what makes it worth while. So don't panic because you don't "have it all together" because in all honesty no one truly does. We all need advice sometimes and I love giving it out. Don't be afraid to inbox me because I'll be more than happy to try to help you with any problem. In closing: Peace, love and happiness.
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My boyfriend has a gift. He can comeup with a billion cute things to call me all the time. I have like three and they are all kinda lame.
Can you each give me like your top 10 cute nicknames for your boyfriends?
If you don't have 10 that is cool but could you please just tell me what are some cute nicknames you call your boyfriend AND HE LIKES THEM.
Thank you!
I will give everyone a rating! (link)
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-Stud Muffin =)
Lol.
-Mr. Awesome
He seems to really like that one (ego boost)
-Sexy Man
Call your guy whatever feels right at the moment.
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my boyfriend hasn't called in 4 days. i have no idea why. usually it has something to do with me being a bitch or something along those lines, other times its just him being busy, but even then he'll call after just a couple of days. the last time we talked was when he told me that we couldn't get together on new years, and i was pretty upset about it for a while but got over it quickly.
like i said, usually if he's acting like this, i know the reason or have a pretty good idea. but as of right now, i am COMPLETELY in the dark and totally confused. should i wait for him to call me, which might be never, depending on why hes mad (if he's mad), or should i wait for a certain length of time and call him? anyone have any ideas? (link)
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It seems like you don't really call your boyfriend and usually he's the one doing all the calling. That is what I used to do...wait for him to call. Once one of boyfriends didn't call me for a whole week. Why? He was testing to see if I would call him and I didn't.
What are you waiting on? Just give him a call and ask him what's up. Actually you should start calling him more often. Don't put it all on him.
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so,i want my boyfriend to eat me out but i dont know how i should look "down there." im embarrased but i want to do it at the same time. (link)
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You can't go wrong with a low trim. I have to meet a guy who doesn't like a low trim. Some guys don't like blad...some guys don't like really hairy. A low trim would be your best option.
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Just come vital information: My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. I just recently lost my virginity to him. Things have been really good, and I love him.
We both have separate lives. We like it that way. My friends, and his both consist of guys and girls-- even if we've dated them.
He called me earlier today, asking if he could go visit one of his friends in college for the weekend. She goes to Boston, which is about 4 hours from me. She made it very clear that me coming with him was out of the question. She says they haven't spent much time with each other, and that she has the right to spend the weekend with him. But I don't like this.
I'm not typically a jealous girl, especially with him. But he lost his virginity to her. I'm afraid that even with full trust in our relationship, the chances of feelings regenerating with the two of them is always possible. Therefore, I want to tell him I don't want him to go, but also don't want to come off clingy.
Am I being insecure?.. or do I have a clear argument here? (link)
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I don't think you are being insecure at all.
Its good that you guys have trust in your relationship but you aren't being naive about things. The way you said she put things didn't sit right with me at all. So I can only imagine how it makes me you feel.
"...she has the right to spend the weekend with him", that may be true BUT you have the right to say no. If him leaving 4 hours away to be with some other girl, friend or not, makes you uncomfortable then please tell him. You need to be open with your boyfriend about this, I'm sure he'll understand. Apparently he must not have thought it was all good if he asked you for permission. Don't hold your tongue on this because believe me, it will turn you into a paranoid wreck that weekend he is gone.
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My question is pretty self explanatory. Long story short I was in an amazing relationship that began in July and ended well in September. I ended it with him because I couldn't all the drama that came from it (not from him but the catty girls and his dad thinking I didn't like him for him because I was so pretty, his brother thinking I'm a ****, etc.) and I still liked him and it killed me to do it and I still miss him a lot. My friends are all like you're too good for him blah blah the usual. I've hooked up with eh about 15 guys so far at parties, mixers, etc and no not like blow-jobs, or having intercourse or any of that. Just you know making out and stuff. I'm by far one of the classiest girls at my school and I still have looks to die for. Anyways yeah and I'm still NOT over him. You'd think after 15 hookups one including an American Apparel model that I'd be totally over it but nope. Can you guys help me out? (link)
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...Hooking up with guys at parties will not help you get over someone you really liked, no matter how many guys. All you're doing is trying to put a band-aid over a wound. I have no idea where you got that idea from but it doesn't work. You honestly think made a mistake by breaking up with him and deep down you know it. You should have stuck it out if he was a great guy. The best thing I can say is maybe talk to him, hopefully it'll make you feel better and give you some closure so you can start to really get over him.
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My boyfriend of 10 months broke up with me last week. At first it was almost unbearable and I was a total wreck. But the second day I knew I had to talk to him, so I did. The number one reason he broke up with me is because he said that his love for me had disappeared. He was in love with me at one point, but somehow he just doesn't feel that way anymore. He just sees me as a friend. This part I understand.
BUT i don't understand what he means by me not "really acting like a girlfriend". I mean, I would try to. I kissed him in public, hugged him, told him I loved him, made him gifts, held his hand, and spent most of my time with him. I thought I was doing an okay job, but apparently he says that I'm "not capable of having a relationship". But he says that he doesn't want me to change for him. But I'm still wondering what he meant. Any ideas? :/
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Being in a relationship is more than public displays of affection, material things, "I love you"'s kissing and holding hands. Its more than that. Its that feeling you give that other person, the little things you do for them, and what they do for you. I've been in my relationship for a year now and I'm still learning myself, no one is the "perfect" girlfriend. Your main goal is to make your partner happy though, listen to their problems when everything isn't going right, cheer them up, and just always try your best to be there for them. When the time comes always be honest. If he need a reality check, give it to him. Sometimes us girlfriends have to help our guys by being straight up with them. Be thoughtful. When they are wrong, tell them. Acting like good girlfriend is all those things and more.
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15/f
okay, so i have been seeing my boyfriend for 3 weeks now. we just hungout a couple of days ago and we started making out and he fingered me and i gave him a hand job. first time giving someone a handjob. okay so now i have finally realized what happened. and i feel disgusted in myself. i notice that its probably way too soon to do any of this. now i feel depressed and now im avoiding him because when i told my friend she said that she gives us 2 weeks until we have sex. im scared of having sex but when we get into it, hormones take over. so now i dont know what to do. and i can't tell him the way i feel. i am number one person who can't do confrontations. (link)
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I'm not going to say that you're friend is wrong but just because he fingered you and you gave him a handjob doesn't mean you'll have sex soon. BUT if you have a problem with telling him no, she does have a good point.
You really need to work on your confrontation issues because when you are in a relationship you have to be able to tell the one you're with how you feel. If you don't you are probably going to be one unhappy girlfriend. Right now, the main thing you must do is tell your boyfriend how you feel and that you want to start to take your relationship slower because you guys are moving too fast. If you don't you'll be left with that self-disgusted feeling a lot more often. I hope that I helped.
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16/f
so i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. he's 19 about to be 20 and turning 17 in december...well i can't decide if i want to be with him anymore. he's my first love but it feels like the flame is slowing dying and there's nothing i can do about it. plus he's going into the navy soon and i don't know if i'll be able to handle that. and i'm starting to develope feelings for another guy. and this guy flirts with me all the time. i just feel like i'm only with my boyfriend to make him happy and not myself. he wants to get married right after i graduate from high school but i want to go to college and have a steady job before i think about getting married. i love him i really do i just don't want to regret not seeing if there is anyone else out there for me. i will never regret being with him. it seems like we are always fighting and i think a relationship should be effortless and it's not. i just don't know what to do anymore... (link)
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Here the first thing I wanted to point out "i think a relationship should be effortless and it's not" No relationship is effortless, you have to work at it to make it work. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. Do you feel your boyfriend is still worth having? Do you feel he is still right for you? Do you feel the relationship is still making you happy? If yes, then fight for it. If not, stop wasting your time and end it. I understand you don't know what to do, I've been where you are now, unsure of what the future holds for you and your man. The best thing you can do is...
-Tell him exactly how you're feeling, exactly what you told us. w/o being arguementative. Just be 100% real with him. Now is the time to put it all out there...your fears and your doubts that you have in the relationship.
-Figure for sure if this relationship is what you want.
When I was in your shoes, that is exactly what I did. I talked to him and we ended up breaking up BUT we both realized we made a mistake and got back together. The reason I tell you this is, instead of breaking up we should have stuck it out and work through it together. I hope you know where I was going with that, good luck.
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both 15.
i'm a girl
so i spent a lot of time this summer in a different city 4 hours away from where i live. with my other family and i met this wonderful boy and i liked him even though he liked my cousin (whos 13) and she kissed him twice and then a while passed and he REALLY liked her but he finally got over it and she told him how i liked him and then he asked me out but we both decided it wasnt a good idea cuz neither of us wanted a long distance relationship. so then we still talked on the phone everyday and hung out at the pool and park together with some other people. then theres this other girl thats 13 and she reallyyyy likes him. she denies it but everyone knows she does. and shes such a bitch we reallyyy dont like each other. and then the day before i left to go home me and him met up at a park and we sat on this bench and he kissed me(: three times (my first kiss and my first boyfriend). and then he asked me if i wanted to try a long distance relationship and i said i do if you want to and he said ya. so basically when i was up there for a month and a half we talked everyday and when i got home we talked like twice in two weeks and he never calls me anymore cuz he says his phone got turned off or hes grounded. like he called me back the next day and was like you called and i was like ya and he goes okay... what did you want and i was like uh to talk to you because i haven't talked to you and he said he was grounded for seven days well about the third day that 13 yr old bitch calls me out of know where to let me know that my boyfriend was coming over to her house. and oh man that tore me up because he was "grounded" so i called to tell him what i had heard and he said he went there to work on her big brothers motercycle and i was like ya okay and then i was like welli thought you were grounded and then he said he got ungrounded that day but he didnt call me and that messed up. so i really think i should break up with him and so do my friends because they think hes lying to me. but i never get to talk to him to be able to break up with him so i dont know what to do! i mean i have guys down here coming at me left and right and flirting with me and asking me if i have a bf and im like well ya kinda sorta its complicated.
SO UGH my bf is just holding me back
like i talked to him for two minutes last week and i was like call me tonight because i really need to talk to you and he didnt
so this is comeplete bullshit.
and i need to break up with him
but i need your help
what do you think about this?
advice?
opinions?
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I think he's full of shit. Plain and simple. None of that seems to add up but the real question is: Do you think he's lying to you? If so, then do the right thing. Kick his butt to the curb and get you a nice cute guy in your neighborhood. Why let him hold you back if he's doing what he wants where he's at? Move on, you can do better.
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Hey! 131/2 f (Long..i'm sorryy)
I met this awesome guy (Jimmy)last week at the public pool with my friend. We thought he was cute. ha ha :) He thought the same thing and we talked and everything we had fun together. After that day we started texting and talking on the phone and stuff like that. Well i found out that he liked me,and i was SOOO happy because i really like him to. Well we text each other and..he talks dirty. ha ha I also do.. but not LIKE he does, i just say makeout..and stuff like that but he wants to "Do" me. ha ha ;) Well i saw him again today at the pool..with his friend Erica (she's also my friend)i think he knew that i was going..because he didn't act like he was suprized that i was there. Well i went with my cousins and i had to watch them. I didn't talk to them until probably a half an hour than i started talking to them. We were having so much fun. We played a joke on him, and when we were walking away from him he followed because we were going to go swimming together. He started massaging my shoulders IT FELT SO GOOD !! Ha ha. I think he might of untied my bathing suit top a little bit?? I'm not sure though because i was giving my cousins piggy back rides. Well after we got in the pool Erica asked jimmy if i could lick him anywhere. I said i wanted to lick him to her..AS A JOKE, and he said " ;) anywhereee?? Suree". He said. well..i didn't. Well he put his arm my waist and picked me up and dunked me in the pool (safely ha ha) He did that twice. It was cute (link)
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Just because he slept with her doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. Who knows how long ago they had sex. On a serious note believe me he does not love you, how could you possibly love someone you've only known for a week. This is not the movies, this isn't a fantasy. Its real life. He could be infatuated, if anything. I'm not trying to discouarge you I'm just trying to be honest with you.
Now that that's out of the way, I do think you should ask him out. Apparently you two like each other. You have fun together, so why not? Don't let what he's done in the past, mess up what future you two could have. Good luck!
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How long do you have to give one head for him to cum? I mean like, i've given my bf head, but only for like 5 minutes, I feel like he doesn't even feel good. I mean I know what i'm doing, and everything, but idk. & he always gets mad when I stop. So should this mean that he likes it ? Or..
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If he gets mad when you stops that means he wanted you to keep going because he was enjoying it. Maybe he isn't the type to really show it. Some people moan or scream, others breathe heavy, some are just quiet. Perhaps your boyfriend is just quiet. Or maybe your just looking for a big reaction out of him.
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well this is going to be long haha. so my nd my ex josh met about 6 months ago. and we connected right away. i liked him he liked me. we were so into eachother. i heard he had a rep, a player. i brought it up, he explained himself, that girls take his nice guy aditude as a player. so i got over that and belived him, there was my first mistake. as weeks went by we had a lot of feelings. and then the sex came into the picture. i told him he is not mine so i dont want to. of course he said babe what do you think weve been doing for the last month other then being together. and i liked him so much iwas just like if were together why the hell not. so we did. then we talked a lot all the time 5 hour long phone conversations about just random stuff. then i noticed his whorish atidude and i didnt like it. i get jealous so easily. but i didnt say a word because i know he would just walk, and so then i kept all my feelings bottled up. and then wonderign if were even together. and then i just couldnt take him flirting with other girls so i told him goodbye to notcall me to block me on everything we have contact online and, the thing that broke my heart even more is, he actually for once listened.. and just let me go.. i think taht hurt me more then the goodbye. because after i didnt have him to talk to everyday, my world came to an end, crying non stop thinkin about him non stop. but then i got over it then i saw him with another girl, brought me back to our days, amde me sad, soon to find out he told his bestfriend (wich is my friend too) we were never together, and that hurt SO bad that he denies that we werent together, then he told my bestfriend taht i was crazy nd a fake cryer and hes only known me for a month. that broke my heart even more. so then my bestfriend messaged him and basicully he said hed never talk about me and blah and that it makes him sad we wont talk and blah and he said hed hit me up, that one sentence "ill deff hit her up i like seeing how shes doing" gave my heart so much hope, but then he never contacted me.. and hasnt unblocked me on msn..idn what to do i think i am in love with this guy im so crazy over it and CANNOT get over him. like idn wat to do, i dont want anyone else so dont say go look for someone else because i dont want anyone. i just honestly need some advice and a friend to talk to about this, to help me get through..please? (link)
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Falling for the player and getting your heart broken? I've been there and it sucks. He basically did the same things to as your guy did to you. He would tell me that he loved me and that he only wanted to be with me. While he was telling other people he didn't even have a girlfriend and that I was just another girl that had a crush on him. It hurts to see him and hear about him but believe me you're better off without him. He's just going to do the same thing again. You should move on. I'm not saying its going to be easy because its not. Its probably going to be hard. You deserve better than to have your feelings played with. Cut all contact with him, do not have conversations about him! Basically try your best to forget him. As of now he is nothing to you and is not worth your tears or your time. He actually never was. Please do yourself a favor and move on.
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Alright , soooo ... This question could be in two categories (relationships -> friendship and -> love life) but I put it in this one . ALSO -- this WILL be long . I'm sorry , but I'm afraid I won't really get my point across without some of these details . Please read it all :)
First , something to add to my situation is my brief description of the perfect guy is :
FUNNY , SMART , NICE , LOYAL , and all those other things that every other girl wants in a guy .
OHH , and to add to that , I'd LOVE if he had an Australian accent (I'm kind of obbsessed with the country :P)
So , here we goo :)
My best friend Sarah and I have had a HUGE crush on a guy named Bryan for quite a few months . We knew that each other liked him and we often made deals such as : if either of us went out with him , the other one couldn't act jealous (etc.) Sarah is a guy megnet (and she is VERY pretty) , according to the number of guys she's gotten over mine and this worried me , but I figured that Bryan could oversee that . Bryan is also , according to my list of prefect traits in a guy , a perfect guy .
Sarah would brag that he liked her more , but that's Sarah . And don't say that that's a jerky thing to do , because that's how Sarah is and I love her . Maybe not for that reason , but for others :)
Anyways , EVERYONE except Bryan knows that we both like him . Bryan's friends knew also and came up to Sarah at her locker (which is right next to mine) and asked her if she wanted them to ask Bryan out for her . She fought with them about something for awhile , then , I'm assuming she agreed .
Later that night we were at a party when he said yes to her . There's plenty more details about this , but they probably won't add anything to this other than space .
Soo , she is now going out with him .
THE PROBLEM HERE IS : that Bryan is moving . Would you like to guess where he's moving to ? Australia , my dream country . And hopefully he'll obtain that dreamy accent ...
ANYWAYS -- do you think I should tell him how I feel before he leaves , which is june 16th . I'll still be talking to him on MSN and things like that so I don't want it to be awkward .
Sarah also kind of brags about this and I don't hate her for it or anything , I just don't understand why she does it . My mom (YES , I've talked to my mom) doesn't understand why Sarah didn't let me have this ONE guy , for the short time he's here . I kind of agree , but I look in Sarah's perspective and I think 'THIS GUY IS PERFECT . IF HE LIKES ME , WHY WOULD I LET HIM GET AWAY ?' That's what I think I would do . But I do agree with my moms advice and my own .
SOOOOOO . I'm not really sure what to do , or what my problem even sounds like to you guys . I'm kinda bad at explaining thinggs ...
SO PLEASE .
help me out , aiiight ?
thank you for hearing me ! (link)
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You only live once, tell him. Besides he probably already knows. I doubt that all his friends know and none of them told him. Guys are just as big of gossipers as females
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the grad is comeing up and we have to ask some body i was going to ask my crush but then my friend asked him and he said yes but he likes me not her he just said yes to not be mean and 3 of my other friends like him what do i do ?
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What do you do? You invite another boy to the dance or go with a group of friends and have fun. Your friend already invited him to the dance so let it go.
How old are you anyways? Do you think if you and this guy were to go together would this affect your friendship with any of these girls? If so, is it worth it? These are the questions you need to take into consideration. If you do decide to go with him first ask your friends if they mind.
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i'm bringing my ex with me on vacation in july. we broke up in april, but we both decided that we were still gonna stay good friends and see where things go from there. i'm still in love with him. he broke it with me because he said his feelings changed, but he said he still wanted me in his life, and i know he means it too. we're going to myrtle beach together and do you think theres a chance of him falling back in love if we're like on the beach at night flirting and hanging out? what do you think of this situation? and what things can i do to make it as romantic as possible. i would do absolutely anything to get back with this guy.
17/f, 17/m
thanks so much for your time.
oh and we were together for about 9 months, if that helps. and we met in the summer and starting dating in the summer.
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Its a good sign that he still wants you in his life. Regardless of what happen he still doesn't want to lose you or your friendship. This trip could definitely lead to him realizing what he's missing out on, you. The one thing I would suggest you tell do is tell him that you still love him, and that you don't want to be with him. I say you do this in a romantic setting. Somewhere on the beach under the stars while you guys are all by yourselves. Don't get your hopes up things could go either way but just let him know regardless of what happens you'll always be there. I suggest you wear really cute, sexy but not slutty outfits to get his attention. Be flirty definitely do "the stare". The stare, the seductive look you give a guy to know you are intreseted. Most be yourself. Besides that's the same reason he fell in love with you the first time. If you need anything else, feel free to message me personally anytime.
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my name is allyson. im not sure if you still go on your website or anything, because it might be old. but i really need advice. i have a boyfriend, we've only been going out for about a month. he wants to "make out" and thats okay with me. ive kissed guys before, but not ever "madeout" and i want to, im just really nervous. hes never made out either, im just worried i will be bad-- or mess up. im not sure of what to do.
"just follow with your partner" or whatever everyone else says wont help. i feel prude... but i really need some advice! (link)
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Let's relax. There is nothing wrong with feeling worried. Everyone has to go through their first time doing anything, and no one is a pro there first time. Practice makes perfect. The fact that your boyfriend has never made out with anyone either should bring you some comfort. Why? Because maybe he can relate to how you are feeling. Talk to him.
I do have some tips for your first makeout session.
First...make sure your breathe is fresh. Bad breathe is a definite turn off.
((Go slow))
Start off with a regular kiss but open your mouth slowly and take his top lip in mouth slightly and kiss it. Now do the same with his bottom lip. Keep this rotation up.
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i need a boyfriend really badly
but all the guys at my school are supper immature
and no i'm not one of those REALLY ugly people.
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I'm not exactly sure what you're question is but...
There are guys practically everywhere. Try the mall and the movies: especially if you're a teen. If you are a bit older try the clubs.
Why do you "need" a boyfriend anyways. I'm pretty sure not every guy at your school is immature. You should take a day to evaluate all the guys thoroughly and see which one is boyfriend material. Try to get to know some of them you may start to like one of them.
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The subject line says it all, however here's a little more detail. I've been dating the same guy for seven months and ever since five months hit, I've been feeling myself fight back the urge to tell him that I love him. He always puts me in a good mood, and he's a really laid back guy. I just wish he would say it on his own, but is it okay for the girl to say it first? (link)
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Of course it is, why wouldn't it be? If he makes you happy and you truly do believe you love him tell him. There is no guarantee on what his reaction will be. Who knows, he may just feel the same way.
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ok...theres this boy in my class. his name is brandon. he is totally HOT. i went out with him once, but my best friend kept flirting with him and getting mad when i hung out with him. we stopped being friends for a while but it didn't last. anyway, brandon hated her to untill she was my friend again. then she started flirting with him again. it made me mad and brandon broke up with me. but get this, the next week he asked alicia out. she said yes. then she broke up with him. i really like him, but i think he still likes her. what do i do? should i ask him back out or get over him? how do i get over him? im so depressed! help me please!!! (link)
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I say you talk to her what kind of best friend not only flirts with your boyfriend but also gets mad when you hang out with him.
If he does still like her and you go out with him, chances are he'll only break up with you again. Especially if Alicia is still flirting with him. Just leave it alone.
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Im pregnant, and my boyfriend doesn't want the baby, neither do I, but he would like me to get an abortion, and I don't believe in that. What should I do?
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I agree with your decision in not wanting to abort your baby. You should try adoption. There are plenty of good people who would love to have a child but can't.
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